Love is the most magical feeling that every teenager has gone through. Probably every girl cried at night because her boyfriend abandoned her. Or, conversely, that she cannot tell him about her feelings. Indeed, how to say young man about deep feelings so as not to be rejected? You will find answers to this and many other questions right now.

If you think that girls do not have the right to be the first to confess their love, then you are mistaken. Nowadays there are such guys that it is better to take everything into their own hands and act.

The best and perhaps easy way Declarations of love are a confession via SMS. But it’s worth figuring out how to do it right, because guys are different and some of them may not understand you.

You should immediately determine who this young man is for you. A friend with whom you have long been hopelessly in love, or an acquaintance whom you have recently become tender and reverent about. Maybe this is your classmate? There are many options and today you will definitely find the one that is closest to you.

If the boy is your friend

Is there friendship between a guy and a girl? This is the question almost everyone asks. Many argue that yes, of course it exists. Others, on the contrary, are trying to convey that friendship between a guy and a girl is something that will never happen. One way or another, everyone will remain with their own opinion.

So imagine this. You are friends with a guy and are secretly in love with him. It's obvious that this is more than just friendship for you. But how does your supposed “friend” treat you?

The first thing you should clearly know before confessing via SMS is how your friend feels about you. There are only 2 options - he loves you or treats you like a friend.

But how do I know, you ask, if he loves me? Very simple. You, as a girl, should obviously notice some fleeting hints from him. Let's say if he often looks at you, or offered to walk you home, gave you flowers. Even if it’s just ordinary field crops, just picked in front of you, you must admit, it’s still very nice.
Have you noticed any signs of attention on his part? Then feel free to write an SMS confession. The SMS can be anything. The main thing is that it is written from the heart. Under no circumstances copy any romantic poems from the Internet, it will look fake and artificial.

If you don’t notice any hints from your friend, then don’t be upset. Perhaps he is just modest and is afraid that you are indifferent to him. In any case, it’s better to try now and write that noticeable SMS than to suffer later because you never tried.
Several SMS options will be presented below. But after reading them, you should make your own, and not just copy and paste the message and send it.

Option

One option: “*Name*, hello. I would like to have a serious conversation with you. We're friends, aren't we? Yes, that's right, friends. But, you know, lately, for inexplicable reasons, I have become so drawn to you. I don't know what's happening to me. When you're not there, I miss you. When you are with me, I am the happiest. I understand that now you can simply reject me. It's your choice. I just wanted to finally express how much I love you. As soon as I met you, you seemed ordinary to me, just like everyone else. But after getting to know you a little, I realized that you are the most wonderful person I have ever met. I love you".

Example

You can, in principle, do this: “Hello! You know, I can remain silent anymore. You think that you are just a friend to me, but this, unfortunately, is not the case. You are not a friend. You are the person who changed my whole life. You are magical, incredible, unforgettable. There are not enough adjectives to describe who you really are! You can always support when you really need it. You can lift your spirits like no one else. All I want to see for the rest of my life is your smile and eyes. I am ready to listen to your fantastic voice non-stop. He drives me crazy. You might now take it all as a joke, but no. This is wrong. I waited a long time and finally decided to confess. I'm just afraid that we might stop being friends in an instant and at the same time I'll lose both my friend and the love of my life. Please don't leave and betray me like others have done. I sincerely hope that you are my destiny that will never leave me. I love you!"

To this recognition you can add some memorable moments that you experienced together. Believe me, even the coldest heart will thaw from such a sensual recognition.

If the young man is familiar to you

An acquaintance is someone whom you do not know as well as, for example, a friend, but to whom you may be equally drawn.
Confessing to a friend will be about the same as for a friend. The main thing is sincerity and sensuality in words, write whatever you want. A young man will be pleased to read what you wrote, and not what was copied from another source.

But the confession does not have to be in prose. If you have poetic abilities, now is the time to use them! A poem about your deep feelings will clearly not leave him indifferent. But remember, it must be written by you personally.
Again, there are simply a huge number of examples. But you must create your own unique text by at least editing the one presented below.

Option

“Hello, *Name*! I want to tell you something important. What I felt the very first moment I met you. Do you believe in love at first sight? And I believed it. And it's all thanks to you. Your smile is simply magical. Your eyes are something magical and beautiful. You know, the days used to drag on for a very long time, but after I met you, they rush at the speed of light. You changed my life. I began to breathe you. It seems that you are not only a part of me, you have become everything to me. Sometimes it seems to me that if I don’t even see you, then I won’t breathe anymore. You have no idea how much I love you. I’ve been wanting to tell you this for a long time and finally decided to. You are my sun, which so suddenly burst in and warmed my frozen heart. You are the ideal man. You are the best for me!"

Example

Or like this: “I’ve been wanting to tell you for a long time, and finally I decided to. You are not just an acquaintance to me, you are something more to me. Sometimes it seems to me that I simply cannot live without you in this world full of evil and betrayal. You are a ray of happiness that so suddenly appeared on my horizon. Now my life has completely changed. I am grateful to fate - I have it. You are my romantic, the man of my dreams. And at some moments I envy even myself, because you are special. You are not like everyone else. The best and dearest. You can talk to you about anything, and sometimes it’s nice to just be silent. How nice it is to have a person with whom silence replaces unnecessary conversations. You are my treasure, which I will not give to anyone. And even if you reject me now, I still won’t turn my back on you. After all, knowing such a wonderful person is simply a gift of fate.”

