Valentina was 45 when she met a charming and intelligent man who turned out to be 10 years younger than her. They have a beautiful relationship, but the age difference is worrying - although Valentina looks great, she understands that there is a difference and will feel more and more over the years, so it’s hard for her to decide what to do next ...
Natalia 27, she fell in love with a man who is 30 years older than her. He looks like her father and even his name is the same. Natalia has always been a "father's daughter." Sergey also loves her, wants to start a family and dreams of children. They feel good together, Natalia for him as a "breath of fresh air." But the future of the couple is still uncertain: to be or not to be together, no solution was found.
Marriage with age difference is a very special relationship. They have a lot of pleasant things, but enough dangers. What to expect from such a marriage?
Psychologists say that for long-term relationships, the same values \u200b\u200bare important, not character traits and interests. Our ancestors adhered to the same opinion, trying to choose a couple from "their circle" for children. After all, only those couples who brought up and grew up in approximately the same cultural and social conditions have similar life baggage. However, to many today such a tradition seems archaic. She gave way to a relationship of love, which, as you know, knows no boundaries - including age.
Many people who enter into marriages of different ages have long been tormented by doubts about the prospects of such an alliance. Even despite the general feeling of happiness of marriage. Are there any grounds for such experiences?
When a husband is older and a wife younger
Often, female girls are chosen by men during the midlife crisis. They are looking for a wife whom they can brag about and be an indisputable authority for her. Women who choose an “adult” husband are usually bored with their peers; in a man they are looking for a second father and a person with an already defined status in society.
Such a husband has more experience in everything, including in family life, he will not repeat past mistakes. But the young wife has a fate to be “led”. The husband will decide most of the questions for her. But next to the young wife he will try to look as good as possible, and it is unlikely that he can be compared with peers whose wives "already for ...". And most importantly, such husbands are wonderful fathers, because unlike young dads, for them the birth of a child is an absolutely conscious step.
How good it is for women in such a marriage: she is always young! But there is also a minus: a forty-year-old man cannot be redone, that is, his wife receives it with a whole set of qualities that, naturally, have already taken root. If peers can "rub" each other, then in the case when the husband is older, the woman will have to "rub" herself.
When a wife is older and a husband younger
Why are marriages between women of Balzac age and young men so rare? After all, the beauty next to an elderly man does not surprise anyone, but here a woman who looks significantly older than her young husband is still doomed to catch puzzled looks on herself. Although such marriages seem more rational for a number of reasons.
According to statistics, women live ten years longer than men. So if the spouse is even a little younger, the likelihood that everything will be like in a fairy tale - “they lived happily ever after and died on the same day” increases. The issue of "giving birth to either us is good," with a large age difference, has to be addressed rather quickly. A young husband wants to walk up, and a mature wife wants to fulfill a biological purpose. But the presence of a young man nearby stimulates to keep fit!
Plus such an alliance: a young husband is a healthy husband, an excellent comrade and friend. Not the old "wreck" lying on the couch, but sporty, fit, taking everything from life, the party-goer and the soul of the company.
Minus - relatives and friends nod their heads "married to son". A young man tries to shift the burden of responsibility on his wife, if there are many couples in whom the husband is much older, but the burden of responsibility and care for the family still lies with the wife. In this matter, it is not age that plays the role, but the character and upbringing of the man himself.
Perfect difference
What is the ideal age difference between spouses? Scientists have derived the formula: husband's age / 2 + 7 \u003d wife's age. For example, a man 40 years old is divided by 2, we get 20, we add 7, we get the age of an ideal wife 27 years.
Is a healthy baby less likely to conceive with a large age difference between parents?
The age of a man is significantly less important than the age of a woman. In men, as in women, the natural process of gradual decrease in the synthesis of sex hormones (the main one of which is the male sex hormone testosterone) begins with age. Typically, the onset of “male menopause,” or andropause, occurs between 45 and 60 years. However, a decrease in reproductive ability does not at all mean its immediate and complete extinction.
The optimal reproductive age of a woman, from a medical point of view, is 20-35 years. Up to 20 years, a woman’s body cannot yet be considered fully formed; he is often not ready to endure the global hormonal and physiological restructuring associated with pregnancy. At the age of 35 years (with someone earlier, with someone later), a natural decrease in female reproductive function begins. However, the point is not only to reduce the likelihood of conception. Unfortunately, after 35-40 years, a woman significantly increases the likelihood of conception of a child with a genetic pathology (the most famous and common of them is Down syndrome). The mechanism of this phenomenon has not yet been clarified. Nevertheless, thanks to modern means of prenatal diagnosis and the latest achievements of medicine in the field of pregnancy, the age limit of women who bear and give birth to healthy children rises before our eyes.
