We all know how difficult it is to be in a situation where you need to console someone, but the right words are not found.

Fortunately, more often than not people do not expect specific advice from us. It is important for them to feel that someone understands them, that they are not alone. So first, just describe how you feel. For example, with the help of such phrases: “I know that it is very difficult for you now”, “I am sorry that you have such a hard time”. So you will make it clear that you really see what a loved one is right now.

2. Confirm that you understand these feelings.

But be careful, do not overtighten yourself, do not try to prove that you were even worse. Mention briefly that you also found yourself in a similar situation, and ask in more detail about the condition of the person you are comforting.

3. Help a loved one figure out a problem

Even if a person is looking for ways to resolve a difficult situation, at first he just needs to talk. This is especially true for women.

So wait for a solution and listen. This will help the one you comfort in understanding your feelings. After all, sometimes it is easier to understand your own experiences, telling others about them. Answering your questions, the interlocutor himself can find some solutions, understand that everything is not as bad as it seems, and just feel relief.

Here are a few phrases and questions that can be used in this case:

• Tell me what happened.
• Say what's bothering you.
• What led to this?
• Help me understand how you feel.
• What scares you the most?

At the same time, try to avoid questions with the word "why," they are too similar to condemnation and only make the interlocutor angry.

4. Do not minimize the suffering of the interlocutor and do not try to make him laugh

When we encounter the tears of a loved one, we, quite naturally, want to amuse him or convince him that his problems are not so terrible. But what we ourselves think is a trifle can often upset others. Therefore, do not minimize the suffering of another person.

And if someone is really worried about a trifle? Ask if there is any data that diverges from his view of the situation. Then offer your opinion and share an alternative way out. It is very important to clarify whether they want to hear your opinion, without which it may seem too aggressive.

5. Offer physical support, if appropriate.

Sometimes people don’t want to talk at all, they just need to feel that there is a loved one nearby. In such cases, it is not always easy to decide how to behave.

Your actions should correspond to the usual behavior with this or that person. If you are not too close, it will be enough to put your hand on your shoulder or slightly acquire. Also look at the behavior of another person, perhaps he himself will make it clear what he needs.

Remember that you should not be too zealous when you console: the partner can take this for flirting and be offended.

6. Suggest solutions

If a person needs only your support, and not specific advice, the above steps may be enough. Having shared your experiences, your interlocutor will feel relieved.

Ask if you can do something else. If the conversation takes place in the evening, and most often it happens, suggest going to bed. As you know, the morning of the evening is wiser.

If your advice is needed, first ask if the person you are talking to has any ideas. Decisions are made more readily when they come from someone who himself is in a controversial situation. If the person you are comforting has a vague idea of \u200b\u200bwhat can be done in his position, help develop concrete steps. If he does not know what to do at all, suggest your options.

If a person is not sad because of a specific event, but because he has one, immediately proceed to discuss specific actions that can help. Or offer to do something, for example, go for a walk together. Excessive thoughts will not only not help get rid of depression, but, on the contrary, will aggravate it.

7. Promise to continue supporting.

At the end of the conversation, be sure to mention again that you understand how difficult it is for a loved one, and that you are ready to continue to support him in everything.

Hello! My name is Igor Lapin, I am a professional pick-up trainer. Today I will tell you how to feel sorry for the girl with words. Yes, this is also sometimes necessary. Girls and women, in general, like to listen, and often they even say that they love with their ears. In this case, this is precisely what is meant.

In general, there are at least two ways to support your girlfriend in difficult times - emotional contact and physical contact. In the latter case, this is far from always sex. Of course, it is best to always use both of these methods, but in this article we will talk mainly with what words to regret the girl.

How to feel sorry for the girl emotionally?

  Comforting her with words is a necessary nuance of a serious relationship. First of all, you need to ask what happened, bring her to a conversation, patiently listen to her. However, it is better to keep your opinion and comments to yourself - until she completely speaks out. But maybe there is something that she does not want to discuss with you, and then it is better not to insist.

If this is the first such case in your relationship, then you just need to first let her cry - the girls love it. At the same time, I must say that you are near, and close by.

You should support her, not show indulgence. Say that you will always be near and on her side in any conflict, even if you feel that somewhere she was wrong. Say that you understand how hard it is for her and is ready to help if she asks you. The latter is within reason reasonable, of course.

If she spoke out, admit that the problem is really serious. In any case, you will now have to somehow comment on all this, because she expects support from you. Say that you completely agree with her, or that you are sorry that it happened. It all depends on the specific situation. However, for now, refrain from any advice.
No matter how smart you think you are, and no matter how ridiculous your problem seems to you, remember that people are not upset over nothing. So, for her, this is really important, and she treats this way. And a simple way out of the situation, even if it is right in front of the nose, must be shown as if she herself had come to this. But usually if a person is so upset, then there are no simple solutions.

