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Why do Arabs choose Russian wives?
Now this question is of concern to many. But so far no one has been able to give an exhaustive answer to it. What do the Arabs find in our Russian girls? Why are they ready to turn a blind eye to her “free” past, to go against family traditions, and simply love her in spite of the whole world?
What makes the heart of hot Arab men pound harder at the sight of their Russian "Natasha"? Beauty? Unrestrained passion combined with meritorious calm and modesty? Mystery contrary to incorruptible simplicity and deep sincerity? Or is it a simple fashion tribute to having a foreign wife?
To at least somehow clarify and understand the reasons for the significant increase in Russian-Arab marriages, let's try to compare the demands of an oriental man with the qualities of his potential companion.
What do men expect - Arabs from marriage?
Like any other man, an Arab expects to receive from marriage: a reliable union, warm and trusting relationships, and of course, the high status of a respected married man.
But besides all these human desires, the eastern representative of a strong half of humanity, coupled with peace of mind and moral stability, wants to find love, understanding, and just friendly support. Not really her own, an Arab bride is not able to satisfy at least one of the above requirements?
Arab wives. What are they like?
Of course, they are economic, obligatory, humble and sweet. It would seem that what else is needed for a happy family happiness? But after two or three years of living together, all the movements of oriental beauties become so well-developed that looking at them becomes boring and uninteresting.
It's no secret that the majority of Arabs approach family life with some kind of reckoning. And the point here is not entirely in premarital redemption or dowry. Her family life is, first of all, a huge physical work, a certain payment to her faithful for his kind attitude to her and material support. In the mornings, she makes breakfast, escorts her husband to work with a sweet smile, erases, cleans, and then, having said a word with her faithful habitual set of standard phrases, finishes her working day.
In appearance, such relationships seem to be ideal. But every year they begin to grow more and more routine, the very romance disappears, a spark of passion, which certainly must be maintained throughout life. Probably, just many Arab ladies understand the expression a little one-sidedly: “A woman is a keeper of a hearth”. In fact, this phrase has a deeper meaning.
“Hearth” is, first of all, that source of heat, which should not only warm the hearts of lovers, but also with its playful flame throughout life to help stir up the feelings of spouses, either escalating or suppressing this uncontrolled element of the fire of passion. Therefore, the main task of any woman, regardless of her temperament and nationality, is to learn to manage this very element at its discretion.
Who knows? Maybe the Russian woman is her real tamer.
And what are we - Russian wives?
At all times, the Russian woman has been the standard of modesty and devotion. But this devotion was manifested not only in relation to her husband, but also to her household, relatives and the entire Russian people.
She will help out of trouble, and the wise will give advice, but all the hardships and hardships of family life will be put on her fragile shoulders. If only there would be a worthy man’s shoulder nearby, on which one could rely in case of ailments, or some other misfortune.
But, unfortunately, in modern men the whole strength of the Russian spirit has been translated. That pulls them into clubs, then alcohol, or even change their orientation. So the poor Russian woman walks off to set off to seek her happiness in a foreign land, where she will be gladly accepted and treated, and then invited to marry her.
And so the Russian beauty remains to live on a foreign land with her newly minted Arab husband, who for all her loyalty and loyalty is incorruptible, will take care and protect her from all evil. And she will become an exemplary mistress for him, she will give birth to children, and open her soul of kindness to infinite.
And all this without any kalyms and premarital gifts. We do not need material wealth for Russian women. Let only the soul rejoice and rejoice from love and a happy life! Well, we will not stay in debt!
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Petersburger again became a victim of love for the Arab. 60-year-old Egyptian lured Elena into the United Arab Emirates. He promised to start a profitable business with her ... Why are our women so picky about their compatriots, but forget about everything when they meet with hot southern suitors?
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Petersburger again became a victim of love for the Arab. 60-year-old Egyptian lured Elena into the United Arab Emirates. He promised to start a profitable business with her ... Why are our women so picky about their compatriots, but forget about everything when they meet with hot southern suitors?
60 year old seducer
Elena, by her own admission, was not in poverty in St. Petersburg either. Judging by the photos on the page on the social network, traveled a lot. It looks very attractive. It would seem that there should not be problems with fans. But the girl for some reason chose a middle-aged Arab. She met Teymur (an Egyptian by birth) last year when she was vacationing in Dubai. According to Elena’s girlfriends, an elderly man introduced himself as the owner of the restaurant, impressed the girl with his generosity. He did not skimp on gifts and compliments. He came to St. Petersburg several times. He assured that he had been divorced for a long time. He invited Elena to open a joint business in the UAE (according to Elena's friends, he has a residence permit there). The Petersburger agreed and at the end of August flew to Teimur on a work visa, by which time she was already in love with her ears.
