Pregnancy is the most emotional period in the life of every woman, and the closer the due date, the more worried and worried the expectant mother is. The 40th week of pregnancy is approaching, the mother is anticipating the long-awaited contractions, but they still do not begin. The last days of pregnancy drag on for a long time, and the baby still does not want to go out into the big world.

When the day passes on which the doctors suggested giving birth, mommy becomes truly anxious. Is everything okay with the baby? How long will it take for him to be born? Is it possible to induce contractions on your own? Every pregnant woman wants to quickly free herself from a heavy burden and press her beloved baby to her chest. There are several fairly effective ways to speed up labor at 40 weeks of pregnancy, the only question is whether it is necessary.

When should you give birth?

Pregnancy ideally lasts exactly forty weeks, or ten lunar months, but the child may be born earlier than the appointed time, or may linger in the womb. It is not considered a deviation from the norm if the baby decides to get out of the belly already at 38 or only at 42 weeks. In the first case, the baby is fully formed, continues to grow and gain weight, and in the second case, it does not yet show signs of postmaturity.

A woman’s body manifests itself very individually, but you can roughly calculate how long the pregnancy will last by looking at the length of her menstrual cycle. If menstruation recurs after 28 days, then the child will most likely be born exactly on the date determined by the doctors, but if menstrual cycle takes more than 30 days, then gestation will be long.

If for some reason the baby is born before 38 weeks, he is considered premature and must be nursed in the postpartum department. And if a baby is born after 42 weeks, all the signs of postmaturity are visible, which also does not have a very good effect on his health.

The doctor informs you of the preliminary date of birth expectant mother even at the first appointment at the antenatal clinic, and a more precise period is determined during an examination with an ultrasound machine, when the doctor observes the degree of development of the embryo. At the 40th week of pregnancy, if there are no pathologies or complications, childbirth takes place in natural form. But under certain conditions, the doctor may prescribe a caesarean section.

Is it really necessary to induce labor?

Whether it is worth inducing labor at 40 weeks of pregnancy, only a doctor can tell after an examination. If the baby grows and develops normally in the womb, there is enough space for him, the mother does not have to worry, waiting for natural birth process. In this case, it is better not to interfere during pregnancy.

But if the baby is large, he may not have enough oxygen from the aging placenta. A post-term baby who does not want to get out of his belly experiences oxygen starvation. In addition, after the 40th week of pregnancy, the fetus’s skull bones begin to harden, which means that it will be very difficult for him to move along the birth canal, and the mother will experience severe pain during childbirth. In this situation, in order not to wait for a referral for a caesarean section, the pregnant woman is advised to induce labor.

How to induce labor at home?

Already at 39 weeks, doctors begin to scare a pregnant woman with artificial stimulation of labor using medications. No mother wants to poison herself or her unborn baby. medicines, so many people wonder how to induce contractions at home. There are many ways to independently induce contractions and childbirth; a doctor at the antenatal clinic can tell you about them in detail. Women who are determined to give birth should take a good rest and sleep, because childbirth is a long and tiring process.

1. Hiking. Brisk walking in the fresh air is useful at any stage of pregnancy: it increases the tone of the body and gives it a good shake-up, which brings birth closer.
2. Physical exercise. Many women admit that their contractions began as soon as they finished cleaning the house. The main thing is not to overwork, so as not to provoke placental abruption instead of childbirth. You can wash the floors, dust the furniture, take out the trash, give your older child a bath, wash your clothes, but you cannot carry heavy buckets or lift loaded boxes and bags of groceries.
3. Sex. Natural and very effective way speed up childbirth at home, especially if the intimate process ends with orgasm. Spermatozoa contain a high concentration of the hormone prostaglandin, which helps soften the tissue of the uterus, and orgasm causes active contraction of the uterus, which can smoothly develop into labor contractions.
4. Breast massage. Intense stimulation of the breast in the area around the nipples provokes the production of the hormone oxytocin, which is responsible for the onset of the birth process.
5. Laxatives. Increased motility of the intestinal tract not only helps speed up labor, but also cleanses the body, which makes it more likely to avoid loose stools during labor. A good laxative for pregnant women is ordinary castor oil; one tablespoon is enough to induce contractions. Also, in the last days of pregnancy, it is advisable to eat more fresh fruits and vegetables, and cereal porridges.
6. Folk remedies. Strong tea made from raspberry leaves activates labor and softens cervical tissue, but it should not be taken until the 40th week of pregnancy. This is a very strong remedy that can cause miscarriage in the early stages. A thoroughly whipped mixture of sparkling water, apricots, almonds and castor oil also helps to quickly stimulate labor.
7. Linseed oil. The components it contains make the tissues of the uterus and birth canal soft and elastic, preparing them for the upcoming birth. If there allergic reaction flax oil, you can replace it with primrose oil.
8. Fragrances. It is believed that the smells of certain flowers, especially roses or jasmine, can cause contractions. A woman who wants to give birth sooner later, can perform aroma therapy at home using flower oils. The main thing is not to cause allergies.
9. Acupuncture. This method of inducing labor is best left to a specialist. The master uses the finest needles to influence the points of the body responsible for the functioning of the uterus. This technique quite often contributes to the occurrence of contractions.

