Of course, this can only be your opinion, which is actually far from the truth. It's rare to meet truly ugly people. It is important to understand that everyone has their own characteristics, and to perceive their imagined or real shortcomings precisely as characteristics.

I consider myself ugly, what should I do?

Once Coco Chanel, who is now considered a style icon, noted: “If a woman is ugly, then she is simply stupid.” Even in those days, there were many ways to highlight your best sides and de-emphasize your shortcomings. Nowadays, the fair sex has many opportunities to improve their appearance.

Realize that if you are ugly, it is your choice. Do you want to receive more compliments and love your reflection in the mirror? So we need to act! Determine what features you are dissatisfied with, make a plan with points in which you describe how you can correct this or that problem. Now that you have this plan in place, get to work!

Complexes or imperfect appearance

In fact, your lack of confidence in your own appearance may just be a complex that someone once instilled in you. They pointed out some “flaw” to you and you believed it.

Many of your “imperfections” that you are embarrassed about may not be noticed at all by people or not considered as such. Such self-doubt indicates low self-esteem, and a visit to a psychologist can normalize the situation.

Probably, many have heard stories about stars who, having a beautiful appearance, were dissatisfied with themselves or had complexes about their fading youth, going under the knife of a plastic surgeon. As a result, the appearance, which seemed standard to millions of people, was simply ruined. Such celebrities include Renee Zellweger, Lara Flynn Boyle, Melanie Griffith, Meg Ryan and many others. Surely, these women decided to undergo surgery, ceasing to consider themselves beautiful. Look at the photos of these actresses before plastic surgery, and see that their claims to themselves were very far-fetched.

How to understand that you are a beautiful girl

One of the main criteria in this matter is the compliments of others. If people periodically note the advantages of your appearance, then apparently you are really beautiful.

There are simply no specific beauty templates. The ideal changes every decade, and every culture has completely different ideas about female beauty.

However, note that beauty does not always translate into charisma, charm, sexuality or intelligence. It’s great if you have undeniable external and internal advantages, but if you are deprived of physical beauty, you can be no less successful in all areas of life than written beauties.

Surely, you have often heard stories about how men leave their beautiful wives for seemingly completely inconspicuous people. Many people ask the question: “What did he find in her?”, but when you watch such women in person, everything becomes obvious - they are so charming, smart, sexy and attractive that external “ordinariness” ceases to be so.

And this effect happens quite often. You may hear about some woman that he is very beautiful, but when you see her at the first second, you don’t understand everyone’s admiration. Once you start observing such a woman, you suddenly also begin to notice her beauty. It's all about charm - you're not born with it, but actively develop it.

How to love yourself if I'm fat

If excess weight really upsets you, that is, there is only one way out - to get rid of it. You may think that you are already doing everything possible, but the hated kilograms remain in place. This means that this is not true and you are not doing your best, in other words, you are not trying hard enough.

Girls who cannot lose weight are either not motivated enough or have health problems. To exclude the second option, get examined by an endocrinologist, nutritionist, or gastroenterologist.

Set yourself a deadline within which you need to lose weight. For example, you can read stories of girls who got rid of personal weight. There are many groups in this area on VK, where you can see the “Before” and “After” results, and make sure that with the right degree of desire and perseverance, you can also achieve the desired forms.

What should I do if I have an ugly face (long nose, bad skin, small breasts)

Many believe that at least 50 percent of beauty consists of other qualities - not the nose or breasts. If you have well-groomed hair, clear skin, healthy teeth and a slender body, then you can at least be considered a pretty girl or woman. All of these points are quite achievable if you really want it.

There are several large sites on the Internet where girls leave detailed reviews with photographs about how they managed to grow their hair or bring it to its ideal condition. There you will also find information about skin care, sports activities and healthy diets.

There is also a lot of information on the Internet on how to visually smooth out certain imperfections.

Plastic surgery is the solution

If this is not enough for you, and some part of the body or face is seriously poisoning your life, it seems that it is time to think about surgical intervention. Many women, for example, having undergone rhinoplasty, admit that they really regret that they did not take this step earlier. Contact a specialist and find out his opinion - is surgery really necessary for you?

