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I am 19 years old. I've never had a relationship. About two months ago I met a guy on a dating app (the app is basically just for communicating and finding interesting people). He is 22 years old. We actively communicated for a month, he saw my photos, I saw his, then we even communicated via video chat. Two months later he confessed his love to me. I kept telling him that I don’t believe in love on the Internet, that it’s self-deception, that it’s because he’s never had a relationship either, and that’s why he thinks he likes me. But I don’t know why, either because I thought that I would finally have a boyfriend, or because of the first confession in my life, I said that I liked him too. Well, as they say, that’s how we started “dating” virtually.

My daughter is 22 years old, studies and works. My boyfriend and I have been living together for almost four years, we didn’t plan to have children, we want a wedding and are saving for an apartment. But right after the New Year, Lisa finds out that she is pregnant. There is nothing to do, you need to sign and give birth. The wedding was planned for April.

At first, the daughter was upset that everything didn’t work out according to plan, then she calmed down, happily chose her wedding outfit, made a guest list and chose a restaurant. And then quarantine! Now there can be no talk of any wedding.

My sister has been dating a young man for a year and a half. She is 24, he is 28 years old. This man is very freedom-loving, often changes jobs, loves to meet friends at the bar and go to nightclubs. But despite this, my sister is very attached to him. They have been talking for a long time about plans for a future together, about marriage and having children. But no actions have yet been taken to confirm the seriousness of the young man’s intentions.

They live together for a year, both work. When they moved in together, his sister set a condition for him that after some time they had to sign. She recently told me that her boyfriend wants to open his own business to earn money for their wedding and travel. When asked how he wanted to do this, his sister said that “they are going to take out a loan.” After my inquiries it turned out that young man The bank refused due to bad credit history, and.

I have been married to my husband for four years; we dated for two years before that. We started our relationship at the age of 17. This is my first man. They lived together since they were 18, then got married. No children yet. There were all sorts of problems and crises in the family, once they even separated for several months due to the fact that the relationship had reached a dead end, the husband did not have enough free life. In the end, we got back together and lived well for the next few years, but the last few months they began to argue more, sex almost disappeared, I didn’t even want to spend time alone with him.

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years and have been living together for the last six months. I am 28, he is 30 years old. It seems that I am that “fool” who has been waiting for a marriage proposal for years and still never gets it.

I just don’t understand why he’s holding out anymore. I do everything in my power to provide my loved one with comfort and coziness. I look good and take good care of my figure. Why lie, I’m a young and pretty girl, I often catch the glances of men. But he doesn't seem to appreciate it.

Everyone around us perceives us as a family, including parents on both sides. My friends are already pestering me when the wedding is. And I have nothing to answer them. I didn’t expect this proposal in the first year, I didn’t press it in the second, but three have already passed, and I want to see a continuation, to understand that he takes me seriously and is planning for the future. After all, it’s time to think about children.

I am 28 years old. I love one girl, she is 27 years old, she has a son (4 years old) and a husband. We have known her for a long time. The first year we met, we dated as a couple, but then she left me. We were still friends for a short time. She found a guy, got pregnant and married him. And I disappeared from their lives, because even then I understood that I loved her and could not live like that.

The story is banal, but if you live it from the inside, then it is not at all like that. I'm a young guy, I'm 30 years old. I am single and work as a teacher at a university. I am no longer a child, and I would have long ago been ready to part with all the delights of a bachelor’s life, devoting myself to one and only one.

Actually, to the thought of family and serious relationship I came when I was 25 years old. I started looking for a companion. But I just came to the conclusion that building a relationship with one girl, devoting myself to her day after day, is an activity radically different from short-term affairs without obligations. But, the goal was outlined and I began to act. A friend once introduced me to a classmate, and things started to happen.

At first, I had a wonderful relationship with my father-in-law and sister-in-law, but after we lived with them for a while, the relationship deteriorated to the extreme. I have not communicated with my mother-in-law and sister-in-law for two years. We now live in our apartment. I felt great. During these two years, we congratulated each other only on birthdays, and then only with tension. Her husband reconciled with her a year ago, and she called him about once a month during this year to find out how things were going. Now he wants to make peace and always invites us to visit and sends greetings to me. Before that, she didn’t care about me for two years. Now she calls her husband almost every day. I see how they are trying very hard to establish a relationship with me by all means and constantly asking when the children will be. Like he really wants grandchildren.