Demonstrate that her emotions are important to you. I understand that this is not easy, but even if she can talk to you, then to some extent she will gain (thanks to you) control over her emotions, and this is already a plus. Help her express emotions in words. Comment on her feelings, for example, say that in her place, you would be terribly bad in such an unpleasant situation. Help her find words to describe her experiences.

And all the time you also need to maintain a positive attitude - do not get angry, and do not get upset with it. She turned to you for help, and therefore she will look for the positive in you. Remind her that everything passes, remember the bright moments of a joint relationship. And you should not talk down to her and downplay the significance of her problem, even if it seems tiny to you.

How else to regret a girl?

  Try to console her with real actions, often it is very effective. Be patient until she has mastered her emotions, but sooner or later the time will come to act anyway. You can understand this, probably, only through communication. Therefore, from time to time ask if she is ready to talk. And even if she is angry, do not leave her alone - only when she directly asks for it.

Actual action is also a bit of physical contact.  But you need to act carefully. But even light touches in this case can work wonders. They contribute to the release of a special hormone - oxytocin. This substance causes a feeling of closeness, trust and interconnection. By the way, that is why it is so important to get to know each other faster.

How to feel sorry for the girl? You can simply put your hand on your shoulder and in the area of \u200b\u200bthe shoulder blades, or you can stroke the back of your hand with your fingers - if you are holding hands. By the way, the latter helps greatly reduce the level of stress hormone in the body. Just hold it tightly and gently, pat it on the back and even pat it lightly as a sign of support and approval. So, you let her feel more protected.

However, do not force things. Touching and talking to her will surely be enough for comfort, and so for now, climbing with kisses and hints of sex is more expensive for herself. But pulling it somewhere is a great option, so that all experiences are quickly forgotten or simply faded into the background. Take her to a movie, cafe or just for a picnic, if the weather and time of year allow. An even more wonderful way is a walk in the park, and if your city has a decent promenade, you can go there too. In general, walks in such places always set girls in a romantic mood.

Conclusion

  Well, in the end, some more tips on how to regret a girl properly.

1. Do not leave her alone. Even if while she does not want to talk, after a while she will have to share with someone.
2. When she calms down a bit and speaks out, give her warm tea with chocolate. You can use other sweets - a positive effect will still be.
3. If you understand that you are not able to help her, offer to take her to her best friend.
4. However, be careful with humor, even if you are trying to cheer her up. In fact, not all of your jokes can have an effect. And even if you yourself seem very funny, she may be offended by you.

Sometimes girls even prefer to relive their troubles alone, and then it is better to leave her alone and let her cry. But be within reach so that if she suddenly wants to talk, it was you who turned out to be the one who will help her. If you want to learn even more secrets to seduce girls

Good afternoon, dear men! Surely many of you fall into a stupor in front of female tears, or you absolutely do not understand how to calm a girl down with words. We all sometimes feel bad. And at this moment I really want that beloved person to support, console, and maybe even just be around. Let's try to figure out how a guy can help his girlfriend survive a difficult moment.

What happened?

First of all, try to find out what happened. Before you say something, calm down or take action, it is best to try to assess the situation. If she is, then think about what could make her angry. Upset that saddened her. what situation could bring her to tears.

Maybe you are aware of problems at work or school, then it will be clear how to choose the right words and phrases for comfort. Or you see that she has often been arguing with her best friend, sister, mom or father recently. Her dog is already very many years old and so on.

Of course, it is not always easy to understand why a woman is upset. Some young ladies may burst due to a broken nail or torn stocking. Such trifles seem to men completely worthless tears and frustrations.

And if she broke tights before an important meeting, where would she have to speak to serious clients? And she comes out with a hole in her knee? Would you go out to investors with a bright patch of ketchup on a white shirt? Remember that even minor troubles, depending on the situation, can turn into a serious problem.

Therefore, it is so important to try to understand what is so annoying your beloved. If you don’t have any thoughts, it’s okay. There is a more direct option to find out what happened. You need to ask her. Be prepared for the fact that she can answer "nothing." Do not be angry and lose your temper. Be patient and still try to find out from her what happened.

Your task is to show that you are not indifferent to it, that you worry and sympathize, that its problems do not seem stupid and far-fetched to you, and you are ready to help her or just support her, if necessary.

So ask: how can I help you? So, you can get a clear idea of \u200b\u200bher problem and what actions she expects from you.

Actions

Sometimes, when a girl cries, she just needs to let her cry. Or talk. Give this opportunity to your missus. Let her speak or cry. And you at this moment be attentive, assent, show that you listen to it and it is important for you.

If she cannot calm down for a long time, be sure to bring her a glass of water.

Be calm and don't be nervous. She now needs confidence that you are her defense. Therefore, the extra fuss on your part can even more upset her.

