There are women we admire. They are always successful, achieve their goals, are smart, beautiful and interesting. People around them love them, and men admire such ladies and dream of seeing them as spouses. Strong and independent - these words have long ceased to be synonymous with being lonely mature woman, who lives with a dozen cats because she was never able to build a relationship with a man. After all, a strong independent woman may well be happy in love, as well as alone. What qualities does this superwoman have?

She has her own opinion and knows how to defend it

Stereotypical reasoning that only a man should make decisions, and representatives of the fairer sex should not have their own opinions, and in general ideal woman timid and obedient have long been out of date. A lady who has her own opinion and is able to defend it no longer causes bewilderment, but rather respect. They listen to her, they communicate with her, it is pleasant and interesting to be in her company. And it is precisely such women who are able to achieve a lot and achieve professional success.

She has her own style, but fashion trends are not alien to her

Individual style is an important trait that every woman should have. This is what makes her unique and truly attractive. Despite this, such a woman is aware of everyone fashion trends, and skillfully uses them in his image. However, she will not hang herself with trendy things, choosing only those that she likes and suits herself and fits into her style.

She loves herself

Self-love is a very important nuance that determines how others will treat you. If you don't love yourself, and you're not interested in being alone, why do you hope that others will love you?

Admire yourself - you are unique and beautiful. And don't forget to pamper yourself. You deserve only the best - the best outfits, better man, a better life.

She doesn't depend on other people's opinions

It cannot be said that a strong and independent woman is completely indifferent to other people’s opinions. On the contrary, she strives to make the right impression on everyone. But she understands perfectly well that it is impossible to please everyone, and therefore she is not upset when it turns out that someone does not like her at all. Someone's outside opinion will never make her change her mind if she is sure that she is right, and will not affect the final result of any event.

She treats the man loyally

A strong and independent woman is not one of those who tells her chosen one what he owes, and does not blackmail him with the words “you’re a man.” She allows her loved one small weaknesses, leaves him the right to independently make decisions regarding his life, and also listens to his opinion. At the same time, she does not always agree and will not act contrary to her desires - she will try to find a compromise.

She achieves her goals

The main feature of a strong and independent woman is that her goals are not an empty phrase, no matter what it concerns. If this woman wants something, she will act and not complain about fate. And actions always lead to results, sooner or later. The main thing is to be purposeful and not give up.

She has a positive outlook on the world

This is the secret of her success - she perceives the world, looking at it positively, highlighting only the best, and does not look for anything to complain about. She even perceives her problems, regardless of their severity, only as an annoying obstacle that needs to be overcome, and not as a misfortune on a universal scale.

24 September 2016, 08:35

The title of this post is definitely a joke.

But who are they, free and independent women?

They are famous, beautiful, rich. A lot of fans and admirers surround these famous women, and they talk about loneliness, because the most important thing is missing - family. Some sacrificed family happiness for the sake of fame and career, while others do not marry on principle, claiming that they are not created for marriage and having children.

Star beauties who were never married.

Jacqueline Bisset. The actress starred in more than 80 films, making her mark in the modeling field, and the richest and most famous men declared their love for her.

The actress never got married and did not have children, but she never hid the fact that in her life there were many novels, both fleeting and serious relationships, which forever left a mark on her memory.

The personal life of Jacqueline Bisset in her youth was very turbulent. She had many novels, fleeting and serious, but the actress always gave herself to them without reserve, it seemed like for life. What were her love stories with the Russian ballet dancer Alexander Godunov worth? To this day, Bisset calls this period the most unhappy in his life - Godunov suddenly died at the age of 45. Jacqueline was even engaged to actor Vincent Perez, who is 18 years younger. But the actress never got married. “I love to take care of a man. But it never worked out to become a homebody. Probably, I’m still too... gypsy,” admits the star of “Wild Orchid.”

The actress does not regret that she did not become a mother - work and lovers took up too much space in her life. “Believe it or not, I don’t regret at all that I never became a mother,” Jacqueline assured.” She considers herself a happy woman and a sought-after actress. As for motherhood, we can say that she partially managed to compensate for this gap in life - Jacqueline Bisset is the godmother of Angelina Jolie.

"When I was young, I believed that the world was ruled by romantic love... Imagine my surprise when I found out that everything is wrong, the world revolves around family, building houses... I don’t have children. Maybe if there were, I would look at things differently,” the actress says now.