If a young man is a classmate

Confessing your love to a classmate is perhaps the most difficult of all of the above. Because there can be 2 options. Either he will blab it out to the whole class, and you will become a laughing stock, or he will understand you correctly and reciprocate.
Confessing via SMS to a classmate is not an easy task. You must clearly decide what you will say to your lover. Recognition should be touching and easy to understand. Still, what kind of recognition will be is up to you to decide. The main thing is to write everything that you would like to say in person.
There are many examples. However, if the muse did not come to you today and you were unable to write a worthy confession, then be sure to read what is given below.

Option

One of many examples: “You know, sometimes it seems to me that life is so small, and I’m afraid of not getting much done. I'm afraid I won't have time to become the person I see myself as. But the main thing is that I already have happiness. A goal that I sometimes don’t find the strength to go towards, fearing that it’s not in my power. But you are doing incredible things. You instill in me self-confidence, the belief that nothing is impossible, that we can both be happy. Not like many people for one or two years, but for eternity. For the eternity that is given to us. Life is very short, but sometimes a moment of life is worth living. Live it in gray colors, in quarrels. I need to learn to appreciate what I have been given, to appreciate the moments that I spend with you, so as not to make a mistake one day, without making a mistake that I will regret for the rest of my life. I love you very much and I want to live my whole life with someone who will support me in difficult times and will insist that nothing is impossible, everything is in your hands, dear! Everything is in our hands: our happiness, our life, our love. I love you honey. And life with you is an incredible miracle, an incredible gift of fate. You are the best".

To a young man who has already had a kiss

After kissing the young man, you were confused and did not have time to confess your love to each other. However, you shouldn’t run away from this; you need to admit it right now.

Example 1

By writing a message, for example, like this: “Dear, dear, my best. Meeting you completely changed my life. Everything went differently for her. All the everyday bustle has disappeared somewhere, and the days have become so bright and memorable! Time seemed to have taken on a different aspect. It languishes when you are not with me, and just rushes at the speed of light when you are near. You touched my heart, and most importantly, you managed to touch my soul. And you can't escape from there. Your kiss does not burn with passion, on the contrary, it envelops you in tenderness and sensuality. Your hugs are not shackles, but reliable support. Does love exist? Yes, and only you made me believe it.”

Example 2

This option is also perfect for explaining your love to your boyfriend via SMS: “Beloved. Yes, now I can call you my love. After all, after kissing you, I realized that you are the most precious thing that can ever be in life. I forgot what it is real love, but you are different. Thanks to you, my heart can feel again. I was about to think that it was completely frozen and cold, but your fire inside was able to warm it up. You are not just a man, you are my salvation. When you are not there, I miss you, when you are with me, I am the happiest. This may sound all stupid and corny now, but I just want to tell you how I feel. It’s very difficult to say this to your face. Only SMS saves. Just know that you are the most magnificent man I have ever met."

To a young man who is far from you

Example 1

Or how about this example: You know, you so suddenly appeared in my life, now I can’t imagine it without you. You are not like thousands of others, you are special. I give most of myself to you. And I also wanted to say that I am incredibly jealous of the people who see you every day. It’s so wonderful to watch you smile or sometimes be sad. You are far away now, but I would like to tell you these cherished three words. Yes, I love you. You are the best thing that happened to me. You are an ideal who was able to awaken in me those deep feelings that I have never felt for anyone. I dream of being closer to you, but this distance always interferes with everything. However, I sincerely hope that we can be together. After all, distance is just numbers that are not an obstacle to such a feeling as love. You are the best, I love you."

Example 2

This evening it is especially difficult for me to realize that you are not around. You are somewhere far away, thousands of kilometers away from me. You know, I keep trying to make myself think that this is not love. Every time I understand that, for inexplicable reasons, I am beginning to be madly drawn to you. Especially when evening comes. I lie and think about you. They say that people who are awake at 3 am are either in love or lonely. So here it is. I don't know, maybe I'm lonely? I wouldn't like to believe it. I dream of living my whole life with you. You changed me, reincarnated me, I became different. And it's all thanks to you. Distance, of course, always gets in the way. But we could overcome it, believe me. You just can't imagine how much I love you. As I write, there are tears on my cheeks. I don’t know why, I think I confessed my feelings, it should become easier, but there’s still something wrong in my soul. Probably because now you can simply reject me, and I will die in my gut. Just know. That this world is not needed without you. Life isn't the same without you. Remember once and for all - I love you very much!”

How to confess your love to a guy

Sometimes women and girls believe that it is impossible to be the first to confess sincere love, because this is the prerogative of a man. But some guys are simply afraid to take the first step and therefore hide their feelings from their beloved. Therefore, in order not to wait forever for the cherished words, you should discard prejudices and confess your love to the man you love most.

Preparing for recognition

Before you open up about your feelings, consider whether you can do it. Confessing to a man first is not easy; this requires determination and confidence in your feelings. If in doubt, do not rush, it is better to postpone this moment. Make sure the man is ready to hear words of love.