Consider possible risks. If plastic surgery is your only option, then choose your clinic carefully. Search real reviews, try through social network get in touch with the institution’s clients, asking them about all the “ pitfalls» operations. Often, such interventions are not cheap, and if you do not have the required amount, then this is not a reason to be upset. Many clinics perform the operation on credit, “splitting” the payment into several payments.

I don't like my height - I'm too tall or short

Whatever your height, look for the positives in it. Tall and short stature are good in their own way. Tall girls often envy their miniature friends, and they, on the contrary, are dissatisfied with their diminutiveness, dreaming of adding more than a dozen centimeters to their height.

To make it easier to gain self-confidence, find information about celebrities who are about the same height as you. They often look great and don't seem to have any self-esteem problems at all. See what these stars wear, what style and hairstyles they prefer, and try to get closer to these canons.

How to live as an ugly woman

What to do to love yourself

Realize that there is no other you in the world and that’s great! Perhaps your appearance really does have some shortcomings, but why did you decide that they deserve more attention than your advantages?

Pay attention to your strengths, highlight them, and focus on them. Behave confidently, and this will have a positive effect on the attitude of others. Probably, many girls have noticed this phenomenon: a girl who is ugly in your opinion behaves confidently and even a little defiantly, and at the same time she has a wonderful personal life, and many fans seek her attention. Self-confidence sometimes attracts much more than external beauty.

Tricks of makeup and transformation using clothes

There are many videos on the Internet that clearly demonstrate how even the most homely person can turn into a model from the cover of a magazine after applying makeup correctly. Nowadays there are many techniques, cosmetic products available and salon procedures, which can significantly change the appearance in better side. Watch some video tutorials and you will see that these skills are not difficult to master!

Clothing, like makeup, is designed not only to hide nudity from others and to escape the cold, but also to draw attention to your winning sides, highlight your skin tone, visually enhance hair color, add or hide volumes in the right areas. places and the like.

Determine your color type using numerous tables on the Internet and read which shades will suit you. It is quite possible that previously for some reason you avoided, for example, pink color, without even suspecting that combinations with it are the most suitable for you.

Examples of successful imperfect stars (cinema or Hollywood) who became famous thanks to or despite their imperfections

There are many women in the world who cannot boast perfect appearance, but very few people pay attention to it. However, if there are such women, then these women do not care about their opinion, because they have achieved fame, recognition and success, despite criticism. Let's talk about some of them.

This woman is successful, rich and has many fans around the world. What made her so? At first glance, it’s difficult to call this actress’s face ideal, but when you start watching how she speaks, looks, moves, laughs, you forget that her appearance is imperfect.

In the 60s of the last century, she even played in the film “Funny Girl.” This is a biographical film about the real person Fanny Brice, who, despite many features of her appearance (squint, big nose, etc.) managed to become a real Broadway star. Barbara saw in herself many similarities with Fanny, but, like the prototype of the film, Streisand managed to achieve success, despite external shortcomings.

When Winnie was a child, she often had to catch other people's eyes on her, and the reason for this was her disease Vitiligo. The girl had to face ridicule and insults, and she no longer expected anything good from life until she pulled herself together and showed willpower. Having grown up, the Jamaican native went on the show “America's Next Top Model,” instantly captivating its creators. The girl managed to become famous in America and abroad, having concluded many expensive contracts. Now she is in demand, successful and famous, but once upon a time those around her called her a cow, because of the white spots on her dark skin faces and bodies.

Now this graceful Englishwoman regularly appears on big screens, being the standard of elegance for many women. Surely, for Tilda herself it is strange to be in such a status, because, according to her, in childhood she was not perceived as a girl. The actress notes that she decided to “turn off sexuality,” but this did not save her from the public’s attention, and it’s all about her incredible charisma!

The popular actress has heard criticism addressed to her since childhood and continues to hear it to this day, but this did not stop her from becoming a world-famous star. Moreover, he happy mom and wife. In addition, in her youth, Parker was in a long-term relationship with one of the first handsome men of Hollywood, Robert Downey Jr., and today she is a real style icon!