Unlike her colleague Winona Ryder, she firmly believes in the institution of marriage. Although she herself has never been married. “I truly believe in marriage, but I want to get married once and for all, which is why I have never been to the altar,” Ryder said in an interview.

Once upon a time, the tabloids savored the high-profile romance of Winona Ryder and Johnny Depp; they met on the set of Tim Burton's Edward Scissorhands. The relationship lasted four years, the couple even announced their engagement, Depp happily showed off the “Winona Forever” tattoo (he later changed it to “Victory Forever”). But at the last moment, the Hollywood handsome man refused the wedding, explaining that he was not yet ready for marriage. After breaking up with the actor, Winona fell into severe depression and abused alcohol and drugs.

Then there were romances with singer David Pirner, short-term relationships with Peter Yorn, Conor Oberst, Henry-Alex Rubin, and there were rumors about Ryder's engagement to actor Matt Damon. The actors purchased an apartment and publicly announced their engagement. The affair lasted a little over two years, and Ryder initiated the breakup. “Well-wishers” told Winona about Matt’s affair with Penelope Cruz.

The Australian singer's first love was INXS lead singer Michael Hutchence. They separated, and five years later he committed suicide, he was only 37 years old. For Kylie this was a real blow. After that the girl had serious relationship with French actor Olivier Martinez. It was he who helped and supported her during the most difficult years of her life, when the singer was struggling with a fatal disease - breast cancer. When the singer recovered, he began to be noticed more often at social events in the company of other women. Olivier eventually married Halle Berry, who bore him a son.

And Kylie began dating Spanish model Andres Valencoso. They dated for five years. The reason for the breakup was the busy schedule of both. “It’s a nightmare to date me. There’s always some kind of circus going on around me. My publicity brings a lot of difficulties,” Kylie once said. And then she declared that without personal freedom it would be difficult for her. “Many people believe that marriage is the main support in life, but I’m apparently cut from a different cloth,” the singer admitted. Meanwhile, she had a hard time with the breakup with Valencoso and began to think about adopting a child, because she dreams of becoming a mother and giving birth Most likely she won’t be able to do it herself.

However, rumors appeared that her current boyfriend proposed to her, to which she agreed.

Kristin Davis. The star of the series "Sex and the City" had affairs with Alec Baldwin, David Duchovny, Jack Goldbloom, Steve Martin, but was never married.

According to actress Kristin Davis, who plays Charlotte York in the cult TV series Sex and the City, a public institution was relevant 50 years ago, but now people can easily live alone. She was never married, although she dated men such as Jeff Goldblum and Alec Baldwin, and was even engaged to photographer Russell James. But it didn’t work out.

In 2011, the actress adopted a black newborn girl, whom she named Gemma Rose. “This is something I wanted to do for a very long time. My dream came true, and it turned out to be a more joyful event for me than I could have imagined. I feel blessed,” the actress admitted.

Jennifer Coolidge. The American comedienne, stand-up comedian, screenwriter, best known for her role as Stifler's mom in the film series American Pie, Legally Blonde and A Cinderella Story, has almost always been single.

Only one of her major romances is known - with Chris Katan.

Daryl Hannah.

Daryl's stepfather is a millionaire. She could easily sit on her neck, take drugs and complain about life. But at the age of eleven, contrary to her parents’ demands, she said that she would be an actress and found herself an agent. And now she lives on a farm. She has llamas, horses, chickens and a pig there: all the animals were saved from destruction. There is a compost pit in the garden. In the house - solar panels. In the garage there is a car running on waste oil from fast foods.

She had affairs with Jackson Browne, John Kennedy Jr. There were rumors that Kennedy was going to propose to her, but his mother Jacqueline was against it.

The real Marilyn...

Later she had relationships with Vel Kilmer, Neil Young and other celebrities, but none of them ended with a walk to the altar.

She had affairs with Woody Allen, Warren Beaty and Al Pacino

Despite the absence of a husband, Diane has two adopted children - daughter Dexter (born 1996) and son Duke (born 2001).

The actress herself says that it was much easier for her to imagine herself in the role of a single mother rather than a homemaker. "I don't think that this moment there’s something missing in my life!” the actress once announced.

The model at different times had relationships with many famous and successful men, but never walked down the aisle, trying on wedding dresses only at shows.