Consolation by correspondence is not so simple. After all, by SMS you can’t convey your real anxiety for her. Therefore, if you have the opportunity to call a girl who is far away, feel free to dial her number. Sometimes hearing a close and dear voice is all that is needed to calm down.

If you are close, then you should definitely hug her, pat her head, take her hand. Tactile contact at this moment is an extremely important component. With your hug you seem to protect her from the outside world, show that she is not alone and that she has someone to rely on and whom to trust.

Do not forget to tell about your anxiety and excitement. Show how she is dear to you and that you are nearby, ready to help her.
  It will be great if you can make her laugh. Laughing perfectly distracts from problems and can significantly improve mood.

Tell us how you got into such a ridiculous situation, for example, and how everything turned out well in the end. If you do not communicate personally, then draw and send her a funny picture that can cheer her up.

If you feel that you are not coping and cannot find answers to questions that are important to you, we will analyze the situation together and find a way out.

Switch attention

When the girl cried and talked out, try to distract her with something else. Offer to go somewhere, take a look (comedy is best), just take a walk. Now you need to show her that nothing bad happened, life goes on.

If your beloved has long wanted to go for a massage, then you can combine business with pleasure. Just do not overdo it with a similar method. Some ladies begin to manipulate their mood in order to achieve the desired.

If you have any minor problem today, ask your young lady to help you. Perhaps, helping you, she will be distracted and forget about her problems for a while. But do not go too abruptly to such a request. She might think that you don't care about her difficulties.

What mistakes do guys usually make when they try to calm a girl down?

1. Some men choose phrases that ultimately result. For example, when the situation seems trivial, he begins to say that she makes an elephant out of a fly, but that the girl, naturally, begins to get even more angry and start up, and as a result, they reconcile the present with tears from reconciliation.
2. Do not change the subject too quickly. Often a guy is simply tired of listening to the same thing several times, and he tries to start another topic, thinking that he can distract the attention of his beloved. Not. So you show that you do not care about her problems, that she is upset because of trifles that are not worthy of your attention.
3. There are also men who prefer to ignore altogether. The worst option you can choose. Even if you yourself feel bad now, maybe you are ill, or at work blockage, but if your beloved came in tears, then you simply must pay attention to her, take care of her and calm her down. Otherwise, why then need relationships, if not to support each other?
4. Once, a friend told me how her young man began to pester her at the moment when she was telling him about a terrible quarrel with her friend. Another bad option. In no case do not start with her while she is upset. Pat on the head, grab the hand, hug tightly, but do not let all your gestures be sexual.
5. Do not say the following phrases: smile; calm down; quieter; stop doing that; calm down stop roaring; do not exaggerate; Well, what happened again to you there; so what; not understood; come on faster and so on. Instead, you can say: I'm here next; I'm listening to; say this is important to me; I am very sorry that I am not around right now (if you are trying to calm her from a distance); I understand that it is difficult for you; maybe you want coffee or tea, let me do it and so on.

Sign up for a Skype consultation with me and you will learn much more about yourself, your girlfriend and methods that will help to cope with any situation.

How do you usually console your sweetheart? Which techniques work exactly every time, and which don't work at all? How often is your girlfriend upset?

Be patient and sincere in your sympathy.

Best wishes to you!

All women are very sensitive, so even a minor turmoil can upset them. At this moment, support is important for girls, especially if it will come from a loved one. How to support a girl when she is ill?

There are two ways to support a girl in difficult times. The first is moral support, that is, words. The second involves actions that allow a woman to feel the care and protection of a loved one. If everything is done correctly, then you can achieve a quick change in the mood of your chosen one.

• Seeing that the girl is upset with something, you must definitely find out the reason for this. If a woman wants to tell, then you just need to listen to her, not interrupting, but simply nodding your head. A personal opinion should be kept with you. If the girl does not want to tell anything, then in no case should she be forced. You just need to let her cry and be around.
• Do not try to impose your solutions to this problem, advise something. This is especially true in situations where the decision is difficult. Otherwise, the girl will be even more upset, thinking that there is no way out.
• Empathy is imperative, but only positive emotions should come from a young person. This moment is very important. It is necessary to set up a woman for a positive development of events in the future, that everything will change for the better. Thus, the girl herself will soon believe that everything will be fine.
• Whatever the problem, even if insignificant, one should not minimize it. Therefore, phrases such as “it doesn’t matter at all”, “yes, it happened a hundred times and nothing happened”. Otherwise, the woman will think that her beloved does not perceive her problem in any way and it will seem to her that he is simply mocking. And this will give rise to even greater frustration.
• Humor is one of the most important components of human life. But it should always be appropriate. If the girl is upset, then you can try to make her laugh, distract from the problems with an entertaining and comic story. You don’t need to be afraid to look ridiculous and ridiculous. You can sing a funny song. Even if the guy does not have a voice, this will only be a plus. If the reason for the experience was a certain person who offended her, then you can try to talk about him in a humorous tone.

