If by the age of 30 a woman did not have time to get a family and children, it is generally accepted that she devoted herself to a career or study. Such women often occupy good positions, receive a decent salary and have a good social status in society. They give the impression strong women independent of men. Such women are independent and successful in business.
But this independence has back side. It is more and more difficult for a woman after 30 to find a spouse, the body, often subjected to stressful situations, is no longer as fresh as in her youth, and the chance to have children decreases every year.
In addition, men are afraid of strong and independent women after 30, since it is almost impossible to re-educate them, their character has already developed and a man risks becoming henpecked with such an “iron lady” or living in constant confrontation with her. As a result, often successful and independent women with age remain to spend the evenings with their pets, for some reason, these are most often cats, and a TV.
At home, they are met by one or more four-legged pets, with them independent and proud women have to meet old age. And stupid principles or pride do not allow admitting your desire to change something. It is difficult for such women to obey a man and accept his opinion as authoritative.
Old age is often unenviable for such women - a TV and a dozen cats. Of course, often in old age they have both financial savings and housing, but, alas, there is no one to leave it all, except for the same cats.
Strong independent man.
Unlike strong and independent women, a strong and independent man has nothing by the age of 30. He does not have a normal job, because working for an "uncle" is below his dignity. He often has no education, because "spend best years he considers his youth to study stupid.
Well, a strong and independent man successfully got out of the army, since they don’t take him into the army with his health.
An independent man most often lives with his mother, because "all women are the same, and only mother is worthy of love."
If such a man lives alone, then his wardrobe and diet are quite typical - a greasy T-shirt, holes in his socks, a refrigerator full of beer and dumplings and, of course, his favorite sagging sofa in front of a computer monitor.
A strong and independent man believes that no woman is worthy to possess such a "treasure" as he is. His interests are limited online games, primitive low-paid work and alcohol.
In general, such a man treats women arrogantly with condescension. It is necessary to hide panic fear before serious relationships and the opposite sex. Women need to be looked after, cared for and loved, but a strong and independent man himself wants to be taken care of, adored and “spoon fed”.
A strong and independent man is not spoiled by homemade food and clean clothes, so he considers this not a mandatory surplus.
There are women we admire. They are always successful, achieve their goals, smart, beautiful and interesting. They are loved by others, and men admire such ladies, and dream of seeing them as a wife. Strong and independent - these words have long ceased to be synonymous with lonely mature woman who lives with a dozen cats because she has never been able to build a relationship with a man. After all, strong independent woman may well be happy in love, as in loneliness. What are the qualities of this superwoman?
She has her own opinion, and she knows how to defend it.
Stereotypical reasoning that only a man should make decisions, and the representatives of the weaker sex should not have their own opinion, and in general ideal woman timid and obedient, have long been irrelevant. A lady who has her own opinion and is able to defend it no longer causes bewilderment, but rather respect. They will listen to her, communicate with her, it is pleasant and interesting to be in her company. And it is these women who are able to achieve a lot and achieve professional success.
She has her own style, but fashion trends are not alien to her.
Individual style is an important trait that every woman should have. This is what makes it unique and truly attractive. Despite this, such a woman is aware of everyone fashion trends, and skillfully uses them in his image. However, she will not be hung up with trendy things, choosing only those that she likes and suits herself and fits into her style.
She loves herself
Self-love is a very important nuance that determines how others will treat you. If you yourself do not love yourself, and you are not interested in being alone, why do you hope that others will love you?
Admire yourself - you are unique and beautiful. And don't forget to pamper yourself. You deserve only the best - the best outfits, best man, a better life.
She doesn't depend on other people's opinions.
It cannot be said that a strong and independent woman is completely indifferent to the opinions of others. On the contrary, she strives to make the right impression on everyone. But she perfectly understands that it is impossible to please everyone, and therefore she is not upset when it turns out that someone does not like her at all. Someone's opinion from the outside will never make her change her mind, if she is sure that she is right, and will not affect the final result of any event.
She is loyal to the man
A strong and independent woman is not one of those who tells her chosen one about what he owes, and does not blackmail him with the words "you're a man." She allows her beloved small weaknesses, leaves him the right to independently make decisions regarding his life, and also listens to his opinion. At the same time, she does not always agree and will not act contrary to her desires - she will try to find a compromise.
She achieves her goals
The main feature of a strong and independent woman is that her goals are not an empty phrase, no matter what. If this woman wants something, she will act, and not complain about fate. And actions always lead to results, sooner or later. The main thing is to be purposeful and not give up.
