Original message by Independent_kaleidoscope“My life collapsed in one moment. I just didn't believe this was happening to me. “How can it be, this is the love of my life,” I thought in confusion, “we have plans: now a house, then children. Yes, I will do anything to be with my beloved, I will forgive everything!” - says TV presenter Olga Buzova.
Olga, it’s so unusual to see you as a brunette, but it suits you very well...
Until recently, I was sure of three “never”. That I will never dye my hair brunette. I will never forgive betrayal. And I will never fall on my knees before a man. And I violated all three of these points. Now I no longer renounce anything. Something has happened in my life that makes it difficult to scare me.
Do you mean your divorce (from football player Dmitry Tarasov. Information appeared on the Internet that discord in the family began with his betrayal. - Ed.)?
You know, I always considered myself strong, my mother even calls me “the steadfast tin soldier.” But I could barely cope with the situation that happened in my personal life. And even now, although four months have passed since my separation from my husband, I can’t talk about everything calmly. I begin to remember, and my voice trembles, tears flow. The blow was powerful, and I was not ready for it. It is clear that many people experience this, but now I am talking about myself, but it seems to us all that it is our love that is the strongest and our pain from loss is the most unbearable. I was sure that I would marry once for the rest of my life. And on February 3 it would have been six years since we have been together. But in early October, suddenly, literally in one day, even in one minute, it all ended.
It's hard to describe. I just didn't believe this was happening to me. It seemed that everything would work out, it just couldn’t be that this was the end. “How can it be, this is the love of my life,” I thought in confusion, “we have plans: now a house, then children. I have everything planned out, I build my life cube by cube. Yes, I will do anything to be with my beloved! And I will forgive everything. Well, yes, there are difficult periods and crises in relationships, but everything can be overcome!” After all, my husband and I have already experienced many stressful situations together: we lost loved ones, buried his dad, went through all his sports injuries, surgeries, stages of recovery... And I had difficulties at work, and then he supported me. The main thing is that we were together and happy with each other. We were a team, we were one. At least, that's what I thought...
And then my life, my world, collapsed. The worst thing is, I still don’t know the reason why this happened. And I didn’t receive a single answer to my questions. At first I really wanted these answers. And now I think: it’s probably better for me not to know anything. Because I want to preserve in my memory the good, the sacred that connected us. My relatives say: “Olya, remember, you had problems, some conflicts, domestic quarrels...” But I couldn’t remember anything bad. Only now, when my emotions had cooled down a little, did I begin to analyze something. And I realized that the world looked perfect only for me, I made it all up. Hovered in my own illusions! As if a veil had covered my eyes, I knew only one thing: I love, I love, I love! Now I am reconsidering my view on the relationship between a man and a woman. I want not only to love me, but also to be loved just as much.
They say that an ideal marital relationship is when a man loves a little more. You yourself probably had so much love that it was enough for two...
It wasn’t enough, as it turned out... Until recently, I believed that this was temporary, that everything would get better soon. I still can’t say anything bad about the person I lived with for almost six years...
Not long ago you said that you considered yourself guilty. What?
The fact is that I put too much of my personal things on display. But I am an open and sincere person. If I feel good, if I love, then I shout about it to the whole world. I wasn’t scared, although everyone said: “Aren’t you afraid of the evil eye? Happiness loves silence...” Now I agree with this phrase. Yes, I had to leave something for myself so that it wouldn’t hurt so much later. When everything happened, for the first time in almost thirteen years of publicity, I wanted to hide, to fall through the ground, to hide from everyone. Even now it’s difficult for me to talk about what happened. And no one would have known anything if my ex-husband had not been the first to break the silence.
Yes, this is very strange, because it is usually women who make public statements about separation. Your ex-husband accused you of exactly what you say: that your personal life was too exposed. Tell me, did you feel that he didn’t like it?
But he didn't mind! Moreover, he liked it. I have never done anything that my man didn’t like. For me this is the law: love comes first. To hell with everything if there is no love! My grandparents on both my mother’s and father’s sides lived together for 55 years until my grandfathers passed away. And I strived to live with my first and last husband until the end of my days. That's why when we broke up, all hell broke loose for me. I didn't sleep or eat for a month. It got to the point of serious health problems - I even had to stay on IV drips. I was in so much pain that I could not walk, talk, I was in complete prostration and did not understand what was happening to me. I used to think that “the ground is disappearing from under our feet” was just a catchy phrase. But then I physically felt it... I just didn’t know how to continue to live.