Hello. Tell me, how to live with an ugly appearance? The thing is, it's scary. This is not only my opinion, other people often tell me about this... even my loved one said that I am not beautiful on the outside, but beautiful on the inside. Although it is believed that all people are beautiful in their own way... or that the inner world is more important, in my opinion this is all nonsense. Whatever one may say, people first of all pay attention to appearance. People who are beautiful in appearance are loved more; they are subconsciously attracted to positive attitude. It is a fact. And not beautiful people like me have a hard time living. I have a lot of complexes. I was often teased as a child. I don't know how to live with this. I have a huge nose, without plastic surgery There’s no way around it, but the parents are against it. I don’t understand why... why other people can enjoy life and have many fans, but I can’t. I've recently stopped believing in God. Since such injustice is happening in the world, it means He does not exist. Apparently I was just unlucky...
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Olya, age: 17/06/28/2013

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It's funny to get upset because of beauty. You better think what kind of person you are, why did they love you? The most important thing in a person is his actions - not his appearance. I'm not handsome either - so what? But I have a wife and daughter whom I love very much and they love me. That's why I live! There are no ideal people, and you don’t need to listen to those fools who laugh at you. You decide who you are and no one else. Just enjoy your life and don't pay attention to others. LIFE IS ONLY GIVEN ONCE!!!
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Ryoidenshi, age: 22/06/28/2013

Dear Olya, hello!
It seems to me that all people - both women and men - know this feeling when they are dissatisfied with their appearance. And even more so at your age. Therefore, firstly, you are not alone in your experiences, and secondly, it is clear from this that some of these people want to assert themselves by speaking badly about others. You should not pay attention to such words. Sorry if I say something wrong - I don’t know the full situation - but in my opinion, a “loved person” certainly shouldn’t say unpleasant things. On the other hand, you see, it turns out that you also have a fan) who liked you not only internally (which, by the way, is much more important), but also externally, since, in your opinion, people initially pay attention to appearance.
You can correct your appearance without plastic surgery, try to highlight your eyes and lips with makeup, this will distract attention from your nose if you don’t like it so much. You can also choose a hairstyle so that it visually corrects imperfections. But the most important thing is still not this, you need to love and respect yourself!
And it is very important to turn to God. Read the Gospel, go to church, pray for good things. God is waiting for each of us and wants to accept us. Read the parable of the prodigal son, whose return his father was so overjoyed at.
I wish you all the best. I wish you happiness, sincere love - for God, your neighbors and adequate love for yourself. Everything will be fine!

Marigold, age: 19/29/06/2013

Olya, you shouldn’t be so worried about your appearance. Although I was also worried before. And then I realized that happiness does not depend on appearance. I have seen couples many times, the girl is not at all beautiful, her nose is crooked, etc., but it is clear that there is love between them. And there are also very beautiful lonely girls in the world... Who just can’t get married. Still, the main thing for guys when choosing a life partner is character, spiritual qualities, and then beauty. So don’t worry, you have a boyfriend, we can be happy for you. Apperciate things which you have.

Pooh, age: 25/06/29/2013

Good evening. Girl, I know for sure what complexes are. I couldn’t look at the mirror. On the subway I thought that everyone was looking at me. This was no longer bearable. I turned to God and prayed day and night. With time I suddenly stopped paying attention. No complexes at all. And everything started to get better. believe in God, don’t doubt, don’t sin, and you’ll understand what I’m saying. Don’t think of me as a fanatic, but these thoughts come from demons. good luck to you

Anar, age: 32 / 06/29/2013

Olya, firstly, it’s not about appearance - I know many examples of beautiful women whose husbands left them for less attractive ones, their appearance becomes boring... I had a friend at school - an incredibly beautiful girl, all the boys were in love with her... smart, from a good family... but fate turned out to be difficult - she fell in love at the age of 15, dated for many years... got married... husband drinks, goes out, drugs, children with disabilities... I saw her a couple of years ago, the same features, she hasn’t aged much... but he pulled beauty out of her, shook out her whole soul... but she could have crushed anyone, it was only worth looking at... fate seems to be like this... you have a loved one, appreciate it. And your nose - you’ll soon be 18, your parents don’t dictate to you... your nose, whatever you want, do with it :)