The iconic British top model is known for her stormy temperament, so she has always been under close attention of the press. She regularly hit the front pages of the tabloids: be it a fight or another love story. Among the lovers of "Black Panther" in different times included boxer Mike Tyson, dancer Joaquin Cortez, bass guitarist of the group "U-2" Adam Clayton, singer Eric Clapton, Formula 1 race manager Flavio Briattore, actors Robert De Niro and Sylvester Stallone, rapper Usher, Prince Albert of Monaco, Russian oligarch Vladislav Doronin.

Naomi's first serious relationship was with dancer Joaquin Cortez, but the supermodel once found him with another man. Naomi was so disappointed that she even attempted suicide.

She really wants to get married and have children. “Today I am ripe for a family and children. I dream of great love, I dream of meeting a person who would become my friend, father, husband, and lover... I want to be loved not because I am rich famous woman, but simply for the fact that I am,” says the supermodel.

For four years she had a romantic relationship with Russian businessman Vladislav Doronin, but when everyone was talking about the wedding, the couple announced a breakup. It may be difficult for potential suitors to withstand the stormy temper of “Black Panther.”

Tyra Banks

She has had affairs with such celebrity men as actor Will Smith, musician Criss Angel, golfer Tiger Woods, singer Seal, director John Singleton, model Robert Evans, banker John Atendale. However, the most painful thing for her was the breakup with basketball player Chris Webber, with whom they dated for three years. After this, Tyra became superstitious and hides her relationships with anyone in every possible way. He is afraid that the media and endless paparazzi will ruin the relationship before it even begins. “It’s very hard to start a new romance when for the press it’s just a plus one to the list of all the men who came before,” says the former Victoria’s Secret star.

The supermodel has admitted more than once that she wants to become a mother. "It's time to put my eggs to work!" – Tyra Banks said jokingly. The supermodel takes a responsible approach to choosing the father of her future children; she says that she does not want the father of her children to be much younger than her.

In 2007, Tyra begins an affair with multimillionaire John Utendaal. Tyra is not shy about declaring to the press her desire to have a family and children with this man.

Bold statements become a good reason for the yellow press to spread rumors about Tyra's pregnancy. But this relationship was not crowned with success. In 2011, John began appearing in public with a model from Russia. This time, Tyra survived the breakup with enviable calm.

This year, supermodel Tyra Banks and her boyfriend, photographer Erik Asla, became parents for the first time. The surrogate mother gave birth to the couple's son, whom they decided to name York.

"The best gift we have worked and prayed for is finally here. He has my fingers and big eyes, daddy's mouth and chin. We are grateful to the guardian angel of the woman who carried this wonderful boy for us. We are praying for everyone, who are facing fertility problems, and we wish them to know this happiness York Banks Asla, welcome to this world,” Banks wrote.

I read that photographer Erik Asla left the family when the child was 8 months old. As of today, I can’t say, who knows?

Queen Latifah. The 46-year-old American singer, actress and model has never been married.

Besides, she is not famous for her novels. Only a few of her fleeting hobbies are known.

As a result, Latifah is credited with being gay, but she only makes fun of it.

She was credited with many love affairs, including with Vladimir Klitschko and George Clooney, but none of them lasted long.

Charlize Theron. The actress has several serious novels behind her, which, alas, did not end with a trip to the altar.

In 2002, Charlize Theron met Stuart Townsend on the set of the film 24, with whom she began dating. They were considered one of the strongest couples in Hollywood, but eventually decided to separate.

In an interview, Townsend admitted that he considered Theron his wife, although they never officially registered the relationship. Later, Charlize dated Sean Penn for less than a year, after which she was not seen in a relationship at all.

In March 2012, Charlize adopted a boy from South Africa, whom she named Jackson, and in 2015, a black girl from the United States, giving her the name Augusta.

Nicole Scherzinger. Singer of Filipino-Hawaiian-Ukrainian origin

The performer dated the famous British racing driver, three-time Formula 1 world champion Lewis Hamilton, but on February 4, 2015, the couple broke up.

Nicole explained the reason for the breakup as follows: “We were together for 8 years, and I was tired of waiting for a marriage proposal from him.”

From mid-2005 to mid-2007 she dated Ryan Gosling. For several months in 2009, Rachel had an affair with Josh Lucas.

