The baby begins to learn the world "on the tooth." All toys, household items and even mother's fingers will visit the baby's mouth until he learns to study the reality around him in other ways. But it happens that the baby does not give up his "bad" habit, even when he goes to kindergarten. How to wean a child from biting in such a situation?

When a baby bites

Babies tend to taste everything. This does not mean either the excessive anger of the baby, or his nervous breakdowns. The most common causes of biting in infants up to a year are given below.

Causes of baby bites

Babies under one year old don't just bite. There are many reasons why the baby tastes not only edible things, but also inedible ones.

1. Teething is one of the most popular causes of bites in children under the age of one year.
2. Emotional release. Young children bite when they want to say something to an adult. In other words, in this way they express closeness to their parents or, conversely, anger and irritation.
3. Lack of awareness that the bite hurts.
4. The baby wants to eat and therefore can bite his mother's hands.

Analyze the above reasons. Are you giving enough attention to your baby? Do you always feed on time?

How to wean a child from biting up to a year?

No way! If the baby is teething, then biting movements are the only way to scratch swollen gums.

The only thing you can do in this case is to provide crumbs up to a year with special items to alleviate discomfort:

• a piece of carrot or apple;
• nibbler with a piece of frozen banana;
• hard lamb;
• teether toy.

If the little one bites his mother's breast during feeding, you can purchase special nipple covers or temporarily transfer the baby to bottle feeding. However, the second option is undesirable, since it leads to negative consequences(addiction to the bottle, reduced lactation).

If the child just decides to bite you on the arm or shoulder, immediately say strictly “No!” and give your face a stern expression. The kid should understand that you do not like this behavior.

Most main advice, which can be given to mothers of biting babies: be patient! Time will pass, and the teeth will no longer cause so much discomfort to the crumbs. Then the habit of taking everything in your mouth and chewing will disappear by itself.

If an "adult" child bites

It is worth noting that the "biting period" does not always go away along with the discomfort caused by teething. Often children begin to bite at 1.5-2 years old and can continue to do so until kindergarten - up to 3-4 years. Of course, now the bites of the crumbs are not as harmless as in infancy. A full mouth of teeth and already quite strong jaws ... You won’t envy the one into whom the baby decides to “stick his fangs”. Most often, the unfortunate victims are the parents and peers of the child (for example, other children in kindergarten).

Causes of bites after a year

The reasons for this inappropriate behavior of the child lie in his psychological state. Behind the bites, as a rule, lies children's self-doubt, fear, resentment, anger, a desire to isolate themselves from the world.

Most often, children begin to bite, in whose families there is no harmony between adults, conflicts and scandals are not uncommon, the father screams and even raises his hand to his mother. Of course, in all these cases, consultation with an experienced psychologist is necessary.

However, in such a manifestation of feelings in a baby after a year, relatively harmless factors may also be to blame:

• the influence of other children in kindergarten;
• slight excitability of the child;
• lack of awareness that the bite hurts.

It is simply necessary to wean the little one from biting in kindergarten! Remember that there is a serious danger behind this seemingly childish and even slightly funny fun. There have been cases when, after a bite of a child, it was necessary to suture.

If you notice such a “sin” behind your baby, do not panic, remain calm and try to consistently eliminate the trouble.

1. Ask the teacher if there are other children in the group with similar behavior. It is possible that your child has fallen under the bad influence of his comrades.
2. Find out when the baby starts biting, what happens before this event. Also try to remember when you first noticed this bad habit in your baby. Maybe there was some kind of turning point in the life of the crumbs.
3. Talk to the child. Delicately and unobtrusively find out the reason why he “shows his teeth” so often.
4. Explain that he is acting badly, upsets you, that his behavior is not at all like the behavior of an “adult person”.
5. Teach your toddler that biting is not a way to express your feelings. If he wants to show love - let him kiss and hug, if he is angry - let him say in words that he does not like it.

You can also take a number of preventive measures.

• Enroll your child in the self-defense section, in the pool or tennis - in any place where the baby can move around and release the accumulated energy.
• Create a favorable psychological atmosphere at home. The kid should not hear the abuse of parents and see quarrels and scandals. Remember that the child copies the behavior of adults and it depends only on you how he will behave in society.
• Be gentle and affectionate with your baby. Say how much you love him, kiss and hug your child.