Word support through real communication or correspondence is only the first stage, then physical contact is needed. It involves light touches, hugs. But in no case can you brazenly pester, this will not only not calm your beloved, but can also destroy relationships.

When a person hugs or touches another, the latter produces oxytocin. This is the name of the hormone, thanks to which the sense of interconnection, attachment, trust and closeness increases. You can just hold the girl by the hands, stroke her palm, put your hand on your shoulder. These actions will be quite enough.

You can also encourage a girl by going to the cinema, bowling or some other interesting place. Well, if you come up with something truly unusual, romantic for a woman. This will pleasantly surprise your beloved and distract from resentment.

What should be careful?

The main goal of a man is to support the girl, to show her his care, love, protection. Therefore, it is important not to “go too far”, but to act very carefully. You need to be careful with jokes. If you see that they have no effect on the girl, then it is better to stop doing this.

Women always appreciate all the efforts of men to console them, but not every girl loves this, preferring to be alone in difficult moments of life. If a guy sees that she wants to be alone, or a woman speaks about it so bluntly, then she should leave her. But you don’t have to go far, because she must feel something beloved nearby and she can speak it out to him at any moment.

• When talking with a chosen one, you must be sincere, patient, kind. No need to ask her to smile, otherwise she may get angry. Therefore, you should try to make her smile not at the request, but thanks to a joke, a nice compliment, good news.
• In no case can a man molest a frustrated woman, climb with kisses and other intimate things. In difficult moments, the girl wants to be understood, surrounded by care, and not molested.
• You can not ignore the beloved in view of the insignificance of her problems. She should know that the young man supports her, whatever the situation.

How to cheer up a sick girl?

A disease is an unpleasant phenomenon that every person faces more than once in his life. For the fair sex, it is perceived poorly, because even a common cold worsens the appearance that they value so much. At this moment, women usually do not want their loved one to see them, especially if the relationship is still developing.

In this case, compliments will be a good way for men to cheer up a sick girl. She needs to do them often. But with nice words, you also need to be careful. The compliment should express a comparison of the recovering condition with the patient.

For example, you should not just say sick: “What beautiful eyes you have”, but should be rephrased as follows: “Today your eyes radiate notes of a healthy princess”. You can apply such compliments to a man: "Every day your cheeks are becoming pinker", "Maybe you look tired, but you are still the most beautiful girl in the world"

If a beloved is sick with some serious pathology, then a young man should not be shown her experiences. When she is sick, it is necessary to behave positively, to set up the young lady in the same way, to make her believe that everything will be fine.

Throughout the difficult time, the girl should not feel lonely for a second. It is important to surround her with care, love, always be near, to show how dear and loved she is.  All problems once end, it is worthwhile to understand and not get hung up on unpleasant moments in life.

You are more beautiful than everyone around
More beautiful than her friends.
Smile and sadness will pass
A miracle will find a way to you!

Your dimples on the cheeks
Cheer up.
You need to smile urgently
My little fairy!

Evening comes, the city falls asleep, know that in this world you are dear to someone ...

I just want to say that for some reason I'm waiting for you, for some reason I miss you, for some reason I want to do something for you, and for some reason I believe in you.

I don’t know what’s going on in my heart, it hurts even more than when I kissed you the first !!!

You can’t even imagine how much like this can cheer up a girl.

And considering that now almost any original gifts have become available, it remains just to take and make.

Unusual date

It should be noted that you should really take your lover's bad mood seriously. The girl will be very offended if you show that you consider her overly emotional and unhappy with this. However, this does not mean that you should be too serious. Make her laugh funny joke or joke, or offer to download some comedy. Perhaps watching her imperceptibly will cheer up your beloved.

Talk to her and take pity on her

Maybe your girlfriend’s mood is spoiled by a series of minor failures. If at first they stepped on her foot in public transport, then, stepping out of it, she tripped, upon returning home a mirror showed her mascara spreading all over her face, just try to talk with her in confidence. Calm your beloved, pat on the head and tell her a lot of kind words. Perhaps speaking to you, she will feel relief, and a smile will immediately sparkle on her face.

Let her rest

If your girlfriend is studying, working, or constantly engaged in any other business, she may just get tired of it and break down at any time.

It must be remembered that men should take care of their fragile lovers and allow them to rest sometimes. Take on household chores and put your beloved to sleep.

When she wakes up rested, she will be filled with pride for her boyfriend, who went shopping, prepared to eat, washed dishes and washed clothes.

4. Surprise her. Make her something tasty or make delicious tea or coffee. She will feel your care and her mood will gradually improve. And best of all, bring it all straight to her bed.