When moral preparation is over, you should carefully consider what to say and when it is best to say it. The right time and place is the key positive result. You should not talk about tender feelings when he is not in the mood, is busy with work or is watching Soccer game. Indeed, in such a situation, words will simply fall on deaf ears.

When choosing a place, you need to proceed from his preferences and attitude to romance. You can say that you love him while walking in the park or on the river bank, over a romantic dinner in a beautiful restaurant or during an intermission at the cinema; nothing prevents you from doing this while saying goodbye, when he accompanies you home or before leaving on a business trip.

You can say “I love you” to your husband every morning by making him coffee in bed or during breakfast by preparing his favorite treat.

Preparing for Rejection

The more you expect a positive answer, the more painful it is to realize that there is no reciprocity, so experiencing a refusal is always painful. But you shouldn’t give up, you should accept the current situation and turn the page. Refusal makes it clear that this person is not your destiny, you need to leave him and move on with your life.

Methods

Eyes to eyes

This method is sincere and effective, since guys value straightforwardness and honesty in girls. The speech should be prepared in advance, so as not to say too much; improvisation is not a help here. A man will be pleased to hear compliments and even a little flattery.

Speak directly, avoiding vague phrases, so that he understands that this is a declaration of love. At this moment, the main thing is not to be nervous, but to radiate confidence.

A one-on-one declaration of love is the most reliable method for those women whose beloved man is married, since this is the only way you will most likely be able to keep him a secret.

In your ear

This is an original and cute way. It has been proven that intuitively a person is inclined to trust whispers. The advantage of the method is that you can whisper words of love to your chosen one unexpectedly: while spending time with friends, sitting in a cafe, theater, cinema, when there are many strangers around. A declaration of love to a beloved man, spoken in a whisper, has a passionate and sometimes erotic character.

By phone

You can choose this option for declaring your love if your beloved man is at a distance or you are afraid to look him in the eyes at such a crucial moment. The advantage of this method is that you can peep into a pre-written speech. The downside of speaking over the phone is that you won’t be able to visually assess your loved one’s reaction, and by the intonation of their voice, this is not always possible.

Through social networks

If you often communicate with your beloved man on the Internet, then you can send a declaration of love in a personal message, choosing beautiful and tender words that describe the fullness of your feelings. Another option is to paint graffiti on his “wall” if you don’t mind the confession becoming public. If you are afraid to write directly, you can send a song that will tell about your feelings.

A love letter

This is a suitable way for those girls who are not ready to talk about their feelings out loud. A letter to your beloved man with a declaration of love does not have to be long; a few touching lines in prose or poetry will suffice. You can send a love letter by mail or discreetly put it in your chosen one’s pocket.

SMS

If the man you love is not around right now or there is no way to declare your love out loud, SMS is a good way. In addition, you can at the same time admit that you don’t dare tell him about your feelings directly. If the message is received but there is no response, check whether he received the message. But if the answer is yes, you should not ask clarifying questions or take other steps; the next move is up to the man.

Confession options

Thanks to you, I feel happy every day! I like it when you give me your attention and tenderness. I feel so good with you that I’m ready to sing with happiness. You are so attentive, caring and sensitive! I'm happy to be next to you. And I’m ready to make you the happiest man in the world, because I love you very much!
Every person is looking for his soul mate, and happiness knows no bounds when he finds it. I pulled out my lucky ticket when I met you. Now you are my destiny and happiness, because only when you are near the world becomes rainbow and bright. My heart and soul belong to you, you are the only man for me. I don't want to hide my true feelings because I love you. I love it and am ready to shout about it to the whole world!
I never stop thinking about you because I love you so much! I want to be close to you to give you my affection and tenderness. I want to spend time with you unforgettable days and nights, whispering in your ear: I love you!
I can’t imagine myself without you, without your eyes and smile, kisses and courageous hands. Now I know that you are happiness, my happiness. I love you!
I do not need expensive gifts, I only need your attention, only you alone. After all, when I wake up in the morning, I realize that I live by you... for you. I wanna be with you. I love you!
At first sight I fell in love with you. I like everything about you: gentle voice, pleasant smile and hot kisses. My heart flutters like a bird in a cage when I'm alone with you. I have dreamed of such a man all my life. With you I feel a real woman, I'm happy with you. Dear, I love you and wish that from a small spark our feelings will burn into a huge flame of love!
My most beloved and dear one, I can say with confidence that our meeting was not accidental. It was destined by heaven that we would find each other. And so, it happened, our paths converged. My heart immediately told me that we were born to be together. I love you and I hope it’s mutual!
I miss your hands, eyes and lips! I miss you! I miss you so much! And all because I love you!
No one will be able to feel and understand the fullness of my feelings for you. No one will understand how much I love you, because no one on the entire planet is gifted with such happiness to love to the point of absurdity, to the point of madness, giving yourself completely to one person. I love you and want to make you just as happy!
You are the meaning of my life! I think about you when I fall asleep. I think about you when I wake up. I smile in my dreams, thinking about you! I want to scream that I love you. After all, I can’t imagine myself without your smile. You are my other half! I love you!
A fire lights up inside me when you are near and I like this warmth, it warms me so much. I feel comfortable with you, I feel hot in your arms. Your kisses are gentle and sweet, and your lips are passionate and soft. You are my world, my universe! I have nothing more to say, only that I love you.
What is love? It is impossible to describe in words, it is both simple and complex. What is love? It cannot be explained; to understand, you need to feel it. And I realized, because I love you!
There are no distances or obstacles, no hundreds of kilometers between our cities, because I love you and look forward to our meeting!
There are people with whom you don’t want to part even for a moment. They are a real drug: the more you get to know them, the harder it is to forget them. I want to comprehend them again and again, to completely dissolve in them. They delight the mind and captivate the heart. There are few of them, but they exist. For me, that person is you! I love you!
You know, I'm calling you to tell you that I love you! I realized this and decided that you have the right to know!