Pregnancy lasts 40 weeks, with slight fluctuations in both directions. But due to health reasons or too much desire, pregnant women are looking for ways to give birth ahead of schedule. This is not safe, so the situation requires in-depth study.

Causes

Premature birth of a child is always a risk, because the baby is not yet fully formed and strong. If the baby was born before 37 weeks, it means the birth was premature.

The situation is influenced by social and medical factors, the time of year during which the main gestation period falls. Autumn and spring are the peak season for flu and cold epidemics. Severe infectious diseases cause labor long before the due date.

Social reasons early birth child:

• studies;
• lack of legalized relations;
• family problems;
• poor nutrition;
• bad habits;
• environmental situation at the location of the expectant mother.

All these components push the baby to be born earlier. If a woman is constantly under nervous tension due to sessions and exams, or feels pressure from society due to the absence of her husband, this prevents the pregnancy from proceeding fully. There is a risk of premature birth of a child.

In order not to give birth prematurely, the expectant mother must eat well and drink complex vitamins to saturate the fetus with useful substances.

Bad habits are excluded: smoking, taking drugs or drinking excessive alcohol, both before pregnancy and during pregnancy. The negative impact provokes the birth of sick, low-birth-weight babies who are not destined to be born on time.

Medical indications for the early birth of a baby include complex infectious diseases and inflammation in the genital organs suffered throughout the entire life period. Often the causes of premature birth are diseases of the thyroid gland, ovaries or endocrine glands.

Obesity is another factor that causes premature birth of a child. Injuries to the cervix after abortion, previous childbirth or gynecological operations are considered the main culprits of the pathology.

Pros and cons of early birth

Expectant mothers, tired of the long period of gestation, dream of starting to give birth faster. Before deciding to mechanically influence the duration of pregnancy, you should consider the positive and negative aspects.

Firstly, it is always a risk for the child. The fetus is born with small weight and height, the skin is not fully formed, and the nails do not completely cover the plate. In boys, the testicles do not have time to descend into the scrotum; in girls, the labia minora and clitoris do not yet cover.

A baby's lungs do not always cope with respiratory function; some children do not have a sucking reflex, so it becomes difficult to feed a newborn. Due to the fact that the bones of the skull premature baby too soft, there is a possibility of brain injury during labor. The immunity of such children is weak, so they are susceptible to all diseases.

As for the advantages of premature delivery, it is an opportunity to get rid of discomfort such as heartburn, back pain, and heaviness due to the weight of the baby. Premature birth can be a lifesaver for the baby and the baby due to medical reasons.

Indications for early labor from the parturient:

1. late severe gestosis;
2. premature placental abruption;
3. too acute polyhydramnios the presence of a suture on the uterus, which is very overstretched

Child's condition:

• photoplacental insufficiency;
• Rhesus conflict;
• prolonged fetal hypoxia;
• delayed development of the baby 2 and 3 degrees.

In such situations, early labor will only help the mother or her baby to ease it pathological condition. Here the risks due to prematurity fade into the background, since there is a danger of death.

