Parent meeting for parents of preschool children "The Basics of Education"

Preparing for the meeting
I. Conduct a survey:
1. What cultural behavior habits does your child have? Please provide examples. 2. Does your child know how to speak polite words? How do you achieve this? 3. What, in your opinion, is the main thing in developing the skills of cultural behavior and good manners? 4. What questions would you like answered at the meeting?
II. Make reminders colorful.
Memo for parents “Secrets of raising a polite child.”
III. Set up an exhibition:
“Books are assistants in instilling a culture of behavior in children”
IV. Make invitations for each family in the form of applications, designs, which contain the text of the invitation.
Dear parents!
With all the strength of your soul, of course, you want everything to be wonderful in your child. Therefore, we invite and will be very glad to see you at the “Basics of Education” meeting
V. Write down the children’s answers on disk.
VI. Write colorful thanks to parents for their success in instilling a culture of behavior in children.

Progress of the meeting:

1. Opening speech by teacher of the mini-center Nurbaeva S.Zh.
Good evening, dear parents! The hour has come when we all gathered together. We are glad to meet you. Your children love you very much, are proud of you, imitate you in everything, and we, who work with your children, share their feelings and recognize: you have something to love, something to be proud of, you really are a worthy example for your children, an example of goodwill , politeness, punctuality and responsiveness. We are pleased to note that during our entire work we have not encountered a single refusal to our requests: clear snow, repair toys, take part in competitions ( Christmas decorations, kindergarten emblem, drawing competition: “Family leisure”, Thank you.
2. A recording of children's answers to questions is turned on.
1. Children, what polite words do you know?
2. Who do you think is called a polite person? Do you consider yourself polite? Why?
3. Are adults polite when treating you? Why?
4. Think and tell me why polite words are called magic?
3. The teacher’s voice message is accompanied by music.
Yes, a polite word, like a good wizard, gives people a good mood, makes them happy and even heals them. “Nothing is so dear and so cheap as politeness.”
For many years, people created rules of behavior and etiquette, the purpose of which was, in addition moral qualities, kindness, sensitivity, cordiality, instill a sense of proportion and beauty in behavior, in clothing, in conversation, in receiving guests and setting the table - in a word, in everything with which we go out into society.
How important it was to comply with these rules is evidenced by the fact that 200–300 years ago, certain norms of behavior were equated with laws and citizens who did not comply with them were punished. Thus, the Tsar of the Russian Empire Peter I, in the “Indications for Everyday Conduct” published with his participation, indicated: “No one has the right to hang his head and lower his eyes, walk the streets or look askance at people...”

Are there any secrets to cultivating a culture of behavior in our time? This is what we will talk about today.
What is the main thing in developing good manners? Is it necessary to train a child in cultural behavior skills? How? Are methods such as conversations, punishments, and moral teaching successful in education?
4. Dramatization (the incident on the street is read by the teacher). The psychologist sums up the results.
Dramatization 1
Dear parents, we present two scenes to your attention.
Mom: Hello, Anna Ivanovna!
Alyosha, why don’t you say hello? Now say “Hello”! I'm waiting. Oh, my God, and who is he so stubborn in, not a child, but punishment only shames me. Well, tell me, how else can I teach him?
Dramatization 2 Two mothers talking:
- Hello, how are you?
- Fine. Aren't you in a hurry?
- No, what’s the rush, I’m walking with my child, we’re going shopping.
(The child, interrupting the conversation, pulls his mother’s sleeve)
- Mom, look at the boy’s gun. Buy me the same one.
- Don't poke your nose in when adults are talking. Oh, I was in the store yesterday. What a selection of dishes! I almost bought it.
Child:
- No, tell me, will you buy me such a gun? Buy it, tell me what you buy.
- Leave me alone, let me talk calmly, I'm tired of it. So, there’s just so much to be found at the market.
Child:
- Well, let's go to the store quickly, I want such a gun.
- What a child! Others’ children are like children, but mine can’t stand for a minute and won’t let me talk.
5. Speech by a psychologist. I am sure that most of you have seen approximately the same scenes in life... And parents do not always realize that they themselves are wrong in a given situation, and sometimes they do not consider it necessary to explain to their child what the right thing to do would be.

I would like to note the most effective methods that can be used in instilling a culture of behavior in children and introduce you to the leaflets “Secrets of Raising a Polite Child” (reads the leaflet and distributes them to parents).
The teacher talks about how praise helps achieve results. Praise your child and you will see how much faster the child will learn the rules of behavior and how great his desire to be brought up will be. Let the child receive the first portion of praise in the morning before coming to kindergarten, in the evening on the way home be sure to find an opportunity to praise, and at home in the presence of relatives, neighbors, friends - praise and praise, and then big changes will happen.

5. WINDOW – very short news on the topic: “Politeness and culture”
1. In what cases should you say “sorry” and “excuse me”? It turns out that if the offense is minor, then you need to say “sorry,” but if you are very guilty, then “sorry.”
2. It is not customary to offer slippers to guests. This is contrary to hospitality and speaks of bad taste.
3. To the questions: “how are you?”, “how is your health?”, “how are you feeling?” The answer should be short: “Thank you”, “fine”, “not very”, “wonderful”.
6. Analysis of children's behavior using chips.
And now we invite you, as if from the outside, to look at your children and analyze their behavior with the help of chips.
If the child follows the rule, then you pick up a red chip; if it does not always perform or is not entirely correct, it is green.
The child knows how to wash his hands, and always washes them before eating and after visiting the toilet. Able to dry himself with an unfolded towel. Folds clothes neatly. He always uses a handkerchief when he sneezes. He knows how to apologize in time and says this word with the right intonation and feeling of guilt. Does not interfere in the conversation unnecessarily, and in case of an urgent request - according to the rules, apologizing. Does not throw papers, wrappers, etc. outdoors or indoors.
Look at the colors to help you decide what to work on with your children using tried and tested examples, praise and exercises.
7. "Spicy dish" In the balls are questions about “spicy dishes”. The teacher suggests passing the balls to the music until the music stops. Whoever has the ball reads the question.
Questions:
When is it necessary to use a handkerchief?
Should you say "Bless you" if someone sneezes?
How to remove a thread if you notice it on the clothes of your interlocutor?
8. Presentation of letters of gratitude to parents for instilling a culture of behavior in their children.
(Teachers present certificates)
9. Final part of the meeting
The crystal hits the glass with a beam,
Carpets are scattered on the walls.
We know for sure what it costs.
And we forget about the priceless.
Culture is priceless, because it contains morality. “An ill-mannered person, a moral ignoramus, a half-educated person is the same as an airplane launched into flight with a damaged engine: he will die and bring death to people.” Is my child educated? Isn't society ashamed of him? Is he sensitive, attentive, and attentive? Everyone will have their own answer to these questions today, tomorrow, after many years, and it will depend on our desire and ability.
So may we, adults, have enough patience, love, and spiritual strength in order to raise our children to the heights of a culture of behavior.