Falling in love is a wonderful feeling that any girl experiences sooner or later. Meeting your “ideal” man (especially when it comes to first love) always leaves an indelible mark on your memory. But in order to be together, you need to somehow express your feelings, which not everyone can do and not always. But what to do if for some reason the guy is in no hurry to throw millions of roses at his feet, and the woman herself has already firmly decided that she will only be with him? In our enlightened age, it has long been possible to take the first step on your own, without waiting for it from your knight, and at the same time not lose your dignity.

Is it possible for a girl? Pros and cons

Why "against":

The most disgusting outcome of this event is the refusal to accept tender feelings. It’s always scary to be the first to confess, because the other half may discover that he likes the other one or try to turn everything into a joke and “remain friends.”
If this is a serious person with a strict upbringing, then after such a bold act he may decide that the girl is easily accessible and/or prefers to dominate in the relationship - no man deliberately wants to be henpecked.
Complexes can also play a cruel joke. A young man who is too insecure in himself may begin to mumble “I don’t know” in response to such a frank confession, and an overly self-confident one will decide that he is too macho, since even the girls themselves tell him this. This could be the beginning of manipulating a partner, but why is this necessary in a normal relationship?
Failure will disappoint and can become the cause of a girl’s complexes. Regret and self-criticism develop into despair if you are not distracted in time by something neutral or by another person.

There is an opinion that a girl should not make the first move

Pros:

Courage is a reason to be proud. And not only the confessed one, but also her boyfriend! There is so much admiration in his voice when he tells his friends (and sometimes later his children) about how his dream itself came to him (called, wrote - it doesn’t matter).
Secret unrequited love is treated exclusively by such confessions. Even if the guy has not shown mutual feelings, his opinion on this matter greatly helps to pull yourself together.
What if the love is mutual, but he hides it? You definitely need to dare! Modest guys often cannot even afford to dream that a girl will decide to tell them about her feelings first, and forcing themselves to make a confession is comparable to torture. In this case, you need to be simpler.
A new level of relationship can go so far that it ends in marriage. Yes, now there are walks together, going to the cinema, small gifts, but is this love? You can find out this only by declaring your love to a guy - suddenly this is the beginning of a truly magical life.

Why is he silent?

Yes, according to generally accepted rules of behavior, a man must do a lot first: give a lady his hand, invite her to dance, confess his love. But, due to the emancipation of women, not all young people are able to say “I love you” without fear, even if they seem cool in appearance. Let's just say, even if they seem cool to themselves.
What to do in this case?
Be sure to openly declare your love first. This will not only give you strength in your own eyes, but will also liberate the guy.

Others prefer to keep such confessions secret for fear of “scaring off” the girl with their pressure or, conversely, giving her a tool of power over themselves. Unfortunately, not all representatives of the fair sex are honest, preferring the joys of meeting and intimacy to the joys of spending expensive time together and receiving valuable gifts.
What to do in this case?
Rather than being so tender and fragile that you are afraid to touch, it is better to show a little of your own initiative. Firstly, this will help the young man to be convinced of the girl’s exceptional sincerity, and secondly, such tactics will help show that a woman can sometimes be strong too. However, born “defenders” may not like this.

Also, guys are no less afraid than girls of being rejected or hearing that the object of adoration loves his best friend more. No one is immune from this. In addition, men, for the most part, are morally more “thick-skinned” creatures and cannot always understand what exactly they feel for their companion.
What to do in this case?
Most often this happens when the object of adoration previously declared his love and was rejected. Now he has psychological trauma and the fear that any girl will do the same to him as the previous one. It makes sense to confess here in order to break this stereotype.

Silence can speak volumes

There are also “silent people” who prefer to demonstrate their attitude through actions, forgetting that women “love with their ears.” Try to hint to such a knight that he is sometimes more romantic. There’s no need to confess too much here.

Serious preparation

But, having decided, it is better to stop for a while and check whether the girl herself is ready to confess her love to the guy. Doing it first is no easier than for those men who do it themselves.

First, you should try to look at yourself from the outside - is this really love? Maybe boredom or a thirst for adventure, fatigue from loneliness? Before making loud statements, you need to be sure of sincerity own feelings. A close friend, mother or sister can help you understand the situation. But with best friend You shouldn’t discuss such secrets with your future boyfriend - most likely, it will cease to be a secret, but the question of why a stranger, and not the guy himself, was the first to know about it, will remain.

Also, if friendly communication has been established, you can carefully ask his opinion about relationships, about girls, maybe even about marriage. But all this should be done unobtrusively, solely interested in the opinion of a friend. This stage of preparation will be extremely useful in the future if it turns out that the feelings are mutual - it is better to know tastes and preferences well, and not try to guess on the fly.

