We all sin against each other, but few are able to repent before others. And in order for the relationship to resurrect, you need to come up and say: "I'm sorry." And if it is from the heart and from the heart they answer you, the evil will go away.
Priest Alexy Potokin
Forgiving and accepting forgiveness is an art. The art of forgiveness is that foolish forgiveness multiplies sin. Late forgiveness kills, while wise and timely forgiveness inspires.
Priest Konstantin Kamyshanov
You don't forgive others to heal them.
You forgive others in order to heal yourself.
Forgiveness does not change the past, but it liberates the future.
If you suffer from the injustice of a bad person, forgive him, otherwise there will be two bad people.
Augustine Aurelius
Forgiving is a great gift.
Moreover, it costs nothing.
The best reaction to enemy criticism is to smile and forget.
Vladimir Nabokov
BE ABLE TO FORGIVE
You need to be able to forgive. Many people think that forgiveness is a sign of weakness. But the words "I forgive you" do not mean at all - "I am too soft a person, therefore I cannot be offended and you can continue to spoil my life, I will not tell you a single word", they mean - "I will not let the past spoil my future and the present, so I forgive you and let go of all insults.
There is magic in forgiveness ... Magic of healing. As in the forgiveness that you give, so in the forgiveness that you yourself receive.
It all starts with forgiveness. If we harbor resentment, it is a manifestation of pride. I don't take it as mine, I blame someone else for it. I do not understand that I am a Soul that has committed some wrong actions, and now these lessons are returning to me.
If a person has hurt you, do not answer him in kind, do good. You are a different person. You are better. Remember.
One of the most useful life skills is the ability to quickly forget everything bad: not to get hung up on troubles, not to live with resentment, not to revel in irritation, not to harbor anger ... You should not drag various rubbish into your soul.
If people are judging or criticizing you, remember that more often than not, the very moment they criticize you, they think exclusively of themselves. Do not be angry or offended by them, just understand that it hurts people when they cannot oppose anything to what you are superior to.
Being able to forgive and asking for forgiveness is the foundation for a lasting relationship. It is important to learn to sincerely and wholeheartedly say "Sorry" to each other instead of hurting each other with needles of reproaches and claims.
Resentment and resentment are like poison that you drink in the hope that others will be poisoned. Happiness begins with forgiveness.
Cassie Combden
As soon as a person gets sick, he needs to look for someone in his Heart who needs to be forgiven.
Forgiveness is the strongest of all victories.
One little boy, when asked what forgiveness is, gave a wonderful answer: "It is the scent that a flower gives when trampled."
The most essential science is the science of forgetting the unnecessary. Antisthenes.
Your ability to love others ... and yourself ... is directly proportional to your willingness to forgive others and yourself.
For example, instead of loving the parents you would like, try to learn to love the parents you have.
To heal from past trauma, you must first get angry, mourn the loss, and finally forgive them all.
You will not be able to completely forgive anyone until you are willing to voluntarily surrender the right to revenge and restitution ... - forever.
You don't forgive others to heal them.
You forgive others in order to heal yourself.
Chuck Hillig
"You cannot defeat the enemy until you heal what you think is low in yourself."I Ching (Book of Changes)
Very often in other people we painfully perceive precisely those actions, reactions, feelings with which we sin ourselves. And the real, true forgiveness of another person begins with the ability to see your own weaknesses and shortcomings.
Perhaps we need to learn to forgive ourselves before we can allow others to forgive us for the wrong we have done to them, or before we ourselves can (in soul or face to face) forgive them for the wrong they have done us.
And you forget - and it will become easier.
And you forgive - and there will be a Holiday.
And you strive - and you will succeed ...
Do not be stingy - and you will be rewarded!
And it will come back to you - it will be rewarded ...
And you believe - and they will!
Start yourself - it will start all around!
And you LOVE! And you will be credited!