She has a positive outlook on the world
This is the secret of her success - she perceives the world, looking at it positively, highlighting only the best, and not looking for something to complain about. Even her problems, regardless of their severity, she perceives only as an annoying obstacle that needs to be overcome, and not as a disaster of a universal scale.
Are you afraid of independent women? When a man sees that his chosen one can calmly take responsibility for herself, manage her life and support herself, for some reason he quickly retreats. And by the way, in a relationship with an independent woman, there are many advantages.
● She is great when she is alone
Some women panic and become helpless when they are left for a few days, say, leaving on a business trip. Independent women, on the other hand, are great at doing things on their own, so you don't have to deal with countless calls and texts from your partner who needs to ask you something right now or needs your help urgently.
● She knows what it's like to have a life of her own
An independent woman knows how to organize her own life. She has good job which makes her financially independent. In addition, she has hobbies and friends with whom she enjoys spending time. When you are already in a relationship, she will not spend every day at home only with you, because she has no other options. Routine? Never! An independent woman won't let routine creep into your relationship.
● She also wants you to have your own life
An independent woman does not require you to participate in your relationship around the clock, she does not want you to forget about your friends, your hobbies and established habits. She wants you to develop the way you yourself want to develop. She is also ready to accept all your friends, not only other men, but also women. You will not feel like a bird in a cage in such a relationship. Your own needs and your friends are also important to your independent partner.
● She knows how to solve problems
An independent woman takes your advice into account and can count on your support in a difficult situation, but she is usually able to solve everything herself. She is strong enough to withstand even the toughest challenges. She does not want to burden you and put an additional burden on your shoulders.
● She will be your equal partner
An independent woman knows what equality means in a relationship. She doesn't want to be higher or lower, worse or better. You can count on a fair distribution of responsibilities and harmony without unnecessary misunderstandings. This can prevent many conflicts and make your relationship more successful.
● She will not drag you to the registry office
And this is what many men fear. They think that after a few months of dating, the partner will insist on marriage and children, even if the man may not be ready for such a serious step. If you are afraid of such “quick action”, then an independent woman is yours. right choice. You will not feel pressure and will not hear constant complaints that she urgently wants a family and children.
● She has a great sense of humor
A sense of humor and the ability to tell funny and decent jokes is what sets an independent woman apart. You don't have to be afraid that she will take jokes too seriously and resent your friends' dark humor, making you feel uncomfortable and embarrassed. Self-confidence and enthusiasm are the qualities that make her enjoy life.
● She does not hide her feelings
If you are dating an independent woman, you do not need to be afraid that you will not understand her notorious female logic. You don't need to decipher her because she is always frank and honest. She has nothing to hide and she doesn't feel the need to mislead you. If you hurt her, she will let you know. If she doesn't like something about you, you will immediately know about it. Such communication can initially prevent many contradictions and disagreements.
● She knows how to behave with your parents and friends
You don't have to stick around with her all the time when you meet your friends or relatives. She knows what to say and how to respond tactfully. Even if your parents are absolute conservatives and skeptics, she will not be annoyed by this. An independent woman just knows how to handle and communicate with a wide variety of people.
Don't wait - act!
Any, even the most insignificant movement forward is more effective than stupid waiting. They don't call after the interview? Call and find out when a decision is made. Boyfriend can not decide on plans for the weekend? Plan your leisure time independently. Can't get promoted for a long time? Consider other companies or related vacancies. It is better to try many options and not get what you want than to do nothing at all. No one will do more for you than you yourself.
Don't think about how you are judged. Evaluate yourself
There is little pleasure in sitting on a date in a cafe and wondering “How do I like him?”. You must have noticed that men often do not even consider the possibility that they may not like them. So relax, sit back and evaluate your boyfriend in all respects. At the same time, you will decide whether it is interesting to you or not.
Don't wishful thinking
Imagine how much time you can save if you do not spend it on interpreting the signals of male sympathy. What difference does it make how he looked and whether he pawned thumb for a trouser belt, if he still hasn't called and offered to meet? The axiom, tested by generations of women, says: a man does not call for two reasons: either he does not want to, or he has died. The best mood is calm optimism and no mood swings due to someone's calls or their absence.
Feel free to cheer yourself up
How to become successful and independent? Do not let yourself become sour because the boss scolded for being late, the elderly lady was rude in transport, and the girlfriend criticized new haircut. Other people should not negatively affect your emotional state and undermine your self-esteem. To keep fit, keep in mind a solid list of things that make you happy: a warm bath with a book, a cup of coffee with syrup, a visit to the pool or a trip to a pedicure. Compensate for failure with pleasure.