Conclusion

The question of how to wean a child from biting quite often arises in families where the atmosphere is tense, quarrels are frequent and there is no mutual understanding between parents. Try not to swear in the presence of the child, be friendly and loving, and then the problem will disappear by itself.

Tatiana Oberemok
What to do if a child bites?

With the problem that child bites faced by both educators and parents of younger children preschool age.

Why child bites? What do? We will try to answer these questions in our article.

The reasons that child bites, can be varied.

1. Parents may use a lot of inhibitions or physical punishment. child. By using biting baby protests against the prohibitions, thus showing his anger.

2. With a lack of attention, the baby biting wants to involve adults in their most basic needs, which they may not notice. With excessive attention from the parents or one of them, child may show aggression towards those people who, in his opinion, take it away "legal property"- mom.

3. Pinning and playing child those patterns of behavior that he sees in the family or in the group. If in a family, adults often sort things out from a position of strength, with the help of screams, then child learns this way of resolving conflicts and throwing out accumulated anger, anger, all the negativity that adults show him.

4. Often children bite, thus expressing his acute disappointment, defending his toy or protecting his (according to his understanding) territory. This usually happens when children are overexcited, tired, or uncomfortable. Under these conditions, they are more irritable, less controllable and, reacting inadequately, cannot restrain their negative emotions.

5. In children older than 2 years, the cause biting may be associated with muscle weakness and decreased tactile sensitivity (skin sensitivity) in the oral cavity. Therefore, these children need additional and intense stimulation in the mouth area. Often, such children suck on the pacifier for a long time and, as a rule, are late in the development of speech.

6. After 3 years, children usually bite when they feel helpless or scared, such as when they lose a fight, or when they think someone else might hurt them. Children over 3 years of age who often bite must be shown to a psychologist. It may turn out that child problems with self-expression or self-control.

In order to child to stop biting, it is necessary to observe in which cases the child bites, if possible, to anticipate and prevent painful and conflict situations.

Help the child understand and learn that such an aggressive form of communication and expression of emotions is unacceptable. Come to to kid, sit down so that your faces are on the same level and look him straight in the eyes. In an authoritative tone that brooks no objection, tell him approximately following: “This behavior is unacceptable. We are not bite people. It is not right. Please don't do it more».

Every time an adult sees that child Approaches another child or adult with the specific and clearly visible purpose of biting, placing a hand over their mouth as quickly as possible, thereby creating a physical barrier and preventing the bite. At the same time, it must be said, decisively and strictly, that "" you can't bite!"". On the 10th or 20th time, the decisive reaction of the adult will certainly be perceived by the child, especially If everyone around him will react in the same way, and not flirt with him, touched by his innocence.

Do not do it bite the child back, otherwise he will gain an understanding that this is how he should defend himself, defend his opinion.

Can't scream or hit child. anyone biting, child filled with anger. He is incapable of realizing what he does. By punishing, you will show him negative patterns of behavior. ordering to kid, not allowing him to calm down, you will provoke him into an even greater outburst of rage. Remember, stopped aggressive actions child, can lead to the fact that negative emotions that have not spilled out will remain in child and sooner or later they will show themselves, find a way out.

Help to kid learn to express your feelings in words. For example, “You are probably mad at Vanya for taking your toy. Use words to show feelings but don't bite».

Recommended to play with child role play . Make with child from an old mitten a glove doll - biter. Write a story about how you behaved nipper and what it led to. Voice and characters who are observers ( “Probably shouldn’t talk to him.”, “You can’t be friends and trust such a mean person” and so on, and, of course, the sacrifice. Now let the child will become"victim", will try different ways protection from biters(care, resentment, retaliatory aggression). Correct tactics: to teach to pronounce the feelings that the characters experience, to translate the conflict into a constructive dialogue.

For children over 3 who are still continuing bite, you can use the timeout technique. Timeouts give time for baby to calm down and accustom child to thought, What biting is unacceptable. Time-outs work best with children who know why they are using the technique. To kid invited to be alone for five minutes and think: “You are still small and sometimes you can’t stop. But very soon you will understand how bad it is to be alone.” Purpose of isolation, punishment child lies in next: he must gradually learn to understand that any act, and even more bad, has its consequences. Timeout will not only demonstrate child then that he overflowed the cup of your patience or violated important rule, he will demonstrate, in fact, where the border of what is permitted lies.