Teymur offered her to stay in his villa, but on the very first evening an oriental tale turned into a nightmare.
Closer to the night, out of nowhere, the wife of an Arab appeared - a citizen of Uzbekistan of Ukrainian origin. Without thinking twice, she called the police. According to the emirate’s laws, Elena was threatened with three years in prison for having a relationship with a married man. Fortunately, the examination showed that Elena and Teymur had no sex that evening. The charges were softened, yet Elena, by the same laws, did not even have the right to go into the house of a “business partner” without the knowledge and consent of his wife. According to a Petersburger, she now lives in a hotel that Teymur pays for, they don’t return her passport, a Ukrainian-Uzbek is dragging the court with all her might. Teymur proposed to resolve an intimate conflict by marriage - he called Elena to marry, his second wife.
And recently it turned out that Teymur is also a very muddy person, not only because he deceived about his wife. It turned out that just like with Elena, he flirts with a few foreigners - he e-mails with them, calls to himself in the Emirates. What for? Her friends' suggestions are also prompted by photographs of severely battered women that he found. Maybe Teymur is a supplier of girls for Arab brothels?
They only need money
And this is far from the first such story. Only in different Arab countries men use Russian women in their own way. Egypt is famous for orfi marriages. Passionate animators and guides taunt tourists, conclude with them "orphans", assuring us that this is the first step to a full-fledged family. Then they pump money out of their brides for several years, sometimes forcing them to sell apartments, cottages, cars and even take huge loans. And then they just break the orphy agreement and ... "I'm sorry, goodbye." Moreover, they can have real legal wives and children. And "orfi" is not the first step to marriage, it is, in fact, just an official permission for sex with a lover in this Muslim country.
In Turkey, grooms take Russians away from beautiful resorts to their poor villages, where there is no trace of the former gallantry of a boyfriend. And the girls have to plow - in the literal and figurative sense of the word. Or the Turk himself moves to Russia, opens a business with his wife’s money, then throws a lady’s heart and calls out his true mother-in-law, as well as his whole family from his homeland.
In the Emirates, Bahrain, Lebanon, Egypt, Qatar, girls often under the guise of work (from dancers and masseuses to managers in reputable companies) are lured into brothels, hiding under the signs of modeling agencies.
It's all about testosterone
And after all, the consequences of marriages with Arabs and Turks have been told more than once. But all the same, over and over again the Russians are blowing their heads, it’s only to be close to a southern boyfriend, and sometimes not young, not handsome and not even rich.
“It's all about the male hormone - testosterone,” says Anatoly Altukhov, director of the marriage agency. - Southerners by nature produce it more. From this they are so "hot". Faster ignite, literally exude masculinity.
Women feel this and almost at the physiological level are drawn to Arabs, Turks; in the Soviet years, citizens from the "north" valued Caucasian guys for the same reasons, and even before the revolution, young ladies fell in love with Crimean Tatars in resorts.
“Yes, southerners are great lovers, but I never take them to my agency and I don’t look for their wives, because we have different cultures and upbringing - they can fool and use our women,” says Anatoly Altukhov. - The foundations of the family are laid in childhood, when the child is 2.5 - 7 years old. They bring up girls - future mothers and wives, we have - consumers. Men teach fathers to them, ours mainly mothers. Therefore, men and sons grow up, respectively. Our men are stingy with words, they themselves expect to be praised. And among the Arabs and other southerners, a trading vein is also superimposed on the natural temperament. As a wife (real) they take their economic women. But you have to pay for them. You simply can’t sleep with them - those behind them are fathers, brothers, uncles. And visitors are available, you just have to say an affectionate word. In tourist places, books are even sold for local men, where it is written when and what kind of compliment is better to say. Plus, there is a list of SMS messages.
But our women, whose head is already blowing away from the smell of a real male, consider all these platitudes pretty. And if an Arab calls for marriage and agrees on a child, then he will generally receive the status of "God."
“Because of the same testosterone, southerners are not averse to leaving offspring, to multiply their genes,” Altukhov continues.
The result of such a relationship in most cases is the same - the children remain with their father (these are local laws), love ends with money. One joy - for several months or years, a woman feels like a queen.
