There is nothing more beautiful than happy life together when love and mutual understanding flourish in a family for many years, and spouses, despite the number of years they have lived together, still value and love each other.

What kind of wedding is called a crystal wedding? In our country it is customary to celebrate wedding anniversaries and... Depending on the number of years they have lived, they have different names, for example, the first year after the wedding is called calico, the second anniversary is called paper, and so on. How many years later is a crystal (glass) wedding celebrated? The crystal wedding anniversary is 15 years of marriage. It received its name not so long ago; most often it was called glass. The anniversary acquired its name due to special properties crystal and its natural purity. Crystal is a fragile type of glass, any careless movement and it will break into many fragments. Likewise, the family, despite 15 years of living together, still remains very fragile.

Let's look at the name in more detail. So why is the 15th wedding anniversary called crystal or glass? People called it a glass wedding; the modern name is more romantic and harmonious. Everyone can understand the name of the anniversary in their own way, but nevertheless, it has a symbolic connotation:

1. It is the crystal that reminds us of the 15th anniversary. Family life, like this fragile material, has become cleaner, more transparent, more beautiful over the years, like crystal figurines. There are no secrets between spouses; they know everything about each other.
2. However, the anniversary makes the married couple think that their life together is not yet completely perfect, and they have something to strive for.

Crystal is very fragile, so you need to protect your family from troubles and conflicts that can destroy a marriage, even after fifteen years have passed family life

The crystal wedding is an important date for any family. This day should be truly memorable.

How to celebrate your fifteenth wedding anniversary?

Useful tips for those couples who decide to celebrate a crystal wedding: 15th wedding anniversary ideas:

• needed in the relevant topic. So the holiday will pass interesting and will be remembered by guests for a long time. When decorating your interior, don't forget about style. Best for decoration add crystal objects to the interior, Place a beautiful crystal vase on the festive table. You only need to decorate the hall in soft light color scheme. Appearance the hall should say that this is a crystal wedding. The festive table should be set appropriately and express the status of the glass wedding. Use crystal dishes for guests, and also decorate the table with interesting glass or crystal figurines. A light-colored tablecloth will look good on the table.

• Pay special attention to the menu: hot dishes, snacks, drinks. Don't forget also.
• Anniversary is required must follow the script. It is very bad if the spouses do not attach importance to the organization of the holiday and turn the crystal wedding into ordinary family gatherings. Surprising guests is not as difficult as it might seem at first glance. It is enough to set a dress code for those invited, and then the holiday will cease to be banal. Costume parties are very popular now, but do not forget to warn your guests about this in the invitation to celebrate 15 years married life.

• You can create a video film about your family for your anniversary. One of the spouses can prepare such a surprise. If this is not possible, then contact professionals who will edit you an interesting film based on your family archive on time.

Traditions and customs that are usually observed at a crystal wedding

A crystal wedding is not only an occasion to organize a holiday for yourself and your guests, but also a special day on which spouses need to analyze their life together and understand important truths. On this day, each spouse should think about his behavior in the family, pay attention to the mistakes that he may be making and make sure that they do not happen again. In addition, on the glass anniversary you can fulfill your cherished dreams and forgotten family plans. The most important thing is that this is time that you spend together.

How to celebrate the fifteenth anniversary is up to each couple to decide for themselves. It could be romantic evening or a big celebration with many guests.

On this day it is customary to invite friends and relatives who were at the wedding ceremony and who entered into life during the marriage

According to a long-standing tradition, at their crystal wedding, the couple breaks one old mirror, which belonged to a generation of the family and which has seen many tears and disappointments. According to this tradition, spouses thus rid their lives of problems and difficulties, and also allow happiness and mutual understanding into their family.

What should a married couple do for their 15th wedding anniversary?

After fifteen years of marriage, you can draw a certain line by analyzing the achievements of your family and your relationships. And you definitely need to set new goals and think about implementing plans that have not yet been fulfilled.