Is the intention to express your feelings still there? Okay, then we can start rehearsing. No matter how funny it may sound, it is better to actually rehearse the “scene” several times in front of the mirror in order to choose the words and choose the most winning tactics. During a real confession, a confidently spoken phrase will not allow the guy to laugh it off, pretending that these are momentary emotions.

All that remains is to get yourself in order, prepare an irresistible smile and... make the most original declaration of love in your life. On one's own.

Original confessions

1) You can whisper words of love in your ear. It’s not so easy to do beautifully, but when done successfully it looks very romantic and pleasant for both. And guys, even though they show their masculinity, are just as susceptible to tenderness as girls. In addition, what is said in a whisper is perceived as a hidden secret, something that needs to be protected from others.

2) Romantic and fun. If the guy is a romantic, that's great. Walking under the stars, having dinner together (it is quite atypical when a girl takes a man to a restaurant, it is much better to show off her own culinary masterpieces), candles - all this will create the very atmosphere when you can say the introductory phrase “I have long wanted to tell you...”. Just don’t make it a toast - it doesn’t always look impressive, especially when the girl is very worried and is in a hurry to “wash down” her words.

Beautiful words will help you express your feelings

3) If two romantically inclined natures meet, but you are not in the mood to stand at the stove for half a day, then it is quite possible to dedicate a poem to your loved one and personally recite it. But there are difficulties here - firstly, you shouldn’t make a poem out of a confession - reading for too long will only cause fatigue and bewilderment, and secondly, it’s better to abandon the scribbled sheet altogether - a quatrain spoken from memory will be much more effective. Perhaps, when recognizing by correspondence, a lengthy madrigal will look more appropriate.

4) Endorphins are the best allies. There are also tricks that help create such an impressive spiritual uplift that the answer to any question will be positive, not to mention the reaction to a declaration of love from a girl. How to arrange this? Not so easy, but possible. An ideal day - delicious food, great work, your favorite team won and declared your love ideal woman. What could be more beautiful?

5) The Internet and mobile communications come to the aid of modest women. Although talking about serious things is not personally considered bad form, it is better than sitting and waiting for the prince to deign to figure it out for himself. Here, too, you should not neglect preparation - several drafts will help to weed out unnecessary words and ambiguities, leaving only the most important things. And then you can make an appointment. In the most extreme case, you can arrange a mysterious accident - a letter from a stranger or an SMS from an unknown number. Mystery and adventure are the best way to ignite the feelings of the stronger sex at any age.

6) You can choose any reason for recognition. Birthday, New Year or the anniversary of your acquaintance is no worse than other days to give such a gift as to yourself. True, you should not limit yourself exclusively to this gift... By the way, about gifts - a CD with lyrics, your own song or video will help make the recognition unforgettable. Even if the feelings are not mutual, let it remain as a keepsake for someone you care about.

7) One of the most gentle ways to tell what you feel is to bring it out from your loved one in the most sensitive places. We are talking about your back and arms - under the pretext of a funny game “guess what I’m drawing on you,” you can talk about your love and it will be wonderful.

A negative answer only means that you can build a relationship with someone else.

You can turn to friends and relatives for help if it seems that you can’t get out of depression on your own - a new hobby, hobby and change of environment will definitely help you cope with even the most negative thoughts. In addition, there is a positive side to this - in addition to life experience, a failed guy, seeing a radiant smile instead of a tear-stained face, may begin to be tormented by the same thoughts as a recently rejected girl. In addition to petty vengeful joy, this can be done both as a way of paying for oneself (but then the question arises, was there love if it so quickly became hatred), and as a way to attract a loved one to you again, to show that he is really needed and important .

In any case, no matter how scary it is and no matter how painful it is, if suddenly the feelings are not mutual, this is something that every person should experience - just like trying to be the first to confess your love. Without exception, it's a guy or a girl.

Don't understand how to confess your love to a guy? Find out how to behave correctly in various situations, avoid fears, what phrases to start a conversation with your beloved guy, and what typical mistakes lead to the complete failure of a relationship that has not yet begun.

Taking the first step is not unnatural. Think about it, what if your object of desire is also secretly in love with you, but doesn’t dare admit it.

As observations show, it is precisely for the reason that no one can meet halfway that many couples have not formed who might have been very happy.

Or maybe while you are thinking, he will be seduced by another? So - go for it!

Psychological attitude

Of course, you should always tune in to the good and live optimistically, because how much has been said and written about the fact that all our thoughts are material! However, as they say, hope for the best, but prepare for the worst. Although no, you don’t need to prepare, you just need to consider this option for yourself.

The main thing is to remember that how you present yourself is how you will be perceived. Think how good you will feel if you succeed. Don't be afraid to get into an awkward situation!

Interesting observation! If you don’t want to look stupid in a ridiculous situation, then you don’t need to get upset, irritated, blush with shame and run away from “shame” (it’s still worth arguing!). You need to treat your situation with humor, because one of the keys successful person- the ability to laugh at yourself.

People around you will quickly lose interest in making fun of you if you laugh and say something like “I’m a loser!”, “Can you imagine if I had also done this and said that”, “I I just love being in such situations!”