And is it necessary to live at all?
Yes. All sorts of thoughts came to mind... After all, I didn’t even have the opportunity to come to my senses. He wanted to finish everything as quickly as possible. And due to stress, I began to feel terrible weakness, and in this state I was looking for a new apartment. At that moment I didn’t care where to live. I could probably even sleep outside and not feel the cold. But I had to think, if not about myself, then about my dogs Eva and Chelsea. And I began to look for a place where I could walk with them.
There must have been a lot of things that needed to be transported.
I only took my things. I left everything that we bought together in our once common house. Women usually take out TVs, household appliances, and beautiful curtains. But I left, as a man usually leaves. My mother and sister helped me get ready; I wouldn’t have had the strength to do it myself. I remember we were packing our things, and I came across an album that I made myself and gave to my husband for six months of our relationship. There were pictures that showed how happy we were... I picked up this album, but threw it away and burst into tears. Then we, three girls, carried boxes of things at night... And my mother carried them with a bad back. Everything in the new apartment was filled with boxes. I didn’t know where the toothbrush was, where the underwear was, where the hairdryer was...
I remember how my sister and assistant came in. They stood between these boxes and smiled. I ask: “Why are you so happy?” - “You have new life! And my mother “danced” for a whole week, trying to cheer me up: ha-ha, hee-hee. But that didn't help much. I could lean out the window and scream - just to let out my emotions, so that I would not be torn apart from pain... And this is the 20th floor! I know that my mother was very scared for me, but she didn’t show it. Later, she and her sister said that when they left my apartment, they went downstairs, hugged and cried. They didn't want me to see their tears. They helped me as best they could.
And a month later you left Moscow. To Spain. And they filmed you there, crying, and posted the video on the Internet...
Because of my condition, I could not work, I could not enter the frame. Therefore, I asked for time off and flew to my friend Marina Kasaeva in Marbella. I needed to hide from everyone... Even my closest ones did not know about this departure. After all, I was simply running away from Moscow, in which everything reminded me of my happy marriage. And I hoped that no one would recognize me in Spain. But I was wrong. I always dreamed of being famous and public! I didn’t even think that the moment would come when I would want to become invisible. Once in Spain I spoke with Lena Temnikova on the phone (and we were in touch with her 24 hours a day, Lena was very supportive of me). And so I couldn’t contain my emotions and burst into tears. That's when they filmed me. On the sly. I didn't even notice how it happened...
When they sent me a link to the news on the Internet with this video, I felt incredibly hurt. Many people think that artists are robots, they cannot suffer, they do not need to be alone... The one who filmed me did not care that I went to Marbella to recover. To learn to sleep again - for starters. But I didn’t succeed in this right away. The thoughts still haunted me at night. Only in the morning did I fall asleep for an hour. But I walked a lot, breathed clean air and was alone with myself. Well, except for the fact that I corresponded a lot with my sister. A little later, much of that correspondence became public knowledge...
Hackers hacked your correspondence not only with your sister, but also with your mother, with Dmitry Nagiyev...
This was the next blow from the person who was previously closest to me. I was already trying to work then, in Berlin I interviewed Michael Fassbender and Marion Cotillard (Irish actor and French actress - Ed.). She just seemed to straighten her back, take a step forward, and then they hit me again with sticks, sticks... Execution again! After the publication of my personal correspondence, I did not understand how I would return to Moscow, how I should now communicate with people. They just took me, gutted me, turned me inside out, leaving nothing personal. Not only I suffered, but also innocent people who gave me a helping hand in difficult times. The same Dmitry Nagiyev helped me a lot as a friend, he conducted real psychotherapy with me, for which I am grateful to him to this day.
Tell me, have you turned to professional psychologists?
I contacted more than one person, but it was of little use. Only the person himself can cope with such things. I remember coming to a hotel in Marbella and crying non-stop for 10 hours straight. At such moments, what saved me was that in the very difficult moments I turned on my acting abilities and began to play the play, as if with myself... Having survived the most terrible period in my life, it seems to me that I have grown as an actress. It’s not for nothing that they say: in order to play a tragedy, you need to experience it in real life... After months, I felt better, I finally began to sleep at least a little and eat something. I even remember what first gave me an appetite: it was an artichoke salad. Since then, I began to recover in small steps... It’s not so easy to survive the betrayal of a loved one, but I can do it...
It hurts, but ultimately it’s also a huge relief that such a person is leaving your life...