Elena Ozhegova for Fontanka.ru
Egyptian authorities are clutching their heads: marriages with foreigners are becoming increasingly prestigious among young Egyptians, and their compatriots are sitting in old maids at this time. In order to somehow influence the situation, the authorities of the country embarked on the propaganda of “preserving the integrity of society, centuries-old traditions and foundations, as well as the inviolability of the main social unit of society - the family”. The main objective of the campaign with such a long name is to put
the end of the boom of mixed marriages in the resort cities of the country of the pharaohs.
Are the moral teachings of elders and matchmakers effective? Luxor authorities say yes: within a few months of the campaign, marriages with foreigners became half as much. However, our tourists, vacationing in Egypt, do not feel any difference in the behavior of the Egyptians.
Young Arabs, not burdened by marriage, continue with their characteristic love of loving courtesy of Europeans arriving at them. Working as guides and animators in hotels, they with the same zeal try to find a wife among clients, many of
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which are Russians, with her help, to break into the higher ranks of the social ladder.
Our compatriots, being frequent visitors to hot Egypt, regularly return to the country of the pyramids no longer as tourists, but as Arab wives. Passion, love pressure and temperament of burning brunettes bribe our romantic people. According to the Association for the Protection of the Rights of the Russian-Speaking Population in Egypt, only 4,000 Russian citizens reside permanently in Sharm el-Sheikh (figure for 2006), and their number is growing in proportion to the tourist flow - by 15% per year.
Why does an Egyptian need a foreign wife? It is no secret that an Islamic bride costs the groom hundreds of camels or as much gold as she weighs. Another thing is the Russians.
They come to the hot shore - modern and liberated. They sunbathe topless and come to dinner in short T-shirts that do not cover the navel, which in Egypt looks like a complete nudity. They walk around the hotel in thongs, demonstrating what the Egyptian can only imagine in secret erotic fantasies. They agree to go to the Egyptian for a cup of coffee, not suspecting that this is tantamount to admitting to prostitution. They entertain the disco with belly dancing, not realizing that in Egypt a decent woman can perform this dance only in a closed bedroom and only in front of her husband. They believe in flowers and words and easily agree to have sex if they like a hot Egyptian guy.
For the latter, marrying a foreigner is simple. He does not conclude with her a real marriage, but ORFI. In Egyptian order, it is, rather, an engagement or, roughly speaking, state permission to sleep together. But the main thing - according to this document, He has a bunch of rights, for common children, for example, and Her has no! In addition, at any moment he can say: “You are no longer my wife!” - and any court will support him.
What does such a marriage result in for a Russian woman? Wearing a hijab, complete lack of rights, hard work? Or maybe after the wedding she lives in an oriental fairy tale, remaining her beloved “habibi”, brings up children, does not know troubles and worries? Numerous forums are full of stories that reveal the backstage of the world of Russian wives of modern Egyptians.
Natalia, 26 years old.“I’ve been married to an Egyptian for more than three years - I came as a tourist to Sharm El Sheikh, but I stayed. I'm sorry now. I love Ibrahim so far, but I’m already tired of “building” relationships alone. It seems that he doesn’t care much about family difficulties; he doesn’t even discuss them with me. The main thing - so as not to fuss, and yet - on time and tasty food.
And it is rarely possible to eat deliciously - poverty tortured. Recently, a daughter was born in the family, and the eldest son had to be sent back to Russia to her ex-husband - there was no money to send him to first grade. All Russian books have been read, films have been reviewed, telephone conversations with Russia are too expensive, clothes are worn out, and I have not been to the hairdresser for almost two years. I want to get a job at a hotel or travel agency, but my daughter is still too small. It’s good to relax here, but life is completely different. ”
Irina, 32 years old. “I experienced all the“ charms ”of the marriage in Egypt myself, it’s good that I did not manage to get married officially. The first conflicts between an Arab husband and a Russian wife arise three years later. Around the time when in Russia a woman finishes sitting with her child and goes to work. But in a Muslim country there is no work for women as such. Only fifteen percent of women in Egypt work, the rest are home carers.
Children, cooking, washing, shopping - these are all her interests. For Muslim women, this is a normal life. For us, this means burying ourselves alive. Boredom is one of the main reasons for divorces in such families.