The ability to ignore is even more valuable than the ability to forgive. For we are forced to forgive what we have already attached importance to.
Today is Forgiveness Sunday.
Do not forget to ask forgiveness from everyone who has been offended in the past year.
And also - do good deeds!
Forgiveness Protects Our Heart
Sometimes we forgive the offender, sometimes we keep the bitter feeling to ourselves, grieving or coming up with a way to take revenge. How does this affect our cardiovascular system? First, the participants in the experiment had to recall the case when they were severely offended. They were asked to imagine that they are taking revenge on the offender, and in order to warm up the resentment, remember how they suffered, what pain they experienced. Then they were asked to forgive their offender, try to find an explanation for his act, admit that all people have their weaknesses ... Cardiograms and tomography readings left no doubt: negative emotions and resentment increase the heart rate and blood pressure, and the manifestation of empathy immediately relieves stress. So now it has been scientifically proven: to be offended is harmful.
Are you already familiar with Ho "oponopono? This is a very simple spiritual practice that gives incredible results. The essence of the practice is that you open your heart and create a reality full of love and harmony with the words:
1. "I love you."
2. "Forgive me."
3. "I'm sorry."
4. "Thank you."
The principal point of Ho "oponopono" is to assume 100% responsibility for everything that happens in the world, ie, not only for our actions, but in general for everything that we know or do not even suspect.
“The ability to forgive is a property of the strong. The weak never forgive. ”© Mahatma Gandhi
Some people will never accept the idea of forgiveness, any arguments are useless. You can try for a long time to convince them that the inability to forgive, revenge, hatred or resentment makes us live in the past.
Inability to forgive
All these will be empty words if a person does not know how to forgive at all. After all, forgiveness requires a person to display courage. Often, his whole life is filled with grievances, and to forgive means to feel emptiness. The person becomes scared.
If he gets rid of grievances, then what will he be left with? Such a person is used to using this emotion in order to manipulate others, causing them chronic feelings of guilt. Taking offense is a familiar way of interacting with the world. And his whole world is divided into bad offenders and good offended people like him.
Pseudo-forgiveness
Another category of people is “pseudo-forgiving”. It is easier for such people to say “I forgave” than to understand the reasons for their resentment. And all because they are afraid to realize their feelings, and even more so to decide to voice their feelings and demands, risking forever ruining or even destroying the relationship.
The fear of ruining a relationship arises when you have already tried to talk about your feelings, but are faced with the cold indifference of your partner and his unwillingness to change anything. But pretending that you are not offended by people when you are actually offended and angry does not mean forgiving. This is a form of self-denial, which is destructive for a person.
Some experts generally argue that resentment is not a real feeling. It is a behavior used to manipulate another person.
“Resentment is a feeling that appears in us so early that we can be firmly convinced that this is a primordial feeling. Ann is not. This is "racketeering". Remember the children. At what age do they start to take offense? Yes, exactly when they understand that it is ineffective to be angry with mom for not receiving candy.
It is much more justified to take offense at her, “I don’t love you” - hits without a miss and acts more destructively than a nuclear bomb. A rare parent can withstand such an onslaught. " Having made a conclusion, the child begins to hone and improve his skills. The ability to take offense becomes a skill, then a habit, and then a reflex "(P. Zygmantovich)
Resentment is a tool for managing human relationships. In childhood, the child is offended, they pay attention to him, the parent feels guilty, often not understanding why, and from this feeling he does what they want from him. The child “makes a decision” that this is exactly how it is necessary to influence this world in order to be heard. Then it acts automatically. To finally stop being offended, you need to learn to forgive.
Farewell to resentment is forgiveness
Psychoanalysts Nicole Fabre and Gabrielle Ruben identified the main stages that a person goes through on the path to the ability to forgive:
Forgiving is a decisive rejection of suffering. The first and important step towards forgiving can be a conscious decision to stop suffering, stop being offended, and forget about justice. Unfortunately, sometimes this requires parting with the one who hurts us.