He wasn't the only one who left. I'll tell you a story. At my anniversary last year I had two hundred guests. And one friend then told my mother: “How wonderful! What a holiday! So many people came to Olya!” And the wise mother replied: “Let's see if they will be next to Olya when some difficulties arise in her life...” Exactly a year has passed, and out of these two hundred people only twenty remain. But you are right: I reassured myself precisely because the guardian angel removed unnecessary people. It would be worse to wake up at fifty years old and find that you are surrounded only by masks, behind which there is emptiness... Of course, I had felt before that everything was not so simple, that many of those with whom I communicate were not really interested in me they treat me very well. But I had no idea that envy could reach such proportions and take such ugly forms...
Not everyone, apparently, was able to survive your success. Take, for example, your friendship with the dancing millionaire Gianluca Vacchi (a popular Internet character is an Italian millionaire who dances Latin dances. - Ed.). By the way, how did you meet him?
He followed me on Instagram, we followed each other. One day he found out that I would be at the event and said: “I want Olga to announce me!” I came to him, we talked for two hours in English. And he asked me: “Don’t leave me for a minute, because I’m afraid of everyone, I don’t know anyone except you.” He really didn't know anyone except the organizers. And in the end, the video in which we dance gained the most a large number of views from all over Russian Instagram. Well, then we exchanged phone numbers and now we still communicate. Gianluca is an absolutely positive person, very pleasant to talk to and easy-going. And at that moment when I danced with him, believe me, the last thing I thought about was how people would react, I just had fun. I love people, I love life and I know how to enjoy every pleasant event. And then gossip began to circulate that I paid Gianluca to dance with me... But I’m used to gossip, they sometimes even make me laugh!
I free woman. Officially became free on December 30th. And now, according to the documents, I am Buzova again. Fortunately, the divorce did not drag on, and I am very glad that all this remained in the past year. I didn’t want any showdown and didn’t say a bad word about ex-spouse and his family. And I didn't divide the property. Everything he had acquired: the house, the car that he gave me, remained with him.
This is surprising, of course... Despite the fact that your ex-husband in an interview expressed fears that you will lay claim to the property...
So like this. I also didn’t think that this was possible in life, but I don’t want to evaluate someone’s actions. The main thing is that I still have my dogs... I never hold on to material values. For me, the main thing is relationships. If fate takes something away, it means it’s not mine. I believe that God sends us only those life situations that we can handle. So I had to go through this. Perhaps in order to become truly happy with someone else...
Yes, you definitely need to be happy...
I'm trying. I am alive, my family and friends are alive. There are few but faithful friends who love me both in sorrow and in joy. And there is my salvation - work. We shot a video for the song “I’m getting used to it”, it will be released in early March. You could say this is my debut. It’s difficult for me to talk about what I experienced; it’s easier to express my feelings through creativity... Who said that you need to do just one thing? Thank God, I am my own boss. I can do whatever I want: shoot videos, sing. I always dreamed about this, but they stopped me: why do you need this? You work as a presenter on a TV show - and that's enough for you! But no, it’s not enough! I also want to play in the theater and act in films. Last year I had such pleasure when I performed at a MuzTV concert! And now I have already formed my own ballet.
In addition, I create clothes, I have huge plans for my own business “Olga Buzova Design”. Maybe someone thinks that this is all just like that, the girl will play around and quit. But the girl won’t give up anything, I’m serious! There are no random, passing stories in my life at all. I am a very addicting person. Everything has to be perfect, fashionable, delicious, so that I can be proud of myself. If it's work, then it's 24 hours a day, seven days a week. If love, then love to the grave...
Do you already feel ready for new love?
Don't know. I now love my job and am married to it. I have a lot of corporate events, all weekends are booked until June. Recently I said to my press secretary: “Anton, maybe we should go to the cinema?” And he jokingly replies: “Yes... Book a date for February 4, 2018.” Then I look at the diary and discover: “Oh, that won’t work, this date, it turns out, is already taken!” (Laughs.) So love will most likely not appear in my life any time soon. To be honest, it’s still not easy for me to even pronounce the word “man”... But it will pass. Time cures. I will become stronger. There are no strong personalities with a problem-free past! I just need to take a break. Too little time has passed.
Is it true... Have the boxes been taken apart in the rented apartment?