I live with my daughter and granddaughter, and they treat me with disdain. It’s as if they are waiting for me to go to the next world.

It’s my own fault, because I followed Sveta’s daughter’s lead. On her advice, I sold my two-room apartment, my daughter sold her dorm room, and we bought a three-room apartment. Svetochka assured me how good it would be for everyone, and she would take care of me. But she doesn't need me. It’s a shame that my granddaughter Katyusha doesn’t need her either, although I raised her, not Sveta.

My husband left me when Sveta was two years old and went to someone else. I raised my daughter alone. She moved to another city and went to college there. Six months later she arrived, crying: “Mom, I’m pregnant.” She gave birth to a daughter, they named her Katyusha. Sveta had to finish her studies, and I took upon myself all the worries about the little child. Then Sveta moved in with some man, and Katya lived with me, and they decided that my child would be better off. I took the girl to school and did homework with her while Sveta was arranging her personal life.

This list is designed for people who are beginning their church life and who want to repent before God. When preparing for confession, write down the sins that convict your conscience from the list. If there are many of them, you need to start from the most difficult ones - mortals. You can receive communion only with the blessing of the priest. Repentance TO GOD does not imply an indifferent listing of one’s bad deeds, BUT A SINCERE CONDEMNATION OF ONE’S SINNINESS AND A DECISION TO CORRECT!

I (name) sinned before GOD: weak faith (doubt in His being). I have neither love nor proper fear for God, so I rarely confess and receive communion, (what brought it up) soul up petrified insensibility towards God), I rarely attend Church on Sundays and holidays (work, trade, entertainment these days). I don’t know how to repent, I don’t see any sins. I don’t remember death and don’t prepare to appear at God’s Judgment (Memory of death and future judgment helps to avoid sin.)

Sinned: I don’t thank God for His mercies. Not by submission to the will of God (I wish everything was my way). Out of pride I rely on myself and people, and not on God. Attributing success to yourself rather than to God. Fear of suffering, impatience of sorrows and illnesses (they are allowed by God to cleanse the soul from sin). Murmuring at the cross of life (fate), at people. Cowardice, despondency, sadness, accusing God of cruelty, despair of salvation, desire (attempt) to commit suicide.

Sinned: Being late and leaving church early. Inattention during service (to reading and singing, talking, laughing, dozing...). Walking around the temple needlessly, pushing and being rude. Out of pride, he left the sermon criticizing and condemning the priest. In female impurity she dared to touch the shrine.

Sinned: I’m lazy and don’t read morning and evening prayers (entirely from the prayer book), I shorten them. I pray absentmindedly. She prayed with her head uncovered, having enmity towards her neighbor. A careless image on yourself sign of the cross. Not by wearing a cross. With irreverent veneration of St. Church icons and relics. Watched TV to the detriment of prayer, reading the Gospel, Psalms and spiritual literature (Through films, theomachists teach people to violate God’s commandment about chastity before marriage, adultery, cruelty, sadism, and damage the mental health of young people. Through “Harry Potter...” they instill in them an unhealthy interest in magic, witchcraft and are quietly drawn into disastrous communication with the devil In the media, this lawlessness before God is presented as something positive, in color and in a romantic way. Christian! Avoid sin and save yourself and your children for Eternity!!!). Coward silence when people blasphemed in front of me, shame to be baptized and confess the Lord in public (this is one of the types of renunciation of Christ). Blasphemy against God and all sacred things. Wearing shoes with crosses on the soles. Use for household needs newspapers... where it is written about God... He called animals by the names of people “Vaska”, “Mashka”. He spoke about God without reverence and humility.

Sinned: dared to begin Communion without proper preparation (without reading canons and prayers, concealing and belittling sins in confession, in enmity, without fasting and prayers of gratitude...). Didn’t spend Holy Communion days (in prayer, reading the Gospel..., but indulged in entertainment, overeating, sleeping a lot, idle talk...).