Forgiving is admitting that you have been wronged. Thanks to the mechanisms of psychological defense, suffering, hatred and anger are repressed into the unconscious, where they continue to act with destructive force. We need to admit the guilt of the person who wronged us.
As Gabriel Ruben explains, this awareness gives us the opportunity to "bring the blame back to the abuser and thereby restore a relationship with ourselves." In addition, it will avoid the development of psychosomatic illnesses or behaviors that lead to repeated failures in work and in relationships.
Forgiving is about taking care of your health. Psychologists have found consistent physiological differences between the states of non-forgiveness and forgiveness. At one recollection of the offender, the activity of the cardiovascular system was disturbed in all subjects. These changes became very significant when they thought about revenge.
To stop being offended, you need to get angry. Feeling angry at first is even helpful, it speaks of mental health and the fact that you do not deny what happened and do not bear the blame of others. Therefore, acknowledge and “release” your suffering.
Of course, such an opportunity to directly express your anger to the offender, to express reproaches rarely falls out. He may not consider himself guilty or have such strong power over us that we dare not resist him.
However, we can help ourselves using a variety of techniques for dealing with resentment.
Stop feeling guilty. Forgiving means being able to forgive yourself. Here it is important to find out what was hurt - your pride, reputation, honor or bodily boundaries? “The answer to this question can help to get rid of the feeling of guilt, that is, to realize that we are not responsible for what happened to us,” says psychoanalyst Nicole Fabre.
Forgiving is understanding who has wronged you. Natural reactions of anger and anger help us to stop being offended, but if we feel hatred for a long time, it will lead to self-destruction. To avoid this, it is useful to understand the motives of the one who offended you, to see his weaknesses, to comprehend the act that hurt us, which will help to forgive him.
How do we know if we have really forgiven and stopped being offended?
If we no longer feel anger or anger towards the one who made us suffer, and “if the feeling of our guilt about what happened has disappeared,” adds Ruben, then we can assume that we have forgiven.
Psychologists do not get tired of repeating that forgiveness is needed not by the offender, but by ourselves.
“To forgive is to free the 'prisoner' and discover that you were the 'prisoner'" © Lewis B. Smides
Forgiveness is a release in which pain dissolves and helps the survivor to become the master of his life, to stop enduring and suffering, or even become stronger.
Learn to forgive
“Well, how can you forgive this? How can you forget ?! " - in a fit of righteous anger exclaims the Victim of the villain. And although the "terrible episode" took place during the Ice Age, she still cherishes it in her memory.
We carry some grievances for years and decades, lovingly folding and sorting them from time to time, like heirlooms. At the right time, we take them out and demonstrate to others.
It only seems to us that over time all our experiences pass away, are forgotten forever. Unfortunately, they do not pass, they are not forgotten.
After all, what is a strong experience? This is an unconscious tension of our entire body, a kind of blow to the body. But the blow is not from the outside, but from the inside. The body did not deserve this blow, because it did everything correctly, it was some other person who did something that did not coincide with your predictions! He did, and you beat yourself! Probably, according to the principle: hit your own - strangers will be afraid. Unfortunately, they won't. And your body, which you constantly harass with your endless experiences, sooner or later gets sick. He is tired of such a life, and he ages faster or through illness tries to divert your attention from new experiences. Does your body deserve such an attitude towards itself?
What should be done in order not to engage in internal self-flagellation? You just need to learn not to take offense at people for their "wrong", in your opinion, behavior. Understandably, this contradicts all your previous experiences and what other people have told you. And the thought also appears that if you forgive everyone, they will quickly sit on your neck. And who wants that? So there are many internal arguments against forgiveness and in defense of your position. No one wants to change himself, everyone strives to remake the other according to his own understanding. And although few people do it, people try again and again.