If you say this with a bit of self-irony, those around you will appreciate your humor, and in the end the whole “incident” will not be a shame, but an opportunity to simply laugh at a comical incident.

How to confess your love to a guy

If you're afraid

They say that only fools are afraid of anything. However, our fears prevent us from achieving many heights.

If you are afraid to confess your feelings to a young man, and you cannot fight it, then you need to prepare the “soil”, that is, become confident that he will reciprocate your feelings.

And for this you should find out what type of girls he likes, whether you have common hobbies, become brighter in order to arouse admiration from other representatives of the stronger sex, etc.

In some humorous conversation, say something like: “You’re so funny! I’m just crazy about you!”

Look at his reaction. If he likes you, then you will immediately understand it (if not, then leave everything as it is for now, do not develop this idea). If he responds to you with a negative reaction, add: “...Just like from a friend/person...”.

Perhaps an anonymous method or recognition via the Internet will suit you, mobile phone etc., because it is always easier to open up through correspondence than to talk about your feelings in person.

If he doesn't love you

You can hope that someday everything will change, and your feelings will “go off scale” from reciprocity, but you need to look at life realistically and evaluate yourself adequately.

If you really want to achieve this person, make sure that at least you arouse his sympathy (which someday, perhaps, will develop into something more).

There are a lot of female tricks for this (playing with glances, seductive images, undisguised flattery - men love it when people say nice things to them).

If you still failed to “stir up” his feelings, do not be upset. It doesn’t matter whether it happened at 11 years old, at 15 years old or at 30 years old, you need to remember that you still have a whole life ahead of you, full of bright events, adventures, tenderness, beautiful words and many other amenities.

So that he doesn't refuse

To do this, you need to be sure that he likes you. Or do it in such a way as to “hit him on the spot.”

To do this you need:

If he has a girlfriend

You should take into account that if he loves someone else, he most likely will not leave her. And think for yourself: do you need this? In any case, you will either become a homewrecker, or an object of general discussion, or even worse, a target for ridicule of this couple.

If you see that the guy is also not indifferent to you, and you want to tell him about your feelings at all costs, do it as carefully as possible: choose the right words and say/write them in appropriate situations.

Former

Before you write to your words to the former love, think a hundred times. Understand what pushes you to take this action (maybe it’s temporary depression, pressure from girlfriends, alcohol, etc.).

Consider whether you will damage your or his current position. If you still decide, go for it!

Perhaps this confession will help you reconnect with ex-boyfriend(perhaps it was only pride that prevented you from making peace before?).

So, start acting from afar: find out about his personal life at the moment, whether he has a companion, and if so, how serious this relationship is.

It will be better if you also collect information about his work, current hobbies, etc. This will help you start a conversation. Some information can be obtained from YOUR good friends, social networks or other means.

Now it’s up to you to decide: you will resume your communication through hints (“Have not seen each other for a long time, I want to talk”), requests (for example, help on an issue in which he is well versed) or you will say directly.

Secretly

If you are very afraid to confess your feelings to a guy, then you should think about doing it anonymously. Any methods are suitable here: a planted note, a gift, an inscription on the asphalt, etc.

Regardless of the reasons that prompted you to give an anonymous explanation - you’re scared to see his reaction or you want to create intrigue - you shouldn’t resort to the help of your friends (like, tell him that he has a secret admirer, just don’t say who exactly).

After all, it is obvious that your intermediary will “split” as soon as the recipient of the confession “puts pressure” on him.

BUT! You should not “languish” your chosen one for a very long time, since in the case of unrequited feelings you will be more disappointed.

There are several ways to confess:

invite him on a date(in this case it is better to be sure that he will not leave);
using social networks(for example, send a gift or card, but no longer anonymously);
send SMS(of course, he will call you back, and then you will open up to him);
ask him to guess(BUT! if you first hint at your personality, otherwise you risk being disappointed by the list of spoken names, as well as putting him in an awkward position).

You can dream up a little, for example, when you are next to him (at work, at school, at an event), arrange arrows that will ultimately lead to you (here think about how you can meet him).

At school

Confessing your love at school is the easiest thing, because here you have a lot of mutual friends, there are many opportunities to spend time together (games, extra classes, sections, clubs, lunches in the cafeteria, etc.).

Those who say that love at 12 years old is impossible at 13 years old, think wrong. Many remember their kindergarten “passions” with rapture. Even at 10 years old, you don’t need to bury any feelings inside yourself, because perhaps this is your first love.

BUT! There is no need to play “adult games” at this age! This must be remembered!

Hint

Perhaps the most interesting and beneficial way for recognition: if he answers “yes” - great (only after that you need to develop this topic so that he believes your words), if “no” - I’ll pretend that this is not what I meant at all!

You can tell him that you have never met people like him, or maybe that you admire him... You can veil it however you like. However, this is not a direct confession! 😉

The only negative is that such a “game” can take a very long time.

For him to reciprocate

To do this you need:

try to become the most interesting person for him (for example, get carried away by the same activities);
always be different (particularly in relation to appearance, in order to attract his attention);
be unapproachable (men love to achieve);
act feminine;
become an interesting interlocutor for him;
show that you care about him;
intrigue;
be bright (mostly the inner world);
smile more often.