Yes. I really fell in love with the place where I live now. I had an amazing Christmas tree New Year! And what beautiful curtains I have... No wonder I went to an interior design store at night, pulling the hood down deeper so that no one would recognize me. After all, at first I didn’t even have bed linen, blankets, pillows. Now everything is settled. I have a wonderful apartment, it’s nice, calm, and spacious. There is a room for mom, a dressing room, a bedroom, a dressing room, and a huge jacuzzi. Comfort is important to me, and I create it not only for myself, but also for loved ones. Yes, of course, I could go to Africa for a year, live with the Bedouins and tear my hair out with grief. But at some point I realized that I had too much responsibility and too many people were worried about me. My mom and dad, family, fans. I have to help them and I just can’t let anyone down.
Recently, in January, you had a birthday. What did they wish for you?
I celebrated my birthday four times: in Madrid, Rome, Grozny and Moscow. And most often there was a desire to remain as I am. Mom says: “I don’t understand how you manage to do this. You are betrayed, deceived, abandoned, but you remain such a Bambi with eyes wide open.”
What can you say to women who are also going through a difficult divorce?
You know, many women wrote to me: “Olya, I also have difficulties in my family. But I look at you - you walk, work, smile. This gives us strength and hope." I would like to tell everyone the words that I heard from my mother: “Remember, daughter, the main thing you have in life is yourself, don’t lose yourself, we won’t survive this.” Now for me it’s like a mantra: there is nothing more important in life than myself. And every woman should remember this... I will survive everything, I will be happy!
We thank the family Italian restaurant IL BAROLO for their help in organizing the shooting
I just recently returned from vacation - my first in many years. I thought it would never come because I am a workaholic. And now it seems to me that this quality is more of a disadvantage than an advantage. Even sitting at the airport and waiting to board the plane that would take me from snowy Moscow to the shores of the warm sea, I still understood: if they call me now and offer me an interesting job - for example, an unexpected film shoot - I will cancel my vacation and I'll run to work. Over the past year, I have accomplished a lot and achieved amazing results. First places in iTunes, my show “To the Sound of Kisses” was recognized on the Love Radio website as the best show this year, I released an album, shot six videos...
- Six clips in a year?!
A record, few people are capable of this. In addition to this, there are also filming and various television projects. And she even spent nine days in Los Angeles, which were planned as a vacation, filming a video. In general, I can say that the year was happy. I received incredible pleasure from my work. All year my mom and dad, my sister, and close people were with me. My viewers loved me and continue to love me. And everything is fine. But, to be honest, I’m more tired than ever. I'm glad that I was able to rest a little.
I had a dream - to spend my birthday, January 20, away from home. I usually celebrate this holiday on a grand scale, worrying more about the guests than about myself. I always have the best artists, the best restaurants, I plan everything down to the smallest detail, from decoration to dress code. She gathered two hundred guests at a time, worried about everyone, and fussed about them all. And now I suddenly realized that out of these two hundred, at best, twenty of the closest ones care about me. The rest don't really care what happens in my life.
Photo: Lyuba Shemetova
And for the first time in my life, I wanted to celebrate my birthday with my mother, sister and closest friends. Unfortunately, not everyone was able to join me - many had families and children. But for those who succeeded, I tried to organize everything to the highest standard. It’s impossible to think only about yourself, even on your holiday. That's the kind of person I am.
A year ago I had, to put it mildly, a joyless birthday. And I also didn’t celebrate the New Year 2017 very cheerfully - I cried for a week, recovering from a difficult divorce. She released the song “I’m getting used to it.” And with a new turn in creativity, an even more difficult period in life began: everyone in show business suddenly realized that Buzova was serious, that I could not be stopped, and they began to pour buckets of dirt and slop on me. It was a continuous stream of hatred. At the same time, watching me suffer, people said: “Well, why are you worried, you’re used to it!” No! If anyone thinks that over the thirteen years of working on television I have grown skin like a whale, they are very mistaken. I am a vulnerable, emotional person. And first of all, I am a girl.
Many men, representatives of show business, forget about this and, in all seriousness, engage with me in some kind of real battle, in sparring. I'm offended - I'm not used to fighting men, even in verbal battles. My mother did not raise me as a fighter. Since childhood she said: “You are a princess.” She taught me to treat myself with love, to be neat and beautiful. She didn’t even allow her to stay overnight with her friends, because that wasn’t appropriate for princesses. And now for some reason I almost have to fight with men who are stronger, taller, older, in the end. I don't want this. Tired.
- Olga, can you call yourself a fashionista?