"I am offended." Think about this phrase. What does the word "offended" mean? It has the ending "sya", which means that it is a word with a return meaning. It denotes an action directed at oneself, for example: "washed" - washed himself, "dressed" - dressed himself, "combed" - combed his hair. That is, he did something to himself. Offended means offended himself.
It was not someone else who offended you, it was you who offended yourself! You made a decision to offend yourself. You regarded him as offending your dignity and decided to take offense.
Therefore, if the other person has done something that, in your opinion, does not fit into any gate, DO NOT OFTEND YOURSELF. And not because it is impossible to be offended. Can! Nobody forbids! But you will only make it worse for yourself. Of course, if you have nowhere to put your energy, health and free time, if you have all this in abundance and you want to put it somewhere, offend yourself.
If you have offended yourself and you liked it, forgive me. Just realize that you will no longer offend yourself, that it is not profitable for you, that there is no benefit from it.
For forgiveness, you can use a very simple formula. It has the following form: “With love and gratitude, I forgive (the name of the one you forgive) and accept him as he is. I apologize to (name) for my thoughts and emotions towards him. " This formula must be mentally repeated many, many times until you stop thinking and remembering the offender. Or you will not stop responding to his words or actions if he is next to you. Sometimes such forgiveness takes dozens of hours of mental work - it is clear that not immediately, but in small portions, 10-15 minutes each.
FORGIVING DOESN'T MEAN APPROVING ACTIONS YOU DO NOT LIKE. You don't have to approve of things that don't make you happy. Although outwardly, you may well express your disapproval. You have the right to do so! (But in your soul you should have complete calmness or even sympathy.)
If you think that the other person has telepathic abilities and can read your thoughts, that he will understand all the erroneousness of his actions, you are mistaken. If you remain silent all the time, it won't even occur to him that you don't like it.
Instead of being offended (hurting yourself), open your mouth and say!
If you are constantly dissatisfied with yourself and take offense at yourself, consider yourself unworthy, not a good enough person, then do not be surprised that you have no money and personal life, success and interesting friends. Why would an unworthy person need all this? Will cost! Let him sit in a dark corner and keep quiet. If you yourself have decided that you are not good enough, then Life will not argue with you.
As long as people love, they forgive.
A woman forgives only when she is guilty.
To be wrong is a human property, to forgive is a property of the gods.
Forgive, and do not judge, and you will not be judged.
If you're going to love someone, learn to forgive first.
What you cannot forgive yourself is quickly forgotten.
Do not judge, and you will not be judged; do not condemn, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven.
If anyone has offended you, take revenge with courage. Remain calm - and this will be the beginning of your vengeance, then forgive - this will be the end of it.
If a woman has already forgiven the man, she should not remind him of his sins at breakfast.
Free Sayings of Forgiveness
Forgiveness from the Lord must be asked every day ... And for what - there will always be.
Nothing is more reluctant to forgive than differences of opinion.
Free sayings of the greats about forgiveness
A man forgives and forgets, a woman forgives and nothing more.
Not all forgiveness has sincerity, just as not all sincerity brings pleasure.
To forgive is not to forget.
The people can forgive writers a lot, but they cannot forgive silence at a time when their fate is being decided.
People will forgive you everything that does not concern them.
We easily forgive those with whom we are bored, but we never forgive those who are bored with us.
Least of all, we forgive others for the mistakes that we ourselves made.
People find it most difficult to forgive us the bad things they said about us.
Not forgiving anyone and forgiving everyone is equally cruel.
God will forgive me, this is His specialty.
Those whose opinion I value will not apologize for harsh words, they simply will never say them.
I do not forgive her that I loved her.
Forgiving enemies is a wonderful feat; but there is a feat even more beautiful, even more human - this is the understanding of enemies, because understanding is at once forgiveness, justification,.
Free funny sayings about forgiveness
A man can be forgiven for stupidity if he is well paid.
Forgiving your enemy, wave your hand to him.