Mila, age: 35 / 06/29/2013

Olya,
If you want a nose operation, then it’s up to you, not your parents. The only thing is you need to find money for the operation and a good surgeon.
Many people were teased in childhood and you are not the only one who has such problems.

sk, age: 33 / 06/29/2013

Don’t be born beautiful, but be born happy. Over time, you will love yourself as you are, the main thing is that the guy loves you and your loved ones too, because sometimes a girl is beautiful and completely alone, men only look at her appearance, she is a toy for them. beauty is not for long, a beautiful inner You have peace and that’s good, just don’t forget about makeup, beautiful clothes and believe me, you will be much prettier. Worry less about it, if God deprived you of beauty, then he will give you something else. Look for the meaning of life in something else, love your loved ones , help people, improve yourself, don’t despair)

Anya, age: 17/06/29/2013

Olenka dear! Well, don’t worry so much.. If you are physically healthy, then this is the main thing.. That’s when your health will go away from this hassle, and so will I
I assure you that I have come to this... Then it will really be a problem... And now you need to calm down and understand that we often don’t like ourselves and
to others.. Firstly, no one gave us such a commandment.. Secondly, the whole world is in Photoshop and plastic. You can’t tell who really looks like anymore) People
They lose their individuality.. There are identical women all around, dolls with the same face. There is no spiritual world inside, such a woman is not suitable for a family. But all sorts of
those who are concerned rush at such people, but not for long. ..But everyone is probably given something of their own for this life..Everyone has something special..And if you already have
a loved one, it means that he has found something important for himself in you. Well, what does he say there, that you are not a beauty, he just senses your lack of self-confidence. And
you be smarter, stop having complexes and pretend that you are the best and that you know it... Yes, it’s not easy, but that’s okay
it will work out..If he says something to you about his appearance, confidently put him in his place..Be independent..Study and get a good job..This is for you
will give you strength and confidence... And about the operation, etc.. First, get on your feet. Stop letting yourself be humiliated and then see if everything is possible
will change.. Hugs and wish you peace and joy in your soul) Be happy Olya!

Olya also forgot to write... you write that people tell you that you are scary... Well, what kind of people are they? What normal person would say that... I don't
I just imagine, who are you communicating with? Because of your complexes, you allow yourself to communicate with such people and also allow them to humiliate you. Just think about it
Why do you need such people around and what connects you.. Perhaps it’s just your fear of being alone.. You drive away such friends, calmly, of course, without complaint.. Just
look at how they treat you from the outside and draw conclusions...Remember, don’t let anyone humiliate you. If this happens, these are no longer friends..

Kirien, age: 36 / 06/29/2013

Hello! There is a joke that is true: “Why are women with small breasts happier than those with large breasts? - Yes, because they are definitely not loved for their boobs.”
I’m quite serious: “Why do you need many fans if you have a loved one?! Don’t you think this is a betrayal? No serious boy
will be with you if you are supportive of attention from others. Your loved one appreciates your inner beauty. For him, you are the best. Great! What else do you need?
you, Olenka? To sprinkle the path with roses?! Showing off is also fanfare. Waste money for show. But having a nest egg for a rainy day is a concern.
There is no need to envy others. There are a lot of people around the party girls, but they are constantly changing. No one's relatives. By the way, they usually get married late or not at all.
they come out: they no longer have the strength or desire to communicate with a man, there is no habit of constancy and responsibilities... And life is mostly everyday life. To be happy
you need to love, first of all, ordinary simple life, work and a few close people.
Everyone was teased in childhood and had something nasty whispered behind their back in their youth. So, what is next? To suffer forever, or what?
With age, people get smarter and behave differently, but not all of them. Is someone else's lack of brains your problem? Why should this interfere with your happiness?

Elena Ordinary, age: 37 / 06/29/2013

You are actually much better than you think to yourself. I am sure of it. You just need to believe in yourself.