I carefully think through every public appearance. Luckily, I have a lot of designer friends who help with the clothes. The last few months before New Year's holidays I couldn’t devote much time to shopping - it was a crazy time. At first I was preparing for a solo concert, which took a lot of energy, and then something incomprehensible began to happen. Filming New Year's programs They walked non-stop, I didn’t know what day it was, I only knew my schedule.
- Women who say that they dress only for themselves are lying. We all want to please someone. Photo: Lyuba Shemetova
During that period, jeans, sneakers and a bomber jacket became favorite clothes for every day. And during the whole fall I had one trip to the store - I realized that winter was coming, and I was wearing leather things, and I went to buy a jacket. In the hour that I allotted to myself for shopping, I managed to go through all the stores. I went into a shoe store and bought sixteen pairs at once - for concerts, and for stage outfits, and for a future birthday, and for every day, and sneakers, and everything in the world. But I still manage to follow fashion trends, it’s interesting to me. In addition, I have my own brand Olga Buzova Design - you have to be on trend.
- When did you become interested in clothes?
In childhood, but then it was difficult to realize it: our family was simple, and our parents did not have great financial resources to spoil us with a sister. But my mother sewed a lot - she is actually a dentist, but during her studies she worked part-time at a weaving factory. As a result, my sister and I were dressed like in the picture for all the holidays. I even came to school graduation in a dress made by my mother.
We studied at the gymnasium (one of the best schools in St. Petersburg), and there was a uniform. I can't say that I really liked it. Although now I understand that there is nothing sexier and more attractive than a trouser suit and a strict blouse - this is always fashionable, relevant and looks advantageous. But then these jackets just made me shake. Take any of my school photos - I'll be in black pantsuit. I was literally bursting with the desire to somehow stand out from the crowd. I remember once on February 14, I cut out two hearts from red fabric and sewed them on my buttocks, so that on Valentine’s Day I would be at least somehow different from others. So she showed up at school - black trousers, and there were two huge hearts on the back of them.
- You weren’t expelled from the gymnasium?
Imagine, they didn’t kick me out. They tried to swear, but I was indignant: “Am I in shape? In the shape of. Black trousers, black jacket - what else do you want from me! And they left me behind. On Saturday it was possible to come in loose clothes, and then I showed myself, went all out. It was fashionable to wear jeans with a very low waist and tops that were very bright and as short as possible. Britney Spears, Christina Aguilera, Spice Girls, all these acid colors, shoes with huge platforms were in fashion. I used every possible paint. Once she even showed up wearing plush slippers in the shape of a muzzle - remember those were there?
- If anyone thinks that over 13 years of working on television I have grown skin like a whale, they are very mistaken. I am a vulnerable, emotional person. And first of all, I am a girl. Photo: Lyuba Shemetova
And I went to college for preparatory courses wearing bell-bottom jeans and a huge cowboy hat. My classmates still remember this outfit to me. She also came up with something incredible with her hair - she put a star on her head, like the Statue of Liberty. And sometimes she walked ahead fashion trends- for example, I glued shiny stars above my eyebrows. Nowadays they cover bodies with rhinestones, but back then it was a novelty.
- Girls probably hated you because of your desire to be brighter than everyone else?
I’ve gotten used to this since childhood: few people treated me calmly. And mostly I was friends with boys - it was always easier to find mutual language. Actually, this is still the case now, in my Buzova team there are only men: dancers, director, PR manager, and sound engineer. They do not envy me, as women would, they do not compete, they do not try to prove that they are better. We are just friends and work together. Relationships with women rarely work out; I have few girlfriends.
- I wonder, when you dress up and put on makeup, do you do it primarily for the men or for the women with whom you compete?
Women definitely have nothing to do with it. Usually girls dress either for themselves or for the man they love. Now my heart is free, I have no young man, which would make me go crazy thinking about what to wear. But I remember this wonderful state, when you run around the apartment like crazy, trying on everything, thinking about what you should wear in front of him today. When you have butterflies in your stomach, when you want to seduce, flirt. I hope this condition will appear in my life again.
Women who claim that they dress only for themselves are lying. Listen, let's be honest: for ourselves, we walk around at home wearing a cucumber mask, in vague shorts and with a “bun” of hair on our heads. And when we are with a man, we immediately have a huge amount of beautiful robes and underwear, we comb our hair, and always cover our lips with shine. We all want to please someone.