Memo for parents “Secrets of raising a polite child.”

Your child will be polite and well-mannered if you, dear parents:
1. Behave sensitively towards everyone around you, especially towards your children.
2. Never insult the human dignity of your son or daughter, do not shout at the child, do not speak rude words in front of him or address him, and in no case use physical punishment as an educational measure.
3. Do not make endless comments on trivial matters, but, where possible, encourage your child’s independence.
4. Make uniform demands on children and, even if one of you does not agree with the other’s comments, then express this in the absence of the child.
5. Respect dignity little man, excluding the expressions: “You are still young,” “You don’t understand this yet,” “It’s too early for you.”
6. When making any demands on your child, make them on yourself, do not forget to tell the child: “ Good morning», « Good night", "Thank you for your help".
7. Instill the rules of cultural behavior in children systematically, and not occasionally.
We wish you success!

A survey followed by qualitative analysis is conducted by the curator of the study group in December for courses 1-9, 3-9 and 2-11. The results of the study are intended for the deputy director for educational work, curator of the educational group.

On the street and in public place

1. How do the boy and girl greet each other?

a) the girl gives her hand first;

b) the young man gives his hand first;

c) it is better to limit yourself to a nod of the head;

d) it is better to limit yourself to a verbal greeting.

2. Who extends their hand first when meeting someone?

a) junior - senior;

b) senior to junior;

c) superior to subordinate;

d) subordinate - to the boss.

3. Does a young man always stand up during an introduction?

a) always;

b) only when meeting a girl;

c) at your own discretion.

4. Can a young man, when meeting a girl, keep his free hand in his pocket?

b) can only if he has a wallet with a large sum of money in his pocket;

c) cannot - he must take his hand out of his pocket.

5. Can a young man say hello with a cigarette in his mouth?

a) maybe, especially if the cigarette is imported and expensive;

b) it is better to hold a cigarette in your hand, not in your mouth;

c) greetings and conversation with a cigarette are unacceptable.

6. Do you need to look a person in the eyes when greeting them?

a) of course, all your attention should be focused on the interlocutor;

b) not at all necessary - looking into the eyes can confuse your interlocutor;

c) giving for greeting right hand, it is better to look slightly to the left of the head of the person you are greeting - this will help both of you to avoid embarrassment.

7. Should you smile when greeting someone?

a) of course not - it’s not serious;

b) depending on your mood;

c) a friendly smile is always desirable.

8. Can a young man offer a gloved hand for a handshake?

a) maybe, if he shakes hands with a peer;

b) cannot;

c) maybe in severe frost.

9. Should a girl take off her glove when saying hello?

a) should not;

b) must if she wants to show respect to the one with whom she greets, especially if this person is older than her;

c) may not be removed if the air temperature is below -50 °C.

10. Is it possible not to accept a hand extended for a handshake?

b) it is impossible;

c) a woman can afford this in some cases.

11. What should a handshake be like when meeting someone?

a) strong and long lasting;

b) weak and short-lived;

c) tightly squeeze the hand of a new acquaintance and shake it for a few seconds, as if sealing the alliance;

d) the handshake should be friendly, but short.

12. How many times a day can you say hello to the same person?

a) only once - at the first meeting;

b) every time we meet;

c) several times, if meetings are separated by more or less significant periods of time.

13. Should you say hello to people you don’t know but meet often?

a) of course, it’s so natural;

b) why say hello if you don’t know the person?

c) this is possible if this person shows increased interest in you;

d) under no circumstances.

14. Should you say hello to an acquaintance when you see him in a car?

a) optional;

b) mandatory;

c) only if the acquaintance is not driving.

15. A stranger on the street greeted you, identifying himself. What should I do?

a) pretend that you did not notice the greeting;

b) respond with a greeting;

c) explain to the person his mistake.

16. You overtake someone you know walking down the street in front of you. Which of you two should say hello first?

a) the one who is overtaken;

b) the one who overtakes.

17. What should you do if you saw a friend too late and didn’t have time to say hello or respond to a greeting?

a) catch up, apologize and say hello;

b) pretend that everything is fine;

c) at the next meeting, explain and apologize.

18. Is it possible to introduce two people by simply bringing them near each other and, without naming names, inviting them to introduce themselves?

a) it is quite possible;

b) the person introducing them to each other is obliged to introduce everyone;

c) the person introducing them can do as he pleases.

19. Who greets first: those entering or those present?

a) of course, incoming;

b) the one who is more polite greets first;

c) the first to greet is the one present who first noticed the person entering.

20. Who says hello first, the one waiting or the one who is late?

a) of course, the one who is waiting - he is more ready for this;

b) of course, late - to mitigate his tardiness;

c) if a girl is late, she still doesn’t say hello first.

21. How to introduce your friends to your parents?

a) introduce parents to friends;

b) introduce friends to parents;

c) bring your parents and friends together as if by chance and leave them - let them get to know each other on their own.

22. How does the child introduce himself?

a) states his full name;

b) says first and last name;

c) names the first name, last name and patronymic.