Sinned: violation of fasts, as well as Wednesday and Friday (By fasting these days, we honor the suffering of Christ.) I don’t (always) pray before eating, working and after (After eating and working, a prayer of gratitude is read). Satiety in food and drink, drunkenness. Secret eating, delicacy (sweet tooth). Ate animal blood (blood...). (Forbidden by God - Leviticus 7,26-27; 17, 13-14, Acts 15, 20-21,29). On a fast day, the festive (funeral) table was modest. The deceased were remembered with vodka (this is paganism and does not agree with Christianity).

Sinned: idle talk (empty talk about the vanity of life...). Telling and listening to vulgar jokes. Condemning people, priests and monks (but I don’t see my sins). By hearing and retelling gossip and blasphemous jokes (about God, the Church and the clergy). (By this means temptation was sown through ME, and the name of God was blasphemed among people.) Taking the name of God in vain (unnecessarily, in empty talk, jokes). Lies, deceit, failure to fulfill promises made to God (people). Foul language, swearing (this is blasphemy against the Mother of God) swearing with mention evil spirits (the evil demons summoned in conversations will harm us). Slander, spreading bad rumors and gossip, disclosing the sins and weaknesses of others. I listened to slander with pleasure and agreement. Out of pride, he humiliated his neighbors with ridicule (jokes), stupid jokes... Excessive laughter, laughter. He laughed at the beggars, the crippled, the misfortune of others... God-fighting, false oaths, false testimony in court, the acquittal of criminals and the condemnation of the innocent.

Sinned: laziness, lack of desire to work (living at the expense of parents), the search for bodily peace, restlessness in bed, the desire to enjoy a sinful and luxurious life. . . Smoking (among the American Indians, smoking tobacco had a ritual meaning - the worship of demon spirits. A Christian who smokes is a traitor to God, a demon worshiper and a suicide - harmful to health). Drug use. Listening to pop and rock music (singing human passions, arouses base feelings). Addiction to gambling and entertainment (cards, dominoes, computer games, TV, cinemas, discos, cafes, bars, restaurants, casinos...). (The godless symbolism of the cards, when playing or telling fortunes, is intended to blasphemously mock the suffering of Christ the Savior. And games destroy the psyche of children. By shooting and killing, they become aggressive, prone to cruelty and sadism, with all the ensuing consequences for parents).

Sinned: corrupted my soul by reading and looking at (in books, magazines, films...) erotic shamelessness, sadism, immodest games, (A person corrupted by vices reflects the qualities of a demon, not God), dancing, danced myself, (They led to the martyrdom of John the Baptist, after which dancing for Christians is a mockery of the memory of the Prophet). Delight in prodigal dreams and recollection of past sins. Not by removing yourself from sinful encounters and temptation. Lustful views and liberty (immodesty, hugs, kisses, unclean touching of the body) with people of the opposite sex. Fornication (sexual intercourse before marriage). Prodigal perversions (handjob (masturbation), positions, oral and anal fornication). Sins of Sodom (homosexuality, lesbianism, bestiality, incest (fornication with relatives).

Seducing men, she shamelessly dressed in short skirts and with SLICES, trousers, shorts, tight-fitting and see-through clothes, (this violated the commandment of God about appearance women. She must dress beautifully, but within the framework of Christian shame and conscience. A Christian woman should represent the image of God, and not the atheistic, shorn-naked, repainted image of Satan with a clawed paw instead of a human hand) I cut my hair, put on makeup... In this form, disrespecting the shrine, dared to enter the temple of God. Participation in beauty contests, fashion models, masquerades (malanka, driving a goat, Halloween...), and also in dancing with fornication. He was immodest in his gestures, body movements, and gait. Swimming, sunbathing and nudity in the presence of people of the opposite sex (contradicts Christian chastity). Temptation to sin. Selling your body, pimping, renting out premises for fornication.

Sinned: adultery (cheating in marriage). Not married. Lustful intemperance in marital relations (on fasts, Sundays, holidays,pregnancy, during the days of female uncleanness). Perversions in married life (positions, oral, anal fornication). Wanting to live for his own pleasure and avoiding life’s difficulties, he protected himself from conceiving children. Using contraceptives (the spiral, the pills do not prevent conception, but kill the child at an early stage). Killed his children (abortion). Advising (forcing) others to have an abortion (men who, with tacit consent, or forced their wives... to have an abortion, are also infanticides. Doctors who perform abortions are murderers, and assistants are accomplices).