And in mid-2010, while filming the film Midnight in Paris, the star began a romantic relationship with Michael Sheen, which ended in early 2013. While she's still single.

Sheryl Crow. The performer has never been married. From 2003 to 2005, cyclist Lance Armstrong was her boyfriend, and this is perhaps the longest relationship in which she has been seen.

The singer's loneliness is brightened up by her two adopted sons - Wyatt Stephen Crow (born April 29, 2007) and Levi James Crow (born April 30, 2010).

Condoleezza Rice. The 66th US Secretary of State has never married and has no children.

While studying at the University of Denver, her close friend was American football player Rick Upchurch, but the relationship did not reach a logical conclusion.

In September 2006, The New York Times reported on a possible close relationship between Rice and Canadian Foreign Minister Peter MacKay, but there is no talk of walking down the aisle yet.

Mireille Mathieu

She is called the symbol of the era of the second half of the 20th century; she is idolized by millions of admirers around the world. Mireille Mathieu – " business card"France, perhaps, is alone because there is too much honor and responsibility that must be carried with dignity. She has never been at the center of any love scandals and gossip. Meanwhile, it is known that in her youth Mireille had to marry one a wealthy gentleman, and everything was ready for the wedding. But the groom set the condition: “No scene after the wedding!” Home and kids!” Mireille did not agree, because life without a stage is meaningless for her.

Such handsome men as Yves Montand, Placido Domingo, Charles Aznavour, Alain Delon, Charlie Chaplin confessed their love to her. In 1995, journalists again started talking about the singer’s marriage - this time the diva’s choice fell on the famous makeup artist Olivier Echaudmaison (he worked with Grace Kelly, Elizabeth Taylor, Audrey Hepburn and Sophia Loren). And yet the marriage did not take place. “I have never sacrificed anything,” Mathieu said in an interview, “there are only two priorities in my life, this is singing and my family - my mother, brothers and sisters.” And the singer has 14 of them (brothers and sisters)!

Today Mimi (as Mathieu is lovingly called in France) leads a very modest lifestyle.

Patricia Kaas

They wrote a lot about the novels of another French singer, Patricia Kaas, and with pleasure. She was credited with romantic relationships with Gerard Depardieu, Russian actor Andrei Sokolov, Alain Delon (however, recently in an interview the singer denied rumors of a love affair with the latter). But the French singer never connected her fate with any of them.

And in the early 2000s, Patricia experienced a personal drama - after a six-year romance, she broke up with the Belgian composer Philippe Bergman. He left the singer, demanding that she pay alimony. He explained this by saying that he was used to the lifestyle that they led when they were together. Patricia was outraged and humiliated, went through many trials, ultimately becoming disillusioned with men and love. It seemed that she would put an end to her feelings forever. But soon another test awaited her - an affair with a millionaire from Romania. For a date, he sent a private plane for her. However, the fan was married and did not want to make his relationship with the singer public. Patricia said goodbye to him too. “I am disappointed in men. They are all mercantile and predictable,” the singer wrote in her autobiographical book.

But most of all she is sad that she cannot have children. Recently, in an interview, she said that she had abortions many times, not feeling ready to become a mother, and the result was infertility. Today, her closest creature is the Maltese dog Tequila, which was given to her by director Claude Lelouch. The singer appears with her at social events and takes her on tour.

Oprah Winfrey

Not long ago, popular TV presenter Oprah Unfrey announced that she has never been and does not intend to get married. Even a 30-year relationship with Stedman Graham is not a reason for her to walk down the aisle. The American favorite also admitted that she does not regret at all that she does not have children. “No one took care of me as a child, and I don’t know how to do it myself. I remember how once I was asked to look after a four-year-old baby. It was then that I decided that I wouldn’t have my own children.”

Mylene Farmer

"The French Madonna", as Mylene Farmer is often called in France. The singer loves solitude: “The more popular a person becomes, the more you immerse yourself in him. You have to get used to him and tame him.” On stage she is a red-haired beast who puts on shocking and frank shows, but in life she is a self-contained woman who does not allow anyone into her world and loves silence.

When asked if she regrets not having children, Mylene replies: “I had one guy (actor Jeff Dahlgren). He wanted me to give birth to a child for him. I was directly fixated on this. But I don’t need children. I’m at home my favorite daughter!"

