No matter what morality, principles and norms of behavior dictate to us, relationships outside of marriage have always existed. In the harsh puritanical England and at the merry court of Louis XIV, women and men equally recklessly fell in love, without bothering to preliminarily check whether the object of passion had a soulmate. And then they suffered, were jealous, were tormented by doubts ... But in most cases there was only one result, and the two people who did not meet at the time dispersed forever. And this cup did not pass you by? Well, we will look for the least painful ways out of the impasse.

Psychologists have written masses of scientific treatises on why men make intrigues on the side, and they will write as many more. Here and the desire to unwind from family routine. And a middle-aged crisis, when a lover is a means for her husband to prove to himself that he is "still wow." And the pursuit of sensations is an easy “peppercorn”, the danger of being caught adds to the relationship a poignancy that has not been felt in a fresh family life for a long time. And no one refuses the sincere feelings to the stronger sex. Indeed, it happens: the old love is gone, the new one shone on the horizon ... And yet, a man rarely regards the connection on the side as something serious with far-reaching consequences..

With women the opposite. We leave aside the young “sharks” who aim to pick up a wealthy sponsor and squeeze as much material wealth out of him as possible - from the first days of communication they perfectly understand what they are going to and do not need the help of a psychologist. We are talking about ordinary, "average" women who are ready for years to remain in the status of a lover, be content with humiliating dates, stealthily and spend lonely evenings in front of the TV, while the man returns home to his legal wife and children. Why are they doing this?

  What is serious for a woman can be regarded by a man as an accidental affair

• Love. Feelings are not in vain compared with strong wine: it hit my head, swirled, completely turned off the logic, along with the ability to reason coldly and sensibly ... And neither my wife nor children seem to be an obstacle. Well, after all, you have “the same, real”! Who knows how women are intoxicated with feelings?
• Fear of loneliness. When time goes by, and the long-awaited prince is hopelessly lost somewhere on the way to you, it begins to seem - it’s better to have some man nearby than no one at all. Perhaps it will turn out ...
• "His family has long been a fiction."And here don don Juans themselves are trying already, painting in paints the naive listener the sorrowful details of their life. And for a long time they and their wife were like neighbors, and only children bind them, and generally a trip to the registry office for a divorce is not far off, that's just ... Well, then comes a set of reasons, which is determined by the imagination of each individual man - from “Wait until the kids grow up” to the unknown illness of the wife, which is not a man to throw one in such a situation.

Reasons to break up: pros and cons

Or is it not necessary to break off relations? It happens that a man leaves the family, and two loving hearts finally begin to beat side by side with each other. Let rarely, even in 10 cases out of a hundred! What if you and your beloved are destined to fall into the cherished ten? ..

You can take a chance, of course. If you are ready:

• wait a certain number of years until a man gathers his spirit;
• diligently adjust his life to the schedule and desires of the chosen one, not being able to demand the same for himself - because he has “circumstances!”;
• for the rest of my life I’m wearing the stigma of a woman of separation,

- that relationship can be continued indefinitely. True, you have to come to terms with the fact that the long-awaited divorce may never happen, while your best years will be missed. And keep in mind the option in which a man, having lived with you a couple of years, will return to his abandoned family. (According to the same harsh statistics, 70% of husbands do just that - after all, everything has been known there for a long time, familiarly and frayed, and with you you need to start building a life together from scratch) /

  Seven out of ten husbands return to wife

Psychologist's view

Relations with a married man are fraught with a number of problems.

The first one. They initially bear the imprint of something unlawful.   Even if you profess the principle “all means are good in love”, the realization that someone else’s family collapses because of you will poison thoughts even at a subconscious level. The proverb about happiness, which is not built on other people's tears, is not in vain.

The second one. An affair with a married man is doomed to failure in 90% of cases.And at heart, many young ladies give themselves to this report! Therefore, such a passion, in addition to external pleasant moments, brings a lot of disappointments, bitter night meditations and emotional wounds.