Sinned: ruined the souls of children, preparing them only for earthly life (didn’t teach about God and faith, didn’t instill in them a love for church and home prayer, fasting, humility, obedience. Didn’t develop a sense of duty, honor, responsibility... Didn’t look at what what they do, what they read, who they are friends with, how they behave). Punished them too harshly ( venting anger, and not for correction, he called names, cursed.Seduced children with his sins(And intimate relationships in front of them, swearing, foul language, watching immoral television programs).

Sinned: joint prayer or transition to schism (Kiev Patriarchate, UAOC, Old Believers...), union, sect. (Prayer with schismatics and heretics leads to excommunication from the Church: 10, 65, Apostolic Canons). Superstition (faith in dreams, omens...). Appeal to psychics, "grandmothers" (pouring wax, shaking eggs, draining fear...). Desecrated himself with urine therapy (in the rituals of Satanists, the use of urine and feces has a blasphemous meaning. Such “treatment” is a vile desecration and a devilish mockery of Christians), using what was “said” by fortune tellers... Fortune telling on cards, divination (For what?). I feared sorcerers more than God. Coding (from what?).

Passion for Eastern religions, occultism, Satanism (specify what). By attending sectarian, occult... meetings. Yoga, meditation, dousing according to Ivanov (it is not the dousing itself that is condemned, but Ivanov’s teaching, which leads to the worship of him and nature, and not of God). Eastern martial arts (worship of the spirit of evil - teachers, and the occult teaching about the disclosure of "inner capabilities" leads to communication with demons, possession...).Reading and storage occult literature prohibited by the Church: magic, palmistry, horoscopes, dream books, prophecies of Nostradamus, literature of Eastern religions, the teachings of Blavatsky and the Roerichs, Lazarev's "Diagnostics of Karma", Andreev's "Rose of the World", Aksenov, Klizovsky, Vladimir Megre, Taranov, Sviyazh, Vereshchagin, Garafins Makovy, Asaulyak... (The Orthodox Church warns that the writings of these and other occult authors have nothing in common with the teachings of Christ the Savior. Through the occult, a person enters into in-depth communication with demons, falls away from God and destroys his soul, and mental disorders will be due retribution for pride and arrogant flirting with demons). By forcing (advice) others to contact them and do it.

Sinned: theft, sacrilege (theft of church). Love of money (addiction to money and wealth). Non-payment of debts (wages). Greed, stinginess in alms and purchase of spiritual books... (and I spend generously on whims and entertainment). Selfishness (using someone else's property, living at someone else's expense...). Wanting to get rich, he gave money at interest. Trade in vodka, cigarettes, drugs, contraceptives, immodest clothing, porn... (by this he helped the demon to destroy himself and people - an accomplice in their sins). He talked about it, weighed it down, passed off a bad product as a good one...

Sinned: pride, envy, flattery, deceit, insincerity, hypocrisy, man-pleasing, suspicion, gloating. Forcing others to sin (lie, steal, spy, eavesdrop, snitch, drink alcohol...). The desire for glory, respect, gratitude, praise, championship... By doing good for show. Boasting and admiring oneself. Showing off in front of people (wit, appearance, abilities, clothes...).

Sinned: disobedience to parents, elders and superiors, insulting them. Whims, stubbornness, contradiction, self-will, self-justification. Laziness towards studying. Negligent care for elderly parents, relatives... (left them without supervision, food, money, medicine..., handed them over to a nursing home...).

Sinned: pride, resentment, rancor, hot temper, anger, vindictiveness, hatred, irreconcilable enmity. Insolence and impudence (climbed without a queue, pushed). Cruelty to animals. He insulted family members and was the cause of family scandals. Not carrying out joint work on raising children and maintaining the household, parasitism, drinking money, sending children to an orphanage... Practicing martial arts and sports (professional sport damages health and develops pride, vanity, a sense of superiority, contempt, thirst for enrichment in the soul...), for the sake of fame, money, robbery (racketeering). Rough treatment of neighbors, causing them harm (which one?). Assault, beating, murder. Not protecting the weak, the beaten, women from violence... Violating the rules traffic, driving while intoxicated... (thus endangering people's lives).