In her life there was a serious relationship that lasted ten years - with the composer and director Laurent Button. In fact, it was he who persuaded her to sing and give up her acting career, came up with her stage image (the girl-suffering, the girl-mental pain), and advised her to dye her hair fiery red. But after some time, the singer got tired of this image and left Laurent.

Mylene never hid her attitude towards marriage and children. “My monkeys are enough for me,” she says. At the singer's for a long time There lived two little monkeys named E.T. and Leon.

Coco Chanel. The fashion and style legend has never married or become a mother.

Coco Chanel, or rather Gabrielle Bonheur Chanel, was born in France in 1883 into a very poor family.

When Coco turned 11 years old, her mother passed away. And dad soon left her and her sister in the monastery orphanage. She never saw her father again. That's where she grew up.

1905...She is 22 and sings simple songs in a local cafe. He is a young retired officer, a bourgeois who inherited an estate . Etienne Balsan(Balzan) immediately attracted young Gabi. Was it love? No. He was her lucky ticket to a rich future, and she understood this perfectly. Handsome, gallant and rich - why not take advantage of such a gift of fate. Soon she moved to his estate as a kept woman. Their whole life together consisted of horse racing (Etienne loved horses) and receiving guests, the same young officers and their kept women, on whom, by the way, Coco tried on her first works: riding breeches for horseback riding, men's shirts and simple hats. Soon the young talent was quite tired of all these idle everyday life: she needed fame, recognition, wealth.

At this time, Balsan introduces her to a young aristocrat, a coal industrialist, rumored to be the illegitimate son of a banker , Arthur Capel nicknamed Boy.

Thanks to his capital, she first opened a hat salon, and then a real fashion house in Biarritz. His connections helped him meet aristocrats who were crazy about her talent. Now she had 300 employees, and dresses were selling for an unheard-of 3,000 francs. She became what she wanted. She became independent and famous. And only one thing tormented her: she did not have her own family.

Arthur had affairs on the side, which she constantly attributed to “a woman’s lot” and never asked her to marry. The reason will become clear later: he is looking for a bride among high society. She could not bear this blow, it was not just physical betrayal, it was betrayal... She gave him a loan, sewed a dress for his beloved, the daughter of Lord Lister, and.... Accident...Blown tire... "He was my only one" true love"…. She returned home, painted the walls black and dressed mourning... She never remembered those terrible six months ...

She was brought back to life by her work and a new acquaintance - the grandson of Alexander II, cousin of Nicholas II. She is 37, he is 26. She is rich and famous, except for his name, he has not a penny to his name. He was her medicine, she was his financial support.

Their romance lasted a year, when one fine moment he did not announce to her his marriage to a rich American woman, Audrey Emery. She understood everything, accepted it and let it go.

In 1924, Coco (she was 41) met the Duke of Westminster, the richest man in England. And a new romance began, which lasted 6 years. And again our great Chanel was our mistress and kept woman. And the Duke managed to get married and divorced twice, have new mistresses... And all this happened even during his relationship with Coco.

Coco died alone in 1971 at the age of 88 in a suite at the Ritz Hotel.

"When I had to choose between a man and my dresses, I chose dresses. I was always stronger than my passions"

There is a strange belief in Western society that a strong and independent woman is a phenomenon. I hasten to disagree with this, because strong women have always existed, it’s just only now that we have begun to realize this fact. In any case, strong women are those who do not rely on everyone, but build their own lives. They do everything to achieve their goal. However, this does not mean that they do not want to see an equally strong companion next to them.

1. Strong women are always at work

Such women always think about their plans. They know what they want to achieve in their life and develop a clear plan on how to achieve it. Always keep your goal in front of your eyes. If you are dating such a woman, know that you are most likely already included in her plan.

2. Strong women get what they want

Once these women have developed a plan, they stop at nothing until they achieve their goal. They don't settle for second place or something "more or less." They aim for the stars and will not be happy until they reach them. Again, if you are in a relationship with a strong woman, you better make sure that you meet her expectations, because she will not settle for anything less than “perfect.”

3. Strong women always take action.

Strong women never expect a kick from others. If she gets a job offer that she's been dreaming about for a long time, don't expect her to immediately discuss it with you. If something needs fixing in the house, she won't wait until you get there to do it. But you shouldn’t feel less courageous because of this... how else could she, in your opinion, achieve her position in life?