And finally, the status of a mistress significantly undermines the peace of mind of a woman.   She does not go with her chosen one to corporate parties - there a man is declared with his wife. Can't introduce him to friends and parents. She has no clear plans for the future, confining herself to a blurry “when we will be together ...” At the same time, flirting, pleasant courtship by young people, dating - everything that raises a woman’s self-esteem - the lady is deprived because she feels herself “busy.” As a result, it turns out that there is a man and no matter how. Relationships are present, but without true emotional bestowal and warmth. As for how it will end, there are big doubts ... What kind of female happiness is there?

  Remember, in such relationships a woman positions herself as busy, and a man as free!

  ‘When so much is behind everything, especially grief, don’t wait for someone’s support, take the train, board the sea’. Joseph Brodsky

Breaking a long-term relationship with a man whom you really love is not always easy. I want to wait; give some more time to yourself and him; to believe that something is about to change and your beloved will be with you forever ... Do not be fooled. If a man is ready to leave his wife, he does it quickly, if not ready, never. Look around! Why did you decide that it was on this person that the white light came together in a wedge? The person who makes you smart, attractive, and self-sufficient! - play such a humiliating role? Maybe you should value yourself a little more and look for someone who will not run on dates secretly from his wife, but will surround you with well-deserved care and love and give you a full-fledged family?

In each pair, there comes a moment when love turns into a “suitcase without a handle” - it’s a pity to carry it hard and throw it away. The ideal parting is when both lovers understand that the meaning of the relationship has dried up. A self-sufficient lady will say about the separation of the first, and a smart man will allow her to do this without wrangling.

Unfortunately, this is rarely the case. Often, when a woman makes a decision, the man resists. Even more often - to put an end simply does not have enough strength. The latter is closely related to addiction - a disease that has been dubbed Marilyn Monroe syndrome.

Step 1

And now we will talk about the first step of the lady on the way to breaking a boring connection. About how to mentally prepare yourself.

Psychologists advise starting with a gradual change in consciousness. The method is based on self-hypnosis and is performed by scrolling through the same thoughts in the head.

What should you think about in this situation? It may seem ridiculous, but the lover’s wife will be a good helper here.

• First of all, imagine what a blow to a legitimate passion would be the news of treason. Feel yourself in her place, feel how painful it is to be rejected by your own husband.
• Also think that a loved one has become the way you loved him only because of your wife. Passing through difficulties, support in difficult times, illnesses and sorrows for two concern only Their relations, but not yours.
• Next - understand that only with a wife a lover can be himself. With you, it just changes the mask and will never be real.
• Convince yourself that you are a fallback, a girl for fun. That is how he relates to you.
• Know when a lover loses her pretentiousness (and you will also be 40 years old), a married boyfriend moves away at the speed of sound. How do you like this?

Scroll these thoughts in your head constantly, call them if necessary, intentionally. By setting yourself up in this way, you will change your mind and soon you will want to get rid of this meaningless connection.

Step 2

If thoughts about your spouse have not prompted you to decisive action, do not stop. Look for all possible ways that can help you change your mindset. Take the following tips:

• Look at the boyfriend from the other side. Try to find the flaws, concentrate on them. You may not like some habits or annoying, for example, sloppiness. Or maybe the boyfriend sometimes behaves as if you are already his wife. Find all the presented presents and remember how often you were bored, how much money was spent on you? Perhaps your favorite stingy? Or maybe a sinner is always late for him? Explain to yourself this lack of respect for you. But the most important drawback, of course, is the “double” life of a loved one. How not ashamed to brazenly lie in the eyes of one woman and feed false promises to another? How does this person get along with his conscience?