If you really want to cheer up your girlfriend, just be constantly nearby, support her in all endeavors and try to distract from pressing problems.

Constant dissatisfaction with oneself

Who knows, maybe your girlfriend has low self-esteem? Do you constantly listen to the assumption that she has problems with her figure or just her appearance? So, how to cheer up in this and other cases described above?

What if she is sad?

Many young people want to know how to solve such a problem as the constant bad mood of a girl, as well as her displeased facial expression.

Needless to say, there is no clear recipe for how to cheer up a girl in correspondence, but it's still worth trying.

You have something incredible, unique, unusual, very tender, charming, something that others do not have ... You have me. Protect me:) 20

Darling, you know guys are like a clock. Keep in mind that you need to start them every day! 16

In vain did you decide that you
Today, sadness to face! And for no reason
She thought up problems herself ...
Here I am, as your only man
I want to please you again
And I send SMSk loving you!

Why be sad! There is reason for fun
There are always reasons for joy!
Today is Sunday,
The weather is super like never before!
There is reason for us to take a walk with you
And exchange our positive!

Probably, every guy sooner or later has a moment when you need to reassure the girl. Female gender - emotional creatures, prone to experiencing various situations.

Before you take any steps, find out what happened to your girlfriend. You must clearly distinguish 2 different situations:

1. It can be simple whims with which a girl tries to manipulate you.
2. Something really serious happened to her. For example, trouble in the family, retaking the exam, etc.

When a girl should not be reassured

This is just the first case. For example, you did something, she pretended that she really didn’t like it and sent a scandal. The purpose of such vagaries is to provoke: so that you apologize, feel guilty, and possibly make amends for your “guilt” financially.

Try to look from the side at your action, which caused such a violent reaction in the girl. If it seems to you that everything is normal, then so it is. Do not give in to provocation and do not take any action. Next time, a friend will know that you are not involved in such matters.

When a girl should be reassured

Talk to her, find out what happened. Sometimes, just because she shares her problem will become easier. Depending on the situation, proceed further: first, hug her. This helps a lot, because hugs give the girl a feeling of protection and calmness. Then, after you understand what the situation is, express your opinion on this matter.

How to reassure a girl with words

Try to look at her problem from an optimistic point of view and say that not everything is as bad as she thinks. Suggest a possible solution to the situation and let her know that you will support her in every way and will do everything possible to ensure that the situation normalizes. Even if you do not know what solution to offer in her question, nevertheless try to make it clear that the situation is one way or another resolved.

Use the following remarks in a conversation:

"Everything will be fine"

“You are not alone, you have me”

“You can always count on my help”

If the girl is not nearby, keep in constant contact with her through the phone, messenger, social network. Try to make her feel that, despite the distance, you are next to her. Say that if she becomes uncomfortable again, she immediately called you and you will support her.

How to calm a crying girl

A crying girl just needs to be hugged tightly, and in this position to be with her for up to several minutes. While she is crying, it’s even better not to talk a lot. She will calm down pretty quickly in your arms, and then you can talk to her.

How to console a girl

In order for your girlfriend to feel at ease, you must first take non-verbal actions. That is, those where fewer words. To do this, use hugs, touches, kisses, stroking. In the room where you are, create a peaceful atmosphere: cover the curtains, light the aroma lamp with essential oil (it soothes the psyche perfectly). You can do water procedures - take a bath together.

After the girl came to, you can go out into the fresh air for a walk, go to the cafe. This will help to change the environment and distract from different thoughts.

Your girlfriend is upset, but you do not know how to help her? How to cope with her tantrum? How to reassure a girl in order to restore her peace of mind? Such questions are asked by many men who have at least once witnessed female hysteria.

Algorithm of actions for the comfort of a girl

The first step is to express a sincere interest in the problem that led to the tantrum. Women are very sensitive to insincerity, so if you really want to help your soulmate, delve into her experiences. Find out why a woman is upset. Finding out the reason will help you quickly find a way out of the situation. If the problem is fixable (a quarrel with a friend or misunderstanding at work), then you can console a girl by telling a funny joke or a funny life story that will be appropriate at the moment.

If the cause of the hysteria is more serious, for example, the death of a loved one, there is no room for jokes. In such a situation, one should try as calmly as possible to calm the woman, to choose the appropriate words that will help distract from grief. Try to find out as much details as possible. Thus, you can better determine how to calm a crying girl, what words are worth choosing.

After establishing the root cause of the girl’s bad mood, try to find out what she wants at the moment. If she says that she needs to be alone, give the girl such an opportunity. Some people find it difficult to splash out their emotions when someone is nearby. Sometimes women can calm down only if no one is around. It’s easier to pull yourself together. But there are times when a girl talks about the need for loneliness, without actually experiencing such a feeling. She just does not want to burden her problems or is afraid that you will see a tantrum in her face. In this case, you need to be more careful, try to help the girl, even despite her protests (after all, sometimes this is just a veiled call for help). Most girls need affection and tenderness. A soothing hug supported by a kind word is the best medicine for girls. Using such simple tricks, you can quickly stop the hysteria of your soulmate.