Age difference between parents - what does it affect?
It is believed that couples with a large age difference are more likely to have, if not brilliant, then, in any case, very smart and talented children. Unfortunately, medicine is not in a position to confirm or refute, since it is not known to what extent the child’s intellectual potential can be considered congenital, and to what extent it is a product of upbringing (a big difference in years implies a considerable age and, therefore, a considerable baggage of life experience one of the spouses).
There is also a theory that the age difference between parents affects ... the sex of the first child. If you believe the British doctors who conducted special studies, mature men, eager to have a first-born son, it makes sense to choose a partner in life younger than yourself. Childless women of childbearing age, dreaming of a daughter, should also look for a father for their child among the younger representatives of the opposite sex. However, systematic studies confirming such relationships, as far as is known, have not been conducted anywhere in the world.
Ecology of consciousness. Psychology: According to the calculations of experts, it does not matter which spouse is older, the main thing is what is the difference in age. So...
According to the calculations of experts, it does not matter which spouse is older, the main thing is what is the difference in age. So...
The difference is zero.
In such marriages, better work out household relations, but much worse with self-development and boring in sex.
The difference is 1 year.
In such unions, the dominant role usually belongs to the woman, although she does not often have to use her domineering power.
The difference is 2 years.
Such marriages are extremely financially unstable, even with high earnings, money oozes like sand through the fingers. Relationships are built on emotions, which on takeoff give an unforgettable experience, and on a recession can lead to a break.
The difference is 3 years, 6 years, 9 years.
A husband and wife with such an age difference do not so much differ in their views on life, but are prone to a conflict of temperaments. However, they manage to get along even though they are completely unable to appreciate each other's worth.
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The difference is 4 years.The spiritual and sexual aspects of life are harmonious, which is a guarantee of a stable and long marriage. If the marriage nevertheless breaks up, then the former partners will still remain friends.
The difference is 5 years, 10 years, 15 years.
Relations are especially successful if the professional or creative life of the spouses is on the same plane.
The difference is 7 years, 14 years.
Such pairs usually exist in an atmosphere of insincerity., where partners hide even completely innocent details of their past or present from each other (for example, earnings or health problems). However, the probability of divorce is extremely small - these two are drawn to each other.
The difference is 8 years.
This seems to be the best age difference possible. The marriage will pass any test and its "authors" will be unconditionally recognized as happy. Spouses will be given everything - both love and understanding,
and tenderness and sexual attraction.
The difference is 11 years.
The relationship of such spouses is similar to tragedy. Stormy scandals give way to no less stormy sex, and reconciliation is followed by a new scandal. Breaks and divorces will be required, as will subsequent reunions and love games.
The difference is 12 years.
Relationships of partners are complex, up to the point of drama, but interesting. To save such a marriage can only the ability of both to compromise. In happy moments of life there is no one more beautiful than this couple.
The difference is 13 years.
Such people are kept and happy in marriage by a spiritual community. Best of all, if one of the partners is a big value in his work, and the second is an associate of his half.
The difference is 16 years.
Marriage is rare, but the happiest. Even happier than 4 and 8 year olds. Happiness is just over the edge.
As you can see, astrologers limited themselves to analyzing marriages with a difference of up to 16 years. And if the age gap is even greater? Years 20, 30 or 40? Psychologists analyzed the success and failure of such unions and came to the following conclusions.
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Husband is much younger, wife is much older
Prospects
Intimacy.
At first, there will be a complete idyll in sex. A woman has reached the peak of sexuality, is liberated, knows what she wants and knows how to express her feelings and desires. If she will take care of herself and continue to surprise her husband with the pleasures of sexual expression, then the harmony in intimate life will be long or lifelong. If a woman “launches” herself externally or allows sex to become routine, then adultery of the young husband is inevitable, possibly right up to divorce.
Health.
With a young wife, the wife is better to be healthy and energetic. An eternally ill wife will look even older, making the couple more disharmonious. A sick husband in such a tandem will not be abandoned, but will be perceived by others as "an unfriendly child of a caring mother."
Friends.