The Timeout technique does not necessarily mean moving to another room, sometimes it is enough to take child from the play area in the room, move to a corner, and so on. If you still took the child to another room, make sure that it contains the minimum number of stimuli that will distract him from thinking about his behavior. Once in a room full of toys or in a room with a TV turned on, child will be distracted and this will negate all your educational actions. The child must be bored, the primary goal is to think about your actions and misconduct.

accustom child to affectionate actions during play. For example, show him how to hug a bear, pet a kitten, love a doll. Praise if the child plays peacefully.

distract child, who is beginning to get annoyed by the game, for example, dance. Or do it something soothing, like reading or doing a puzzle.

Children with reduced tactile sensitivity in the oral cavity must be introduced into the daily diet of solid foods (carrots, apple, that is, food that needs to be chewed.

It is recommended to teach the child to let bubble, inflate Balloons, play the harmonica or the pipe and, as far as adults have enough imagination, perform exercises to strengthen the muscles of the oral cavity.

Games with water, sand, clay have a beneficial effect; Include relaxation in the daily routine with pleasant music, as well as sufficient physical activity.

Tatyana Nikolaevna Oberemok, educator of MDOU No. 77 of the city of Irkutsk

A small child may begin to bite at the moment of teething, during breastfeeding and later, after a year, in situations where he cannot cope with overwhelming emotions. How can mom and dad respond correctly to such behavior and how to wean their beloved child from biting?

Moms, members of the Momshare parent community on Facebook, share their life hacks:

1) hug tightly

When bitten, hugged tightly and passionately kissed. Angry, but stopped.

2) Agree

As the teeth appeared, I began to bite, I screamed and took my breasts. The daughter was upset, crying. By evening, I realized that she was biting, because it seemed to her that she had to bite off to eat, she couldn’t eat, she was hungry, she was crying, I was crying from pain ... Then I hugged her and said in words that you don’t have to bite to eat. So we agreed. It was 7 months.

3) Find an alternative object to bite

My daughter started biting at about a year and a half. The first one herself did not start, but if something was taken away from her, she would bite. I had two hacks.

Firstly, if she bit someone badly, then together with her I gave this baby a toy and asked for forgiveness. I bought it specially (we were in a rest home, and the children were all together) and went to give it, explaining that you had bitten Masha, and now I’m going to apologize and give her a toy as a consolation. It was a shame, my daughter really wanted such a toy.

And second: I bought her rubber toy, said that this is a biter dog, and if she wants to bite, she can bite this toy as much as she wants. Learned in about a month.

comments Irina Chesnova, family psychologist, author of books for children and parents:

How to wean a child to bite? Let's start with the reasons that are directly related to the age of the baby.

Babies (starting from 5-6 months) bite adult cheeks or hands most often because of unpleasant sensations in the mouth - their gums swell and itch, teeth are cut. Everything is simple here: teethers and gels with an anesthetic effect save (check with your pediatrician!).

Also, the baby may begin to bite while breastfeeding. Such behavior is nothing but the very beginning of the separation of the “I” of the child from the “I” of the mother. Your reaction: you can’t stand the pain, take your breast for a few seconds and, looking into the baby’s eyes, say: “You can’t do this, it hurts mom!”. Repeat every time the baby bites the breast again. This will be for him one of the first lessons of clear cause-and-effect relationships (bitten - mother took the breast) and respect for oneself and other people.

After a year, a new period of child development begins, when you can understand this world only by touching it and studying it with all the senses. Hence this passion to climb everywhere, reach out to everything, bite, slobber, knock, leave your mark on the wallpaper (I exist! I exist!). Starting from this age, babies usually bite when they are overwhelmed with feelings - anger, resentment, protest, disappointment, powerlessness. They need to convey their great indignation to the "offender" as quickly as possible, but how to do this when you have a meager vocabulary and almost no communication skills? Therefore, pushing, hitting, pulling hair and biting is a common thing for them, as they express emotions.

What to do?

1. First of all, to understand in what cases the baby begins to bite, this will help to anticipate situations when teeth are used, and, if possible, prevent them - it is trite to physically stop the child by putting his hand to his mouth.

2. If, nevertheless, the baby turned out to be faster and bit: do not scream, do not scold, do not shame, and even more so do not bite back - this will show that such behavior is acceptable. And your task is to teach the child desirable forms of behavior.