For me, external image has always been important; I need to feel attention to myself. Especially now: I am a singer, actress, TV presenter, they look at me, they take their example from me. And I create the mood for the audience, including mine appearance. And for myself too. Any woman knows that when she’s really sad, all she has to do is dress up, look in the mirror and say: “How beautiful I am!” - and all the sadness will be lifted as if by hand. To give people a buzz, I have to get a buzz from myself.
- Have your men ever told you: “Olya, I don’t like it, this skirt is too short”? How did you react to such comments?
Previously, I always listened to my man because I believed that his word was law. But now I understand: love is different. When you are loved, you are cute in any form - in sneakers or funny pajamas with a Christmas tree and Santa Claus, and in a short skirt, and in a sexy dress, and in a non-sexy dress. And it seems to me that you can’t command here. The maximum is to gently correct, without offending.
Now I belong to myself and don’t ask anyone for permission. Recently, for example, I dyed my locks in Blue colour. I can at least shave my head, wear my best Short dress and look the way I like this moment like. I've been alone for a year and a half and do only what I want. Sacrifices for the sake of relationships ultimately lead to nothing good - I experienced this very well myself.
- I remember the state when I have butterflies in my stomach and want to seduce and flirt. I hope it will appear in my life again. Photo: Lyuba Shemetova
- Have you already made plans for 2018?
My plans for this year are not just big - grandiose. I will continue the “To the Sound of Kisses” tour. I'm already planning a second show. I will be touring with the play “A Man in Great Demand,” and on January 25 the film “Zomboyashchik,” in which I starred with the stars of the TNT channel, will be released. And, of course, I will still run Instagram, especially since last year I was the only one from Russia to make it into the world ranking of this social network, taking third place and overtaking Kim Kardashian herself in terms of views. I will continue to work on television, write new songs, create trends. Someone must bring Russia to the world level so that everyone knows that we also have talented people!
In general, I need strength. In the coming year, I want to wish myself health and once again health, so that I have enough for everything. The rocket has been launched, no one and nothing can stop me.
Olga Buzova
Education: graduated from the Faculty of Geography of St. Petersburg State University
Career: in 2004 she came to the Dom-2 project and stayed there for 4 years as a participant. Together with Roman Tretyakov she hosted the radio program “Roman with Buzova”. Since 2008, she has been the host of the show “Dom-2”. In 2012, she took part in the “Dancing with the Stars” project. She has written four books. She began her musical career in 2011; in 2017, her album “To the Sound of Kisses” took 1st place on iTunes, rising there 15 minutes after the start of sales. Tours with a show program of the same name
Instagram stars
Olga Buzova is the most popular Instagram blogger in Russia. 11.7 million users are subscribed to her page. Who does she share the pedestal with?
Timati
In 2nd place is rapper Timati: 10.6 million subscribers are interested in his life. Fans are especially touched by posts with photographs of the rapper’s daughter, three-year-old Alice. Although they are also the most scandalous. One day Timati posted a photo of a girl holding a gun. A real war began in the comments about this. Timati is generally famous for his provocative posts - he also waged his “fights” with Dima Bilan through his social network account.
Ksenia Borodina
The host of the reality show “Dom-2” holds 3rd place in popularity on Instagram, 1.6 million subscribers behind Buzova. Borodina posts photographs illustrating daily life her family, including daughters Marusya and Thea, videos from trips, and also advertises a variety of products. This brings a reliable income - the blogger does not disclose its amount, but it is known that one advertising post from Instagram superstars can cost from 200 thousand rubles.
Pavel Volya
The Comedy Club resident has 9.5 million fans on the Internet. He does not make money by advertising other people's products, but advertises his own. The “Willpower” project, which he started together with his wife, gymnast Laysan Utyasheva, is bringing good dividends. Pavel travels with stand-up shows all over the world, gives master classes - teaching listeners to use a sense of humor. Laysan works with his students, telling them about the secrets of nutrition and proper exercise.
“No matter how adults we are... for our parents we will always be children... (Hereinafter, the spelling and punctuation of the authors are preserved. - Ed.), - the socialite wrote on the microblog. - Take care of your loved ones, and remember, girls, no man is worth the tears of our mothers. I try to protect my relatives from unnecessary worries, and I always say that everything is fine with me, even if it’s not so... This time it didn’t work out... mommy, forgive me for your tears. I love you very much. And I will be happy, I promise."