23. What to do if you have an “emergency” on the street (a shoe lace comes undone, the strap of a sundress comes off, the handle of a bag, etc.)?

a) ask passers-by for help;

b) without paying attention, carefully continue moving;

c) apologize to your companion, step aside and correct.

24. How to behave if you meet a good friend on a crowded street?

a) go to a cafe to talk there;

b) step aside and talk;

c) find a park and sit down for a conversation on a bench.

25. Is it possible to touch your interlocutor during a conversation, clap him on the shoulder or knee?

a) it is indecent, especially if the interlocutor is an unfamiliar person;

b) it is possible, since this is how you express special treatment to the interlocutor;

c) is possible only in response to similar gestures from your interlocutor.

26. You sneezed, and those nearby wished: “Be healthy!” What should I do?

a) pretend that they didn’t hear;

b) thank;

c) apologize.

27. At what distance should the interlocutors be?

b) the closer, the better - if you hear the interlocutor’s breathing, you will be able to understand him better;

c) the optimal distance is about half a meter, this is the distance that allows you to speak calmly and naturally.

28. Which side should you keep when walking down a street or corridor?

b) right;

c) middle.

29. Is it possible to eat outside?

a) it’s impossible;

b) you can, if you really want to;

c) it’s possible if it’s something special (candy, ice cream, bun, etc.).

30. There is a crush at the door of the classroom. For one group, the lesson has ended and the students are leaving, for the other, the lesson is starting, the students are entering. Who should give in?

a) those who enter;

b) those who go out;

c) those entering and exiting move carefully towards each other.

31. What should you do if you need to say something from a long distance - across the corridor, across the street?

a) shout louder;

b) do not shout, but show with gestures;

c) come closer and say.

32. On which side should you avoid oncoming pedestrians?

a) it doesn’t matter, the main thing is not to disturb passers-by;

b) on the right;

c) from the left.

Away

1. If you come to visit someone and they invite you to dinner or treat you to something, should you refuse or accept the invitation?

a) of course, refuse;

b) unconditionally accept the invitation;

c) accept the invitation, but then leave soon, without burdening the hosts with a long stay.

2. Is it possible to come to visit with a complete stranger to the hosts?

a) it’s possible if you just met him on the street;

b) it is possible by first asking permission from the owners;

c) you can’t - it’s impolite.

3. It's your holiday. Is it possible to greet guests in house slippers?

a) of course, this emphasizes the comfort and warmth of the home environment;

b) no, you need to wear the most dressy shoes intended for special occasions;

c) in no case is it possible; you need to take off your slippers and put on your shoes.

4. It's your holiday. Should invited guests be offered slippers?

a) of course, they will be pleased with your concern;

b) only if you have several pairs of new slippers for guests;

c) there is no need to offer slippers: guests must take care of their own shoes.

5. Is it possible to talk on the phone in the presence of guests?

a) you can, let them know how many friends you have and what an irreplaceable person you are;

b) it is impossible; apologize and ask to call you back at another time;

c) you can do it at the end of the evening, when you are pretty tired of the guests and there is no other way to let them know that you are tired of them.

6. Should the TV be on when receiving guests?

a) yes, especially if the TV is a prestigious brand;

b) no, the TV cannot be turned on if there are guests in the house;

c) you can turn on the TV if there is a program that interests the majority of guests.

7. How long should late guests wait?

a) as much as the guests who have already arrived will endure;

b) 15 minutes;

c) you shouldn’t wait at all, guests shouldn’t be late.

8. You are late, and the guests are already sitting at the table. How to behave in this case?

a) you need to go around all the guests and say hello to everyone;

b) sit in the seat assigned to you as if nothing had happened;

c) say hello to the owners and apologize for being late.

9. Your guest accidentally broke a cup. How to proceed?

a) rejoice - the dishes beat for happiness;

b) remove the fragments and replace the cup without comment;

c) pretend that you didn’t notice anything.

10. If guests brought cake or sweets, is it necessary to put sweets on the table?

a) optional, if cake and sweets have already been prepared for dessert;

b) necessarily - out of politeness.

11. What to do if you need to leave your guests early?

a) prepare all guests for your departure in advance;

b) ask the hosts to explain your situation to all guests;

c) leave unnoticed, saying goodbye to the owners.

Contestant:

Rogozhnikova Lyudmila Gennadievna

Deputy Head

on educational and methodological work;

MAOU DO children kindergarten “Iskorka”;

Omutinsky district

Target: increasing the pedagogical competence of parents on the problem of moral education of preschoolers in a kindergarten and family.

Tasks:

• Update the concept of “politeness”.
• Remind parents of the basic rules of being a cultured, polite person.
• Consider techniques and methods for teaching the basics of politeness in a family setting.

Form of conduct: game "Brain - ring"

Participants: parents of the older group

Event plan:

1. I.Preparatory stage

1.1. Conducting micro-research

• Parent survey (Appendix 1)
• Survey of children (Appendix 2)

1.2. Pedagogical comprehensive education “Lessons in politeness and beauty”

1.3. Selection of quotes

• “The ability to behave adorns and costs nothing” (proverb)
• “Parents are like a tuning fork for a child: the way they sound, that’s how the child will respond.”
• “A good example is the best sermon” (A. Chekhov)
• “The educator himself must be educated” (K, Marx)
• “True education consists not so much in rules as in exercises” (J. Rousseau)

1. II.Main stage: game Brain - ring

Progress of the event

1. 1. Warm up.

Good evening, dear parents! We are pleased to note that you responded to our request and came to our meeting. We're glad to see you!

Now we will visit a fabulous city. Residents of this fabulous city are distinguished by the fact that, while walking around the city, they greet each other in different parts bodies. Let's try to be residents of this city. The music is playing, and you and I are freely walking along its “streets.” When clapping your hands, you must greet each other according to the spoken word.

The music of V. Shainsky “Smile” is playing, parents walk freely around the hall, at the signal “clap their hands” they say hello:

- eyes

- noses

- shoulders

- foreheads

- butts

- backrests

- knees

So you greeted each other, and this lifted everyone’s spirits and made them feel joyful. We must always remember that we must treat other people with warmth and consideration, so that this kind attitude will return back to us.