Don't step over yourself
Self love is the first step in any relationship in your life. Don't expect others to love you more than you love yourself. The most valuable relationship in a person's life is the relationship with oneself. What matters is what you think of yourself. You can't feel emotionally comfortable in the morning if you've been in the office late the night before, doing someone else's work. When you don’t want to do something, politely refuse, and you will feel what “a mountain off your shoulders” and “lightness in your soul” means.
Don't compare yourself to others
Envy often arises from comparing your own successes with the successes of others. How to become an independent girl? If you don't like the fact that Lenka from the marketing department got a promotion, but you, the purchasing specialist, haven't yet, think about what doesn't suit you in your situation. Do you not feel that you are valued, do you not work according to your calling, or are you firmly convinced that a high status guarantees moral satisfaction? Comparing yourself with Lenka is the same as comparing south with north, and day with night.
Develop your abilities
Harmonious personal and professional development can make you happier and have a positive effect on self-esteem. Regularly do what you are good at and what you really enjoy. Learn to do it really well. And sometimes it is useful to trust some technique for identifying innate tendencies. You may not develop them, but you will certainly take note. What you do not do in your daily work can be turned into a hobby. Talent development nurtures qualities that can be valuable in both career and personal life.
Develop missing skills
You probably know the feeling of reluctance to take on a job that requires the use of tools that you are not good at. For example, you don't like working in Excel and you always delay preparing a report in this program. Ask a colleague to show you a few features and you'll be done reporting faster next month.
Brian Tracy, author of self-development and leadership books, writes about missing skills: double your income. You may be missing just one business skill! You probably already know what this skill is ... "
Forgive yourself weaknesses
Weaknesses are like curls on fingerprints, without them it would be impossible to identify who owns the fingers. Weaknesses make us not only imperfect, but also humane, because they teach us to accept the weaknesses of others. Forgive yourself not laziness and not bad habits, but some addictions and distinctive features: love for coffee, mess on the table, slowness or excessive talkativeness. Such little things, although they take you away from the ideal, but they work great for your corporate identity.
Be financially independent
Material independence gives you an advantage in everything. Girls who can take care of themselves are more respected, and you yourself feel much more confident with a stable income. You can be a real mistress of your life only if you don’t ask anything from anyone and don’t expect anything from anyone. An independent girl can afford spending that some would consider unreasonable: spa treatments, mood-boosting shoes, dinner at a restaurant, lots of swimwear, or taxi services. And yet, in order to become an independent woman, it is advisable to increase your own emergency reserve, setting aside 5-10% of your salary every month. If the funds stop coming, you will not be lost.
Be free from prejudice
Someone initially accepts for himself the rules of life by which the majority lives. In everything you need to listen to the advice of your parents, always give up your seat in transport, work only in your specialty, after two years of relationship you must get married, and preferably before the age of 25, and there must be at least two children. Such attitudes suit you only if you accept them for yourself. Curious neighbors who are eager to know when you will finally get married, it is better to answer politely but firmly: "As soon as I have such a desire, I will immediately inform you about it."
Text: Marina Lysenko and Anzhelika Zakharina
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December 20, 2019 09:59
By Fabiosa
Men are different. If some are very decent in nature, then others like to beat around the bush. Women, especially when they are in love, love with their ears, so it is very easy to lead us into the candy-bouquet period when we do not see the obvious.
Often men hang the same noodles on our ears.
We give a kind of cheat sheet on which men's phrases you should pay close attention so as not to be deceived.
1. "I'm only looking for a serious relationship"
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It is commendable if this is true, but often men say this for a red word in order to quickly take possession of a woman. At the beginning of a relationship, look more at the actions of the boyfriend. They speak louder than any words.
2. "When I saw you, I immediately understood - you are the one I have been looking for all my life"
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Another phrase from the lexicon of a pick-up artist. Certainly you are wonderful woman but how did he see it? It happens that people live for years and learn something new about each other every day, and then a fleeting acquaintance, and already fate? Take your time, take a closer look at it.
3. "We will always be together"
Too arrogant, reckless and hasty. How many ladies has he said that to, I wonder? Here you don’t know how the day will turn out tomorrow, but he throws such serious phrases after a couple of days of dating.
4. "Before you, all women were somehow not like that, but you..."
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The very fact of comparison with another woman is already ugly behavior on his part. Most likely, he is an ordinary womanizer. A smart man, even if he makes a comparison in your favor, will not voice this.
5. "I want a baby from you"
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This phrase is dreamed of by many women in serious relationship. But if you are familiar with just nothing? Perhaps this is one of the tricks to get a woman as soon as possible.
How do you observe that men still deceive us? Tell us in the comments!
The information in this article is for informational purposes only and does not replace the advice of a certified specialist.