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Subscribers began to actively sympathize with the unfortunate Olya. "It was dangerous that she plunged so wholeheartedly into her family relationships not expecting that her most beloved, reliable shoulder could stab her in the back like that... I can understand how hard it was for her and I’m sure she’s not playing around a bit,” “I’m on your side. And I support you. I love it very much. I'm your fan. And to yours ex-husband everything will come back like a boomerang!”, “After this type of man! And such a “tragedy for ourselves” finally makes you grow up and look at men more soberly. And soon a normal, caring man will come, who protects and protects, helps in everything and will not give it up to anyone!” the fans wrote.
Let us remind you that recently Olga Buzova’s mother, Irina, gave a frank interview in which she shared the details of her daughter’s separation from the scandalous athlete. “Olga naively believed that her love would “save the world” and she was behind a “stone wall”, and her husband was responsible for his vows. But the fact that saying and doing are different things became a difficult discovery for her. It’s not the separation itself that’s scary. , but how a person does it. Tarasov has already broken up inhumanly with his wives twice. Having betrayed once, he will betray the next time," Irina Buzova told Antenna magazine.
Olga and Dmitry divorced in December 2016. According to rumors, the reason for the breakup was the footballer’s infidelity with model Anastasia Kostenko.
“People think: if a girl gets married, she just needs to give birth right away. Otherwise, the marriage is invalid, fictitious. She gave birth to the first, and a year later they are chasing the second. At 25, unmarried - an old maid, you can give up; at 30, without children - old-timer. All these labels are quite annoying,” admits the TV presenter.
Olga, judging by your pages on social networks, you get the feeling that you live in an atmosphere of eternal holiday: flowers, gifts, travel... How much does the virtual picture correspond to reality?
This is a fairly common misconception that the life of public people, including mine, consists entirely of joyful moments. Yes, I consider myself a happy person. But still, most of the events happen outside of Instagram. There are difficulties and tears, but they remain behind the scenes. I’m just not ready to cry to everyone and everyone, I don’t like to complain. Even my mother calls me a steadfast tin soldier for this. Although, I repeat, there are enough tests.
Was your husband's injury one of them?
Yes, and how. What happened in August (in a friendly match with the Turkish national team, footballer Dmitry Tarasov tore the cruciate ligaments of his knee. - Antenna note) broke our fighting spirit. She flew to the Italian hospital with Dima and was with him during the operation. For four days, until he could not walk, she kept watch at his bedside and spent the night right in the room on the sofa. She carried food and fruits. I postponed everything and canceled meetings to support my husband. Fortunately, the producers and colleagues came to their senses and let me go to him, for which I am very grateful to them. I know that the injury was a real blow for Dima. But over the five years of our relationship, I realized: there are times when it’s better not to get under his skin, not to touch the problem, not to encourage him. It’s more important to him that I just be with him, without further ado. The worst is over. But there is a recovery course ahead, and this is a long and painstaking process. It’s mentally difficult because you can’t run, play, or do what you love. This is not his first injury. But I was always by his side at such moments, I was with him in clinics in Germany, Italy, Finland. At this time, I myself try not to become limp, to be as collected as possible and to think positively.
Did the fact that your spouse left the profession for a long time affect the family budget?
Not ready to discuss this question, this is our personal business. I’ll just say, despite the fact that I think a man should be a breadwinner, it’s not difficult for me to invest my finances if the situation requires it. I'm not greedy. I provide for my grandmother, help my mom, dad, and sister. There are no disputes or problems about money with my husband. Moreover, lately we have become much more judicious about spending. If at first we didn’t look at the price at all, we are now discussing what we can afford, what we can’t afford, and where we need to cut down on requests. We have become more economical because we are thinking about the future, making long-term plans, and with them the house in which we are going to live. Our life in general has also changed. Parties and going out have faded into the background; we increasingly want to be alone in the apartment. Yes, and I completely reconsidered my priorities. The main thing now is family and work. I don't bother with anything else.
I find language easily with children
The question of children immediately arises. I suspect that they are already fed up with you...
And how! Over the course of several years, I developed immunity, although at first it was very stressful. Our society is very tactless and thinks stereotypically. People think that if a girl gets married, she just needs to give birth right away. Otherwise, the marriage is invalid, fictitious. She gave birth to the first, and a year later they are chasing the second. At 25 years old, unmarried - an old maid, you can give up; at 30, you haven’t given birth - old-timer. These labels are quite annoying. Why do they treat this differently in America and why are forty-year-old women giving birth a normal occurrence? I see what a stir has flared up because of Ksyusha Sobchak’s pregnancy, literally the whole country, seeing her belly, exhaled: “Well, finally!” What finally? It was as if everyone had been waiting for many years for her to give birth. Over the five years of our relationship, Dima and I managed to fully enjoy each other and understand what we did right choice. Believe me, this approach is much better than quickly getting married, immediately having a child, being disappointed in a person, getting a divorce, finding someone else, and so on several times. In such situations, children suffer. I always dreamed of living my life with one man. Now Dima and I have come to the conclusion that we can give our love to someone else. Everything has its time. I am also a long-awaited and planned child for my parents, and therefore a very beloved one.