Girlfriends of the same age as his wife will intensely captivate the "boy", and it is possible that some of them will succeed. However, the company of the peers of the young husband is even less preferable, since against her background the solid age of the wife will especially stand out. In addition, this party will be a sea of \u200b\u200byoung competitors. Therefore, the best option is to communicate less with friends, limiting ourselves to casual and non-binding acquaintances.
Relatives.
Most parents do not want to hear anything about “overripe” daughters-in-law and “young” grooms. However, if a couple manages to establish itself as happy or at least harmonious, backing it all up with the birth of a healthy baby, then it is likely that irreconcilable relatives will replace anger with mercy and recognize a son-in-law or a daughter-in-law.
The heirs.
Young men, as a rule, are worthless fathers, they still need to grow and mature before paternity. However, if a man wants to be the "adult husband" of a respectable lady, then he will react to his father's duties with double responsibility.
If a woman already has children, then the situation is complicated. Due to the small age difference, they will not perceive their mother’s husband as a dad (and it hardly makes sense to force them). Worse if they show mutual or one-sided sexual interest in each other. This is certainly the end of an unequal marriage - scandalous and traumatic.
Money.
A wife with a respectable number of years and a weighty wallet next to a cute dipper without a penny in her pocket is a ratio that is often found and does not last long. Young people without complexes often easily enter into such marriages, considering them sponsorship. If the money runs out, then the "love" of the spouse ends. If he is not only young, but also entrepreneurial in the commercial plan, then, having gained at least some independence in the financial plan, he will decisively leave the family nest. It rarely happens differently.
Compromises.
Any marriage needs them. With the ratio “wife is older, husband is youth”, a woman will have to close her eyes and forgive, forgive, forgive for much in her husband’s behavior. A man will have to put up with endless jealousy and suspicions, as well as always prove that he is a man, and not a jerk-dependent.
Husband is much older, wife is much younger
Prospects
Intimacy.
The peak of the groom’s sexuality has long been behind, so you can not expect a frenzied pressure and African passion from him. If he is in good shape, goes in for sports, or is sexually active by nature, then the young wife will at first be quite pleased with the intimate side of life, discovering love with a mature partner. As female sexuality grows with the number of years in the bedroom, the crisis will increase. Young husbands of peers will awaken special feelings in a woman. In order to turn the situation to their advantage, the elderly spouse will have to either allow (explicitly or behind the scenes) the wife to have a lover for an intimate pastime, or "make" her more children - then she will not be "stupid".
Health.
A healthy man, much less a husband, is better than a sick man, regardless of age. With an active and at the same time sparing the body's lifestyle, in principle, you can maintain health until old age. Ailments of a husband are easier to bear if he does not focus on them and does not neglect the prescriptions of doctors.
Friends.
If the interests coincide, then the age of the husband’s friends is of little importance. And the spouse will not mind if young girlfriends visit his young wife. But on visiting friends of the same age, with or without girlfriends, a smart mature husband will ban. It is best for such spouses to communicate with similar couples. Adult uncles will gossip about theirs, and girls will tweet about theirs.
Relatives.
Parents of the husband (if alive) will treat the daughter-in-law patronizing or indifferent. If they suspect her of a mercantile choice of the groom, they will hate and begin to plot.The most correct thing is to pick up one key or another to them and establish relations. Parents of the bride will be the same age or even younger than the groom. If they are against the choice of a daughter, then all the same in relations with the son-in-law they will maintain a respectful or restrained tone.
The heirs.
My husband probably already has them, besides they’re the same age or older than their young wife. They are unlikely to like dad's new wife, and you should not count on their goodwill.Having a baby from an older spouse is also good. Mature man likely to be a wonderful caring father seekingconvey to the child all his experience and wisdom.
Money.
Young and old girls do not marry the elderly and poor - there is no need. Unless for very talented, but not recognized, or for registration. In most cases, the groom is not too young, but very wealthy, which gives him confidence. He is likely to share the inheritance between former and real wives and children, than everyone will be extremely unhappy.
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Compromises.
A woman who marries a man who is ten years older than her needs to reconcile with the idea that she will give her best years to her elderly spouse, and at 40 - 45 she will be left alone and, most likely, she will not marry again. A man in his years, taking a girl as a wife, will have to pretend that he does not see how she "licks" at young men, how she breaks into discos and youth parties. And finally, how will she try to have a lover ...published
Today unequal marriages will not surprise anyone. And both in that and in the other direction. How does the big difference in the age of spouses affect family life? And what it should be like to guarantee an idyll in family relationships.