3. Get down to the same level with the baby and, looking him straight in the eyes, say: "You can't bite, it hurts a lot, but you can't hurt anyone." Don't expect to be heard the first time (they won't!), be prepared to say the same thing 10 times, 100 times, 1000 times. Your reaction should be firm and unchanging: you will not let the baby do what is not allowed and hurt - neither to other people, nor to yourself. Until the child stops biting, your task as a close, loving adult is to always be ready to physically stop him, prevent the bite (still putting your hand to his mouth and talking about the inadmissibility of biting).

4. It is very important to gradually teach the child to separate emotional and behavioral reactions. Look: if a toy was taken away from a kid in a sandbox, he has the right to be indignant, he has the right to be dissatisfied, but hitting the "offender" on the forehead with a spatula or biting him - he does not have such a right. It will be very correct if you allow your chick to feel what is in his soul, and at the same time explain what is happening to him (“you are angry”, “you are sad / hurt / scared”), voice his state (“of course , it's a shame when they take away a toy") and learn to express their feelings in words, while finding a constructive way out of the current situation ("let's ask her back"). Once named, feelings and experiences become understandable, manageable, and less intimidating. The child begins to better understand himself and those around him. And through mom's assistance and tips (“let's ask her back”), his social skills are honed and his behavioral repertoire is expanding, which is also only good.

5. For the same - voicing feelings and expanding the behavioral repertoire - it is useful to play story games (this is done outside of a conflict situation, already at home, when everyone is calm and in good mood). Take glove dolls or any other toys and play scenes from the life of a child: play for the one who didn’t get something, or who was offended. It is also interesting to give the baby the "role" of the victim of a fighter or biter. So he will be able to better feel the inner world of the one who is being attacked, which will be another step in the development of one of the most important human qualities in him - empathy.

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Why does a child bite and how to wean him from this habit?

The baby begins to learn the world "on the tooth." All toys, household items and even mother's fingers will visit the baby's mouth until he learns to study the reality around him in other ways. But it happens that the baby does not give up his "bad" habit, even when he goes to kindergarten. How to wean a child from biting in such a situation?

When a baby bites

Babies tend to taste everything. This does not mean either the excessive anger of the baby, or his nervous breakdowns. The most common causes of biting in infants up to a year are given below.

Causes of baby bites

Babies under one year old don't just bite. There are many reasons why the baby tastes not only edible things, but also inedible ones.

1. Teething is one of the most popular causes of bites in children under the age of one year.
2. Emotional release. Young children bite when they want to say something to an adult. In other words, in this way they express closeness to their parents or, conversely, anger and irritation.
3. Lack of awareness that the bite hurts.
4. The baby wants to eat and therefore can bite his mother's hands.

Analyze the above reasons. Are you giving enough attention to your baby? Do you always feed on time?

How to wean a child from biting up to a year?

No way! If the baby is teething, then biting movements are the only way to scratch swollen gums.

The only thing you can do in this case is to provide crumbs up to a year with special items to alleviate discomfort:

• a piece of carrot or apple;
• nibbler with a piece of frozen banana;
• hard lamb;
• teether toy.

If the little one bites his mother's breast during feeding, you can purchase special nipple covers or temporarily transfer the baby to bottle feeding. However, the second option is undesirable, as it leads to negative consequences (addiction to the bottle, reduced lactation).

If the child just decides to bite you on the arm or shoulder, immediately say strictly “No!” and give your face a stern expression. The kid should understand that you do not like this behavior.

The most important advice that can be given to mothers of biting babies: be patient! Time will pass, and the teeth will no longer give the crumbs so much discomfort. Then the habit of taking everything in your mouth and chewing will disappear by itself.

If an "adult" child bites

It is worth noting that the "biting period" does not always go away along with the discomfort caused by teething. Often children begin to bite at 1.5-2 years old and can continue to do so until kindergarten - up to 3-4 years.

Of course, now the bites of the crumbs are not as harmless as in infancy. A full mouth of teeth and already quite strong jaws ... You won’t envy the one into whom the baby decides to “stick his fangs”.

Most often, the unfortunate victims are the parents and peers of the child (for example, other children in kindergarten).

Causes of bites after a year

The reasons for such inadequate behavior of the child lie in his psychological state. Behind the bites, as a rule, lies children's self-doubt, fear, resentment, anger, a desire to isolate themselves from the world.

Most often, children begin to bite, in whose families there is no harmony between adults, conflicts and scandals are not uncommon, the father screams and even raises his hand to his mother. Of course, in all these cases, consultation with an experienced psychologist is necessary.