• Every couple has joint dream, think about what you did to make it come true, and how happy you will be if you achieve what you want. There is one simple trick: take a piece of paper and write down a list of everything you want to do in a year. You can describe any event, even minor ones, such as replacing a faucet. Once everything is ready, hide the list until the next wedding day.
• Buy new dishes for your home. That's why it's a crystal (glass) wedding, to purchase at least one brand new set. Replacing old dishes with new ones is a must-have tradition for a crystal wedding and should not be ignored. This tradition came to us a long time ago; on this day it is also necessary to check your old dishes for cracks, and if there are any, throw them away. Do not feel sorry for old dishes; even the smallest crack is a reason to get rid of them.

• Buy a beautiful crystal or glass item for your home together with your spouse. It must be big and beautiful item. Replace the old boring chandelier with a new crystal one. Buy a beautiful glass piece of furniture, for example, a coffee table. There are many options for buying together, think about what you are missing in your home or what you would like to replace. The purchase symbolizes the beginning of a new life together and will bring you only joy. It also wouldn’t hurt to purchase a small crystal or glass figurine. It will become a symbol of your family and will decorate your home.
• Early in the morning the spouses should wash with cool spring water. This tradition symbolizes the cleansing of spouses from bad thoughts and thoughts, and it is also a symbol of a new life together. If you don’t have spring water, then pour plain water into any container and add ice. The spouses must wash themselves together; this is very important for the ritual.
• Don't forget about gifts for each other. Think about the gift in advance to both surprise and delight your other half. There are many original and. For example, cute decorations or accessories.

What should spouses wear to a crystal wedding?

A crystal wedding is a festive day for a couple, so they should look appropriate on this day. The choice of outfits should be taken very carefully, after all, on this memorable day, the spouses will be the center of attention throughout the holiday.

• The spouse should be chosen Beautiful festive costume . You can choose a suit that matches the one he wore on his first wedding day. For celebrations in the summer, it is best to choose a suit made from natural fabrics. It will be very comfortable and not as hot as usual. It is important that the suit is light and in the same style as the wife’s dress.
• The spouse needs to choose Nice dress delicate shades. If you don't like dresses or would feel awkward in them, put it on pantsuit . For crystal suitable for weddings also a beautiful blouse with a skirt. The most important thing is that you like the outfit and feel comfortable in it. Don’t forget that a properly chosen outfit will hide any imperfections in your figure.

Who to invite to the crystal wedding

Crystal wedding is, first of all, family celebration. Traditionally, it is celebrated among close friends and relatives. The presence of the spouses' parents is mandatory at the celebration. This is a kind of symbol of respect for the older generation. Children must also be present at the celebration.

Good friends are the support for any married couple. They help in Hard time, support and give valuable advice, so they must be at the crystal wedding. And don’t forget to organize a photo shoot for your 15th wedding anniversary. Memorable photographs will delight you and your guests for a long time . And remember that good company is the key to a fun holiday and unforgettable impressions.