Some of this together will help you win the heart of your loved one. If not, you will have many other fans.

If we don't communicate

So we need to start communicating! It is better if you have mutual friends among whom you will feel confident. This will help you open up a little. Also relevant is the method of meeting people through social networks, where the opportunities for meeting people are very wide.

Confession in contact

We are heroes online! They don’t see us, they don’t see our reaction, they don’t see our embarrassment, so recognition on the Internet remains, probably, the most simple option. VKontakte is the most popular social network. network in Russia and beyond, so opportunities there are constantly expanding.

In VKontakte you can send a postcard to your favorite guy’s wall, send him a gift, give him a hint using a picture, video or audio recording.

Maybe you could invite him to play a game with you? With this method, you will also become a little closer, there will be new topics for conversation... Likes and comments will also help you!

How can you confess your love to a guy so that it is effective?

The following rules must be observed:

decide whether you need it (perhaps it’s instant sympathy);
don’t be shy (and if he makes you so nervous, this can be your advantage, you just need to tell him about it);
take your time (you need to get to know each other better - maybe he will soon disappoint you);
be original;
be positive;
do not forget that you are a Personality;
look impressive;
behave in a dignified, feminine manner;
become a good and interesting conversationalist (for this, do not forget to develop yourself);
be unavailable;
feel like a queen (this will help you become confident);
do not be afraid of self-irony (laugh at yourself, your shortcomings);
do not allow yourself to be humiliated and humiliated by others.

Video: Falling in love or how I confessed my love

But time passes, and the beloved, for some reason, does not pronounce such love. This is alarming and worries the girl very much. After all, everyone wants happy and mutual love. What to do in this situation? What should I do? Should a guy confess his love first?

Should you confess your love to a guy?

When can you confess your love to a guy? And is it worth doing? Let's look for answers to these cherished questions.

First, you need to find out why the guy himself doesn’t talk about love to you. The reasons can be very diverse:

The chosen one is a rather timid and shy person from birth. And he simply does not dare to utter such loud words.
He is afraid that you will reject him. Guys are also afraid of rejection.
The partner treats his partner with great trepidation and fears that he might push her away with such a confession. He believes these words can alarm and burden their relationship.
He is sure that you already feel his love, which he expresses through actions, views, gestures. And he believes that this is quite enough for you to understand his attitude towards you.
Perhaps the guy himself is not sure that he loves the girl. He just hasn't made up his mind about his own feelings yet.

As we found out, there are quite a few negative reasons for his inaction. And this means that you can risk confessing first.

If the main reason is his shyness, then you even need to confess your love first, because otherwise you will have to wait a very long time for his recognition. And if the guy is simply afraid that you will reject him, then help him with your confession. After all, with this action, you will show him how dear he is to you, and you will be able to give him confidence.
Does the guy think that actions can replace words? Prove him otherwise. Confess your feelings first so that he understands that words are also very important and necessary.
And if the guy is unsure of the girl’s feelings, then you can explain your feelings towards him. Then perhaps it will be easier for him to decide and understand everything.

Yes, sometimes you shouldn’t confess your love to a guy if he is rude and mocking. But in all other cases, if you want to do it with all your heart, then admit it first. Let all your feelings out.

You won't lose anything. And perhaps vice versa you will acquire - mutual love and confidence in your partner’s feelings. If you encounter disappointment, do not despair, because you did everything you could, and you are honest with yourself.

Once you find out the truth, you will stop wasting time on a person who is not particularly interested in you. But now, you with a pure heart you can start looking for your true love.

TOP 3 ways to confess your love to a guy

Confessing love can be quite difficult. But if you do it correctly and creatively, then both of you will remember such recognition for the rest of your life.

What's the best way to confess your love to a guy? The main thing is to choose the appropriate method, based on the preferences of your partner, his temperament and character. The chosen method should be suitable for the girl herself: it should not cause her a feeling of anxiety or discomfort.

Admit it in simple words. Brief and clear.
Do things that will please your chosen one. Support him. After all, sometimes actions speak much more than words.
Confess your love with a sweet smile, gentle touches and warm eyes. These gestures can be much more convincing than any words.
Give a romantic card that says it all. Or give a cute souvenir that is associated with reverent and tender feelings.
Decide on a passionate kiss. The main thing is to choose the right moment. With this action you prove that you have romantic feelings for your partner.
Give compliments. Your lover will very soon be able to guess that you have sincere feelings for him if you speak words of admiration and support to him.
Prepare a surprise. A gentle gift or a romantic date can touch you to the depths of your soul and show your reverent attitude towards your chosen one.
Love message. You can confess your feelings to him using a real letter. This is a very romantic and original way.

If you are both supporters of modern instant messengers, then you can admit:

VKontakte (VK)- this is the most common social network. If your chosen one spends a lot of time in it, then this will be an excellent way of recognition. Even if you are unfamiliar yet, you can give a couple of likes and write a few relevant comments on the photos. Then add your chosen one as a friend. Explore his page, study his interests. Make contact. This application provides excellent opportunities for creativity. You can create a video for your loved one, record a voice message, send a sticker, postcard or audio recording to your loved one's wall.
By correspondence– correspond as often as possible, but just try to make the correspondence meaningful. Discuss your favorite movies, ask how his day was, what he thought about yesterday’s match. When you have already established contact, you can start dropping hints, adding romantic emoticons and pictures to your correspondence. Try to communicate at a certain time. Let this become your tradition. And then disappear at this time for certain period. Surely, he will be worried and want to know where you have been. When you have established the desired contact, you can approach the desired conversation. In it you must be extremely honest and delicate. Use only your words and thoughts.
By SMS– recognition through messages can become quite in an interesting way. It can be in poetic form or funny content. This method especially suitable for shy people. Only you must be familiar with your chosen one, and already have experience communicating via SMS, so as not to scare him off.