Melanie, age: 36 / 06/29/2013

Even beautiful people feel bad and they also have their own complexes. And those people who turn a blind eye to their shortcomings are lucky and enjoy life! If you have a big nose then do it beautiful hairstyle, makeup, dress nicely and feel 100%! How you feel is how people will treat you.
I also have a lot of complexes, and when they used to tell me this phrase: “How you feel is how people will treat you,” I didn’t understand how this was possible, but then I tried it and was surprised by the result!
I just woke up, went to the shower, did my makeup, hair,...(not necessarily daring to put on makeup, dress up and do super hairstyles - I just need to touch up my eyes a little, lips - gloss for example, do the so-called home hair styling, dress nicely and make you feel comfortable and that’s it - YOU ARE A PRINCESS!) After that, I didn’t look much at myself in the mirror so as not to notice flaws - acne, pimples, small lips... And I went for a walk. On this day, 2 guys complimented me and 1 came up to meet me!
You just need to believe, believe that you are beautiful, that you are feminine, that you have a beautiful smile, that your nose is a normal size... and then others will believe it! Love yourself, love life, be kind, attentive,...
Moreover, you have a boyfriend, this means that you have a person to whom you can open up, who will support and protect you in the right moment. Therefore, you are not so unhappy! Look at life positively!
And you don’t need to do any operations! This is, of course, a personal matter for everyone and I don’t want and won’t point it out to you, but it’s still better not to. Your boyfriend, your friends loved and accepted you for who you are. And don't be ashamed of it! Maybe your nose isn't that big. Perhaps this is your so-called highlight.
Believe that only those people who believe in themselves and love themselves, no matter what, enjoy life. Even if they have a big nose, small eyes, irregularly shaped lips... BUT they love themselves! And you LOVE YOURSELF NO MATTER ANYTHING!!!

Dorotty, age: 15/06/29/2013

“People who are beautiful in appearance are loved more”...Olya, are you sure about this? Beautiful people are envied, and often with black envy. Models and actresses plot intrigues against each other; one model even had sulfuric acid poured in her face, simply out of envy, so that she would stop participating in a beauty contest. So, there are different situations. External beauty is not only a gift, but also a test for a person. I once read a letter from a girl “I don’t want to be beautiful” on one of the sites. She said that all the problems in life are because of her beauty. Girls envy her, are not friends with her, she cannot hold out at work for long, because... the less beautiful female group oppresses her, the men all pester her or consider her a whore, the boss offers her a bed. It happens. So, it’s better not to be beautiful, but to be average in appearance. I have noticed more than once that beautiful girls are often arrogant, arrogant, capricious, and angry. Not really beautiful girls sweet, kind, the light of kindness comes from their faces, and this is much more attractive than just beautiful features faces. And I’m sure you have your own charm and charm. My boyfriend also told me that my face is not beautiful, but cute. At first this offended me, but he loves me for my soul, and left girls more beautiful than me, just to be with me. By the way, you are still very young, and teenagers and young men see appearance first. But over the years this passes, and a person’s inner qualities begin to be valued. Think about it, Olya! And a higher nose!

TanyaT, age: 28 / 30.06.2013

Olya, what is the problem exactly?
Young, healthy - everything is ahead. There is a MCH who loves. Why sit and beat yourself up?
Do you think beauty is the most important thing? The main thing is health, inner peace and a harmoniously developed personality.
I am beautiful, but due to illness there are no friends left and soon there will be no beauty either... And all my life I have had problems with my friends, because people are envious. And the guys... somehow were unlucky... they came across the wrong ones.
In addition to appearance, there is also a soul.