The second reason is jealousy. A Muslim man is a polygamous nature, and one woman is not enough for him. But here's the catch, they all need to be kept. And this is far from every Arab can afford. So it turns out that officially he has one wife, and the other three are “civilians”. Is it possible to live in such an atmosphere when the husband does not have time to really have dinner at home, how already, without saying a word, is in a hurry to leave? Do not dare to ask him stupid questions - he is his own master. ”
Tatyana, 28. “Aziz and I met in Sharm in Egypt. At first, I perceived this as a beach romance. Nothing serious. We walked, drank coffee ... I came there several times and more often thought ... He did not look like boys casting languid glances at the tourists. Higher education, senior restaurant manager. People in their 30s rarely make novels for nothing. Moreover, there was no talk of money or close relations. Once mutual recognition took place. But even then I was still thinking whether it was worth starting an international family. Finally decided. I set the condition that we will live in Russia.
In Moscow, difficulties began. My relatives did not accept Aziz, it was difficult for him without a tongue. Several times he was ready to give up everything, but remained only for my sake. Today our son is five months old. He is baptized, and the husband reacted very well to this, although he is a Muslim. We have a great, strong feeling, and it has overcome all difficulties. But I do not advise young people to repeat my experience on the move. The percentage of men who can withstand all this for the sake of their beloved is negligible. ”
"My girlfriend, Vika, 46, met in Hurghada 25-year-old massage therapist and has since gone crazy. She abandoned her husband, a 19-year-old daughter, goes to him constantly. He wants to move forever. I spent all my savings, bought him a car, an apartment. I took a loan of 200 thousand rubles. The masseur seems to have invested this money in the case, but as soon as it comes to paying interest to her, he "gets sick." Girlfriend believes his every word. And his lovers discuss it on the sites. They say what he calls her "old fool". And the girlfriend doesn’t want to hear anything, she’s getting younger. ”
Marina, 27. “Resting in one of the hotels in Hurghada, I threw my nightgown on the bed every morning - well, I have such a habit. And every morning, a young cleaning man put it on a pillow in the most intricate way. When he found out that in two days I was flying away, he laid out a shirt in the shape of a heart, and wrapped towels around with fantastic birds and covered all this with red petals of local flowers, the names of which few people know. Then they went to my room as if on an excursion - taking pictures against the backdrop of a love masterpiece. What do you think happened next? I became his wife. For six months now we have been living soul to soul in the same Hurghada. The only negative is tight with money. ”
One cannot but recall the story, which was widely discussed in the media. The holiday romance ended with a wedding and Elena Lovkova moved to Egypt with her husband with her 10-year-old daughter from her first marriage. The newlyweds settled in his native village. There, a young Russian woman converted to Islam and gave birth to a second child. However, the tale quickly dispelled: trying to escape from constant abuse, the woman tried several times to leave for her homeland. After another such attempt, her husband took her documents and a small daughter, demanding 50 thousand dollars for her.
The Russian woman turned to the police, but they decided not to intervene in the intra-family conflict. Local residents began to help Elena - they brought a Russian woman to Cairo, where she was able to meet with members of the Russian consulate. making a flight home without documents was much easier than picking up a child from an Egyptian husband. Dramatic proceedings continue to this day.
And here is a look from the other side of the barricades. Tells a couple of tourists. “We returned to the hotel in the evening, when the handsome security guard blocked our way. Apparently, he was tired of standing alone and he decided to speak with us. A verbose, hot and confused story of his love for one mysterious Russian girl suddenly fell upon us.
Why did she leave me? I did everything for her, I carried it in my arms. And I saw: she was happy with me! Why did she leave for Russia, where there are always two winters - very cold and not very ?!
He sincerely wanted to understand and was waiting for an explanation: what did he, his relatives, his country, not like the Russian wife. ”
It turns out that, as one would expect, there is no single template on which the Egyptian marriage is built. The Russian wife is really a matter of pride for the Arab, a sign of high status. But this does not mean that his courtship will necessarily be self-serving and prudent. After the wedding, many continue to blow dust and treat his wife with respect, although limiting her freedom in accordance with their religion. But if a woman fails to recognize in a black-eyed handsome professional orphan or despot, then the consequences, as we see, can be dramatic. But this is not only in Egypt ...
Education equally bad for girls and boys
I was lucky, I went to a private school, one of the best in the country, in my opinion. I entered there at about eight years old, so all my childhood, until graduation, was spent surrounded by almost the same people, like such a big comfortable bubble. There were about 48 students at the school, before moving to England I especially had no other contacts with peers. The school, of course, was exclusively female. As for subjects, these were mainly religious disciplines and exact sciences, humanitarian directions were almost ignored, which is strange, because it was a good private school.