However, in such a manifestation of feelings in a baby after a year, relatively harmless factors may also be to blame:

• the influence of other children in kindergarten;
• slight excitability of the child;
• lack of awareness that the bite hurts.

It is simply necessary to wean the little one from biting in kindergarten! Remember that there is a serious danger behind this seemingly childish and even slightly funny fun. There have been cases when, after a bite of a child, it was necessary to suture.

If you notice such a “sin” behind your baby, do not panic, remain calm and try to consistently eliminate the trouble.

1. Ask the teacher if there are other children in the group with similar behavior. It is possible that your child has fallen under the bad influence of his comrades.
2. Find out when the baby starts biting, what happens before this event. Also try to remember when you first noticed this bad habit in your baby. Maybe there was some kind of turning point in the life of the crumbs.
3. Talk to the child. Delicately and unobtrusively find out the reason why he “shows his teeth” so often.
4. Explain that he is acting badly, upsets you, that his behavior is not at all like the behavior of an “adult person”.
5. Teach your toddler that biting is not a way to express your feelings. If he wants to show love - let him kiss and hug, if he is angry - let him say in words that he does not like it.

You can also take a number of preventive measures.

• Enroll your child in the self-defense section, in the pool or tennis - in any place where the baby can move around and release the accumulated energy.
• Create a favorable psychological atmosphere at home. The kid should not hear the abuse of parents and see quarrels and scandals. Remember that the child copies the behavior of adults and it depends only on you how he will behave in society.
• Be gentle and affectionate with your baby. Say how much you love him, kiss and hug your child.

Conclusion

The question of how to wean a child from biting quite often arises in families where the atmosphere is tense, quarrels are frequent and there is no mutual understanding between parents. Try not to swear in the presence of the child, be friendly and loving, and then the problem will disappear by itself.

Source: http://agushkin.ru/vospitanie/kak-otuchit-rebenka-kusatsya.html

How to wean a child to bite?

Sometimes it happens that your child suddenly becomes biting. He grabs his mother's hand with his teeth, tries to bite off his father's ear, and even teddy bear hones "toothy" skills. And if the bear doesn’t care that they are trying to gnaw out sawdust, then the baby’s parents don’t need such biting problems at all: it hurts, it’s insulting and even a little scary.

But what if it’s not mom or dad who is suddenly bitten, but a neighbor on the porch or a kid in kindergarten? Here and before the conflict of the "armed" is not far: quarrels, showdown and, as a result, the search for a new kindergarten.

Why does a child bite? How should parents behave if this happens to their baby? What mistakes should not be made in the process of weaning? What to do if the baby not only bites, but also pinches and even fights? We will try to answer these and other questions right now.

Why does the child bite?

Bites at 6 months

the reason for the "biting" of the little one is the discomfort or pain caused by teething. Well, what else to scratch your gums, if not about your beloved mother? Of course, this is very painful, especially when it comes to breast bites during feeding.

What to do?

As an option - buy plastic nozzles that protect the breast from the baby's teeth, but do not interfere with feeding. Can also be applied to nipples special means designed to alleviate the suffering of the baby while his teeth are growing.

You can also give your child a “helper”: a piece of carrot or apple, a hard dryer or a teether, so that he sharpens his gums on them.

If the baby bit you “just like that”, make a serious face and show with your whole appearance how ugly it is. Finally, just be patient a little, even though it is incredibly difficult.

During this period, the baby bites when he is very excited: he is overwhelmed with emotions that he puts into his bite (like his whole soul). Sometimes a child bites because they are just scared or angry at you for some reason.

What to do?

Try to show the baby that you can’t do this, it hurts you a lot and you are offended by him. He will definitely study the received "information" and draw the right conclusions.

Bites at 15-36 months

This time falls on the period of the child's socialization: the baby goes to kindergarten, but instead of making friends with his peers, he begins to sharpen his grown teeth about them.

The reasons for biting behavior are caused by a simple desire to control the world around and subjugate those who "inhabit" it. This is also confirmed by the fact that the baby bites only peers, and does not touch relatives with a “tooth”.

Sometimes it is not only the influence of other children that is to blame for a child biting, but also a simple misunderstanding that it hurts someone.

What to do?

Explain to the child that no one will ever want to be friends with him, so angry and pugnacious.