Sinned: careless attitude towards work (public position). He used his social position (talents...) not for the glory of God and the benefit of people, but for personal gain. Harassment of subordinates. Giving and accepting (extorting) bribes (which could lead to public harm and private tragedies). Embezzled state and collective property. Having a leadership position, he did not care about suppressing the teaching of immoral subjects and non-Christian customs in schools (corrupting the morality of the people). He did not provide assistance in the spread of Orthodoxy and suppressing the influence of sects, sorcerers, psychics... He scammed them with money and rented out premises to them (which contributed to the destruction of people’s souls). He did not protect church shrines, did not provide assistance in the construction and repair of churches and monasteries...

Laziness towards everyone good deed (did not visit lonely, sick, prisoners...). In matters of life I did not consult with the priest and elders (which led to irreparable errors). Gave advice without knowing whether it pleased God. With a partial love for people, things, activities... He seduced those around him with his sins.

I justify my sins with everyday needs, illness, weakness, and that no one taught us to believe in God (but we ourselves were not interested in this). Seduced people into disbelief. Visited the mausoleum, atheist events...

A cold and insensitive confession. I sin deliberately, trampling on my convicting conscience. There is no firm determination to correct your sinful life. I repent that I offended the Lord with my sins, I sincerely regret this and will try to improve.

Indicate other sins you have committed.

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Note! As for the possible temptation from the sins cited here, it is true that fornication is vile, and we must speak about it carefully. The Apostle Paul says: “Fornication and all uncleanness and covetousness must not even be mentioned among you” (Eph. 5:3). However, through television, magazines, advertising... he has entered the lives of even the youngest so much that prodigal sins are not considered a sin by many. Therefore, we must talk about this in confession and call everyone to repentance and correction.

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I had a childhood friend. Our mothers were friends once upon a time for a very long time and were quite close friends. Now they are practically no longer friends, but we continue to keep in touch.

My friend is 40 years old. He is married. He lives in another city, so we can’t see each other in person, but communicate only through social media. online and via Skype. As children, we saw each other every summer and spent a lot of time together. Now that we have families and many worries, it has become more difficult to see each other. Not long ago we talked to him on Skype. He shared latest news about family, children, work. I listened to him very carefully, at times assented, and asked questions. And then, quite unexpectedly, there was a pause, after which he looked at me very excitedly and said the following words: “You know, I’ve loved you all my life.”

Have you thought that when you travel by train, there is a big difference in feelings or emotions depending on how you sit in the direction of travel?

I sit down in the direction of travel, and then look out the window. What I see? No, I don’t mean houses, trees, platforms and people standing on them. I see how everything that is happening outside the window is approaching me from afar. What if I sat opposite? Then I would see the same thing, but it is already moving away from me. Isn't that right? When I go somewhere or to someone, I try to sit in the direction the train is moving. But if I said goodbye to someone or something dear to me, I sit against the traffic.

It was early autumn, I was returning home. It was late and there were few passengers on the train, I chose an empty compartment and, of course, I sat in the direction of travel, towards the house. I leaned my head against the glass and even tried to sleep, because I had to spend at least two hours on the road. But after half an hour of trying to pass the time by sleeping, I realized that nothing would work, and I opened my eyes. I was surprised. I didn't even notice how it happened. A woman was sitting opposite me. I don't want to talk about her age. Her arrival was so quiet that it was as if she was born from the surrounding air. I think I even shuddered from the surprise of her appearance. I was driving home. Where was she going? It turned out that she was leaving. If not from home, then from someone.

I'm 43 years old, I've been dating a man for a little while now. more than a year(He's 40 years old). Lately, he has been hinting in a joking manner that we could get married and live together. That is, there was no direct offer. I don’t even deny that it might have seemed to me, and he has no such intentions. But I got to thinking, I need to resolve this issue for myself personally in advance (in case an offer comes).

It so happened that I was not married. But I don’t suffer from this, everything suits me, in general I’m happy with my life. There were suitors, but somehow it didn’t work out. With children, too, everything is clear, they are not there and will never be. This topic is more complicated, but everything is clear here too. My man had a short marriage, I know that his daughter is 16 and pays alimony. He also lives alone for a long time.