But before we start our meeting, let's decide on the topic. I suggest playing the game "Association"

1. Game "Association"

Rules of the game: “Passing the ball in a circle, you must name the words that you associate with the word “politeness”

Associations - compassion, truth, beauty, decency, tact, goodwill, thank you, hello, compliance, joy, kindness...... . Politeness is a manifestation of respect, willingness to provide a service on time, delicacy, tact, timely and appropriate speech. Politeness is the art of behaving in society. (As the name goes, daisy petals open)

Q: A polite word, like a kind wizard, gives a good mood, makes people happy and even heals them. “Nothing is so dear and nothing is so cheap as politeness.” Thus, Peter the Great, in the “Indications for Everyday Conduct” published with his participation, indicated: “No one has the right to walk the streets with his head hanging and his eyes downcast, or to look askance at people.”

For many years, people created rules of etiquette, the purpose of which was to instill the moral qualities of kindness, sensitivity, to instill a sense of proportion and beauty in behavior, in clothing, in conversation, in receiving guests - in a word, in everything with which a person enters society. And so, I think that you have already guessed that the conversation will be about simple things that we encounter every day, but do not always give them due importance, about politeness. And I suggest you play the brain-ring game “The ABC of Politeness”, during which we will define the concepts of “good manners”, “culture of behavior”, “politeness”.

1. 2. Main part: Game Brain – ring “ABC of politeness”

Rules of the game:

The game involves 2 teams. The team that raised its hand first answers. If there is a correct answer, choose a topic. The questions are divided by topic. Each question is worth a certain number of points.

During the game there is a sector:

“Pig in a poke” - a team has the right to transfer the question to another team

"Question - auction"- the team sets a price, but not lower than the nominal price and not higher than the amount of points available on the team’s account.

“Own game” - the team has the right to reduce or increase the price of the issue at its discretion.

And so, let’s begin: You are offered six topics to choose from: “The ABCs of Politeness”, “Cultivating Politeness”, “Proverbs and Sayings about Politeness”, “Child is an Adult”, “Good Manners”, “Children’s Helpline” (teams take turns choosing a topic and the number of points to evaluate the question)

I.The ABC of Politeness.

* 10 – “L” - remove your elbows from the table when eating

* 20 – “Z” - say hello when you meet; yawn, cover your mouth with your hand

* 30 - "I" - when going to visit, warn; when meeting someone, say your first name first, then your last name

* 40 – “B” - sighing and rolling your eyes to the sky when talking is ugly; hair must be combed

* 50 – “T” - “you” - they say to friends

II. Upbringingpoliteness

* 10 - What is politeness?

• this is a sign of respect
• willingness to provide a service to someone who needs it
• the art of behaving in society.

* 20 - Who or what, in your opinion, is the main thing in education good manners?

Parents. A child, a great observer and imitator, notices any of his mother’s and father’s actions and words, and adopts their judgments and behavior.

* 30 - Where should one begin to develop a culture of behavior? “Raising a child must begin with the creation polite, kind, tolerant, sympathetic and affectionate family atmosphere. And plus, taking into account the age of the children, start with creating the spirit of the game, with a friendly, lively fairy tale. It is the game and the fairy tale that should become good helpers in raising children. Let the fairy Hello sometimes appear in the room, in whose magic apron there is a secret. The next time the child sees an umbrella left by the fairy, and attached to it is a note with humorous remarks, indicating the rules in which he made a mistake. You can hang up a mask every day - an assessment: if the baby behaved perfectly, a smiling fairy mask will appear, if he behaves badly - a dragon mask,” this advice was given by the author of the book “The ABC of Politeness” Smirnova - Gangnus

* 40 - Name effective methods of culture education behavior? Our behavior, actions, attitude towards each other are stronger than any moralizing conversations; first of all - an example, then a demonstration with a clear explanation and organization of the exercise.

* 50 – Remember and name works of art with a clear example of good manners?

(V. Mayakovsky “What is good and what is bad?”, V. Oseeva “Work Warms”, V. Oseeva “The Magic Word”, V. Oseeva “Just an Old Lady”, L. Tolstoy “Jump”)

III. Proverbs and sayings about politeness (finish)

* 10 - courtesy opens ….(all doors)

* 20 - a kind word and ….(the cat is pleased)

* 30 - a kind word heals, but ….(evil cripples)

* 40 is a bad word ….(dirty water)

* 50 - with a kind word and …..(melt the honey)

IV. Child - adult (solving pedagogical situations)

* 10 - During a walk, dad and Seryozha bought a bouquet of flowers for grandma: favorite flowers given by a grandson will bring great joy. After lunch, Seryozha, with his father’s help, washed the dishes so that his mother could rest. And in the evening, when they were drinking tea, the boy treated all family members to the chocolate given to him. – Who do you think helped the child bring joy to his loved ones, and does he need it?(Father)

Small signs of attention convince mutual love. Don’t forget to make your children happy yourself: give them a pencil or a book, play their favorite game, treat them to ice cream or an apple.

* 20 - In the morning, five-year-old Irishka gets ready for kindergarten. Grandma sees her putting on her mother's hat.

Beautiful? Does it suit me? - asks the girl.

No, it's not beautiful. Only adults wear such hats, says the grandmother.

No beautiful! I like! I'll go in it. , - the girl repeats.

Then the grandmother gives her her mother’s shoes and says in a serious tone

This hat and shoes need matching ones. Try it on and it will be beautiful!

Irishka looks questioningly; the seriousness of her grandmother’s tone leaves the girl perplexed. And then she says:

Well, grandma, you are funny! Then put on my shoes!

Both laugh. The brewing conflict is dissipated.

What helped resolve this conflict situation.

Humor.

- Is there humor in your relationships? Give examples.