Whoever he laughed at, he has already forgiven him, he is even ready to love him.
Several apologies are less convincing than one.
Goodbye to others a lot, nothing to yourself.
You can forgive treason, but you can’t take offense.
Parents are most reluctant to forgive their children for the flaws that they themselves have instilled in them.
Forgive your enemies - you may still have to work together.
The more you forgive, the higher you fly.
Goodbye to others often, to yourself - never.
We must forgive those whom you cannot take revenge on.
We often forgive those who bore us, but we can never forgive those who bore us.
We easily forgive the harm done to us in the past and powerless dislike.
Forgiving a misdemeanor encourages the worst.
A person can forgive a person everything except bad prose.
The evil done to you is as easy to forgive as it is to others. It is much more difficult to forgive people for the evil that we ourselves have caused them; this really requires a lot of fortitude.
True love forgives all crimes except the crime against love.
A woman can forgive a man for the evil that he caused her, but she does not forgive the sacrifices that he brought to her.
Whoever laughs forgives everything.
A woman forgives everything, but she often reminds that she has forgiven.
He would rather forgive you the meanness he did to you than the good you did to him.
To be wrong is human, to forgive is divine. Alexander Pop
The ability to forgive is a property of the strong. The weak never forgive.
A person becomes not when God forgives him all mistakes, delusions and sins, but when a person forgives God all the evil, grief and suffering to which he, by His will, has undergone in this world.
Women do not forgive us for our mistakes - or even their own.
For all boys, guys and men, multiple apologies are less convincing than one.
Free cute sayings about forgiveness
Failure to forgive others is an unforgivable miscalculation of character.
Infidelity is forgiven, but not forgotten.
God can forgive us our sins, but the nervous system never.
He who takes revenge sometimes regrets the perfect; one who forgives never regrets it.
Men who do not forgive women for their small faults will never enjoy their great virtues.
There are people to whom we forgive, and there are people to whom we do not forgive. The ones we don't forgive are our friends.
To forgive executioners is to punish yourself.
I beg your pardon for being right ...
They asked one elder: "What is humility?" He said: "If yours sins against you, and you forgive him before he repented."
Forgiveness is the strongest of all victories.
No matter how demanding people are in love, they still forgive more faults to those they love than to those with whom they are friends.
God will forgive people - never.
Beware of the person who did not respond to your blow: he will never forgive you and will not allow himself to be forgiven.
Free wise sayings about forgiveness
I would rather forgive the one who inflicted a wound on the enemy, and not the one who dreams of planting a boil on him: there is not only an evil soul, but also an insignificantly small soul.
She can never forgive those who are innocent.
All gratitude is in eternal return and in the inability to leave ... Sage! I am not asking for forgiveness ... He who is wise has forgiven without words.
Everything can be experienced except death, and people are ready to forgive you everything, except for an unblemished reputation.
I can forgive, but I cannot forget.
Enemies should be forgiven, but not before they hang out on the gallows.
Forgive those who say bad things about you, but not those who tell you about it.
Everyone forgives me, no one helps.
It is very easy to forgive others for their mistakes; it is much more difficult to forgive them for witnessing our mistakes.
To understand is to forgive; it is an excuse for any evil. But in order to judge it is necessary - to understand.
Life has taught me a lot to forgive, but even more - to seek forgiveness.
To understand everything is to forgive.
Mistakes are not forgiven to those in relation to whom they are allowed.
QUOTES ABOUT FORGIVENESSForgiveness brings hope:
“Forgiveness is an act of imagination. Dare to envision a better future based on the blessed opportunity that your world will not be limited to pain alone.
Larry James
"Although no one can go back and start a fresh start, anyone can start from now and make the best of the finish."
Karl Bard
"Forgiveness is the release of hopes for a better past."
Alexa Yong
Forgiveness is not always wise:
“By forgiving, you are giving up the grudge you have a right to and giving the person who wronged you a friendship they didn’t deserve.”