Another important point that the female soul needs is the opportunity to speak out. A woman will calm down faster if she finds an attentive interlocutor who is ready to listen to her experiences. In such a situation, it is important not only to be a listener, but also periodically ask relevant questions. Do not be distracted by extraneous matters, look at the girl, do not wander your eyes around the room. In this way, you will demonstrate the genuine interest that women value so much. The fairer sex is not easy to circle around the finger, they feel insincerity, and this can cause another storm of emotions. In addition, expressing her feelings, a girl can verbally voice a way to solve the problem. If you are extremely careful, you will notice this moment. Then it will be much easier for you to calm the woman.

Trying to calm a girl down? Do not minimize her problems, otherwise you risk becoming her enemy. Even if it seems to you that the situation is not serious, keep your opinion to yourself. Neglect of the problem can cause additional bouts of anger (especially in hysterics - girls prone to violent manifestations of emotions). To quickly end tantrums, tell the girl more reassuring words. If she is crying, hug her and kiss her. Tactile contact will help relieve tension, hysterical sobs (if any) will turn into calmer sobs, and then completely disappear.

Sometimes, in order for the female heart to calm down, it is enough to let the woman cry. Indeed, almost all the representatives of the fair sex are very emotional, periodically they need a discharge. Believe me, being a girl is not easy at all, sometimes a hysterical state develops, a woman loses her temper and just needs affection. In this case, you can only wait until she lets off steam, calm down.

Comforting a girl in the distance

If you and a distressed woman are separated by a distance, then it is more difficult to console her, you need to make more efforts. Thanks to the development of computer technology, every guy has the opportunity to support the girl, express sympathy and participation. How to reassure a girl with words in the distance? First, be careful to listen to her problem (if you contact her by phone or skype). Do not write the interlocutor in hysterics if she reacts aggressively to your participation. It may just be a defensive reaction. Secondly, be patient, as it may take time to establish the cause of a bad mood. Support the girl in every possible way, say that she is very dear to you.

If you are communicating with a woman by correspondence, not being able to hear each other's voice, carefully select the words. In addition, you can use cute pictures as a means to cheer up. You can also send during the correspondence links to videos that will help cheer up the girl. Such gentle signs of attention will certainly lead a woman out of her depressed state. To consolidate the success, you can use the services of a flower delivery service. Any representative of the fair sex will be pleased to receive a bouquet, such a gesture will certainly cheer up a woman.

2016-10-21 2:29

Look, enjoy, enjoy

Let it be innocent, but repent -

Well, men are full of excitement. Stress at work, conflicts in the home, in society, complex attitudes to life, obligations - life is in full swing, but not because of the place. And, it seems, only everything calmed down, as fate presents new surprises. But the strong sex does not give up! With a new force breaks into battle.

And then, SHE appears ...

Light, delicate, feminine. On basement heels, in a short skirt, with perfect manicure, or in jeans, with a careless whirlwind on his head, in sneakers, a blonde or brunette, or maybe even fiery. So different, so necessary and long-awaited. And a strong, brave, intelligent man turns into a fondant.

It seems that everything is solved, it is not so difficult to understand what you want, what to do, how to live. Problems are nothing! After all, she is nearby! Beloved.

Time passes, happiness fills, thoughts are free, everything becomes easier, calmer. But here…

The day comes when the girl cries.

And you have only a silly and incomprehensible expression on your face, and a dumb question: What should I do? Feelings hit by a dump truck! Is that familiar? Vitally.

Like in the movies

Of course, in cinema everything is different. The hero always knows what to do, what to say. Knows how to calm a girl in difficult times. She would probably go to the cinema in the rain, but wet from salty tears, all as beautiful as a dream. Soaked in a stream of tears, the hero would take her by the shoulders, hugged her tightly, pulling him to him. Their lips would merge in a long kiss. In a minute, the heroine will forget the cause of the tears, and in the next frame the heroes will have a baby. Good story for lovers and romantics.

In life, everything is somewhat different. In life, everything is for real, in truth. And tears, and pain, red eyes, drooling, screaming. Not enough minutes.

Step by step

What is the difficulty for a young guy or an adult man ?! What does she mean for a girl ?! Each floor has its own scale. What seems a trifle for the stronger sex, for the weaker half can be a real threat to health and the psyche.

The girl by nature is more sensitive, emotional, her difficulties do not temper, but kill. She may not die physically, and today will survive stress, but tomorrow she may wake up a completely different person. In moments of life transformations under the pressure of troubles, without support, the girl changes the principles of behavior and attitudes, and one who is outside the limits of changes may simply not get inside. But there is a chance, and there is time. Nothing is better than attention.