I'm potential ex-husband. 9 years of married life together, 10 years from the moment we met. Two children, girls. This year the eldest is 9 years old, the youngest is 5 years old. She wants a divorce. On my part, there is no betrayal, alcoholism and other “strong” vices. There is normal smoking during working hours, I didn’t smoke at home, my wife never saw me with a cigarette, she only smelled it after a working day. There is still disagreement about taking out significant amounts on credit. He believes that you need to build EVERYTHING in a year or two or three, buy EVERYTHING, and then give it away. At one time I worked as a credit expert, I saw a lot, and I have a negative attitude towards loans of significant amounts. This is where the disagreement lies. After the second child, sex became rare, at most 2-3 times a week, and then sometimes as necessary, either on my part or on hers. This is not enough for her and me. But at the same time, we are both silent and angry at each other. You won’t even get a smile from her for several years, she just demands it. The other day I found old photos from past years, even when the eldest daughter was born and then until about the youngest daughter was 2 years old. In these photos we are still happy. Of course, they quarreled from time to time for various reasons. But I always thought it was important that we put up because we love. Everyone quarrels, but only those who love reconcile. But just like that, out of nowhere, she announced two months ago that she wants a divorce. That she suffered for all nine years. And what wants to start new life. With children and without me. And I!? She single-handedly made the decision to destroy my family and leaves me alone. Without children next to me! Of course I was shocked at first. Of course, I took it emotionally. But what do you, wives, expect from men declaring that they want to destroy the family? That they will joyfully jump around you, thanking you for the destruction?! She says that this is the beginning of a new life for her. But we perceive divorce differently. For me this is destruction. Imagine the picture after the explosion of an atomic bomb in the city, these are ruins.
Don’t you think that maybe it’s you who can’t “keep your home.” Often from you kind words you won’t get it, but you keep demanding and demanding.
The more I think about the consequences of divorce, the more painful it becomes. A person has consciousness, these are thoughts at the current moment in time, memories of the past and thoughts about the future. This is probably the very soul that religions talk about. So the rupture creates a deep wound in the mind and it heals with terrible pain. She's pressing. Imagining Her with another woman is even more painful; rage rises. I don’t even know how I’ll behave if I suddenly meet the potential future M. And to realize that the children will be raised by some kind of “left dad” who the mother needs for comfort - brings on weakness, pain and anger at the same time; man, but you want to cry at other times.
And also, why should husbands always give in, even when they are right, and wives do not even want to accept the idea that they should give in to their husbands on some issue.
This state of “she wants a divorce” has been going on for two and a half months now. It's hard, it's painful, it's inevitable... because SHE wants it. The feeling that this is the end.
And yet... I want an official war, so that the law gives the right to shed other people’s blood, so that not only you feel bad, so that you can release all the anger for everything on everyone. And at some point, let there be peace and quiet. 02/20/2015 08:33:57, Sergey198206

Divorce is always a psychological trauma. Whether it is a divorce after 10 years of marriage or a divorce after 35 years of marriage, it is always very painful and difficult. Let's try to figure out how to survive a divorce after many years of marriage.

Divorce after 20 years of marriage - what could be the reason? The most common “they don’t get along” is not applicable in this case. It is more suitable for couples who have not lived together for ten years. Divorce after 20 years of marriage mainly occurs for two reasons: infidelity of one of the spouses or loss of trust due to some other circumstances.

If we talk about betrayal, then there are two options: either it occurred due to a sudden attraction and does not imply any continuation, or it was the result of a long, previously established discord in the family.

Divorce after 15 years of marriage is a hard blow for any couple, which will not be easy to cope with.

Divorce after 30 years of marriage

So, the divorce happened for one reason or another. What to do next? How to survive a divorce after 40 years? At first glance it seems that this is impossible. There are several stages of experiencing a breakup.

Negation
Non-acceptance of the situation, refusal to believe what happened, devastation and hope that the culprit of the divorce will return - this is what happens in the first time after separation. It is especially difficult to come to terms with what happened if the children have already grown up, they have their own lives, and you feel lonely and useless.

Depression
At this stage, interest in everything disappears, and it is very difficult to get out of this state on your own. Life after divorce at 50 - is there any point in starting over? This question does not find an answer, and here you cannot do without the help of family and friends. At 50 years old, both sexes are still young and full of energy. Most reliable way to distract yourself from self-destruction is to do a new activity that will distract you from painful memories.

Communication with new people also effective method. And the best cure for depression is sports. You can sign up for a swimming pool or some section, which will not only put your nervous system in order, but also your body.

If you don’t be afraid and give yourself a chance, then the third stage is just around the corner.

Falling in love with yourself
Throughout the years of married life, both husband and wife often forget how it feels to love themselves. Everyday life, work, children, all sorts of problems absorb you, and you don’t have to think much about yourself. And now is the time to remember your attractiveness, your desires, love yourself and give others the opportunity to pay attention to you. The main thing is not to close yourself.