Bites at three years and after

When an adult three-year-old child begins to bite, this indicates that he is frightened or feels helpless. Example: two kids did not share a toy and one of them bit an opponent. It happened because he simply did not find another way to defend his opinion (or defend himself if small fists were used).

What to do?

You can check the child with a doctor to exclude neurological diseases from the list of reasons for biting.

It often happens that children who started biting at 2 years old continue to do so at 2.5 and even 3. The problem is that now the bites of the crumbs are no longer so harmless, but are already noticeably painful.

That is why experts advise parents of biting children to pay close attention to the behavior of the child and respond to it immediately.

Finding out the reasons

The first thing you should do is to understand why your child was attacked by "biting". Ask the teacher if there are such toothy children in your group, be sure to find out if something strange or bad happens before your child bites someone.

Finally, try to remember the first time this happened to your child.

Intimate talk

Talk to the baby and find out why he is "showing his teeth." In colors and details, explain that only small children behave this way, and adults - like him - will never try to "eat" someone close. Make it clear to the child that biting will not achieve anything good, much less solve problems.

Expressing feelings correctly

The kid must understand that when expressing love, you need to hug the one for whom he feels this trembling feeling, and if he is overwhelmed with anger, let him talk about it directly.

Moving aggression

To wean a child from biting, you can enroll him in a pool or self-defense section. In general, where he will run a lot, jump, move and splash out his overflowing energy.

Be consistent

React to each repeated "incident" in the same way and then the child will learn the lesson, if not the second time, then the fifth one for sure. He will simply understand that if he continues to do so, his mother will definitely scold him.

Creating a Peaceful Environment

Fence off the child from quarrels and scandals, as psychologists say: biting children appear in families with an unfavorable emotional atmosphere. The kid should not see how adults sort things out - this will lead to the fact that he will copy this behavior model and will achieve what he wants in the same way.

Tenderness and affection will grind everything

Show more tenderness to the child and caress him, say that you love more than life and kiss him with all your might. You will see that instead of biting, he will give you the same strong kisses and warm hugs.

What can not be done if the baby bites?

Bite back

To get the baby to stop biting, by reciprocating “bites” - it even sounds strange, doesn’t it?

Pay close attention to bites

Sometimes, in order for a child to stop biting, you just need to ignore it. It’s a paradox, but seeing that the “defense” does not bear fruit, the baby simply stops baring his teeth.

Wash your mouth with soap or smack your lips

Such inadequate behavior of parents will only aggravate the situation: internal aggression will increase, and the baby will decide that you do not understand him.

The child pinches and fights: why?

Sometimes it happens that the baby “calls for help” not only teeth, but also hands: he actively begins to pinch and fight, causing bewilderment and even fear among the people around him with his behavior. The reasons for such aggression lie in the negative emotions that overwhelm the child: jealousy, anger, irritation and resentment.

The kid cannot accumulate negativity in himself, and when something does not work out for him or he is not given what he wants, emotions begin to overflow. The problem lies in the fact that the bites, pinches and blows get stronger and more frequent.

Let's take a closer look at why a child pinches and fights and how to wean him from it.

Child fights with other children

Preschool children fight either to demonstrate their strength to others, or because they want to attract someone's attention to themselves.

If you see your baby fighting, or if one of the neighbors told you about what happened, try to find out from them the details of the fight. This will make it easier for you to determine the cause. aggressive behavior your baby.

After that, call the child and listen to what he has to say to you about this. If he uses his hands because he wants to “educate” someone, explain that you need to achieve what you want with words, not fists.

At the same time, you should not scold the child, since you can turn from a well-wisher into a real enemy. And how does he deal with them? Of course, it hits and pinches.

Child fighting with parents

If the baby hits you more often, keep in mind: this is a response to your "wrong" behavior. For example, you constantly scold him, forbid him everything in the world, or shame him.

Another reason for fights is the perception problem of a child who thinks that by pinching or hitting someone, he will provoke him to a certain game: hit - insult - reconciliation - hugs.

In both cases, you need to be more tolerant of the child and not show aggression. He hit you - stop it without shouting and swearing. You can also take offense at him by hiding in another room. May the whole house console you! Looking at this, the child will understand: his game was not successful and, therefore, he did not do it very right.

Finally, the third reason why the kid fights (both with parents and with peers): he just saw enough of "evil" cartoons and now positions himself as a negative character. Control what the TV “shows” to your baby, just don’t forbid watching it at all.

task: to show the child the difference between evil and good and make it clear that good always wins.