• Children. If you do not know how to abandon a married lover, think about the children. Even if the dear moves to you, you cannot live in peace. After all, he will visit his family, regardless of your desires. And where there are children, there is a wife. And there is always a danger that spouses will inflame each other with new feelings. No wonder they once married.
• Imagine that you are already together. Often, after the beloved is won from the wife, the woman realizes that her struggle was warmed up only by love. When the couple begins to live together, feelings evaporate. Therefore, imagine the situation of your life together in the most vivid colors, in the most detailed details. What do you feel? Do you understand that now you are in the place of your wife? And exactly you have to worry about what if a rival is about to appear? After all, the nature of the missus is unlikely to change. And where there is one betrayal, there is a second. And then - will you love him, seeing every day in sports, in front of a TV or computer, at the kitchen table, in general, everywhere and everywhere? Maybe instead of thinking how to win back, think about how beautiful it is to part with a loved one?
• Erase the memory. That is, get rid of all things that remind you of a relationship. If the meetings took place in the apartment, it is advisable to move somewhere for the first time.
• Look for an inspiring activity, new hobbies, plan plans that will be fulfilled after you say about the break. It is important that novelty please you, so that there is anticipation of something disturbing. The desire to fulfill the intended will block the upcoming experiences and pain.
• Pay attention to other men. You can meet your future ex and at the same time look for yourself a new passion. Only attention: do not step on the same rake! Set a goal not to consider married suitors as potential husbands. Also, do not rush into the arms of the first comer (albeit unmarried). Here, as nowhere else, the expression of the famous matchmaker Rosa Syabitova will come in handy: “Do not go to the hungry store, otherwise you will take the first one that comes across. Consider options from a position of choice, not from a position of scarcity. ”

What is the best way to leave: fast or slow?

In general, a girl has only two ways to say goodbye. The first is fast, but very painful, the second is slow, but less painful. Although giving an unambiguous description, of course, is impossible. The degree of torment in both the fast and the slow way will depend only on the structure of the personality itself.

Quick way

Let's talk about how to part with a married man in a quick way.

Staying in love euphoria, people do not hear the voice of their mind, they are absorbed by feelings, passion. But in our case, it’s more difficult for a girl - passion is mixed with suffering from the understanding that being together forever is not about them. Suffering accumulates and leads to a tipping point. The beautiful person is aware that if you do not put an end to it now, the story will last forever. There is a feeling of imposed limping. The role of the second plan is annoying, there is a feeling that it is time to stop. And so, before she could even clearly understand what she was doing, the lady informed the guy about the breakup. Sharp, quick, without hesitation. And it seems that this is the end, there is nothing more.

But, to be honest, the statement: I'm tired, I want to leave - only the initial stage. The hardest test ahead. Now you need to somehow survive the event. How?

Going to the "scaffold", be patient, clench your teeth and do not give out your true feelings. Complaints, farewell words and tears set aside for later. Otherwise, you will fall into the trap again. Tearful explanations will become a clue for the lover - for oaths, assurances, promises. A woman’s heart is not able to refuse when a loved one asks, she is not yet ready to say goodbye.

At that moment you must believe in yourself. Intuition knows that in reality, not relationships will last, but agony. Not now, but then still have to disperse.

It will be difficult if the romance is official and people have to see each day. For some time after the farewell, you will portray indifference, but the outcome of the story is clear - people can’t stand it and rush into the same whirlpool with renewed vigor. At first it will seem romantic (well, just like in a movie!), But after a short period you realize that you have sailed to the same shore, which will make your psychological state worse. Therefore, avoid the person by all means. And avoid until you are free from obsession. Engage yourself in anything - trips, girlfriends, gyms, only to spend less time thinking about breaking up. It’s simply impossible in another way.

Immediately after the departure of a loved one, allow yourself to cry. Get rid of the accumulated and take up cleaning the house, namely - save the apartment from gifts and things of the former. Relocation, furniture replacement, and repair will benefit. Remember to ignore attempts to get you back.

And yes, do not think that you are cruel. This person has taken away your chances of a normal life, which means that he no longer has a place in your heart.

In the question: how to survive a breakup with a married man, the following psychologist's advice will help you:

• Share the problem with those you trust. Seek support in people and do not stay alone for long.
• Improve your emotional level. A person who has a similar experience will help here.
• Immerse yourself in a vibrant life. Look for activities that can increase self-esteem - new knowledge, skills, etc.
• Do not rush in search of love adventures right away. Devote a period purely to yourself, recover from a previous relationship.