Nyuta, age: 29 / 07/02/2013

Olya, unfortunately, every person has problems in life that they have to overcome: some are not in good health, some were unable to receive a normal education, others have relatives with a completely unbearable character... I'm sure that you are a sweet, pretty girl, but at 17 years old very few people like their appearance. Try going to a stylist, joining a fitness club, sewing yourself an absolutely stunning dress... The more small “steps” you take towards improvement, the fewer unpleasant thoughts you will have about your appearance. I have a friend who is a girl in the literal sense dazzling appearance. Some even called her the Venus de Milo...But alas - at 33, she is not married, has no children, and in general - no loved one male...And another friend - clearly overweight, small, with a big nose - is dearly loved by her husband, their marriage is over 15 years old, they have a daughter. So, bright appearance is far from being a guarantee of success and success. happy life, no matter how the presenters of all sorts of fashionable verdicts try to convince us of this and “take it off immediately”

Anna, age: 33 / 07/02/2013

Olya, hello!
there is no justice in the world - that's a fact. It’s also good to realize that there is no principle that controls destinies, that leads people somewhere - no. Do cats think about what their fate is? What about elephants and rhinoceroses? It’s comical, but what I mean is that a person, in fact, is the same biological species, but with developed intellect and psyche, and therefore worries about justice and his fate.

Your appearance, your face was largely determined by the combination of your parental genes. No luck - yes, most likely, that's it. Just bad luck, it happens to everyone. Some people are born healthy, beautiful and in a rich family, while others are born sick, ugly and in poverty. For the first, all the delights of life are immediately available, and for the second, if he works hard, persistently and purposefully to solve his problems, he will only have a chance to possess all these delights.

At the same time, I think that most people already really understand that you should not underestimate the importance of appearance for building relationships and a healthy psyche. The face - the most individual part of a person - has a very significant meaning in all this.

So, life dealt us cards. For some - trump cards, for others - a junior suit. The point is to replace weak cards with strong ones.
You can whine about what a freak I am, or you can do everything to improve the situation, but if you can’t change something, you’ll have to change your attitude. =) And finally, something can be compensated at the expense of others strengths. I'll start with the first one.
1. Hairstyle. 2. Makeup. 3. Skin care. 4. Dental services. 5. Vision correction. 6. Plastic surgery faces. These are just some of the ways to improve the appearance of your face. If your soul does not harmonize with your face, work on the latter as much as possible. Yes, some things require money and time. Yes, the effect of something is not guaranteed. But who said it would be easy? If you want to live fully, move forward to changes for the better. The phrase “be yourself” refers primarily to your inclinations, predispositions, and character (although you also need to work on the latter). But not to appearance. Therefore, in my opinion, if the face is very unsatisfactory, and there are no contraindications against plastic surgery, then why not do it? What if just this little thing (on the scale of life) is the key to the beginning of your happiness?

Unfortunately, with the current level of technology, not everything can be changed. Therefore, you will have to change your attitude towards something. Accept yourself exactly as you are. You will also have to work on this psychologically, but there is no other way. The state of inner harmony that you achieve will make you much more beautiful in the eyes of others than if you worry and have complexes about some features of your appearance.

And finally, compensation is another powerful weapon on the path to success. Is yours appearance- it’s not only the face, it’s also the body, clothes, accessories, etc. And here, as you understand, there is much more room for improvement. =) Don’t be lazy, take care of your figure, update your wardrobe (even if not right away). A great figure and carefully selected clothes will significantly improve your appearance. Perfect female body- this, believe me, is an incredible temptation for any man. But you just have to work hard!!! Fitness, skin care, tanning - it can be difficult to manage all this with our rhythm of life, but you can definitely set aside half an hour every day.

And this applies not only to figure and clothing. You can become an interesting conversationalist and learn competent dialogue, such that men will be crazy about communicating with you...

1) change in the appearance of a person;
2) work to achieve internal harmony;
3) development of other aspects of your physical, intellectual and spiritual components -

These, albeit difficult, are ways to achieve happiness. Develop a plan, work in each area, evaluate the results, make adjustments, MANAGE YOUR LIFE.

Think about it carefully. I hope this will help you take the path of development and achieve significant results.

P.S. And remember that completeness in life is in emotions. And bright emotions can be obtained not only from communication with the opposite sex. ;)

Emperor, age: 23 / 02/08/2014

Hello. I am 21 years old, female. I'm suffering severe depression. The fact is that I am very ugly. Since childhood, I was plagued by ridicule, endless nicknames, and mockery at school. The boys mocked: “I won’t sit at the same desk with this ugly girl!” I began to hate myself, became shy, downtrodden. I quit studying at the university because I could not concentrate on my studies due to constant depression and depression.