Peers
At first glance, it is marriages between peers that should be the most prosperous. Still, common interests, a common circle of friends, approximately the same life experience and future prospects work to unite. However, not everything is so rosy.
To begin with, couples of peers are most often found in early marriage - 19-23 years. And at this age, spouses are usually not yet ready to adapt to each other. Not enough wisdom, flexibility in relationships.
In addition, the mismatch of sexual interests often affects. Experts say that a woman's true sensuality wakes up only at the age of 30, while the stronger sex has this peak at just 21 - 25 years.
Perhaps it is for these reasons that 53 percent of marriages concluded by young peers fall apart.
In addition, some believe that it is men who are married to peers who are most likely to change their companions in the ill-fated mid-life crisis.
Marriages between peers are more likely to find harmony when people meet at a fairly advanced age, with the necessary life experience and baggage.
Wife older than husband
Recently, such marriages are perceived by the public much more calmly. Moreover, as experts assure, they have many advantages.
To begin with, in a purely sexual plan, it is easier for a 20-year-old man to coincide with a woman who is 5-6 years older than him than with her peer.
The heyday of female sexuality falls on the period from 30 to 45 years, and for some it lasts up to 50. As for the stronger sex, according to studies, by the age of 35-40 there comes a period of persistently high sexuality, and after 45 it slowly goes to recession. So it turns out that by sex hours, adult women are the best suited for young men.
True, with age, the importance of sexual relations for a wife will fade into the background.
But usually by this time the spouses have other common ground that keeps them close to each other. After all, in the end, people who dare to coincide not only in bed venture to such relationships.
Incomplex and insecure young children who grew up under the care of mothers and grandmothers often fall in love with older women. They don’t know how to express themselves through “real man’s actions” (well, there is a fight over girls, active courtship). And therefore, they are not popular with their peers.
The wives of such men are often not fully satisfied with the instinct of motherhood. Or she does not have her own children. Or her children have already matured and do not need mom's custody.
Such an alliance can last quite a long time if the husband-boy does not suddenly grow up one day or for some reason does not begin to be weighed down by excessive guardianship.
They tend to fall in love with mature women and romantic natures, to whom such women seem to be the embodiment of the female ideal - well-groomed, educated, tender and romantic. It is these novels that usually drag on for a long time and then safely develop into marriage.
As a rule, women who are capable of seriously captivating men younger than themselves are outstanding individuals, and next to them a young man matures quite quickly and quickly, gaining self-confidence and life wisdom.
So psychologically, such a relationship can benefit both of them. If only a woman has the mind not to behave, her husband, as with an unreasonable baby. Because even if he married an adult woman because he needed a mother-type wife, he would soon rebel from such treatment.
Husband is older than wife
But still, it is considered most acceptable when a man is older than his chosen one. True, in recent years, marriages have entered into vogue, in which a husband is almost suitable for his faithful fathers.
From the point of view of specialists, there is nothing unnatural in the desire of men to marry the young.
Women are attracted to men by the age of the fact that, firstly, they are wealthier and more successful than their peers. And women, again by nature itself, are ordered to "be led" to such representatives of the stronger sex.
Secondly, very often girls who have grown up without a father or simply have not received their father's love fall in love with men much older than themselves.
Girls, accustomed to constant parental care, having matured, will also fall in love with men older than themselves, who will become her parent and husband, which is called in one bottle. And if a man likes “papa-daughter” type, the family harmony is ensured for this couple. He will always be able to feel the undisputed head of the family. She will never dispute his leadership.
Some women choose men much older than themselves, thus striving to raise their self-esteem. As a rule, these are girls with a deep inferiority complex, who were little praised in the family.
Next to a man who is 20 or more years older than her, ready to admire his young wife, she will finally be able to feel like a queen.
So, whatever one may say, the unequal barks conceal many positive aspects. Although, of course, there are pitfalls.
In unequal barges, experts assure, the one who is younger ages faster. Especially a woman. But the need for feelings she still remains. And if some Don Juan appears on the way of such a woman, it is possible that fidelity to her husband will be over.
So count
So what is the optimal age difference between spouses? There is no consensus on this.
Some experts believe that for sustainable long-term relationships, the difference in the age of the spouses should be about 5-7 years.