Traditional methods

Women, in order to start giving birth faster, use advice from traditional medicine. This is dangerous, therefore manipulations are prohibited without compelling reasons. Constant supervision of an obstetrician is required when inducing labor is used.

Is it possible to give birth before the due date? Quite possible. This requires not just the mother’s desire to get rid of a huge belly, but also medical indications. If there are none, it is better to give birth on time and not worry about the consequences.

There are also safe ways to speed up labor. You can use them, because the methods do not consist of medications or herbs. This active life: walking, walking on steps and being in the fresh air. Physical activity will not only fill the baby’s body with oxygen, but also contribute to the beginning of the birth process.

Sexual activity is another natural stimulant of labor. Orgasm smoothes the cervix and prepares it for childbirth, and sperm promotes faster opening of the organ. The position should be chosen that is comfortable for the expectant mother, and the regularity should be controlled. This method is used until the outflow amniotic fluid. If amniotic fluid leaks, there is a risk of infection of the fetus.

What to do to give birth earlier:

1. nipple massage;
2. enema;
3. use olive oil to soften the cervix.

Stimulation of the nipples will help tone the uterus, thereby pushing the body to the beginning of labor. The procedure must be performed three times a day for 15 minutes on each breast. Colon cleansing is often used in maternity hospitals as a way to induce labor. The essence of the method is to provoke contractions of the uterus along with the intestinal walls.

Some gynecologists recommend drinking or eating in a salad olive oil. The product is considered a softener for the uterus and its cervix, stimulating bowel function. It is enough to drink 100 grams of oil per day for the expected effect.

There is stimulation with herbs, but it is not as safe as drinking olive oil. It is forbidden for pregnant women to mindlessly use herbs due to the negative effect on the fetus.

A decoction of raspberry leaves is used, which activates the muscles of the uterus and tones the pelvic organs. To prepare the decoction, take 2 tablespoons of dry red raspberry leaves and pour a liter of hot water over them. boiled water, then boil for a couple of minutes. Infuse and drink 300-400 ml. in a day.

You can use homeopathic remedies (caulophyllum, pulsatilla). The drugs are absolutely harmless to the fetus and the pregnant woman, but not all obstetricians believe in their stimulating properties.

They resort to acupuncture; this method is rarely used in practice, but has an impact on the onset of labor. It is believed that needle injections into the right places contribute to the development of labor or intensification of contractions.

It is allowed to bring the date of birth closer only with a doctor’s prescription, as you can harm the baby and yourself. It is best to stay in a hospital setting while using stimulants.

Is it true that boys are born prematurely? No, it does not depend on the gender of the child. The health status of the baby and mother is taken into account, as well as the correctness of the dates set.

Drug effects

This method of hastening delivery is used only for serious indications on the part of the woman in labor and the fetus. Everything must be carefully controlled.

When you need to help the development of labor:

• in case of multiple pregnancy more than 37 weeks;
• Availability chronic diseases the mother is in the acute stage;
• prolonged fetal hypoxia;
• weakness of labor.

To quickly give birth in a hospital setting, radical stimulation options are used. Manipulations are carried out only under the supervision of an obstetrician or other medical personnel; each body tolerates medications differently.

Methods for inducing labor:

• puncture of the amniotic sac (amniotomy);
• use of prostaglandins;
• administration of oxytocin;
• taking mifepristone;
• placing a Foley catheter in the cervical canal;
• use of kelp.

Amniotomy, or puncture of the amniotic sac, is performed by inserting a special hook into the cervix. The bubble opens, the water breaks, and the baby’s head begins to put more pressure on the pelvis. This is how labor is stimulated. This manipulation is completely painless and also safe for the baby when performed correctly.

Prostaglandins are used in obstetric practice for rapid ripening of the cervix. It is clear that if you need to induce labor a month ahead of schedule, this method is not very practical, because the entire body must prepare for childbirth.

There are several variations in the release of prostaglandins:

1. vaginal preparations;
2. pills;
3. solutions for droppers.

Vaginal products are inserted into the anus. These can be gels, ointments or tablets for the vagina. They are used once every 6 hours, repeating the procedure if necessary. Tablets for oral administration are taken at 0.5 mg every hour. After some time, the dose is increased by half. It is not recommended to use this method for more than two days. The solution for infusion is infused in a volume of 0.2 mcg/min, gradually increasing the dosage.