Slow way

Do you know situations when people quit smoking? One person just throws the pack away and suffers, no matter how hard it is, another quits smoking gradually, reducing the number of cigarettes per day. But in neither case are you safe from the temptation to take up a cigarette again.

You probably guessed that the example of smoking is not accidental. You can say goodbye quickly, but you can slowly. But if a lady abandoned her lover, this does not mean that she will not come back.

For some people, a quick way is not suitable. They break off relationships, but do not withstand the severity of emotions and break down. Therefore, for them there is a method that proceeds almost painlessly - slow. Its essence is the gradual separation of the partner from the chosen one.

We have already talked about how to prepare ourselves for a break. It remains only to add - do not forget to ask yourself when you meet: WHAT do these relationships give you and does it make sense to continue? Notice the flaws and repeat to yourself that you do not love this person.

Believe me, self-hypnosis is a powerful force. Remember the film "The most charming and attractive." Didn't the heroine manage to convince herself that she was awesome? That's the same. You can laugh, but still try. Frequent scrolling of such thoughts will make each meeting less romantic and joyful. Therefore, the gap will be less painful.

And yet - when a woman is interested in the question: how to part with a chosen one, many psychologists offer to push the partner himself to this thought. As an option - turn from a loving and flexible beauty into a bitch. Demand to come more often, with flowers and gifts. For being late - scold. Arrange scenes of jealousy - pry out whether he is sleeping with his wife and why he needs two women. And in the end, demand to leave the missus.

If character does not allow you to do this, turn into a lump of nervous tension - be silent, mock, sniff. The behavior should scare off the satellite, after which the meetings will become rare, and then completely disappear. Here you have a choice: you can let him go himself or leave the companion first.

The role of temperament during the break

Finally, we offer you to read interesting tips from psychologists. They relate to four types of human temperaments. How does each of them react to the news of farewell, and what should be done to protect oneself and loved ones from troubles?

So, let's go:

• Choleric. Impulsive, active, quick-tempered. Accustomed to achieve the desired beloved ways, painfully reacts to failures. If a lady said she wanted to break up, the answer could be unpredictable (even physical strength). Therefore, consider actions so that the initiative comes from a man. Also, do not overdo it using the bitch method. And it’s better not to intersect with such a person at all.
• Melancholic. Neurotic man, vulnerable to impossible. It can create a lot of problems with unexpected tricks. Prepare this for farewell gradually - each time you say that you are tormented by feelings of guilt about your spouse, remember about children and so on.
• Sanguine. The person is cheerful and stable. With such a heartfelt conversation. Usually, the sanguine understands perfectly and leaves the mistress without problems.
• Phlegmatic person. You can escape from a married lover with a phlegmatic character "in English". No explanation will be required, and the news of the breakup will be taken for granted.

Good day, dear readers! My article today will be devoted to girls who are in a difficult situation and fall in love with a man who has a family. Such relationships usually do not bode well. A woman, being in such a relationship for a long time, can begin to become depressed, build illusions, move away from reality. In order to help avoid serious problems, today I want to talk about how to part with a married man whom you love.

His promises

Sometimes it happens that a girl even has her own man. He can lie that he is not married, not to tell anything about himself. This is the worst option. In this case, there is only one advice - run away from such a man as far as possible.

After all, if the relationship began with a lie, then happiness cannot be built. When the missus is hiding such important information from you, be sure that he most likely lied in other moments. And to connect your life with a person who is not the most successful undertaking. Love and respect yourself!

If you initially knew that he was married, the situation unfolds a little differently. Most often, women are deceived by men's promises: I am with you as well as I have never been with my wife; you are incredible; we have been sleeping in different beds for a long time. And the main promise of all married men is that I will leave my wife.

How long do such promises last? He just does not want to let you and his wife go. He is comfortable and comfortable. There can be many reasons why a husband does not leave the family. But the essence remains in one - how long are you ready to continue such a relationship? It is one thing to promise, and quite another to do.

Decision-making

When you open your eyes, forget for a second about your and his many promises, then you will understand that such a relationship is better to let go.