How to calm a girl down? Need to participate!

Participation can be active but unobtrusive. You can not bother a girl with conversations and advice when an already full head of information. Then how to calm a girl with words?!

Words must be special. Sometimes one or two phrases, or a sentence, is all!

for instance : I'm here! I'm with you as much as you need!

Intonation is very important!

Exciting to the conflict and a feeling of misunderstanding, phrases:

At the beginning of a difficult period, this is a red rag for the bull. These words often cause aggression, and the reason for this is psychophysiology.

The brain of the female half of humanity is very complex, and loves complexity. If a man has one part of the hemisphere, then the girls work both. This does not mean that the fragile floor is smarter, but in many ways more capable. Thanks to the interaction of both hemispheres - logical and creative.

This means that everything that enters the girl’s brain, except for analysis, must be lost, as if in a theater. There is little funny. The female brain, until it plays a role, cannot understand the essence in order to become aware, accept and recover. Therefore, external suffering - tears, crying, hysteria is so important.

And you should not use the phrases above to try to pacify the processes of the female brain that have not reached the goal.

An example for understanding by the male psyche of the female state at the time of the beginning of experiences.

Logs (information) are laid in the oven (brain), a spark of a match kindles a fire. The fire began to pick up pieces of wood (information), but the duct was blocked (the output of negative energy and pain concentration). Around the smoke rises (feelings of misunderstanding), children (rudeness, screaming, resentment). As a result, everywhere is covered with soot, the ashes are carried through the air, and the furnace has to be cleaned.

On this easy example, the psychological moment is explained. A serious situation. After all, having no opportunity and time to realize, all pain and anger can be directed to a person nearby. Natural protection against overload of the nervous system, in the form of the release of negative energy.

Based on the knowledge in this matter, it is easier to adjust and make the right move. As a rule, at the first stage of experiences, the girl needs not a companion, but a vest. You don’t have to talk much, you just need to be there. Do not look at the clock, nor rush, nor pretend to be tired. All attention should be directed to the sufferer, and not to his own routine of life, at least at this moment.

Talk heart to heart with yourself

Finding out the reasons, or trying to support the girl in difficult times, you need to be prepared for the fact that you are used as a pillow for tears, a vest, or another soft and dumb surface. Sometimes it’s enough to just sit side by side and on the head or on the back. This seems strange to a person who does not know the physiology, but secrets can also be revealed.

Important nerve endings are located on the head and back. Not without reason, when children are capricious or cry, their mothers stroke their heads and backs. It calms and relieves stress, it becomes easier, and sometimes you even want to sleep. This is a little trick.. Therefore, when it’s bad, they go to mom’s, she will stroke, calm and give her warmth. Guys rarely use this method, but in vain! You need to take it into service, so that next time you know how to calm your beloved girl.

If a girl starts talking, you just need to listen. No need to add something, or give examples of their troubles, and methods of struggle. This rarely helps, because you can forget yourself and just start to feel sorry for yourself and your memories. And all attention should be paid only to the girl.

Loneliness

Often when disaster strikes, the female sex turns into a child. As a small girl or woman, age does not matter, wants to hide in a corner so that no one touches or asks for anything.

How to be ?!

In no case do not persuade anything! Otherwise, you may stumble upon a door slamming in front of your nose.

You can simply participate, if this is the girl’s house, in the preparation of coffee, tea, something to cook a snack. Take not by word, but by food. This, as in men, is quite effective. After a large loss of energy, one often wants to have a bite, but there is no strength, and the girl is lying or sitting hungry. It’s not scary if there are tea with a sandwich, and the girl refuses to eat. After a short period of time, she looking at them will still develop an appetite.

Suitable phrases:

By depersonalizing himself, casting aside his interests, a man will become more reliable. Girls like it when a guy thinks more about her than about himself.

It is unacceptable to pronounce words such as “must”, “obligated”.

At the moment of sadness, sadness, panic or hysteria, the girl owes nothing to anyone! Her inner world is directed inside the problem, into the depths of experiences. It is also not worthwhile to impose obligations to comply with the “should” installation. She may only want to.

Trust service

Reassure the girl in the distance  quite difficult. Harder calm a crying girl. The thought that you are not around, and she is so defenseless, alone, is driving some crazy.

Whereas?!

You need to be a psychological counseling service over the phone. A guy or a man should carefully listen to the notes of voice, so as not to miss dangerous signals.

You can’t save money on a call!

If a man wants to disconnect faster, no matter how courteous he is, the girl will understand this. If she calls, then she needs a man. Nature does not tolerate emptiness, and if you do not answer, you can no longer wait for the next case, the girl will choose other ears, and another goal. Difficulties for girls are often at hand for guys on ignore lists. It is worth closer to the object at the time of its weakness, and you can get a reward. The guy reassures the girl, she gratefully opens the soul, and even the body. Unfortunately, there are those who take advantage of this. So if your favorite calls, you should drop everything and click on the green icon so as not to get red.