Mifepristone is actively used by obstetricians to help women give birth to term. It is prescribed according to the following regimen: 200 mg once. After a day, you can repeat taking the drug. The essence of the stimulant's action is to block the production of progesterone, which provokes uterine contractions. The medicine has a number of side effects.

Those who want to give birth early for medical reasons can try using a Foley catheter. It is used for premature ripening uterus. A special balloon is inserted into the cervix and filled with saline. This is how artificial stretching of the uterus and opening of the organ are achieved. The device is not removed for 12 hours. The method is suitable for giving birth on a certain date during a full-term pregnancy. This manipulation is painful for the woman in labor, but safe for the fetus.

To give birth early, oxytocin is prescribed. These could be injections or IVs. There is no specific dosage for administering the drug, because the weight, age and condition of the woman in labor are taken into account. This is not a method for those wishing to give birth 2 weeks prematurely, since stimulation is appropriate when labor has begun or the uterus is partially dilated.

Kelp is pressed seaweed. The plant is inserted into the cervix as a tampon to promote premature dilatation. The product helps you give birth a week before your due date. Due to the humid environment, algae swells and pushes the cervical canal apart.

It is possible to hasten the birth, but this is advisable depending on the health of the mother or child. The mere desire to see the baby quickly should not be a reason to induce labor stimulation.

Text: Alena Kuznetsova

As one therapist told me, “pregnancy is a crazy journey into the unknown.” Now that I have my own and a thousand other stories heard in maternity wards, I agree with him. Yes, pregnancy is like Russian roulette. I know those who successfully gave birth at home in the bathroom or said that going to the dentist is more scary. I also know those who were kept in conservancy for months, experienced miscarriages and clinical death. My lottery ticket said I would give birth two months earlier than my due date.

Everything was unexpected and did not fit into my picture of an “ideal” pregnancy and childbirth at all.

My pregnancy wasn't perfect, but I loved it. A slight malaise in the first trimester, but an unprecedented increase in strength in the second. The doctor at the antenatal clinic is always friendly and happy. I didn’t get sick, took the prescribed vitamins and tried to walk more often. Closer to the third trimester, fear of childbirth intervened in my euphoria, and I enrolled in a school for pregnant women. At one of the classes they said that every fourth of us will give birth with assistance. caesarean section. I didn’t take it seriously: my health is excellent, my birth will be natural, like my mother’s. The main thing is to tune in properly.

When I was in the 31st week of my pregnancy, I was sitting in a chat room at the school of cultural journalism, where I entered as a free student. I was waiting for a discussion of my work and suddenly I felt that my stomach had become very hard, and the baby’s kicks were more noticeable. This seemed abnormal to me - I called the doctor from the consultation, and she told me to call an ambulance or do an ultrasound at the nearest gynecologist. The situation didn’t look serious, so I chose the latter: just in case, I put the documents needed to enter the maternity hospital in my backpack and got into a taxi.

The doctor listened to the complaints and habitually deployed the tonometer, from which I did not expect anything bad. It turned out that the pressure was 170/120, although it was not felt at all. Examination in a chair, ultrasound, some kind of note in the direction and the first injection of magnesia, which many pregnant women know: it effectively relieves the tone of the uterus, and feels like poison, which slowly paralyzes the entire leg. "A real fighter!" - the sister said after I didn’t make a sound. I looked at the paper with the referral, and finally the diagnosis reached me: the threat of premature birth. An ambulance was still needed.

I remembered what I read in the weekly newsletter for pregnant women: “The baby has grown a lot, his lungs are now developing.” It turns out that he is not at all ready for birth - he has not gained enough weight or strength, his organs are still being formed. Will he even be able to live if he is born? I had never heard of anyone giving birth prematurely and had no idea if it was bad. Everything was too unexpected and did not fit into my picture of an “ideal” pregnancy and childbirth. The team that arrived reassured me: this is what they write to everyone, there’s no need to cry - otherwise your blood pressure will rise.