4. Strong women are independent

Strong women don't need anyone in their life. They begin to act when they need it and are ready to do everything themselves. They do not look for someone to support them; in relationships, they give preference to those who grow with them. This does not mean that you should earn a lot, but at the same time not less than your woman. If you don't grow with her, she probably won't want you around.

5. Strong women are not afraid to be alone

Sometimes strong women want to be alone with themselves. After a hard day at work, she most likely will not want to quarrel with you or act like a caring housewife. She just needs a little time to recover after work and think things over. Remember: these types of women don't live for you, so don't expect her to be waiting for you at home with puppy dog ​​eyes.

6. Strong women have strong friends.

Friends of a strong and independent woman tend to have similar character traits. If you catch them talking, you're more likely to hear a debate about a business merger than a discussion of office gossip. It may look scary: a room, full of girls talking about something you have no idea about, but you still have to admire their energy and determination.

7. Strong women are hungry for knowledge and constantly improve their skills.

Strong women always learn and improve themselves. They don’t waste time in front of the TV or linger in trash bins. in social networks, while they can read or go to a master class. Be prepared to be proactive if you are dating such a woman. She is always open to new experiences, so you better be prepared for the fact that you will need to leave your comfort zone.

8. Strong women have “strong” beliefs.

Strong women are not at all morally bankrupt and they, of course, do not shy away from conversations about moral values. They will always stand by what they believe in. Be prepared to be on her side when she gets into an argument.

9. Strong women have a purpose

Strong women have a global purpose to which all her goals are summed up. And, of course, all their tasks correspond to their value system. They feel incredibly important and believe that they can change the world for the better. Support her aspirations and help her achieve something more.

10. Strong women will only show you their weak side if they trust you.

Strong women are not immune to depression, and sometimes they feel lonely and insecure, despite their independence. However, they lower their defenses around those they trust, such as their family, good friends, and those they love. If your independent wife or girlfriend trusts you enough to open her soul to you, know that you are one of the most important people in her life. And when you understand this, the only thing you need to do is try not to lose her trust.

Original article: Lifehack

Translation from English:

We usually associate strength with men, because a woman is supposed to be fragile and weak. But it just so happens that life becomes more and more difficult with every second, minute and day lived. And a woman, in order to survive today, has to be not just beautiful, charming and feminine, but truly, spiritually strong, and in some cases, be able to stand up for herself physically. If a representative of the fair sex wants only her to manage her life and no one else, she needs to become a strong and independent woman. Only in this case, control over everything that happens in her life will always remain in her fragile hands.

How to become a strong and independent woman

There is strength in every person. It is she who makes us get up every morning, perform some tasks, strive to achieve goals, do what others ask, give up our desires for the sake of someone else’s interests, veiled under the word “should”. Probably the most hated word a person hears in his life is the word “must”. Of course, in some situations you cannot do without it, and sometimes a person, for various reasons, does not understand that it will be better this way. As children, our parents teach us to clean up after ourselves, wash our hands before eating or brush our teeth, citing the fact that this is the right thing to do. At school they force us to learn subjects, many of which we don’t like, again saying “we must.” But the trouble is that gradually, day by day, this word loses its power and becomes an irritating factor that causes protest and rejection in the depths of the soul, which is expressed among teenagers in the creation of their own subculture, incomprehensible to us. Any person feels discomfort when he hears the word “must”. Once you become an adult, it's time to get rid of it. If someone says this word, demanding to do something, always ask to explain why you should do exactly what he said.

Take courage and stop mindlessly doing what others say, no matter who they are. Let them take the trouble to finally explain why you should do what you don’t want. To become stronger, stop trying to please everyone. After all, you are not a lollipop to please others. Have an opinion on any issue. Learn to argue for it and before doing anything, think about what result you want to get and why.

The strength of a person lies in the fact that he cares about everything, whether it concerns deforestation in South America or the riots taking place on the streets of cities. Stop being indifferent. Take courage, open your eyes wide and see what is happening around you. There are many stray animals running around in your yard; make sure that they are sterilized, fed, and eventually find their owners. In the end, having completed such a complex and difficult task, write a letter to the city administration with a request to create a shelter for homeless animals.