You can not use phrases in a conversation:

(female translation in brackets)

What do you have there? (thinks I can’t have anything important)

Again? (considers a walking problem)

So be quiet! (considers aggressive)

So what? (thinks it doesn't matter)

Not understood? (uninteresting not even listening)

Lets go faster! (in a hurry to get rid)

Any rude expressions are also unacceptable, you need to restrain yourself in the conversation.

How to reassure a girl with words in the distance:

Yes, I am here!

I'm listening to!

Speak, it is important!

I'm sorry that I'm not around!

Do not think about me, you are more important!

It's hard for you, and I'm far away, my fault.

I want to be around.

All phrases are aimed at support and trust. The girl feels that she is neither indifferent, nor lonely, she has a strong back.

Cry willow cry

Calming a crying girl in the distance   it’s difficult, but it’s possible to let it cry.

There is no greater relief for a woman than getting rid of internal stress through bitter tears. Even with a swollen face, she will feel better, freer.

If yesterday the difficulty is insurmountable, then tomorrow there will certainly be a way out.

It will be good if, within a week or two, the guy takes on even the smallest chores - carries out or drives work to the place of study, or simply walks around the city. You can bring food, help around the house, even if there is no work, you can always come up with a reason to fix something, show skill and care.

Walking by the lake, river or in the park, among the trees and nature, is very helpful. It will seem strange to men, but girls often cherish even the worst memories. It is important for them to nostalgic! Therefore, a park or river can be a great place to let go of hard thoughts, or remember them. Nature is endowed with amazing strength, and the ability to take away human sorrows and let go of hearts.

The girl cries, the guy calms, and life goes on ...

Sincerely, Angelica Melnik

Knowing how to reassure a girl with words at a distance, if she is angry, offended or just not in herself, can not only help preserve the nervous system, but also save the relationship, if they are worth it.

A set of simple but effective rules can be compared with emergency care skills, because an angry or desperate girlfriend can turn into a real problem.

How to reassure a girl in the distance

Many girls like to cry or throw a tantrum just to attract the attention of their boyfriend, or out of fear that he decided to quit. If there is a suspicion that this is so, it is enough to devote a little of your time to it.

• Even if the couple is separated by distance, you can talk on the phone, because a pleasant affectionate voice, a gentle word can quickly return both to a good mood;
• Some people prefer calling. Correspondence in VK, strewn with hearts and kittens, her photo stored on the phone, or a romantic clip with a love song can do a miracle;
• If the reason for tears is more serious, but she is not connected with the guy, the girl probably wants words of comfort and a strong hug. Sometimes it’s enough to listen to the story and take its side, to say that she is well done, and all the rest are morons;
• A very important point is to know why a friend or acquaintance may cry in principle. To do this, you need to learn to listen and hear not only words, one voice can often understand what is happening. A girl can be very sensitive if she cries after a sad movie, seen an abandoned kitten, or after the release of a crime chronicle. In this case, apart from a strong shoulder and the phrase "everything will be fine," nothing more will be needed.

How to understand why a girl is upset

But in order to properly navigate the situation, you should always directly ask what happened.

• If a girl does not want to talk, the reason is probably related to the guy. It seems to her that he does not love her, cheats on her, does not consider her beautiful ... Sometimes she can cry, deciding to part with a young man, but sparing him and pleasant memories. In this situation, the sooner you can understand what the matter is, the better it will be for everyone. Friends, walls on social networks, blog posts, tweets, photos can come to the rescue.
• If the guy himself wants to leave his girlfriend and at the same time remain in a good relationship with her, do not reassure her day after day, continue correspondence on VK, speak affectionate words and listen about her experiences. Having stopped loving, she will probably be ashamed of her weakness and humiliation, and can only hate it for this. It’s better to calmly talk to her in a soft, but not too gentle voice, not to succumb to any persuasion, but following the decision made, retire some distance and wait until time solves all the problems.
• Also, before embarking on consolations, it is advisable to assess the seriousness of the situation and especially the temperament of the girl. Very "hot" young ladies lose their temper instantly and in this state you can expect anything from them. Having caught fire, they cool off just as quickly, after which it is already possible to speak with them calmly.
• The more phlegmatic ones will observe the situation and wait for the development of events, they may be offended or angry the next day, having “analyzed” the situation in their mind. They will not beat dishes or run away into the night forest, but they will also “leave” and cry much longer, in a bad situation - for several days or even months.

Ideally, to succeed, you need:

• know how to calm a girl;
• understand the reason she is experiencing;
• evaluate the strength of her anger or sadness, taking into account the characteristics of temperament;
• be patient.