Robert Enrit
“Forgiveness is often illogical and unnatural because you are faced with the forgiveness of the unforgivable. Also, anger, guilt, reproach and revenge only make your pain worse. Forgiveness is the only medicine that will ease your pain. "
Mahatma das
By forgiving, you grow:
"Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you were."
Cherie Chatrer-Scott
“As difficult as it sounds, you can be sure of it: in the depths of your heart, you have the power to rise above the old understandings that still hold back your freedom. The hardest part is something that pushes you up, beyond your boundaries - these are the very things that you need to make a quantum leap into a new inner and outer life. "
Dr. Childrie and Howard Martin
“Many people are afraid to forgive because they feel they need to remember bad things or otherwise they will never learn anything. The opposite is true. Through forgiveness, we release the bad from our strong emotional grip - and then we can learn something. Through the strength and intelligence of the heart, the release of forgiveness expands the mind, which makes it possible to work with the situation more effectively. "
David McArthur and Bruce McArthur
“The Lord creates an enemy so that we will always remain resolute - and humble. To love the enemy is to defy natural interpretation. Trying to do this brings us into the realm of the supernatural. "
R.T. Kendel
Forgiveness is a noble deed:
"Never does a human soul show itself so strong and so noble as when it refuses revenge and dares to forgive the evil done."
Edwin Hubbel Chapin
"A person is never as beautiful as when he prays for forgiveness, or even when he forgives another."
Gene Paul Richter
"Forgiveness is perhaps the greatest virtue on earth, and without a doubt the most essential."
Gordon B. Hinckley
“The weak can never forgive. The ability to forgive is the hallmark of the strong. "
Mahatma Gandhi
"The first qualification of those who advance in God consciousness is to forgive the offender."
A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami
"The Lord is pleased with the one who forgives."
A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami
To forgive means to throw away all bad things from memory:
"Forgiveness should be like an unnecessary note - cut in half and burn so that no one else can see."
Henry Ward Beecher
"I realized that you are arguing with your spouse (or wife), the first of them to say:" Forgive me, I hurt your feelings, please forgive me! "- he won."
“Resentment is when you are right and they are wrong. As long as you want to be right, you will not forgive. As long as you feel the need to tell others how wrong or how bad your abuser did, you will not forgive. When the moment comes to forgive and when the moment of peace comes, being right becomes wrong. "
Mahatma das
"Love is an act of endless forgiveness."
Peter Ustov
Forgiveness sets you free:
"To forgive is to free the prisoner and discover that you were the prisoner."
Lewis B. Smedes
“Until you completely forgive, you will be in chains. Leave them and you will be liberated. "
Joseph Tson
“Forgiveness frees and empowers the energy that was once wasted in sustaining grievances, hiding grievances, and caring for unhealed wounds. It re-opens the powers that we have always had, and redirects our boundless abilities to understand and accept other people and ourselves. "
“Metaphorically, this is the curtain between the room you live in now and the new room, which is bigger and full of beautiful things. The act of forgiveness removes this curtain. By dealing with your old bills, you can release so much energy that you just jump right into a whole new home. Forgiveness frees you from punishment in your own prison, where you are both a jailer and a prisoner. "
Sydney and Susan Simon
To forgive is to follow the Golden Rule:
"Treat others' shortcomings and mistakes as gently as you would your own."
Chinese proverb
"If you cannot shape yourself, how can you expect people to love you?"
Thomas a Kempis
“If we apply the principle:“ an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth, ”then most of the world will remain blind and toothless.”
Mahatma Gandhi
“I have always found that mercy bears richer fruits than harsh justice. We want (ask) justice for others, and mercy for ourselves. "
Mahatma das
Forgiveness means compassion:
“Oh, Lord, please forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing!”;
“Through forgiveness, love is born!”;
"Farewell, and you will be forgiven!";
"Forgive your enemies!"