When should you contact a specialist?

The reasons for the aggressive behavior of the child are in many factors: speech development injury, serious illness, death close relative the appearance of a new teacher or student in the class.

Even more often, children bite, in whose families the parents themselves behave viciously: they constantly sort things out, quarrel and even fight. An apple from an apple tree, right?

Signals indicating that you need to seek help from a psychologist are the following points:

• the baby “grinds” his teeth, not responding to your desire to stop it;
• he is over three years old;
• your child hurts other people with his bites;
• the kid does it to hurt;
• he not only fights, but also tortures pets.

Psychologists say that the habit of biting passes with time, but if the child is already three years old, and he continues to do it with redoubled anger, then he needs the help of a specialist.

Summing up

When thinking about how to wean a child from biting, you should understand that only patience and work will help you correct the situation, since the child's psyche is so flexible that it can be successfully corrected. Try to show the kid the beauty of being on the side of "good" and teach him to express negativity in a safe and socially acceptable way.

Source: http://OtvetProst.com/527-kak-otuchit-rebenka-kusatsya.html

How to wean a child to bite?

The child is biting. This misfortune sooner or later can appear in the life of every family. There is, of course, little to enjoy in this.

Especially if it is not one of the baby's relatives who is bitten, but a neighbor's child or children from kindergarten. There are several reasons for this situation. But all of them are completely solvable.

The main thing is to understand your own offspring and be patient in order to wean him from such an unpleasant occupation.

Why does the child bite?

When you first experience your little one gritting their teeth on someone else's flesh, evaluate the situation in which this occurs. Depending on the age of the child, the reasons may vary. And accordingly, the methods of dealing with biting should also be different. Let's analyze each of them separately:

1. If the baby is 5-7 months old, the main reason for his bites is discomfort around the mouth or pain associated with teething. His main victims in this case are the next of kin. Often, mothers of such babies complain that the baby bites their breasts. What to do in this case? There are several options: buy special plastic nozzles that will not interfere with feeding and protect the chest from bites, smear the nipples with a special teething agent that will ease the baby's suffering. But given the age of the child, sometimes you can simply endure, since the bites associated with teething are almost inevitable.
2. 8-14 months is the time when the baby bites when very excited. Emotions overwhelm the baby, and in order to cope with them, he puts all his strength into the bite. You can get rid of such a habit with the help of distracting the child, a firm “no” or with the help of other relatives “take offense” and show that it hurts and you can’t do this.
3. At the age of 15-36 months, parents are faced with a problem when a child bites in kindergarten. This behavior is caused by the desire to subjugate and control everyone around them. Moreover, the child himself bites and pinches only with strangers. He hardly touches his relatives. You can wean off bites at this age only by explaining to your child that such behavior is unacceptable. As a last resort, you need to teach the child to speak in words if something does not suit him. For example, such as: "I'm angry", "I don't want to", "I'm not happy", etc.
4. If a child bites and fights after three years, this indicates that he is scared or feels helpless. For example, if in a fight between two kids one feels weaker, then such a child bites other children in order to protect themselves. Even if the bite was a provocation from another baby, you need to show your child to the doctor. It may well be that the child has problems with self-control or self-expression, which may be neurological in nature.

What to do if a child bites?

It is also worth remembering that sometimes a child bites his mother or himself in a state of aggression. It can be caused by the fact that the child has not received what he wants, cannot control the behavior of adults, or is in an agitated state.

After the age of three, only specialists in the field of psychology and pedagogy can answer the question of how to wean a child from biting. For children younger age bites are normal.

And there are several ways to get rid of it:

• firmly tell the baby that you can’t bite, and this happened again, go with the child to the bitten one and stroke him in the place where the injury was inflicted.
• remember that playing with sand, water and clay helps reduce aggression. Also, as often as possible, you need to give the baby to draw with pencils, paints and crayons;
• among the toys of the child must be a designer and cubes;
• let the baby gnaw hard foods more often: apples, carrots, cucumbers, drying, etc .;
• never sort things out in front of a child, especially with screams and fists, because this can cause his aggression;
• follow the baby's daily routine, alternating sleep, activity, eating and walking in the fresh air.

Remember that the child copies your behavior and even facial expressions. Provide him with favorable conditions for harmonious development and surround him with affection and care. Then problems with bites will never touch you.