Look back at your life and think - do you really want to always be in the background? How long have you been ready to stay in the shade? Is it easy for you to share your beloved man with another woman? Think maybe it’s already worth breaking this connection? Throw empty hopes?

Once, a friend came to me. She said: "My beloved is married." I asked what she was going to do next. She was determined, he had already told his wife about her, was about to move to her next week. Then I asked how I can help, since everything looks so good. To which my friend became sad and quietly said: “I’m afraid that one day he might leave me like that, as he is now leaving his wife.”

The girlfriend did not want to receive the advice of a psychologist, she simply spoke out about her fear. I understand her perfectly. Faced with an unpleasant situation once, a person is afraid of its repetition.

Make a decision for yourself! Stay with a man and wait, hope and believe. Or break off this relationship now so that it doesn't get any worse.

X moment

When you have already decided to part, the main thing to remember is one simple rule - in any situation you need to remain human. No one will say how to break the relationship. In your head, you can play a million different scenarios, and in the end the situation will turn in the most unexpected way. As one of the options. Or vice versa, everything will go as you intended.

You can beautifully part in any given circumstances. Even if he lied to you, deceived, fed empty promises and hopes, you should not become like, become vindictive. This will only show you the bad side.

Be above this, and remember the feelings of your beloved man, as well as the feelings of his wife. Try to talk honestly and openly, to tell everything that is sitting inside you, to express all your thoughts. First of all, stay honest with yourself.

The conversation can be difficult and very difficult. Be prepared for his arguments, questions and suggestions. If you have definitely decided to leave, do not follow his lead. He can easily not let you go with such phrases: give me one more chance, I was going to talk to my wife soon, you are the only one and I don't need anyone else.
  Decided to leave - do it. However painful it was later.

What to do after breaking up

Emotional pain at the physical level lasts about eight minutes. Then the girls drive themselves into. Take a look around, there are so many men in the world who can please you and not hurt you. And most importantly, those who are free and do not play a double game.

Take care of yourself, spend more time outside the house, plunge headlong into work. Look for new friends, walk, have fun. You can give a myriad of tips. It is important not to think that you will not find anyone else in this whole situation.

Do not drive yourself discouraged. From such thoughts does not become easier. You create your own happiness. So act, and do not be distracted by unnecessary thoughts.

If you still have feelings for your former lover and you do not understand how to survive this terrible time - think less. The less you think and the more you do, the easier this period will go. Here you have to try.

You need to pull yourself together, force, invent yourself a motivation, do anything you like, just to not sit still and not think. At first, it may seem that nothing further makes sense. No, it is not.

In man, the worst that can happen in a relationship. If you can’t see your life without a man, then you should think about the fullness of your days. Find yourself a hobby, hobby or just an interesting activity. It can be any stupidity and nonsense. Remember, in childhood, you probably wanted to do something, but you didn’t dare - now is the time!

The issue of breaking the relationship has always been, is and will be difficult. Men who have started relationships on the side, also have to not just in. When a husband breaks up with his mistress, this does not always mean that he will return to his family.

Remember that you yourself are responsible for your happiness. Create your life the way you want to see it!

I hope you make the right decision, get out of the problem beautifully and least painfully. If you are interested in the article, then be sure to share it on social networks.
  Thanks for attention. Have a nice day!

1. BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF

First, learn to call a spade a spade. You keep dating a married man even though you know this is wrong. Can you really say publicly that you are proud of this relationship? Put yourself in the place of another woman: how would you feel when you knew that your beloved is not faithful to you? You may have been told this phrase a thousand times, but let's face it right now: the problem is that you don’t care at all about how your actions affect the life of another family.

2. DISCRETE IN THE “IDEAL”

And this ideal is damn far from a real man, as his wife sees daily. You do not wash his dirty clothes, do not account for the socks scattered around the apartment and the raised lid of the toilet, do not hear his snoring all night long and do not argue who drank the wine and did not throw the bottle away. When you meet a married man, you see the perfect guy in front of you, but you don’t know the reality at all.