* 30 - In the evening, children are taken home from kindergarten. "You are so kind! Thank you!" - the mother says to her son, who treated her to the candy he received for his afternoon snack. “You are the most wonderful daughter,” another mother joyfully whispers to her baby, “I missed you,” “Well, dirty little girl, let’s go home, we’ll have to wash your pants again,” the third is nervous. Short moments of an evening meeting, but how much they can tell about families. Your opinion about the order established in the family. Will such a family atmosphere contribute to the development of a culture of behavior? Why?

* 40 - Two grandmothers walking with their grandchildren on the street. One constantly grumbles: sometimes the day is too hot, sometimes it’s very rainy, sometimes it’s incredibly cold, sometimes it’s dirty, sometimes it’s boring. Another: lives by the principle “Nature has no bad weather” and enjoys communicating with her grandson. What do you think both kids will take from this communication?

P the baby develops a cheerful perception of life.

Indeed, those who received a charge of cheerfulness, joy and energy in childhood will cope with any difficulties and solve the most difficult problems in life.

* 50 - Six-year-old Vitalik, seeing his mother in the dressing room of the kindergarten in the evening, does not forget to ask her:

Well, does your leg hurt today? Invites her to sit while he gets dressed, and then takes the package from her hands.

I’ll help you carry it, otherwise it’s hard for you.

His mother approves of him.

You are an attentive, caring son. I'm proud of you.

What moral qualities were demonstrated in the child’s actions? Is his mother right to encourage him for his action? What will she achieve with this? How does your child react in similar cases?

Sensitivity.

After asking about praise.

A famous children's poetess wrote in one of her poems: “When things don't go well, praise helps me.” Is it possible to agree that we should praise the child in advance when not everything works out, or should we praise only for the result? How often do you praise your child and why? (independence, attention, politeness)

Game "Praise the child" (passing a toy - a doll in a circle, say words expressing praise)

Q: Not a single day without praise, without words of admiration. This should be your motto. Don't skimp on words of praise for your child. and you will see how quickly he will learn the norms and rules of behavior

V. Good manners.

* 10 – What is sensitivity?

Caring for people, the ability to help, the ability to sympathize.

How do you cultivate this quality in your children?

The following techniques will help in nurturing this quality in children: “Help grandma”, “Share with your brother”, “Mom is tired, don’t make noise, play quietly”

* 20 – What is modesty?

The ability to soberly evaluate oneself, never try to attract attention to oneself at any cost, high demands on oneself.

When raising children, develop in them the ability to take into account the opinion of the majority, to act well not for the sake of praise, not to brag about their successes, beautiful dress or a toy.

* 30 – What the hell good manners is missing from the child?

He examines one of the adults with undisguised curiosity, expresses his opinion aloud about those present, and points his finger at a passerby.

Whoever comes to the house rushes to the door and expectantly looks at what they brought him, pulls the guest into the room, tries to completely capture his attention.

Delicacy.

Delicacy - do not show too much curiosity; do not force a conversation if the person is not inclined to do so; Don't demand a lot of attention.

* 40 – How can a child’s behavior be assessed in one word if he: does not insist on the immediate fulfillment of his desire, knows how to wait, does not interrupt the conversation of adults, comes to the rescue in time...

Tact

* 50 – Analyze the situation. Which trait is formed and which is missing?

An elegant, lively woman, accompanied by a naval officer, enters the tram; The girl gets up when she sees her.

Sit down please!

Well...Thank you...No need...

Sit down, sit down. I always give up my seat to the elderly.

The animation on the woman’s face fades.

(Sensitivity - yes, tactfulness - no.)

VI. Children's helpline

* 10 – “Friends will come to my birthday party on Saturday. Tell me what games can be played to make it interesting for everyone.”(parents offer options for games with children)

Game "Blind Man's Bluff"

* 20 – “Is it possible to tilt a plate of soup while eating? Which way? (You can do this, but you need to tilt the plate away from you so as not to spill food on your clothes)

* 30 – “How should you accept gifts?(unwrap the wrapped gift, examine it and thank the person who brought it: he is also interested in whether he liked the gift?)

* 40 – “What should I do if I got on the bus and saw that my friends were standing on the back platform. Should I say hello to them? And how to do this?(you need to say hello, but don’t shout across the entire bus)

* 50 – In what cases should you say “sorry” and “excuse me”

(if the offense is minor, you need to say “sorry”; if you are very guilty, “sorry”)

3. Final part. Reflection.

Time flies quickly. Children are growing up, and the time will come when they, having become adults, will come to you for advice on raising their children. What mistakes would you warn them against? What advice would you give?

Game "Continue the Phrase"

- Passing the ball around, finish the phrase “For a child to grow up well-mannered, you need.....

At the end of our game, I give you reminders: “Rules for raising a polite person”, “Rules of communication in the family” (Appendix 3)

Q: Culture is priceless, because it contains morality. “A moral person, a moral ignorant, a half-educated person is the same as an airplane launched into flight with a damaged engine: he will die and bring death to people.” Is my child brought up? Is he sensitive, attentive, and attentive? Each of you will have your own answer to these questions tomorrow, after many years, and it will depend on your desire and skill. So may you adults have enough strength, patience and love.

Literature:

• Nasonkina S. Etiquette lessons. – St. Petersburg: Aksident, 1998
• Cherenkova E. Lessons on etiquette and politeness for children.” - M., DOM.XXIvek, 2006
• Ostrovskaya L. Conversations with parents about moral education preschooler, - M., Education, 1987
• Pushnikova V. Etiquette for little ones, - Tyumen: Tyumen University Publishing House, 2000
• Encyclopedia “Good manners for the little ones”, M., Belfuks, 1997

Annex 1

Questionnaire for parents.

1. What is politeness, tact, sensitivity, delicacy?
2. What habits of a cultured person does your child have?
3. What and who is most important in developing the skills of cultural behavior and good manners?
4. What are the methods you use to instill good manners in your child?
5. What difficulties do you experience in instilling cultural behavior skills?

Appendix 2

Survey of children

1. What polite words do you know?
2. Who is a polite person?
3. Are you polite?
4. Do adults treat you politely?
5. Why are polite words called polite?
6. What would you ask mom or dad when teaching good manners?