Start over

This is the last stage of the divorce experience. Sooner or later everyone comes to her. And no matter how hard it is at the beginning of the journey, over time the pain fades away. It’s worth trying to start life over again at any age. And this is quite real.

There is one more feature of this period. Most often, it is at this moment that the spouse responsible for the divorce tries to go back. And here it’s up to you to decide what divorce means to you after 25 years of marriage - a chance to start over with a new person or an opportunity to give a second life to an old relationship.

Hello, Ilya Dmitrievich!

A joint family life can be imagined as a marathon race, where not all married couples reach the finish line: they live together all their lives until old age, while others leave it for various reasons. But it should be noted that any more or less long-term relationship between two partners, as a rule, is not without crises.

Divorce is the most easy way resolve interpersonal problems that have been building up in the marriage for a long time. But what to do if a pre-divorce situation arises in the family?

At the beginning, it is important to understand what you really want: to change the relationship and take it to a new level or to do it “the way it was before.”

If you are more attracted to the first option, then get ready for the fact that you may have to work alone and not expect your wife to immediately meet you halfway. It is a slow and difficult process, but always productive.

If you are attracted to the second option, then think about why you need “the same as before”? Such a relationship has already led you to a pre-divorce situation once. To do as before means to ensure your life from quarrel to quarrel.

I suggest you focus all your efforts on the first option and try to do the best. And “as always” can happen without effort. If you're ready for the healing process, here are a few steps you can take to get your relationship back on track. In this case, it does not matter what exactly caused the crisis in the relationship: betrayal, early marriage, a clear deficiency of one of the partners (alcoholism), a crisis year, etc. (add it yourself).

Sequence of steps:

1. Make a conscious decision to save your family.
   Formulate a clear goal for yourself: why do you need to save your marriage? Many couples get divorced, even after making some attempts to save the marriage, because they do not fully understand why they need it. The most important motivation is often the fear of starting life over again, that there will be no more family. In other words, fear that things will get worse. Not the most positive motivation for saving a marriage, right?
   Think about whether you have such fears? Or, more precisely, is this fear at the core of the desire to save the marriage? Or do you want to restore family relationships because you remember what you were like at the beginning of your married life and recognize that both are to blame for the fact that everything went bad? Do you want to live happily and long with this person, no matter who he is?
   Create positive motivation - from the heart, speak it to yourself. Get into the mindset that you want to save your marriage and know why. After all, a lot depends on this. In moments when you want to leave forever, your will will show the right path.
2. Talk to your wife.
   Talk honestly and openly about what doesn't suit both of you, about what you want your family to be like. You can even write down lists so you don’t get lost in the conversation or get too personal. Make a promise to each other to work on whatever your partner says. Be sure to use the aquarium principle.
   “The aquarium principle”: while the other partner is speaking, you remain silent, no matter how much you want to say something, ask, or clarify. You can take notes or write down questions (ask them later when your partner finishes speaking). Ask questions only to understand what to do.
3. Try to find your fault in what is happening.
   When we don't get what we want in a relationship, the first thing we usually do is try to change the other. A crisis period in a relationship, when it comes to divorce, is the time to realize that this method does not work. You either cannot change forcibly, or you can, but only for a short time.
   If you think that only you are right (and everything, of course, points exactly to this!), try - at least as an experiment - to accept as correct what your wife tells you and do as she asks. Try to make concessions first and do it sincerely, with the desire to help your wife improve and restore harmony in the family. Try to hear and understand what is behind your wife's behavior?
   Yes, for many this method will be radical, but saving a marriage when divorce is just around the corner requires just such methods. If you try to change yourself, you will see that your wife will begin to change, understanding your desire to save the marriage and sincere desire to give her love, despite what is happening. And if all your attempts are not heard, then you can leave with a clear conscience, without guilt and heaviness in your soul. You will learn your lessons in this relationship.

Sincerely, Pleshkova V.V.