3. WRITE “EXPLANATORY”

How to part with a married man? Is it necessary to do this at all? If you are still in doubt and do not dare to put an end to the disastrous relationship - it's time to retire and take up paper and pencil. Beaten (because spectacular!) Psychological trick: divide a piece of paper into two columns. The first is “positive emotions”, the second is “negative”. Write down every single reason why you want to stay in a relationship with this man, and why you want to break up with him. We give a hint. The first paragraph in the column with the minuses: "He is married." Remember all-all the unpleasant events that took place between you: the time when he let you down, canceling the meeting at the last minute; soulless birthday presents or, at all, their absence. If sex with him is good, remind yourself how you felt when he had to urgently leave, immediately after physical discharge, to take his wife to the doctor. What about uncomfortable rear seats in winter instead of a warm bed? Yes, and do not forget about guilty feelings in front of another woman and her family.

4. DON'T SEEK JUSTIFICATIONS

A common version of all lovers: "His marriage was doomed from the very beginning." Stop. Do not be fooled if the marriage were, indeed, doomed, it would end a very long time ago. The reality is this: by supporting both family ties and extramarital affairs, a man simply wants to get the best of “both worlds”. Do not buy off with the phrase: “We are soul mates” or “All good men are either married or gay.” Contrary to popular belief, the world is full of affordable and worthy bachelors. You need to respect yourself and be in a relationship in which you truly appreciate. Do not be fooled by the passion dropped in a minute: "I really want to get a divorce." I would like to - divorced yesterday.

5. ENCOURAGE YOUR FRIENDS

Call your close friends, arrange to meet and open your heart to them. We mean only trusted people whom you can trust. Tell them that you decided to part with a married man. Enlist their support. This will help you in a moment of weakness: when you know that you will have to answer for your words, you will feel stronger and more determined.

6. ANSWER THE MOST IMPORTANT QUESTION

And now the very same question: "How to part with a married man?" from the technical side. Depending on the level of your relationship and personal comfort / discomfort, you can do this in person or by phone. If you are very afraid of a conversation, write him an email. The main rule: do not make a discussion topic out of your break. “Don't you think our relationship is not working?” or "Maybe it would be better to end these secret dates?" This will give him the opportunity once again to tell you how “everything will change for the better,” and that “it is temporary” and that he “was just about to confess to his wife.” Just tell him this is the end. And the point. Be stronger. You have a problem in your life, and you need to solve it.

7. DESTROY THE PATTERN

If you have already tried to break with these or similar relationships in the past, you probably noticed that there is a certain pattern of behavior. How to part with a married man? The wrong answer is this: he stays on the sidelines for three days and rings for the fourth, your heart melts because this time was very difficult, and everything is back to square one. Enough! Start a new project at work, which you will leave with your head, or take a vacation. Stop this vicious circle once and for all.

8. STRIKE IT OUT OF LIFE

A man will certainly want you back, do not let him convince you to back down. Try to exclude any possibility of even a passing contact with an already former lover. Repeat: ex! Delete his letters, photos and e-mail, delete his phone number and messages, block him in all social networks. Throw away the gifts ... Those expensive earrings too! Erase it from life completely if you want change. You cannot remain friends, no matter how tough and cruel it sounds, but this is the best way to part with a married man. Paste this “patch” and leave the wound to heal. Learn to trust yourself and your decision.

9. CHANGE YOUR LIFESTYLE

It can be either drastic changes or a few minor ones. Change your hairstyle, find yourself a new hobby, sign up for yoga or belly dancing, do a house cleaning, etc. Pamper yourself with a new dress every two weeks and a chocolate bar - every Thursday. Have a crazy costume party at home. Trying to make a better life can help you find peace.

10. DO NOT MISS NEW OPPORTUNITIES

Meet new people. Try a date blindly or flirt openly on a dating site. Remember that you have the same right as any other woman to ensure that the man next to you respects you, and does not hide from all your friends. You should always feel special in a love relationship, be yourself, experience pleasure, and not play the role of a “second violin”. So take control of your life right now.