Let someone say that you have nothing else to do, but having become stronger, you must remember that now someone else’s opinion cannot determine your actions and attitude towards the world around you. In response, you can say that thanks to your actions, there are fewer disadvantaged people in the world, and the children saw that they need to fight for their own beliefs, be kinder, more merciful and not hesitate to show a sense of compassion for others. And then ask what contribution this citizen made today, whom he helped, whom he protected, whom he taught a lesson. Moreover, if he does not like animals, then, apparently, he returns from orphanage, a boarding school for people with disabilities, or talked to difficult children at school or helped those who suffer from alcoholic parents. If this is so, then you can say that together you are making this world a better and kinder place for everyone who lives in it.

Stop turning a blind eye to the desire that reigns everywhere to get everything without effort and difficulty. And you will emerge from those who belong to this category. To know foreign language, you need to spend time finding the most effective teaching method, mastering it, and even try to visit a country where they speak the language you want to know well. Why should all other goals be achieved less difficult? Therefore, having realized that any desire requires effort, begin to act, and not wait for it to come true while you are lying on the couch. A certain amount of courage will be needed when you have to prove to your family that you are not wasting your time doing a hobby that in the future can become a good source of income. And in any case, every person has the right to personal hobbies and interests, so why would someone take upon themselves the right to deprive you of them. Learn to defend your interests, no matter what they relate to.

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Top 7 how to become a strong and independent woman

• When making a decision, always take responsibility for all consequences after its implementation. Don’t look for the guilty, don’t shift the blame onto those around you. Even if it really isn't your fault, think about what you need to do next time to avoid a similar outcome.
• Calculate your every step, prepare for the worst, immediately thinking about how you can correct the situation. Only those who are ready for anything always remain on top.
• When trying to prove that you are right, use arguments, but do not try to drive the person into a corner. Task strong man find a mutually beneficial solution rather than destroy the enemy. This is especially true in family relationships.

• If the dispute is not related to some global problems and serious disagreements that can lead to intractable problems, have the courage to retreat, let your man feel on top.
• If the dispute threatens to develop into a quarrel, and for some reason the man believes that he has the right to raise his hand against you, then confidently and calmly tell him that this will be the last thing he can do in your life. life together. Learn to keep your word, do not forgive even a beloved man for insults addressed to you, much less assault. Think about the child's psyche when children see such a relationship between dad and mom. Take courage and admit the presence of violence in the family and, finally, for the sake of yourself and your children, leave a person who cannot even be called a man.
• Fight laziness, self-doubt, do not give up, because the most difficult struggle in a person’s life is the struggle with oneself. Only by overcoming all those traits that prevent you from becoming the person you want, you will be able to cultivate the strength of spirit and character. Don’t believe it when they write and say that character cannot be changed. Remember what seemed most important to you a few years ago, but today makes you smile. Likewise, today’s problems will one day become just a memory, but your task now is to learn a valuable lesson from overcoming them.

• Knowledge of the legal aspects of life in society will not hurt either. To become stronger, you need to have fundamental knowledge that will not only help in any situation, but also tell you where to find the answer to any question if a problem arises. To navigate what is happening around you, it is advisable to read the Constitution of your country, as well as familiarize yourself with what laws and codes regulate certain areas of relationships between people. Even something as simple as a loan can bring a lot of problems if you don’t understand how they should be issued and what rights you have. After all, today banks are trying to impose on each of us that only they are right in everything and only to the common man you will have to make excuses and defend yourself. Learn to stand up for yourself and your rights, stop thinking that this is an empty phrase, this is the only way you can become stronger. A person's strength can only be felt when it is recognized by others, and he himself feels that nothing can break him.

So that any person can live a long and happy life, he needs to learn to be strong. Strength of spirit will allow you to overcome any obstacles and cope with all difficulties. She will become the anchor that will keep you afloat, even in the most difficult situation. Strength of spirit and body will become real barriers to evil, pain and resentment, which, unfortunately, do not bypass the fair sex. And if you remember that in life a woman has to take care not only of herself, but also of her children, then confidence in herself, her strengths, mental and physical, will help her always remain on top, no matter what happens around her.

Don't wait - act!

Any, even the most insignificant movement forward is more effective than stupid waiting. They don't call after the interview? Call yourself and find out when a decision will be made. Boyfriend can't decide on plans for the weekend? Plan your leisure time independently of it. Can't get a promotion for a long time? Consider other companies or related vacancies. It is better to try many options and not get what you want than to do nothing at all. No one will do more for you than yourself.