Jesus Christ
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
"Compassion is the antitoxin of the soul: where there is compassion, even the most poisonous urges become relatively harmless."
Eric Hofer
"Forgiveness is the scent of a violet that hits the heel that crushes it."
Mark Twain
"The mind must be trained to think about the welfare of others."
A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupada
"Rest assured, if you knew everything, you would forgive everything."
Thomas A. Kempis
“Who am I to impose punishment (in the form of revenge) on others? When this attitude is combined with compassion, forgiveness begins to germinate. ”
Jaiva Dharma
“If we have a little time and a little more discernment, we begin to see ourselves and our enemies from a simpler perspective. In fact, we are not at all as innocent as we first thought when we were offended. And there is no that terrible, huge monster to forgive; before us is a weak, poor and somewhat stupid person. When you see your enemy and yourself in the weakness and stupidity of a person, the same for both, the miracle of forgiveness will be a little easier to accomplish. "
Lewis B. Smedes
"Let me desire nothing but the best good for my worst enemies."
A vengeful mind will destroy spiritual consciousness:
“Tolerance means that the transcendentalist (spiritualist) must be able to forgive. The material world is full of confusing and frustrating situations. And if a person is not very inclined to be forgiving, he will become infected with a vengeful mood of the mind, which will destroy his spiritual consciousness. "
Hridayananda dasa Goswami
At peace with your karma:
"Don't blame the provider of your karma."
A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami
"If someone bit his tongue with his lips, who to be angry with for his suffering?"
A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami
"We want (ask) justice for others, and mercy for ourselves."
Mahatma das
We hate in others what we hate in ourselves:
"Most of our suspicions about others come from what we know about ourselves."
Unknown
“If you hate a person, you hate that which is part of yourself. That which is not a part of ourselves does not cause us anxiety. "
Hermann Hesse
“Only imperfection complains about something imperfect. The more perfect we are, the softer and calmer we become in relation to the shortcomings of others. "
Joseph Edison
The pain you give is the pain you receive:
“My dear son, do not wish anything unfavorable to others. Anyone who hurts others suffers from this pain himself. "
Suniti - Dhruve
"If you are at war with others, you cannot be at peace with yourself." "The hatred that you carry in yourself, like a burning coal in your heart, harms you more than others."
Labana Blackwell
"If you kill a skunk, your hands will stink."
Indian proverb
"How will you live today if you are forgiven exactly to the extent that you have forgiven others?"
Mahatma das
The person you hate is destroying you:
"I will not allow any person to belittle my soul by forcing me to hate myself."
Booker T. Washington
“If you hate, you will give your mind and heart to your enemy. Don't give these two things away. "
Nelson Mandela
“When you hold a grudge against someone, you are attached to that person or situation with an emotional bond that has become stronger. Forgiveness is the only way to break this bond and become free. "
Katerina Pander
“Look inward. Correct yourself rather than pry into others' faults. When other people's shortcomings confuse and mislead you, have patience, observe yourself and find your shortcomings. Know that others cannot harm you as long as you do not harm yourself. "
Bhaktisiddhanta Sarasvati Thakura
"The man who chooses revenge must dig two graves."
Chinese proverb
“I imagine that one of the reasons people cling to their hatred so stubbornly is because they feel that once the hatred is gone, they will have to deal with pain.
James Baldwin
Everything in your mind:
"You know you have forgiven someone if he or she can harmlessly (calmly, without disturbing) pass through your mind."
“These people are not the cause of my happiness or grief. Not the demigods, not my own body, not the planets, not my past affairs, not the time. Rather, it is my mind alone that causes me happiness and sorrow, and keeps alternation in material life. Having failed in the fight against this restless enemy, a mind whose motives are unbearable, who torments the heart, many people are defeated and begin to have useless arguments with each other. Thus, they conclude that other people are either their friends or their enemies, or participants who are indifferent to them. "