Appendix 3

Memo 1

Rules

raising a polite person

1. Do not insult the human dignity of your son or daughter. Never yell at him. Do not speak rude words in front of him, much less when addressing him. Do not use physical methods of punishment.
2. Don't make endless comments about trivial matters. Encourage children's independence.
3. Be unanimous and consistent in your demands. Do not express disagreement in front of the child.
4. Before you make demands on your child, make them on yourself.
5. Show interest in the child’s life and problems - by imitating, he will very soon return this to you.
6. Be sincere: your apparent politeness and sensitivity to others is easily recognized by a child - he learns lies and hypocrisy.
7. Treat other people tactfully, be patient with other people's shortcomings: this will be a lesson in kindness and humanity for your child.
8. Don’t speak disrespectfully or badly about people: the child will grow up and begin to speak about you the same way.
9. Behavior is the moral measure of a person. Show nobility under any circumstances. Be an example for your child.

Memo 2

Rules of communication in the family.

1. Start your morning with a smile.
2. Don't think about your child with anxiety.
3. Know how to read your child.
4. Don't compare children to each other.
5. Praise often and from the heart.
6. Separate the child's behavior from his essence.
7. Experience the joy of doing activities together with your child.
8. Let your child know that he is the most loved and desired.
9. Do not be indifferent to the inner world and experiences of your children.

10. Try not to show your negative emotions to your children, do not set a bad example.

11. Try not to create situations in which the child can show his negative behavior.

12. Praise your child as much as possible, even for minor successes.

1. If you want to develop certain qualities in a child, try to treat him as if he has them.

Parent meeting on the topic: “Teach children politeness”

The ability to behave adorns and costs nothing (proverb)

Target : increasing the pedagogical competence of parents on the problem of moral education of schoolchildren in the conditions of school and family.

Tasks:

Update the concept of “politeness”.

Remind parents of the basic rules of being a cultured, polite person.

Consider techniques and methods for teaching the basics of politeness in a family setting.

Event plan:

I. Preparatory stage

1.1. Conducting micro-research

Parent survey (Appendix 1)

Survey of children (Appendix 2)

1.2. Pedagogical general education “Lessons in politeness”

Progress of the event

Introduction.

Good evening, dear parents! We are pleased to note that you responded to our request and came to our meeting. We're glad to see you!

The song “Polite People” is playing.

We must always remember that we must treat other people with warmth and consideration, so that this kind attitude will return back to us.

But before we start our meeting, let's decide on the topic. I suggest playing the game "Association"

Game "Association"

Rules of the game: “Passing the ball in a circle, you must name the words that you associate with the word “politeness”

Associations - compassion, truth, beauty, decency, tact, goodwill, thank you, hello, compliance, joy, kindness...... . Politeness is a manifestation of respect, willingness to provide a service on time, delicacy, tact, timely and appropriate speech. Politeness is the art of behaving in society. (As the name goes, daisy petals open)

Teacher

A polite word, like a kind wizard, gives people a good mood, makes them happy and even heals them. “Nothing is so dear and nothing is so cheap as politeness.” Thus, Peter the Great, in the “Indications for Everyday Conduct” published with his participation, indicated: “No one has the right to walk the streets with his head hanging and his eyes downcast, or to look askance at people.”

For many years, people created rules of etiquette, the purpose of which was to instill the moral qualities of kindness, sensitivity, to instill a sense of proportion and beauty in behavior, in clothing, in conversation, in receiving guests - in a word, in everything with which a person enters society. And so, I think that you have already guessed that the conversation will be about simple things that we encounter every day, but do not always give them due importance, about politeness.

Politeness is outwardly manifested in compliance with the rules of decency accepted by society. Cultivating politeness begins in the family. This is where the child is taught the art of human communication. Politeness reveals a person's internal culture through the sum of his actions towards other people. Politeness is the ability to treat the people around us delicately and prudently, the ability to behave depending on the current specific situation: Not only children, but many adults want all their friends, and all neighbors, and even strangers to always treat them carefully, kindly; would always love and respect them. So that no one makes any comments to them. The whole secret is that only polite, well-mannered and good man the people around me are always kind. Polite man always cares about relatives and friends and is ready to help them. Today we understand the concept of politeness not only and not so much as the ability to behave decently. A polite person will not allow himself to have an offensive attitude towards others or a careless attitude towards nature.

A modern, well-mannered person is an active person. He is able not only to perform actions, but also to be responsible for them, to manage his emotions. A person’s internal culture necessarily manifests itself in his everyday behavior. Our own behavior, our actions, our attitude towards each other educates children more powerfully than any moralizing conversations.

2 .Parent workshop. Group work

I group .Proverbs and sayings about politeness (finish)

Courtesies open….(all doors)

A kind word and .... (the cat is pleased)

Good word heals, but .... (evil cripples)

It’s a bad word that….(dirty water)

With a kind word and…..(melt the honey)

II group. Remember and name works of art with a clear example of good manners?

(V. Mayakovsky “What is good and what is bad?”, V. Oseeva “Work Warms”, V. Oseeva “The Magic Word”, V. Oseeva “Just an Old Lady”, L. Tolstoy “Jump”)

III group . Child - adult (solving pedagogical situations)

During a walk, dad and Seryozha bought a bouquet of flowers for grandma: favorite flowers given by a grandson will bring great joy. After lunch, Seryozha, with his father’s help, washed the dishes so that his mother could rest. And in the evening, when they were drinking tea, the boy treated all family members to the chocolate given to him. – Who do you think helped the child bring joy to his loved ones, and does he need it?(Father)

Small signs of attention convince of mutual love. Don’t forget to make your children happy yourself: give them a pencil or a book, play their favorite game, treat them to ice cream or an apple.

In the morning, six-year-old Irishka gets ready for school. Grandma sees her putting on her mother's hat.

Beautiful? Does it suit me? - asks the girl.

No, it's not beautiful. Only adults wear such hats, says the grandmother.