Education in the country is bad enough for both boys and girls, there is not much difference. I went to a private school and could get some additional knowledge, albeit not officially, in state institutions everything is many times worse. Children seem to be taught biology, mathematics, and physics, but such subjects as history or social science are practically absent. Of course, they can tell some things in the lessons of religion, but this is all biased and is, in fact, government propaganda. It turns out that teenagers are graduated from school, not understanding basic things about the world around them.
Facebook and dress code
Twitter and Facebook are very popular in Saudi Arabia, as my school has seen. Girls, for example, simply have nothing more to do than write letters and compose new tweets. When Facebook first appeared, women were not encouraged to post their photos there. I remember how all the girls in my school whispered and called me “whore” because I posted my pictures. Now everything has changed, and these same girls have become the most unbearable spammers in my instagram. This always happens in the kingdom. At first, everyone is very afraid of innovations and gossip about those who began to actively use them, and then they themselves join.
Incidentally, I almost never wore a niqab (a cloak that almost completely covered my face. - Ed.), But I had to wear abayu (a long robe that covers only my body. - Ed.), As it is prescribed by law. When I was very young, Abaya was supposed to be completely black. But now I turned 12 years old, and women were allowed to wear colorful clothes. Of course, at first it was perceived by society negatively, some women spread gossip about those who dared to wear colored abaya. This fashion trend came from the elites and was gradually picked up by women across the country, but it took time. It seems to me that the simple permission to wear colored abaya has done a lot for society. Designers, certain trends, new factories appeared. Now you can determine whether a woman has a sense of style by simply looking at her on the street. Previously, this was an unrealistic task.
I remember how all the girls in my school whispered and called me “whore” because I posted my pictures. Now everything has changed, and these very girls have become the most unbearable spammers in my instagram.
In Saudi Arabia, it is accepted that the male half of the family is responsible for the reputation of their women. If your father or brother finds out that you smoked or spent time with a guy, this will have serious consequences. It is customary in the country to protect a daughter or wife from bad rumors, even if they are true, there are serious skirmishes on this basis. My family is very conservative on the part of my father, bad rumors really excite them, everything is a little easier with my mother’s relatives. In general, I still try to hide some things from them, despite my adult years. Almost all the girls from Saudi Arabia would have come up with brilliant criminals: they know how to hide information about themselves and avoid unnecessary attention better than anyone in the world.
Liberation move
Moving to the UK from Saudi Arabia still reminds me of being released from captivity. As if I spent 18 years in prison, and then I was released. For me, for a long time it was a joy to even walk to the university or the store without the obligatory accompaniment of a man. Now I can wear any clothes and hang out with guys, not thinking that someone will mistake me for a potential prostitute. Previously, I could not even express my opinion in school lessons, especially if it did not fit into religious norms, now everything is different.
Relatives of his father were terribly worried and tried to the last try to dissuade him from sending me to study in the UK. In principle, it never occurred to them that a woman could live alone, and even in another country! But my mother’s relatives and friends supported me very steeply, despite the fact that girls from Saudi Arabia began to go to study abroad only in 2008, as far as I remember. Society has not fully come to terms with this fact. But my dad himself graduated from a university in another country and insisted that I also try. Naturally, he had to sign papers that he allowed me to study abroad and all in that spirit. There is even a special service for especially religious people, which for 600 pounds (approximately 63 thousand rubles. - Ed.) And payment of housing costs allows you to hire a student guardian abroad. But, in my opinion, this is a rather absurd thing.
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“Law enforcement in Saudi Arabia is a separate issue”
In general, the implementation and submission to the laws of Saudi Arabia is a separate issue. There is an unspoken confrontation between orthodox religious and moderate families. The former always complicate everything, but there is almost always a way to circumvent official laws prescribed by religion. For example, your dad or brother writes a note to you that you can move around the city yourself, and the guardian is no longer needed. You just need to always take this note and passport with you, such pieces of paper sometimes work even with regard to traveling abroad. Much, of course, depends on the family. If your father is a liberal, laws are unlikely to have a big impact on your lifestyle. But if the head of the family adheres to traditional views, you will most likely never leave the house alone, he has every right to lock you in four walls.