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We all know the story of Rudyard Kipling, where main character, Mowgli, was a wild boy, but very kind, and eventually returned to the people. IN real life Of course, everything would be different, but sometimes it happens that the most ordinary, "human cubs" become real wolf cubs and begin to get their way by biting.

To the question "Is it possible to wean a child from biting?" Elena Pavlovna Krechko, family and child psychologist, director of the network of private kindergartens and centers for development and education "Elitora".

If you have a family psychologist or the opportunity to consult with one, you can solve the problem easily and quickly. In the absence of serious psychological problems, you can wean a child from biting on their own, without resorting to help (in most cases). To do this, first the child is told what (and why) biting is not good, and then with the help of control and the right reaction, the result is achieved - the child stops achieving the goal in such a “bestial” method.

Biting is aggression

Why Do Babies Bite? We will not mention a certain age of the teeth, when the gums itch in a child. There are many "grandmother's" methods of getting rid of itching, as well as gels and other remedies in a modern pharmacy. But what to do when the teeth have already grown, and for a long time, and from kindergarten or even from elementary school news arrives that the child is biting, and how does the escaped Mowgli solve problems with his teeth?

Bites, first of all, are a manifestation of aggression. But what the child reacts to like that - parents need to find out. Watch your baby carefully: when, where and what, what behavior of others he starts to bite. After all, bites are the baby's reaction to that trouble in a relationship in which this moment the child is located. The source can be both in the family and in the garden. If you have the opportunity to limit or save the baby from the situation, the problem will be solved by itself. Alternatively, it may be a certain boy or girl who offends him in a group, or when you are arguing at home with your family. Change the situation - and the problem may simply disappear.

Sometimes in very serious cases, parents are forced to change kindergarten. But these are extreme measures, because you can fight with the bites of a child.

Bites are a substitute

Why are we more tolerant of animal bites? Because for an animal this is the only way to show its attitude towards certain actions performed with them. Because animals can't talk. For a child, bites are also a substitute for a verbal way of expressing negative emotions. With undeveloped speech at a certain age, it is difficult to explain why you are angry or offended, that you don’t like it, that you want this baby to return your toy, or your parents stop yelling at each other. Biting for a baby in this case is a way of expressing negative emotions, simpler, and, by the way, very effective way achieve your goal.

Sometimes the problem of bites is due to the underdevelopment of tactile sensitivity. Such children suckle the pacifier longer and have a slight delay in speech. In this case, in the process of getting rid of the habit of biting, give the child more foods to chew on: apples, carrots.

What can and cannot be done

It is categorically impossible to respond to bites with aggression: swear, spank or bite in response. As with parenting in general, an aggressive response will not solve the problem, but will only intimidate and may give rise to a complex. The very first step of a parent is to explain to the child that he hurt him (or a neighbor). Explain in words, calmly and confidently, show a trace, give a recent example (“remember, you fell and cried, and it hurt you? It hurts me just the same”).

Since biting is a substitute for speech, teach your child the words and phrases that he replaces with such an action. It can be: “No”, “I don’t like it”, “You offended me”, “I don’t want to”, etc. Explain that it is easier to achieve results with words. Play scenes with toys options development of events.

Sometimes children bite when checking relatives or peers. In this case, the baby explores the reactions, he is curious about the behavior of others. In addition, he seeks the limits of what is permitted, checks that he can get away with it. In this case, adults need to very clearly make it clear to their child what can and cannot be done, and that biting is unacceptable. Parents should immediately, but calmly, explain that they do not like being bitten, that they are hurt and unpleasant. At the same time, it is important to express what actions you want to see: “I really like it when you stroke my hair” or “When we hug, I feel warm and comfortable.”

Sometimes it happens that a bite is a manifestation of attention and positive feelings. You may have played games with him in the past where you bit him a little. But children have not yet developed a sense of proportion. In this case, stop all biting games, do not react positively to the bites of the child: do not laugh, do not smile, say that you do not want to “play this game” anymore or “kiss me better”. Without encouragement, this way of expressing emotions will be forgotten on its own.

Finally

You can fight the habit of biting on your own. Of course, it would be good to involve a kindergarten, school or private psychologist, as a professional will help you quickly understand the problem and find solutions. If this is not possible, the parent himself can observe the child, find the root cause and solve the problem. Most importantly, remember that the habit of biting is not at all an indicator of some psychological problems. More often than not, it's just a bad habit.