After I unrequitedly fell in love with a guy who, as I accidentally found out, said behind my back that he had nothing against me, but I was just terribly ugly, and he wouldn’t date me, I wanted to commit suicide. I gave up everything, lost all desire to live. But still she overcame herself and found a job. There I accidentally overheard a conversation among work colleagues who were discussing me and called me as terrible as a nuclear war. Crocodile, scary, ugly - after ten years of such reviews about myself, I stopped feeling like a human being.

The consolation that appearance is not the main thing helps little - I have not yet met a guy who would prefer an ugly-looking girl to a pretty one. Not everyone bullied me at all - but friendly relations are all that you can count on. Love, sex - apparently this is for others, not for people like me. At 21, I'm still a virgin. There were some cases when they offered sex, but these were men older than me, completely uninteresting, who did not even try to please me, but simply calculated that someone like me would not refuse, no courtship was necessary.

One even openly said about me: “And this freak is still acting like God knows what.” Apparently, people like me have nothing to count on love, compliments, or courtship. I feel like a nobody. I'm tired of life. I just don't see the point anymore. Probably, people like me sooner or later get used to their ugliness and live. I can't. I can’t feel inferior, ugly, I’m tired of being neglected as a woman. When I see pretty girls my age surrounded by fans and attention, I'm ready to scream in despair.

How to live with an ugly appearance? To live and not to exist? Thank you if you read all of this.

Lida

Women often overestimate the role of appearance, subjecting themselves to all sorts of complexes. What if he doesn't like me? This is the question that plagues almost every one of us before a date. What to do if the answer to this question seems obvious, and it doesn’t say anything good?

Women are often subject to the influence of an inferiority complex associated with appearance. Everyone wants to be liked, and women do it even more so. That's the nature. A completely natural desire. The more you like it, the fewer dangers await you in the world around you. And a woman is a weak creature (at least, this opinion is so actively cultivated that even women themselves believe in it), and she is simply scared. If they don't like it, they'll eat it.

Hug and cry?

What if she’s ugly? How can you like it here? And - more importantly - how to find a partner? They greet you based on their clothes. And there are so many young, beautiful, spectacular women around... Well, how can you compete? They have everything, but the poor ugly one has nothing. All that remains is to withdraw into yourself, read sentimental novels and watch heartbreaking TV series, sighing about failed love and about the prince on a white horse, the only one who could see the treasure trove of virtues under his plain appearance.

Appearance is not the main thing

So - nothing like that. Novels and TV series are for those who don’t believe in themselves. Appearance, of course, matters. Where would we be without her? It’s been said that people are greeted by their clothes. But! They just meet. Then a completely different layout begins.

No beauty can hold a man’s attention for a long time if she demonstrates such “cute” qualities as stupidity, bitchiness (in the worst manifestation), rudeness, and unwillingness to listen to other people’s opinions (especially if it is the opinion of a man). And if it also turns out that her hands are not placed on her shoulders, but on... well, you understand, and she is not even able to cook decent scrambled eggs, then no amount of beauty will save her. She will attract attention to herself, that's undeniable. At first. Well, then... Then the second part of the proverb will come into play: they see you off according to your mind.

There are always chances!

Therefore, if an ugly woman is a storehouse of all sorts of virtues, if she is smart, kind, a good cook, capable of empathy, an attentive listener (especially if she knows how to listen to a man), then she has every chance of retaining attention. The only question is how to attract this attention.

The simplest and most effective way is to believe in yourself. What does it mean - ugly? Such a word should not be in a woman’s vocabulary at all. A woman should be interesting. Spectacular. Attractive. This is the main thing. Show me where there is even a word about beauty? Not even close.