In addition, there are a lot of places where only men or only women can go. According to my feelings, one day some lawyers came up with such a thing as ubiquitous segregation, and then for some reason it became part of the national culture, which cannot but upset and create problems. So, let's say a woman goes to a bakery on her street to buy a sandwich for breakfast, and then it turns out that only men are allowed to enter this bakery, as a result, she remains without a snack. Most of some shops or restaurants in the country are occupied, of course, by men. As a result, people begin to perceive this separation as the norm; both women and men begin to behave very strangely, getting into one room, everyone is wildly uncomfortable.
“A new generation of young men is no longer able to provide for their family”
My return home is a big dilemma. On the one hand, I understand that in England I am able to realize myself to the fullest; on the other, a small moralist inside me says that I am becoming part of the brain drain from my native country. I am torn between easily attainable happiness and sacrificing myself to Saudi Arabia, where everything will be much more complicated. Indeed, for a very long time, only two ways were prepared for a woman in a professional environment: medicine and teaching. Now the situation is improving, mainly due to oil companies oriented to the West and the USA in particular. It’s not a problem for them to hire female engineers - the main thing is that there is education. The state also adopted a series of reforms that allow women to work in the private sector, gradual, but, in principle, working. But, to be honest, I first saw a female cashier in a supermarket only in 2012.
Despite all the reforms, a working woman is still pressured by society, especially in conservative families. In principle, now even they began to take the idea of \u200b\u200ba working woman more calmly, but a religious father will never allow you to work in a place where sexual segregation is not observed: “Okay, you can work, but be kind enough to do it in the school where clear gender separation, or in a store for women. " Accordingly, this deprives many women in the country of career opportunities, as international companies are focused on Western standards of communication. Plus, a working woman is usually looked upon as a rogue of some kind: “Oh, look, no one needs her and will die alone!”
If your father is a liberal, laws are unlikely to have a big impact on your lifestyle. But if the head of the family adheres to traditional views, you will most likely never leave the house alone, he has every right to lock you in four walls.
Therefore, in Saudi Arabia, one of the most important problems is female unemployment, because getting a job as a saleswoman, for example, is easy, but getting a job in a cool company is difficult - usually men are preferred. As for my age group (20–25 years), then unemployment among both sexes generally reaches 40%, but is more reflected in the female half. I have a suspicion that all liberal reforms were carried out by the government precisely because the new generation of young men is no longer able to provide for their family. Also, by the way, it should be borne in mind that the indigenous people of Saudi Arabia, as a rule, basically do not go to work in the service sector, as a result, this niche is almost entirely occupied by migrants. Probably, the authorities decided that it was better for women to work there than strangers.
“Even conservative girls find it hard to return to their homeland”
I don’t think that the restriction of women's rights can be justified by “cultural identity”, because this is simply a model of behavior imposed in the past. I mean the events in Saudi Arabia that followed the Iranian fundamentalist revolution. A lot of time has passed since the 1980s, and, as often happens, people began to perceive the rules imposed by the authorities as their own traditions. In my opinion, this is pure coercion.
Usually, girls, leaving Saudi Arabia and starting to live in another country, begin to hang out in a new place with Arabs or Arabs. It’s easier for them, because you don’t have to fully adapt to the peculiarities of Western culture, and it is easier to make friends with someone from your home country. But despite this, they still understand that they are independent and significant, so even conservative girls find it hard to return to their homeland after they get used to freedom. Some of them come back and start doing really cool things - feminist activism, for example.
Arabian feminism
Probably everyone already knows about the girls who drove on wheelbarrows. This is very bold, because everyone can write posts in Tumblr, but to take such a radical step for Saudi Arabia is not. But society didn’t understand them, it didn’t provide the necessary support. In general, radical feminism is practically illegal, the situation is the same as with your Russian law on the LGBT community. You think that homosexuals corrupt children, and we perceive feminists as women who promote public nudity, promiscuous sex, and prostitution. The demand to establish gender equality causes some kind of mass paranoia and is associated with the sexual revolution. The government and society are more likely to listen to women who are trying to interpret the rules of Islam in their own interests and not cut off their shoulders. This is probably less honest, but more effective in a real fight for real rights.
Engage in the struggle for rights, of course, very cool.
But in Saudi Arabia, opening NPOs on their own is not an easy task, there is a lot of paperwork, so private corporations usually do this. That is, on the basis of many large companies, there are non-profit organizations engaged in some important public business: the problem of unemployment, female employment, and education for teenage girls. My friend works in one of these NGOs, and it’s amazing to see how her efforts and work pay off. If I decide to return to Saudi Arabia after graduating from a magistracy, I will definitely try to work in this area.