No beautiful! I like! I'll go in it. , - the girl repeats.

Then the grandmother gives her her mother’s shoes and says in a serious tone

This hat and shoes need matching ones. Try it on and it will be beautiful!

Irishka looks questioningly; the seriousness of her grandmother’s tone leaves the girl perplexed. And then she says:

Well, grandma, you are funny! Then put on my shoes!

Both laugh. The brewing conflict is dissipated.

What helped resolve this conflict situation?

Humor.

- Is there humor in your relationships? Give examples.

In the evening, children are taken home from the extended day group. "You are so kind! Thank you!" - the mother says to her son, who treated her to the candy he received for his afternoon snack. “You are the most wonderful daughter,” another mother joyfully whispers to her baby, “I missed you,” “Well, dirty little girl, let’s go home, we’ll have to wash your pants again,” the third is nervous. Short moments of an evening meeting, but how much they can tell about families. Your opinion about the order established in the family. Will such a family atmosphere contribute to the development of a culture of behavior? Why?

3. Analysis of questionnaires.

4. Summing up. A look at parenting .

Who or what do you think is important in teaching good manners?

Parents. A child, a great observer and imitator, notices any of his mother’s and father’s actions and words, and adopts their judgments and behavior.

Where should one begin to develop a culture of behavior?

R. “Raising a child must begin with creating a polite, kind, tolerant, sympathetic and affectionate family atmosphere. And plus, taking into account the age of the children, start with creating the spirit of the game, with a friendly, lively fairy tale. It is the game and the fairy tale that should become good helpers in raising children. Let the fairy Hello sometimes appear in the room, in whose magic apron there is a secret. The next time the child sees an umbrella left by the fairy, and attached to it is a note with humorous remarks, indicating the rules in which he made a mistake. You can hang up a mask every day - an assessment: if the baby behaved perfectly, a smiling fairy mask will appear, if he behaves poorly - a dragon mask,” - this is the advice given by the author of the book “The ABC of Politeness” Smirnova

What are some effective methods for instilling a culture of behavior?

R Our behavior, actions, attitude towards each other are stronger than any moralizing conversations; first of all - an example, then a demonstration with a clear explanation and organization of the exercise.

U. Time flies quickly. Children are growing up, and the time will come when they, having become adults, will come to you for advice on raising their children. What mistakes would you warn them against? What advice would you give?

5. Final part.

At the end of our meeting, I give you the following reminders: “Rules of communication in the family” (Appendix 3)

Annex 1

Questionnaire for parents.

What is politeness, tact, sensitivity, delicacy?

What habits of a cultured person does your child have?

What and who is most important in developing the skills of cultural behavior and good manners?

What are the methods you use to instill good manners in your child?

What difficulties do you experience in instilling cultural behavior skills?

Appendix 2

Survey of children

What polite words do you know?

Who is a polite person?

Are you polite?

Do adults treat you politely?

Why are polite words called polite?

What would you ask mom or dad when teaching good manners?

Appendix 3

Memo

Rules

family communication

Do not insult the human dignity of your son or daughter. Never yell at him. Do not speak rude words in front of him, much less when addressing him. Do not use physical methods of punishment.

Don't make endless comments about trivial matters. Encourage children's independence.

Be unanimous and consistent in your demands. Do not express disagreement in front of the child.

Before you make demands on your child, make them on yourself.

Show interest in the child’s life and problems - by imitating, he will very soon return this to you.

Be sincere: your apparent politeness and sensitivity to others is easily recognized by a child - he learns lies and hypocrisy.

Treat other people tactfully, be patient with other people's shortcomings: this will be a lesson in kindness and humanity for your child.

Don’t speak disrespectfully or badly about people: the child will grow up and begin to speak about you the same way.

Behavior is the moral measure of a person. Show nobility under any circumstances. Be an example for your child.

Literature:

Nasonkina S. Etiquette lessons. – St. Petersburg: Aksident, 1998

Cherenkova E. Lessons on etiquette and politeness for children.” - M., DOM.XXIvek, 2006

Ostrovskaya L. Conversations with parents about the moral education of a preschooler, - M., Education, 1987

Pushnikova V. Etiquette for little ones, - Tyumen: Tyumen University Publishing House, 2000

Encyclopedia “Good manners for the little ones”, M., Belfuks, 1997

Sections: Working with preschoolers

Politeness costs nothing but brings a lot.
M. Montagu

"Polite" in explanatory dictionary Russian language is defined as observing the rules of decency, well-mannered and courteous. Agnia Barto gave us a vivid description of an ignorant child who has ruined relationships in the family in her poem “The Ignorant Bear Cub,” rightly suggesting that “there are such bears among the children!”

If a child interrupts adults...

“Don’t interrupt me, don’t interrupt me!” - this is what is sung in the famous hit song, where she is indignant and throws a tantrum at him because he does not listen to her. How unpleasant it is to be interrupted, even if you are an adult! What to do if a child interrupts adults?

“Our son Vanya (2 years 3 years old) does not let us talk, he constantly demands that we do something with him: read, and play, etc. When my husband and I talk, Vanya butts into our conversation and demands that only him be listened to.”

The first words, the first phrases...how we rejoice that the child can speak! Time passes, and we notice that the baby has not only learned to talk to adults, he has learned to interrupt adults. You need to know that when a child interrupts an adult or inserts himself into a conversation without asking, this may mean that he:

• does not know how to listen;
• shows aggression towards the one he interrupted;
• wants to attract the attention to which he is accustomed, being the center of the family universe;
• does not have sufficient patience;
• does not receive enough parental attention.

It is known that the appearance of impatience is associated with a feeling of anxiety and is typical for children with increased nervous tension. When a child talks a lot, interferes with the conversations of adults and other children, intrudes into other people's games - this may be one of the symptoms of hyperactivity.

If the child does not say hello...