I have a feeling that problems are overpowering me more and more every day and life is going to a dead end. I am 47 years old, I buried my husband six years ago, and have been alone since then. There are sons, things don’t work out for them the same way as for me. Now I’m temporarily at home, I have bank cards, due to my mother’s illness I took some. There is uncertainty about work, debts are growing. With married man I reached a complete dead end and acute depression. The relationship continues for many years, he assures that his marriage is formal and does not want to let go, at the same time he lives and satisfies the whims of the woman who is next to him.

I am already 48 years old. Things didn’t work out for me at all; I have neither husband nor children. I haven’t created my own family and I don’t even have a lover. It's not that I haven't had boyfriends in my time, I just didn't like anyone enough to marry him. And to be honest, no one called. I wanted feelings, but I didn’t have them.

Taking a child from an orphanage is not about me. I only need my own child, but my age no longer allows it. I also wanted to give birth to a complete family, which was never destined to appear.

I am 49 years old, not married, no children, have a disability, do not work, live with my mother (she is also disabled) in a small town, have a dacha. Everything is quite modest, but I’m happy with everything.

There were very decadent moods in connection with their fate. After all, among my family and friends, my fate is the worst. There was, and still is, fear about what might await me ahead. And men met, but not mine. Strangers. And for me dear person was always needed. And it’s good that I didn’t contact any of them. And I wanted a child, but in a full-fledged family.

I spend a lot of time on the site, reading different stories. And I had a chance to write my own. Sitting on social media networks in my free time from children, I compensate for communicating with people. Because I don't have any friends. Well, there are no real true girlfriends. Maybe someone will think that this does not happen. It turns out that it happens.

When I was a child, I had two girlfriends. Now I think that we were friends because we were neighbors. After school, contact with my friends was interrupted, I entered a university in another city. One left, the other got married. We sometimes talk on the phone with the second one, but she has a very strict husband, so she doesn’t talk to me for more than five to ten minutes.

At the institute I could not make friends with anyone. I don't know, maybe it's all about character. Calm, and maybe reserved. I couldn’t find a social circle in which I felt comfortable and interested. I wasn’t friends with any of my classmates, it was just a simple “hello and bye” conversation.

We lived together for 3 years; our anniversary would have been in August. Before the wedding, my husband seemed serious to me and kind person, a good family man. But the first impression was deceiving.

Some time after the wedding, he showed his true colors. He started drinking a lot, arguing with my mother and me when he was drunk, and lecturing us that we were not running our household properly. I tried to influence my husband not to drink. We even agreed to go to a narcologist to treat him, but it didn’t work out, we had to wait financially.

During this time, our daughter was born. I hoped that maybe this would at least stop my husband’s drinking, because he really wanted a child. A lot of money was spent on pregnancy and childbirth, so a visit to a narcologist kept being postponed. He drank every day, the scandals became less frequent, but more terrible.

Now I'm 29 years old. At the age of 19, I started dating a guy, then we began to live together, a child was born (I was 21 years old). He worked in the police, drank, and began to raise his hand. All the way my mother-in-law gave advice on how to live, reproaching me for not making her son happy.

In general, we lived together for 4 years and I filed for divorce. I've been divorced for 5 years now. I do not maintain any relations with former relatives. My husband has another family and has a child. Doesn't communicate with his child.

I live separately from my parents and earn good money. After the divorce there were a couple of short novels. Now I have been in a relationship with a man who is 60 years old for six months. He has a common-law wife with whom he has lived for about 13 years.

When a person wants to open up to God about his wrongdoings, he does not always understand how to do this. Sins during confession cause particular difficulty. Not everyone can briefly formulate a list in their own words. Which ones are important and which ones can be missed? What exactly is considered a sin?

Rite of repentance

Confession in the Christian faith is an admission of committed sins before a priest who is a witness of your repentance on behalf of Christ. With special prayers and words of permission, the priest forgives the sins of everyone who sincerely regrets them. According to the rules of the Christian Church:

Anyone over 7 years old can undergo the ceremony.
A church representative cannot force confession. This decision is voluntary.