Other scientists even offer a formula for calculating an ideal marriage: "husband's age: 2 + 7 \u003d wife's age." That is, if a man is 40 years old, we divide by 2 - it turns out 20, then we add 7 and we get the age of his ideal wife: 27 years.
Astrologers suggest determining the compatibility of spouses by age based on the ancient Zoroastrian calendar. Here it does not matter which of the spouses is older. The main thing is how much.
So, according to this system marriage between peers although it guarantees a safe union, many children, however, it does not always imply personal growth.
One year difference promises a marriage based on trust, mutual assistance, as well as harmonious joint parenting.
Two years - such marriages are usually romantic and sudden. Spouses are waiting for an endless series of ups and downs, a change of violent passion with periods of sharp cooling.
Union of spouses with three year difference age is too emotional and will stand the test only if one of the partners is able to balance the relationship. Marriage is similar to it with a six year difference at the age of partners. It will develop successfully only when both are ready to maintain a relationship. But in terms of revealing the creative potential of the spouses, such a marriage is considered an ideal option.
Marriage where husband or wife four years older promises complete harmony. This is a marriage-friendship, in which trusting relationships between spouses remain even after a divorce.
Difference between spouses at 5, 10 or 15 years perfect if they are united by common affairs and interests.
Marriage with the difference between husband and wife is considered extremely stable. at 7, 8 or 14 years old.
Nine years difference promises a difficult and conflicting marriage, which, however, can stimulate the creative potential of lovers of poignancy in a relationship. The eleven-year marriage, in which quarrels and reconciliations alternate, is similar to him.
With a twelve year difference in age, luck in marriage especially depends on the willingness of partners to make concessions.
Married with a difference of thirteen years, according to Zoroastrians, spirituality comes to the fore. Well and sixteen year difference in their age, in their opinion, the best union combining the magic of all lucky numbers.
... However, the main condition for a happy life together is still love, the desire to give warmth and understanding to your chosen one. And then no age difference will be a hindrance.
The phenomenon when a middle-aged man meets a girl who is suitable for him as a daughter is described as a middle-aged crisis. True, now couples of different ages are becoming more common. For example, in some circles a young wife is a sign of high status. With the advent of wealthy and self-sufficient women in society, this trend is visible in the opposite direction. Now no one is surprised by couples where the lady is over 50, and the gentleman was barely 30. This trend has become part of public consciousness, and the lovers themselves do not feel like outcasts. If the age difference does not bother the couple, why should it bother others?
However, comedians still make jokes about couples of different ages. In fact, this has its own logical explanation. Between representatives of different generations there are too many problems that are not characteristic of peers. Here are some tips for courageous couples, despite age differences.
Think of the offspring
If the age difference between the lovers is too big, it can become a hindrance in the reproduction of offspring. Now we are talking about cases when a woman is older. Before leading a young lover down the aisle, ask him if he wants to have children? Now, honestly, can you provide the future husband offspring? If, despite the difficulties that have arisen, you still see yourself together after 10 years, or you have found a way out (for example, take a baby from an orphanage), then feel free to take this step. If the man is older, there is another difficulty: health. Does he have enough vitality and energy to raise children for at least two decades? 
Recognize your motives
Before you start a relationship with a person who is much older (or younger) than you, make a thorough analysis of your own motives. Sure, love does not know the age, but people often take for this amazing feeling the passion that passes through 2-3 years. What will you do when you marry and realize that feelings have already died out? Consider a model of your relationship. Someone likes to be patronized, someone to patronize. Think about the financial component, career advancement and habits.
For example, a young woman marries a wealthy man, but wants to build her career. It is important that the future husband let her do this. Or a young man spent his whole life with his mother and is not familiar with everyday difficulties. If he is going to marry a woman older than himself, it is likely she will not be able to take care of her young husband because of eternal employment. Will this be a problem for the newlyweds and how will the man begin to look for a way out of the situation? 
Be prepared for misunderstanding
Regardless of how much the partners love each other, differences between them will necessarily appear. The lifestyle of one spouse may not be acceptable to the other. Lovers can love music and films of different generations, have different political views, or take historical events differently. All these factors can underlie misunderstanding and quarrels. If partners show wisdom and begin to exchange experiences, they will overcome these difficulties.
How to relate to criticism?
There will always be people who disagree with your choice. How to relate to criticism? To let her pass her ears or make an effort to explain her position? If we are talking about misunderstanding by close friends and relatives, undoubtedly the second. If you hear criticism from the lips of unfamiliar people, then the first. 