We were planning a paid family birth, but had not yet had time to conclude an agreement or even choose a maternity hospital - so they took me to the nearest one. In the emergency room there was another injection of magnesium, since the pressure did not drop. I didn’t believe that there could be something serious with me: I was worried, scared, the doctors were playing it safe. Tomorrow they will let you go home.

If birth occurs before the 37th week of pregnancy, then, according to the World Health Organization (WHO), the child is considered premature and premature.

The term “prematurity” also means that a baby is born before its expected period of intrauterine development and underdeveloped.

The weight of premature babies usually ranges from one and a half to two and a half kilograms. The modern level of medicine allows such children not only to survive, but also fully develop .

However, some time must pass before such babies begin to feed on their own and can leave the maternity hospital.

Degrees of prematurity and consequences

Are all premature babies born prematurely?

Not all low weight babies are born before 37 weeks. Some of them were unable to gain enough weight during pregnancy.

Experts believe that with the same degree of readiness of the baby’s body for independent existence normal weight at birth - always an advantage.

Placental insufficiency

One of the causes of low birth weight is placental insufficiency, in which the placenta ceases to function normally. Because of this, the fetus does not receive enough nutrients for normal growth.

Placental insufficiency occurs due to complications of pregnancy, for example, gestational diabetes– impaired glucose metabolism caused by improper nutrition of a pregnant woman.

If mom smokes

An equally serious cause of child growth retardation is maternal smoking. Depending on the number of cigarettes smoked during pregnancy baby's growth slows down to varying degrees. In pregnant women who smoke daily, the risk of having a baby weighing less than 2500 g doubles.

Other reasons

Other causes of low birth weight include malformations and chromosomal abnormalities in the baby. For the most part, they are detected during screening carried out in the second trimester of pregnancy.

Also, low birth weight is caused by various infectious diseases that affect both the mother and the child during intrauterine development.

Why are babies born prematurely?

Despite numerous studies, scientists still cannot say with certainty what triggers the birth process.

In recent years, the most popular theory among experts is that the child’s body independently determines the optimal time for childbirth. The child's pituitary gland is presumably responsible for this mechanism.

The causes of premature birth, on the contrary, are well known.

Stress

Often early birth is caused by stress and hard physical work. Thus, research results show that the death of close relatives, job loss or divorce can lead to premature birth.

Infections

Also premature birth can be triggered by an infection of the urinary and genital tract of a woman. Experts believe that the bacteria release chemicals that cause contractions of the uterine muscles.

Often such diseases are asymptomatic, and a woman may not know she is sick. You can reduce the risk of preterm birth by identifying and treating the infection before or early in pregnancy. Currently, there are a sufficient number of drugs that do not harm the baby.

Cervical weakness

In about 20 percent of cases, the cause of premature birth is a weak cervix. This disorder can be easily identified during pregnancy if you visit your doctor regularly. Weakness of the cervix is ​​eliminated by strengthening the tissue with surgical thread.

Other reasons

In addition, premature birth often begins with multiple pregnancies, uterine bleeding of various origins, high blood pressure and pregnancy complications.

Also, according to some data, the tendency to early childbirth can be inherited. Mothers who were born prematurely are more likely to have a preterm birth.

The most important

A premature baby may be born prematurely due to stress or illness of the mother. However, the birth of an insufficiently formed child can also be provoked by the mother herself if she smokes during pregnancy, eats poorly and neglects frequent visits to the doctor throughout the pregnancy.