For some children, the coming and going situations of saying hello and goodbye are very stressful. In children with disorders of the nervous system, tension situations cause a defensive reaction in the form of stupor. The natural behavior of an adult will help you get out of this state: for example, he will say hello for himself and his baby, and say goodbye twice. With the boy Vasya, 4 years old, who showed signs of neurotic stupor every time in a situation of saying goodbye and greeting, we offer parents exciting ways to greet and say goodbye: with shoulders, feet, palms, etc. Vasya will like such funny ways, and one day, when several months have passed, we will hear the boy following his mother’s greeting: “Hello!”

The reason that a child does not say hello or goodbye may also be an unfavorable family atmosphere.

"Denis in kindergarten does not know how to communicate with children, his games with peers consist in the fact that he breaks their buildings and has fun about it. And there’s no way to teach him to say hello! Denis does not say “goodbye”, does not say “thank you”, he may pinch his grandfather or hit him with the toe of his shoe. To Papa, Denis expresses his dissatisfaction with the words: “I’m not friends with you!” He is a mischievous boy who does everything wrong. He’s probably the same as me!”

It is not difficult to guess that in this family not only the boy behaves this way, but also other family members. It turned out that Denis’s mother did not greet his grandmother, thereby expressing her dissatisfaction with her mother-in-law. Grandparents do not greet each other or other family members. In the conditions of this family, it is really difficult to teach a boy polite words, because it is necessary to change not only the behavior of each adult member of the family, but also the unfavorable atmosphere in which magic words cannot live.

If a child swears...

Indeed, polite words help in communication, the children's writer V. Oseeva once spoke about this wonderfully in the story “Polite Word”. The word “Please,” spoken in a quiet voice and looking straight into the eyes of the person you were talking to, in this story opened the hearts of the little boy’s family, as if by magic. What should you do if your baby says words that are considered profanity?

The spread of obscene words has recently taken on an alarming scale, and preschool children are the most vulnerable to obscene language. Today it is known that verbal information affects human DNA, and foul language destroys the wave programs responsible for the normal functioning of the child’s body. Adults who use lexical garbage in their speech and are a source of infection for a child need to understand that they are harmful to the child’s health.

Mom asked for psychological help : “My son has a problem with garbage words, they literally fly out of Kirill’s mouth.” Kirill is the only child in the family; his mother is raising him. Kirill is an extremely intellectually developed child, and such behavior can be regarded as a manifestation of demonstrative behavior, meaning: “Pay attention to me!” Kirill considers the following to be the worst event for himself: “Mom goes to the club all the time, night club!” Kirill’s mother does not work, unlike his father, who provides for this family. In the evenings, when dad comes home, mom goes to have fun at a nightclub, and dad stays at home with the boy and does not hesitate to use swear words in the presence of his son.

The attractiveness and vitality of profanity is due to the fact that it relieves tension in situations where emotions are overwhelming and overwhelming, when it is difficult to express what you feel in words. In preschool children, these difficulties are associated with age-related characteristics. In this regard, it is important to teach preschoolers constructive forms of expressing their positive and negative emotions.

“Our son swears. We tried not to pay attention, scold and punish - nothing helps! What should I do?

The fact is that a 4-year-old child is already consciously using indecent words, and the methods listed may indeed be ineffective. Try allowing your child to swear (after all, it happens anyway), but only in a certain place (for example, by the trash can - your son’s words are trash).

However, this method should be used only as a last resort. First of all, you need to show the child your rejection of indecent language: “I don’t like such words,” “In our kindergarten (in our family) they don’t say that,” etc.

Memo for parents “How to teach a child not to interrupt adults”

1. Agree in advance with your child that when a guest comes to you and you talk to him, the baby, for example, will play alone in his room. Explain that you are busy right now. Ask to remember what the child wants to tell you so that you can listen to him when you finish the conversation with the guest. Ask your child to draw and write what he wants to tell you.
2. Do not use phrases such as: “You interrupted me!”, “It’s not nice to interrupt adults,” “Only bad boys do that,” etc.
3. Teach a polite way of speaking: the phrase “Please excuse me for having to interrupt you!” can be truly magical
4. Set an example for your child and do not get involved in someone else's conversation unless necessary.
5. Consider age: than younger child, the more difficult it is for him to restrain himself in anticipation of a pause in the conversation.
6. Praise your child for finding something to do while you were busy talking.
7. Never interrupt your child yourself!

Memo for parents “How to help your child be polite”

1. Be sure to use polite words yourself in situations where they are necessary.
2. Convince the adults around your child to make the use of polite words the norm.
3. Show your child the “magic” of polite words. Do not fulfill your child's requests, such as “give it to me,” without saying “please.”
4. Make meeting and parting situations as natural and varied as possible for your child.
5. Be the first to say hello, goodbye and thank you, don’t wait for the child to remember.
6. Together with your child, develop and approve mandatory rules of politeness. For example: “You need to say hello to everyone you saw for the first time that day,” etc.
7. Teach politeness politely!

Memo for parents “How to stop a child from swearing”

1. Do not use profanity yourself, watch your own speech. Convince the adults around the child not to use “garbage” words.
2. Do not ask (even if you really want to!) the child where he heard these words (What if from you!), because by doing this you focus the child’s attention on “these words” and on the situation in which they were heard.
3. React to your child's swear words depending on his age. To the words heard from younger preschooler, you don’t have to react in any way, he will most likely soon forget them. A child of middle and senior preschool age must be made to understand that you do not want to hear such words at home (in kindergarten). Tactfully, convincingly and calmly explain to the child that these are offensive, bad, dirty words, they are unpleasant to both say and hear. Good children don’t say such words, but you are sure that your child is good!
4. Do not show your child an emotional reaction to the indecent words you hear, as either a positive or negative reaction from an adult may make the child want to repeat the use of indecent words in order to provoke a reaction.
5. If your child continues to use obscene words, determine the time and place when and where bad words can be said. For example, you can say these words at the trash can only when no one is nearby.
6. Teach your child to express his strong feelings in other, non-swear words.
7. Maintain friendly relations in the family (in kindergarten), since peace, mutual understanding and a warm atmosphere are the environment in which profanity is not needed.