Don't think about how they evaluate you. Evaluate it yourself

There is little pleasure in sitting on a date in a cafe and wondering, “How do I like him?” You've probably noticed that men often don't even consider the possibility that they might not like you. So relax, sit back and evaluate your boyfriend in all respects. At the same time, you will decide whether he is interesting to you or not.

Don't wishful thinking

Imagine how much time you can save if you don't waste it on interpreting signals of male sympathy. What difference does it make how he looked and whether he laid it? thumb for the belt of his trousers, if he still hasn’t called and offered to meet? An axiom tested by generations of women says: a man doesn’t call for two reasons: either he doesn’t want to, or he’s dead. The best attitude is calm optimism and the absence of mood swings due to someone's calls or lack thereof.

Know how to cheer yourself up

How to become successful and independent? Don’t let yourself become sore because your boss scolded you for being late, an elderly lady was rude in public transport, or your friend criticized you. new haircut. Other people should not negatively influence your emotional state and undermine your self-esteem. To stay in good shape, keep in mind a solid list of things that you enjoy: a warm bath with a book, a cup of coffee with syrup, going to the pool or going for a pedicure. Compensate for failure with pleasure.

Don't get over yourself

Self-love is the first step in any relationship in your life. Don't expect others to love you more than you love yourself. The most valuable relationship in a person's life is the relationship with himself. What matters is what you think about yourself. You can’t feel emotionally comfortable in the morning if the night before you sat in the office late doing someone else’s work. When you don’t want to do something, politely refuse, and you will feel what “a weight off your shoulders” and “lightness in your soul” means.

Don't compare yourself to others

Comparing your successes with the successes of others often leads to envy. How to become an independent girl? If you are unhappy that Lenka from the marketing department has received a promotion, but you, a procurement specialist, have not yet, think about what does not suit you in your situation. Do you not feel valued, are you working outside of your calling, or do you firmly believe that high status guarantees moral satisfaction? Comparing yourself with Lenka is the same as comparing south with north, and day with night.

Develop your abilities

Harmonious personal and professional development can make you happier and have a positive impact on your self-esteem. Regularly do what you are good at and what you really enjoy. Learn to do it really well. And sometimes it’s useful to trust some technique for identifying innate tendencies. You may not develop them, but you will certainly take note of them. What you don't do in your daily work can be turned into a hobby. Developing talent cultivates qualities that can be valuable in both your career and personal life.

Develop missing skills

You probably know the feeling of reluctance to take on a task that requires the use of tools that you do not know well. For example, you don’t like working in Excel and always procrastinate when preparing a report in this program. Ask a colleague to show you a few functions, and you'll finish reporting faster next month.

Here's what Brian Tracy, author of books on self-development and leadership, writes about the missing skills: “You can learn masterful time management just like you can learn anything, and here's a big clue: you may be missing just one time management skill to double your income. You may be missing just one business skill! You probably already know what this skill is...”

Forgive yourself for your weaknesses

Weaknesses are like curls in fingerprints; without them, it would be impossible to identify who the fingers belong to. Weaknesses make us not only imperfect, but also humane, because they teach us to accept the weaknesses of others. Forgive yourself not laziness or bad habits, but some addictions and distinctive features: love of coffee, clutter on the table, slowness or excessive talkativeness. Although such little things take you away from the ideal, they work great for your corporate style.

Be financially independent

Material independence gives you an advantage in everything. Girls who are able to take care of themselves are respected more, and you yourself feel much more confident having a stable income. You can be a real master of your life only if you don’t ask for anything from anyone and don’t expect anything from anyone. An independent girl can afford expenses that some would consider unreasonable: spa treatments, shoes to lift her spirits, lunch at a restaurant, lots of swimsuits or taxi services. And also to become independent woman, it is advisable to increase your own emergency reserve, putting aside 5-10% of your salary every month. If the funds stop coming, you will not be lost.

Be free from prejudice

Some people initially accept for themselves the rules of life that the majority live by. In everything you need to listen to the advice of your parents, always give up your seat in transport, work only in your specialty, after two years of relationship you must get married, preferably before the age of 25, and there must be at least two children. Such attitudes are only suitable for you if you accept them for yourself. To curious neighbors eager to know when you will finally get married, it is better to answer politely but firmly: “As soon as I have such a desire, I will immediately inform you about it.”

Text: Marina Lysenko and Anzhelika Zakharina

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