I noticed how well you get along with your husband’s nephews. Have you studied books on child psychology?
No, I just love them and consider them my nephews. Somehow we managed to find a common language and contact by itself. I know what to talk about, how to make people laugh. I feel comfortable with them, and they feel comfortable with me, I hope. I also find a great common language with my two godchildren. At the age of 14, I was an intern at a children's camp in the junior squad. And even then the kids obeyed me and at the same time loved me. They cried when the shift ended and we had to leave. I think it is impossible to deceive children; they feel sincerity, kindness, goodwill. I'm sure I'll have to experience the awe of a newborn again, maybe more than once. But, again, everything has its time. Naturally, my husband and I will have more than just dogs living in our house (laughs).
Do constant questions about children bother you, and does criticism on the Internet also irritate you?
I can’t say that I don’t pay attention to it, but I try not to react. Although often criticism addressed to me can hardly be called constructive. People lash out at insults. Sometimes they simply write: “Die, creature.” I would like to come to such a “well-wisher” and ask him directly: “What did I personally do that was bad to you?” We have already talked about how my life is judged by photos on social networks. And periodically they leave boorish comments under them. They blame me for having it all easy. Perhaps people don't realize what beautiful picture It's hard work, sometimes around the clock. I don’t undertake to evaluate other professions, but believe me, mine also requires colossal daily work. Sleepless nights, a huge amount of text that I study. I was never given roles on a platter, I didn’t get on television through connections, no one paid for my participation in performances. I achieved everything myself. Often I had to deal with a huge number of closed doors. I became a popular presenter, but at the same time a hostage to the image of a frivolous blonde. I’m easy to talk to in real life, too, but I have many qualities and talents that I cannot demonstrate within the framework of a project. But, fortunately, there are directors who are not afraid to work with me and see me as an actress much broader than my television image. I heard a lot of positive reviews about my role in the TV series “Poor People,” including from professionals. Now I’m filming a project that’s important to me. This is a full-length film by Kirill Pletnev, in which I have the main role. And for one of the three-minute scenes, I drove several hundred kilometers from Moscow and spent the night in the car. And so it is in everything. I never feel relaxed and rarely feel satisfied professionally. It's never enough. I am greedy for new roles, projects, emotions. I don’t rest on my laurels. I work non-stop. Even on vacation, I switch off only on the fifth day, and even then not completely. This is how I was raised by my mother, who once asked me to buy boots and said: “Do you want boots? Go make money on them!” I work too. I’m tired, of course, but at the same time I don’t suffer from the blues, I don’t have depression. And I developed immunity to attacks from spiteful critics back in school.
Have you had difficult relationships with classmates?
No, with some teachers and especially with the director Tatyana Evgenievna. She was prejudiced towards me, hated me, and I didn’t even understand why. She cried and begged her mother to transfer to another school, but she refused. And she did the right thing. I stayed there and soon stopped worrying, I even graduated from school with a silver medal, and then from St. Petersburg State University with honors. Apparently, it was then that the core was laid that helps us now cope with negativity. I didn't break, I didn't run away. And here is the result. By the way, when 12 years ago they made a film about me as a participant in “House-2”, the same director did not allow the film crew to enter the school.
"Dom-2" will never be closed
As far as I know, you have your own business. How successful is he?
Yes, I have my own company, a designer clothing brand. And I also treat him responsibly. At one time there was an unpleasant story when I was deceived. The partner I trusted has let me down badly. Therefore, now I completely control everything myself: creating collections, choosing fabrics, sewing. There is also a chain of jewelry stores that my sister Anya, who is a workaholic like me, helps with. We are developing little by little. In the near future we will open a store in one of the capital's shopping centers. And recently she published an autobiographical book, “The Price of Happiness.” I felt incredible support when I presented it at the bookstore. The event was full, everyone asked questions and asked for autographs. At that moment I realized that I wrote it for a reason, someone needed it. The first edition of ten thousand copies sold out very quickly.