Do not focus on age differences
Age differences can cause chaos in your relationship. But if you focus on this, you will attract conflict. Think positively, think about love, not potential conflicts. Any problem can be solved when it becomes relevant.
Greetings to all my readers! I will share with you my next opinion on this issue: the ideal age difference between a man and a woman. Should a man be older or younger than his companion?
I’m eating somehow in a subway car. There is a couple at the exit. He is over 50, bald, fat, dressed with taste. She is about 25 years old. He constantly leans towards Her and kisses somewhere between the ear and the cheek. At the same time, she pulls away a little, looks away. Then at the next station, He takes Her hand and they leave.
What relationship connects this couple? What do they have in common? Who do they belong to each other?
It is immediately clear that a middle-aged man is already in love with a girl. Maybe he’s not in love, but he’s just flattered by the attention of a young girl. On her part, sheer love is not observed. It can be seen that she is embarrassed by her gentleman. Itself does not show any initiative in the expression of feelings.
Then what is she doing next to him? The answer suggests itself: a man with money, with status. Maybe the girl is attracted to just that?
What is the ideal age difference between a man and a woman?
The man is much older than the woman
I don’t understand such men. Do they really think that at their age they can count on the love of a young girl?
After all, it is absolutely clear that there is no love here at all, and there is only a mercantile interest.
The girl will play the role of a lover for some time, get everything for the sake of which this relationship was started. And all, goodbye love.
And the man, meanwhile, having aged a little more, remains alone. And if he does not draw any conclusions, then he is likely to step on the same rake again.
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A woman is much older than a man
The same can be said about a young woman, who for some reason believes that a man much younger than her can sincerely fall in love, and even call him married. Yes, she’s such a smart beauty, but ... for her age.
And a man who chooses a woman 20-30 years older than himself, most often turns out to be an ordinary gigolo.
You don’t have to go far for an example: again, I’m going on the subway. Nearby sits a granny 80 years old (she herself told me about her age). Next, I bring the story with her words:
“Here I am already nineteen, there is no husband. I buried four. I really want to meet a man. But where to get it?
Men no longer look at me - give them young ones! And there are no men of my age left ...
I met here recently with one. He's under 60. She let her live with her. And he, the infection, has never even given a single flower, in the restaurant I always pay for it.
Only money is constantly asking and spending on his mistress. So I kicked him out ... "
How do you like this? Is this not the man under 60 (for 50) who kissed the girl in the subway? And there are many such stories.
Let's look at a peer union
He is young, beautiful, she is beautiful, young (for example, studying together at a university). Everything is great. We decided to be together. It takes a year, two, or even ten. And at some point they realize that there’s nothing to talk about. Suddenly it turns out that they have different values \u200b\u200bin life, different concepts, polar priorities.
And these people begin to disperse, scatter.
And the explanation for this phenomenon is quite simple: these comrades do not have common interests, hobbies, they even have a different perception of the world.
Why it happens? I think because one person in a pair develops, grows above himself, constantly learns something, and the second just lives, not really interested in anything.
From here comes the difference in worldview, in relation to the environment, and from here conflicts, quarrels, misunderstanding. All. We have nothing in common, we no longer love each other and we have nothing to be together for.
That is why many couples break up, although it all started so well.
A man must be older than his chosen one
It's my personal opinion. A man should be older, but no more than 10-12 years old. Next - just a bust. Forgive me men who will read this article, but their brains in everyday life develop a little longer than women.
In no way do I want to “hook” a strong sex, it’s just that nature has laid it. And that is why the union of a 25-year-old woman and a 35-year-old man, for example, is good.
In addition, it is after 30 years that many men just mature for the family.
They understand well what they want from family relationships, clearly imagine the role of husband and father and are very consciously preparing for the appearance of heirs.
At the same age, many men already have a status in society, a position, they are more confident on their feet.
Of course, there is a charm in creating a family with your classmate. Both are young, promising. all difficulties go together, maybe even hardships. Together they get to their feet, achieve something, raise children.
But the prose of life is such that after going all the way from and to with her husband, a woman after 20-30 years of marriage can well be left alone, and her husband will kiss on the subway with a young girl. And it’s good if all his property does not miraculously pass to his new darling, but remains to his wife and children.
I'm not saying that this is always what happens, but such cases are not isolated.
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