A woman who is in a relationship with a married man is in an unenviable position. Forbidden communication does not bring happiness, and in the life of every lover there comes a moment when she thinks about breaking up a relationship. Usually the reason for this is the realization that a loved one is likely to never abandon his legal spouse and joint children.

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If a woman has firmly decided to break off relations, she needs to gather all her will into a fist to do this as soon as possible and without unnecessary emotions. The advice of psychologists will help to get out of the situation with dignity and start life from scratch.

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As long as a woman keeps someone else's husband near her, she has no chance to build harmonious and happy relationships. In cases where a woman is married herself, the situation becomes even more serious. They make their closest people unhappy with their lover. If a wife no longer feels strong feelings for her legal spouse, this is not a reason for betrayal. The best way out of this situation is a divorce.

It is necessary to put an end to the relationship with the lover as early as possible, otherwise there is a great risk of spending the best years of life on forbidden communication. Dare and take the first step - the most difficult.

The following advice from psychologists will help you decide to part with your loved one:

Tip	Description
Put yourself in the shoes of a legal spouse	A woman should be firmly aware that starting a relationship with someone else’s husband, she goes against the rules of generally accepted morality, destroys someone else’s family and becomes a source of pain for another woman. Mistress is recommended to put himself in the place of his legal wife and feel her suffering. In most cases, the method is effective
Soberly evaluate partner qualities	It is necessary to pay attention to the shortcomings of men. Relationships at a distance contribute to the idealization of the partner, and if you live with a person side by side 24 hours a day, everything changes. Some habits begin to annoy
Look at relationships from a different perspective	Need to find the negative side of a secret relationship. To do this, a woman should take a sheet of paper and capture on it all her negative memories associated with her lover. This will help to take a sober look at the union and find negative aspects in it.
Stop justifying your loved one	You should stop looking for excuses why the lover does not leave the family. It is important to realize: most likely, he will never leave. If the chosen one wanted to part with his wife, no circumstances could stop him
Let others know about your plans.	Tell your relatives about your plans. First, a woman will need support. Secondly, by notifying others of their intention, it will be more difficult for her to deviate from the decision
Plan time	It is best to think in advance about what a woman will do after a breakup. It is recommended that the days be filled with interesting things as much as possible so that there is no time or energy left for the experiences.

  How to part with a man

Parting with a lover is a complex process that requires a woman to do tremendous work on herself. Breaking relationships, if you have feelings, is a bold and courageous step.

When parting with a married lover, a number of tips will help.



  Take a sober look at the situation

You need to look at the situation correctly, without embellishment. Having determined all the negative aspects in the character of a man, you need to concentrate on them. This is recommended daily. Thus, the subconscious mind will be tuned to break the relationship. This method is one of the most effective, despite its external simplicity.

Work with the subconscious and a logical approach will help you decide to break. It is important to evaluate the lover with a sober look: the alien husband is not at all a knight in sparkling armor. At the very least, he cheats on the one to whom he publicly vowed to be faithful.

It should be adjusted that relations with a stranger husband are not love, but dependence. This is a habit that must be eradicated.

Self-hypnosis is an effective way: a woman can convince herself that a break is necessary, thinking daily in the right direction.



  Change your behavior

The option helps to break beautifully with a married man. To achieve the desired effect, a woman should change beyond recognition - become cold, rude and prudent. It is necessary to stop caring, not to call or write first, to cease to be interested in his affairs and to show complete indifference at every opportunity.

The overwhelming requirements for the lover are perfectly valid: chic expensive gifts, dinner in trendy restaurants, joint trips. You can start arranging scenes of jealousy and engage in quarrels from scratch. After such changes, it is likely that the lover will begin to move away: it will become less likely to call and call on dates. The girl will only have to offer to leave, to which the partner will gladly agree. This method is most suitable for a woman who is herself married. This method eliminates the harassment of the former lover.

  Talk openly about breaking up

The best way to leave a lover is to talk openly about breaking up. A woman should be informed that she no longer wants to be in second place. The main thing at this moment is to keep emotions in check.It is necessary to show all the strength of character and not succumb to persuasion to restore relations. A lover can make many promises, but he is unlikely to fulfill them when everything goes well.