Interesting, effective and attractive

In order to achieve the desired result, in addition to self-confidence, you will need to create a certain image. This can be easily achieved with clothing and makeup. You shouldn’t pretend to be Cinderella in the process of being oppressed by your stepmother. No faceless clothes! Everything should be graceful, elegant and beautiful (yes, yes, it’s beautiful here).

For your information, there is no such thing as a bad figure. But there are clothes that are completely unsuitable for a particular figure. You can dress a top model in such a way that there is no question of her figure, but a fat woman in the right dress will look like a fashion model.

Weight doesn't matter

By the way, about fatties. Standard, store-bought clothing is not suitable for such figures. Here you will have to disturb the atelier. So that the clothes are tailored taking into account all the features (down to the last extra fold... well, let's call it leather). Unless knitwear can be standard - it is universal and equally suitable for any type of figure.

It's easier for skinny people. They don’t have to worry about finding a dressmaker, but go to any store (just not a local store!).

Greeted by clothes

The main requirement for clothing is grace, elegance and lack of standard. You can get away from the standard when purchasing clothes in stores in a simple way - mix various models, brands and styles. Only harmoniously, otherwise instead of grace and elegance you may end up with a beautiful garden scarecrow.

Makeup is our savior

The main requirement for cosmetics is to disguise imperfections and highlight the advantages of the face. Well it doesn't happen ugly faces. But wrong makeup happens. For those who are not confident in their abilities and taste, there are makeup artists. They will be happy to demonstrate their art and show what can be done “from simple sewing machine Singer".

Confidence

But still, the determining factor for attracting attention, as has been repeatedly mentioned in our articles, is self-confidence. If a woman is sure that she will not be ignored by men, this will happen. Either this is some kind of energetic background, or simply emotional infection, but the fact remains a fact. The confidence of the ugliest woman in her own attractiveness gives much more than the most ideal beauty.

Well, then, when attention has already been attracted, all that remains is to demonstrate hidden virtues: kindness and goodwill, sympathy and empathy, intelligence and tenderness. And everything will be not just good, but even wonderful. Here's a recipe for women's happiness!

Every woman is very sensitive to her appearance; she so wants to look beautiful and attractive. But looking in the mirror, a girl does not always see an appearance that corresponds to the canons of beauty. “Why am I ugly?” - asks the young girl. To answer this question, you should first think about what is meant by beauty? Which girl was considered beautiful in different times?

Canons of beauty

Thirty years ago, the canon of beauty was Twiggy - a thin model who literally turned all the concepts of beauty upside down. For many years, girls and women who did not have a slim figure literally tortured themselves with diets in order to somehow comply with these canons. But in the Renaissance, a woman was considered beautiful when she had the forms that we now call “Rubensian.” And in the 18th century, a woman was not considered beautiful unless she was blonde, and brunettes had to dye their hair or wear wigs.

Today in fashion natural beauty and feminine forms. Girls with a slender figure are considered beautiful, clean skin and natural hair color. But on the islands of Fiji, Tonga, Samoa, and Jamaica, a woman is still considered beautiful only if her weight exceeds a hundred kilograms.

Therefore, if you consider yourself ugly, look at this situation from the other side. After all, everything is quite subjective, someone will definitely seem like a true beauty.

How to become beautiful

It is very important for a woman to feel beautiful, and therefore everyone tries to emphasize her attractive sides. People are born different - not everyone is as beautiful as they would like. But there are almost always advantageous aspects of appearance that can be emphasized: these can be beautiful eyes, delicate skin or luxurious hair. You just need to find your highlight and highlight it. A neat appearance, well-groomed figure, hair and nails look attractive, but people are also attracted to the inner qualities of a woman, her intelligence, and the ability to carry on a conversation. All this may not be given by nature, but every girl is capable of developing these virtues.

If you are somehow dissatisfied with your appearance, read our article - it will help you achieve the desired results.

Ability to connect with people mutual language, high moral qualities often make the most homely girl attractive. This is often neglected by beautiful girls who believe that appearance is the main thing. And this is one of the reasons why beautiful people are often not liked. Beautiful woman sometimes acts dismissively or arrogantly towards other people, feeling superior. In addition, beauties may be disliked out of banal envy.