Yes please
Backstory: when I just picked it up. and counted the date of the birth date (04.04) for some reason I immediately thought that I would give birth in any case in March and I really didn’t want 26.03 since this is my mother’s birth date, I didn’t want 2 holidays on the same day, and then of course on the night of 25-26 I felt sick to my stomach, from 4 in the morning it ached like during menstruation (although I don’t have pain), but it hurt very badly, then the pain was added not even in the back but in the side. It was hard to lie down, I went to the toilet, walking was even more painful , I stood bent over and breathed and honestly thought it was IT. But I didn’t wake up my husband because I was alarmed by the fact that real contractions should still happen with some frequency, but here my stomach just hurts and pulls. On this day I had an appointment at the residential complex, which I thought I wouldn’t get to, but I’m already giving birth, well, in the morning I tell my husband that we woke up, let’s go to the residential complex, I’ll tell them to look at my cervix and if anything happens, we’ll go to the RD, I immediately took a bag with me for the birth, HA naive!!!
In the residential complex: the doctor, seeing me in the corridor in the queue, says come in (without the queue) I think, do I really look that bad? In the office I tell her: I thought I was going to give birth at night, she says: I see your stomach has dropped and it’s like a stake. He looks at the couch and says the tone is constant, it’s not going away, it’s dropped decently, go to the RD for CHILDREN, I’m looking at the cervix, she says: I don’t have the right, well, okay, I call my husband and say come pick me up and we’re going to the RD.
I called my mom: Hello Mom, Happy Birthday, we’ll bring you Tyoma now (his holidays have started), she understood why we’ll bring her and started, oh Rayechka, let’s do it, really, etc.
We arrive in the RD, contractions started with an interval of 30 minutes, we waited in the reception area for 3 hours)))) they processed it and said give the things to your husband. I say, how can he give birth with me? Nurse: when they send you to the maternity ward, call him and they will let him in. The doctor didn't even look.
They sent me to the pathology floor, the doctor examined me after another 3 hours (nice) during the examination: The neck is soft, short, and allows 2 fingers through. We are waiting for the birth! Any time!
Well, okay, I think we’re just waiting, on the phone all day, are you giving birth? - no!, are you giving birth? - no!, are you giving birth? - no! And so on for the rest of the week.
And mine still thought that I would still give birth in my mother’s BD.
Well, since I didn’t have a deadline until the PDR, they didn’t prescribe anything to me, they didn’t stimulate me.
Of course, I saw enough of the poor girls there who, at 40+ weeks, they began to stimulate, and then they had contractions for 2 days and they kept tearing up and it was not so fun for me.
On the 5th day, I started to feel depressed because the promised consultation did not take place and they didn’t let me go home, they told me to wait for Monday, I burst into tears, and I’ve been whining to you all week. I won’t say that the whole week was accompanied by calls from everyone
and the question is, well??? And so March ended... April 1 came, I think maybe he decided to do this to us? No, well done, he sat it out.
It’s April 2, Monday, consultation: I think if nothing has changed, I’ll leave under signature.
Consilium: head of the birth department looks - no home, she's about to give birth, yeah, it's been a week now. My mood is at 0. I call my husband and tell him all this. I’m walking along the corridor trying to persuade my son to be born today, because everyone is already waiting for him, and today a good doctor is on duty (my ward doctor, who I really liked) and I’m stroking my belly. I called my husband: he told me: Tell your son there that if he’s not born today, we’ll call him Tyshtynbek, well, bye-bye. I had lunch. After the morning examination, the discharge began to be quite decent, she apparently looked well. After dinner I went to bed and sadness came over me, I thought, well, what’s the point of me running in circles along the corridor? And then the thought comes: maybe I can try to stimulate my nipples? Well, spin them. I tried it, after a couple of minutes I felt the uterus turn to stone and seize, I don’t think it’s working at all? I twisted it again - the hop grabbed it, and started walking along the corridor. My stomach is sagging, but I started to drift and calve so I can give birth faster, but now it’s getting scary, I think, well, if it hasn’t started, it means there’s no need to stop. In general, I started this business at 15-30 and at 17-00 I started having regular contractions (I realized later that they were contractions) with an interval of 5-6 minutes, but they lasted from 10-30 seconds, so I I didn’t take them seriously, and I didn’t feel like hell, I just said oooh and held my stomach half bent, my neighbors in the ward looked at me and said, well, you’re definitely going to have contractions, but I still didn’t realize that it was them and said yes no, it might not be contractions; they pass quickly; I didn’t even have to breathe in any special way.