Choose exactly the method that you like most, and it will be the most correct.

Method No. 1. It's beautiful to confess your love to a guy

The guys even more girls react to words of love. Therefore, you need to make sure that your confession is beautiful, and he remembers it with warmth and tenderness!

Place. First, take care of where you will confess. This could be yours favorite place walks, or maybe a cozy cafe or park. Perhaps you want this to be an embankment, or a cozy country house, or just your bedroom.
Emotions. Take care of your condition too. Emotions and fear should not possess you. Get ready in advance and replay the future meeting in your mind. You should be in high spirits. Confidence and optimism should envelop you.
Cloth. Appearance also plays a significant role. Buy yourself a stunning dress, do your hair so that your loved one cannot take his eyes off you.
Process. Having thought through everything to the smallest detail, choose the appropriate method of recognition. For romantics, poems, romantic songs, beautiful poems, and candlelight dinner are suitable. For more brutal men, simply words of love and a trip to their favorite place will be enough. Give a message or symbolic gift beloved.

You need to choose the most appropriate moment. So that he would not be busy, he would not be disturbed by friends, work or study.

Method number 2. Original way to confess your love to a guy

Do you want your lover to be amazed and remembered by your confession? Then you can come up with enough original ways confessions:

compose a song or poem for your loved one;
shoot and edit a video in advance with the most pleasant moments of your relationship;
make a video about your loved one and your attitude towards him;
tell a monologue about love on stage;
ask your friends to tell the guy all day long that a girl loves him, and he will find out which one in the evening;
buy a CD with romantic songs and sign it: “These songs reflect my feelings for you”;
Make your loved one a cake with the inscription “I love you.”

Method No. 3. It's unusual to confess your love to a guy

Are you a supporter of everything unusual? Then you can come up with an unusual confession to your partner that he will never be able to forget:

Use paint and write your confession on the wall.
Jump from the parachute together and during the flight tell him about your feelings.
Try to arrange a quest, and when he solves it, he will receive a prize - your recognition.
Invite your loved one on a hike or on a trip to another city, and say words of love there.
Do a photo shoot together, and then post it on the Internet, and sign it “I love you.”

The bolder and larger your confession, the more it will amaze your lover. Experiment.

How to confess your love if you are shy

Many girls are embarrassed to express their feelings first. After all, they were taught from childhood that men should do everything first. But time passes, everything changes. And in modern times, a lot has changed.

You shouldn’t rely on luck, sit for years, hope and wait. Take action, decide and enjoy.

If embarrassment greatly overpowers your desire to confess first, then you should prepare a little so as not to leave any chance for anxiety.

Start taking initiative from afar. Invite him to interesting places, arrange a romantic one. Give him compliments. Sometimes insert the phrase “I adore you” into the conversation., then carefully watch the guy’s reaction. If he hesitates and glances at you with a puzzled look, it means he is trying to understand what meaning you put into these words.

If a girl is very afraid to tell a guy about her feelings, then you can try to confess in writing. This way you can check your confession, edit it and send it when you are ready. You can even use an anonymous method of recognition, via the Internet or mobile communications.

Well, in order not to be afraid and to be confident in a positive outcome, you need to prepare:

find out what attracts him most in girls;
find common interests;
change your image a little for the better;
read .

When you know a lot about your lover, it will become much easier for you to confess your feelings to him, because almost all the trump cards will be up your sleeve.

Possible problems and solutions after recognition

There are situations when the girl confessed her love to the guy, but he remains silent. What to do? The best solution is to be patient. Under no circumstances should you panic. Don’t write him a bunch of more messages after that - give the guy time to comprehend the information. It’s difficult for him now, perhaps he’s dumbfounded. He must understand and decide for himself what to do next. Expect a reciprocal step from him now.
If the guy rejected the girl's confession, or does not answer, then don't be sad. On the contrary, be glad that you decided to confess and found out the result. Thus, you speeded up the process and found out that this is not your soul mate.

Don't force yourself on your partner any further. Respect his choice. Try to understand him. Perhaps now he is simply not ready for serious relationship. Time will pass, and he may change his attitude towards you. Therefore, you should not write insults to him. Accept his answer with dignity. Give thanks for the truth. You can remain friends - it's at your discretion.

Remember all the good things you had. And know that you now have valuable experience building relationships, and following relations will definitely be happy.

Only you can decide whether to confess your love to a guy first or not. Only you can choose the most appropriate method of recognition. Everything is individual. The most important thing is sincerity.

Consider the pros and cons. Gather your strength. Tune in to the required wave. Choose the right time. Look the guy in the eyes, smiling gently. And know that you are already a winner, because you decided to take such a brave and wonderful action.