  How to survive a breakup

After the decision to finally part with a married man is made, it is necessary to go to the end, not allowing the restoration of communication, even mentally. After breaking up a relationship with a married man, the girl has a difficult period.

The advice of professional psychologists will help you survive the pain of parting and forget the former as soon as possible.

  Avoid meeting and talking

More often than not, an abandoned lover begins to actively look for meetings, call and send emails. In this case, the woman will have to take all her will into a fist. If you return to someone else's husband, the situation will be repeated again and again. The possibility of meetings is recommended to be minimized.

It is better for a woman to go on vacation, go to her parents, to the country house or even change her place of residence. The situation is complicated if the lover is a colleague or boss of a woman. In this case, psychologists advise to quit, because daily meetings with the former will become a source of pain and will not allow heart wounds to heal.

It is necessary to change the phone number and block the man on social networks so that he does not have any opportunity to contact his mistress. This will benefit the woman herself: she will not check the phone every minute in the hope of seeing a message or a call from her ex-man.

All joint photographs and messages of romantic content are recommended to be deleted, and the apartment should be freed from his things: a woman should try to make sure that nothing reminds her of the past.

It will not be possible to survive the separation without pain, but it is important to remember that life goes on and the meeting with a worthy man is yet to come.

  Discuss a problem with a loved one

After parting with a strange husband, a woman should not be left alone. It is best to invite a close friend to visit and speak out. Explaining the situation to another person will help to look at the relationship from the side. You should order pizza or cook a chic dinner with your girlfriend. You can have a pajama party and watch comedy films or your favorite cartoons. Drinking alcohol is not recommended: alcohol can cause surging memories and a woman will become even more painful.

  To be alone

It is easier for some women to experience a break while alone. In this case, it is important not to hide from everyone for a long period. It is recommended to take a blank sheet of paper and pour out all the accumulated emotions on it; after the text needs to be burned, and the ashes should be scattered in the wind. You can chat in women's forums and gain support from girls in a similar situation.

  A change of scenery

After a break with your loved one, a change of scenery helps. Ideally, you should go on a trip or business trip.   You can distract in a variety of ways:

• jump with a parachute;
• enroll in manicure or makeup courses;
• get a driver’s license;
• go to training on personal growth;
• go quest with friends;
• make a relocation in the apartment or start a repair.

New emotions and thrills will help you more easily survive the breakup and forget your lover faster.

  Find your favorite business

A hobby can become a necessary outlet: knitting, drawing, beadwork, soap making, macrame, dancing, reading and many other activities that fill all your free time, will help you distract from sad thoughts and become a source of energy. Favorite business will allow you to enjoy life again and forget about gray and dull everyday life.

  Take care of your appearance

After breaking the connection with a married man, it is recommended to change the image:

• make a new hairstyle;
• recolor hair;
• use the services of a stylist and update your wardrobe.

Shopping will help to cope with a bad mood and negative feelings: a woman can buy herself sexy underwear, a dress, high-heeled shoes, a handbag, new perfumes and much more.

You should sign up for a fitness club or start jogging in the morning. Physical activity will become a source of good mood, raise the general tone of the body and help get rid of sad thoughts.

  Control thoughts

Thoughts need to be taken under strict control. It is important to learn how to switch your mind from negative to positive. A woman should not revel in self-pity or blame her lover for everything that happened. Looping on destructive thoughts, the girl attracts a repetition of the situation to her future. A new life should begin with positive and pure thoughts.

  Do not make new relationships

  Love yourself

Women who have a relationship with a married man are unsure of themselves. Until a girl loves herself, she will not find happiness in a relationship and will attract only unworthy partners who feel her vulnerability. Self-love should always come first for any woman. Guys at a subconscious level feel how a girl treats herself, and behave with her accordingly.

It is very difficult to part with the person you love, but it’s not worth keeping someone else’s man near you. Having made a firm decision, you need not to deviate from the chosen course and go to the end.

Statistics show that only 5% of married men file for divorce and go to their mistress. 95% of husbands are afraid of change and choose the usual way of life.

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