After 1.5 hours the cramping started to get stronger, we went to dinner, I was still thinking maybe I shouldn’t eat enough, otherwise the enema wouldn’t help. At about 19-00, when I was cramped a couple of times, the girls told me every 20th time to go for an examination, I’ll go before night)))), after 10 minutes they watch me in fear and say let’s call the doctor and let him take a look, I say screw it Call me, I went to the examination room, looked - we were giving birth with an enema, opening 4. I go to the ward, collect my things and want to go to the toilet in a big way, but I can’t sit on the toilet; the contractions are already noticeably more painful. I called my husband - come, your son Tyshtynbek doesn’t want to be - I obeyed, we’ll give birth. 19-20 I go for an enema, my husband has already arrived, I hear he is changing clothes and he is sent to the birth room to wait for me, I write him an SMS that I hear him and will be there now. At 20-00 after the enema they take you up to the floor to give birth, the grandmother elevator operator asks: Why are you dragging your husband to THIS? Dear Soviet grandmother. And my soul is so happy, so good, from the fact that I will finally see HIM... I haven’t seen my husband for a whole week, but I was warmed by the thought that when IT starts, he will come and be with me. They lead me to the examination room, opening 8, 30 minutes before I had an enema. They take me to the maternity ward, my husband sits in a dressing gown, a little confused, but he holds on and doesn’t show me, but I know what he’s going through. I climb onto the chair, my bladder tingles, I don’t feel anything, some water is leaking. Contractions begin, the midwife asks, is he pushing? I say no yet, just contraction, breathe. My husband and I are chatting about how his day went. The midwife went out into the corridor, and we let’s kiss))) And I just repeat: how good it is that you are here, that you are with me, holding his hand. He starts to push and to my surprise the assistant says if you want to push, push, but I think it’s strange why he allows it? Then she says, let’s push, let’s breathe, breathe like a dog - the husband says the hand stings him with such a force that I’ve never had, then we push, then she says to the doctor like we got on the chair early, we need to get on the couch and the contractions aren’t strong, let’s put on an IV, I when I heard this I thought uh no friends, I won’t get out of the chair until I give birth, and I didn’t want IVs with oxytocin, because I imagined that the contractions would be even stronger???? It’s enough for me already, but no. She begins to push, I push with all my might and push the baby, the midwife praises me and says, oh, everything seems fine, no need for an IV, I mentally praise myself. Then it started to really hurt, I just wanted one thing – for everything to end quickly. At first I didn’t push correctly, I had to push my legs towards myself, but on the contrary, they straightened out, it was somehow uncomfortable in the chair. Then the doctor came (since all this time there was only a midwife), pediatrician, some other aunt (cross-eyed, my husband and I laughed because she was looking at him and me at the same time), the husband stood behind the chair in front of his head. Well, it started, push, inhale, push, I asshole didn’t do everything right, I say oh I can’t do everything and then my husband says (this voice cannot convey the mixture of feelings in it: surprise, delight, fear as if a person saw a UFO) HE WAS BORN, that’s it the head is born, well done, well done, come on. The doctors say that now I need to give birth to everything else quickly, I was shaking, I was just pushing as if in a state of passion, I don’t know with what forces. And they pulled out our Stepashka, he had a knot in the umbilical cord and a double twist around his neck. Bliss, everything doesn’t hurt me and it’s over, then I gave birth to the placenta, my husband and I kiss, he praises me, the three of us put Styopka on my stomach next to each other, dad sniffs it, like a male who recognizes his cub. I ask the midwife, is it torn? She didn’t have a single crack, she asked how the 1st birth went, also without breaks. Otherwise they scared me that they were just killing everyone. Well, here it is, our happiness is eating tits with us and we were there for another 2 hours, then dad went home with me and my things, and then we chatted on the phone for half the night, sharing our impressions.
Now he’s talking about the question of whether to go for the 3rd birth if they don’t even raise it, GO and that’s all. As I already wrote, he was filled with emotions and was proud that he had seen everything himself and was with us. And I’m doubly happy, it seems to me that this has connected us even more, united us.
And when I returned home from RD, the first week was kind of strange, I cried.... Hormones apparently overwhelmed me. Out of love for my husband and sons, I cried like a fool, it seemed to me that I really missed my husband, why is he at work, I want to be with him 24 hours a day, hug him, kiss him, I miss him so much, apparently. When my eldest son met me and RD, the first thing he did was rush to me and didn’t even look at me, he was waiting for me. We got into the car and we all cried, Tyoma, Styopa and I, dad asks what are you doing? Tyoma speaks FROM HAPPINESS.