During the procedure, the layperson must list everything that he considers necessary. If he is at a loss, the Holy Father can push him with leading questions. It is better when every Orthodox Christian has his own spiritual mentor, who knows a person from childhood and can help him grow spiritually, act not only as a priest, but also as a teacher.

Today, according to all laws, confession is a secret matter, and a priest cannot be convicted if he refused to disclose the facts known to him from confession. This is done so that anyone can cleanse their soul, since everyone has the right to do so. To feel confident with a priest, you need to think everything through in advance and prepare.

How to prepare for confession in church?

Here are some tips that spiritual guides give:

You need to figure it out and understand what you were doing wrong. Realize your misdeeds committed before God and people.
Get ready for a simple conversation. Do not think that now I will require you to know some special church language. Everything is like people in the world.
Don’t be afraid to admit even the most terrible sins, in your opinion. God knows everything and you will not surprise him. However, like a priest. Over the years of his ministry, he heard all sorts of things. Besides, we are all the same for the most part, so you can’t tell him anything particularly new. Don't worry, he won't judge. This is not why the Holy Father came to the service.
Don't talk about small things. Think about serious things. Remember how you treated God and your neighbors. By close people, the church understands everyone you have met and even managed to offend.
Ask for forgiveness from those who are close in person, and those who are far away - mentally.
Read special prayers the day before.

Confession should become regular for a person who wants to grow spiritually over himself. This will help you be more responsible about your life and the people around you.

This video will give all the answers to your questions about this ritual:

How to write sins correctly for confession?

It is believed that when listing your misdeeds, it is wrong to use a list of them. It must be pronounced like this. But some people get worried and can't gather their thoughts, so you can make a draft for yourself. This will help you put your thoughts in order and not forget anything.

Divide a sheet of paper into the following columns:

Sins against God.

Here you write:

Blasphemy.
Failure to fulfill your vows.
Thoughts about suicide.
Dissatisfaction with fate.

Sins against loved ones.

Namely:

Disrespect for parents.
Resentment.
Envy, gloating, hatred.
Slander.
Condemnation.

Crimes against your soul:

Laziness.
Narcissism.
Foul language.
Self-justification.
Fornication.
Disbelief.
Impatience.

What sins should be listed in confession?

So, let’s try to highlight in more detail the most common ones that require attention in the list:

I allowed myself to be dissatisfied with the life given to me by God and the people around me.
She had the courage to scold her children and be angry with her loved ones.
I doubted my honesty.
She condemned others for their sins and weaknesses.
I ate unhealthy food and drank unhealthy drinks.
I did not forgive those who offended me.
I was upset about the losses.
Used other people's work.
She didn’t protect herself from illnesses and didn’t go to doctors.
She deceived herself.
She celebrated the holidays with drinking and earthly hobbies.
Laughed at someone else's misdeeds.
She believed the signs and followed them.
I wished myself death.
She set a bad example with her life.
I was interested in trying on outfits and jewelry.
She slandered people.
I was looking for the culprits of my problems.
I visited fortune tellers and psychics.
It was the cause of discord between people.
I was jealous.
I used food for pleasure, not to satisfy hunger.
I was lazy.
I was afraid of suffering.

We tried to remember and select the most vital situations. As you can see, some of the sins are truly feminine. But there are those that are committed only by the strong half of humanity. We also sorted them out and listed them below.

Repentance for a man

Here is a preparation for men who cannot formulate some of their misdeeds, or perhaps have not noticed them at all:

I doubted God, faith, life after death.
He mocked the unfortunate, wretched one.
He was lazy, vain, proud.
He avoided military service.
Didn't fulfill his duties.
He fought, he was rowdy.
Insulted.
Seduced married women.
He drank and took drugs.
He refused to help those who asked.
Stole.
He humiliated and boasted.
He entered into selfish disputes.
He was rude and behaved impudently.
I was afraid.
Played gambling.
Thought about suicide.
He told dirty jokes.
Didn't repay the debt.
There was noise in the temple.

Of course, it is impossible to list all sins. Everyone also has some that are hard to guess. But now you will understand how to think. It turns out that basic things that we seem to be accustomed to are a sin.

So, we tried to help you figure out what sins can be named in confession. The list in our own words is briefly summarized in this article for convenience.