Should children help their parents? Many parents feel they shouldn't burden their children. household chores... They think that housework will take away the carefree childhood that is given only once. Often, parents who come to a psychologist for a consultation believe that schooling is enough for their children and that they do not need anything from their children.

However, as a family psychologist, the author of this note Olga Zeitlinbelieves that it is much more important that when children help parentsperforming household duties, they will feel necessary in the family, able to make their own contribution to family well-being and therefore be full members of it.

At the consultation, she helps parents understand that by teaching children responsibility for household chores, we develop their social interest and prepare them so that they are not afraid of responsibility outside the home.

Childrenwhich help parents and have a range of responsibilities in the home usually do better in school because they interact better with teachers. Without such training, children become consumers and in the future they only want to receive something from other people. They just sit at home and wait for someone to come and give them what they want. Sometimes these children have the feeling that they are something of themselves only when they are served by someone.

Based on their experience and life situations, adults can come up with a lot of different things that a child can do for the benefit of the family. But sometimes parents are at a loss, not knowing what can be entrusted to children, therefore, the author further gives approximate lists of household responsibilities for children of different ages, which were taken with minor changes in the book by B. B. Grunwald, G. V. Mackabee "Family Counseling" ... So what children help around the house at different ages:

Household responsibilities of a three-year-old

Collect and put toys in an appropriate place.

Put books and magazines on the shelf.

Take napkins, plates and cutlery to the table.

Remove the crumbs left after eating.

Clear your seat at the table.

Brush your teeth, wash and dry your hands and face, comb your hair.

Undress yourself, with a little help - get dressed.

Wipe away the traces of "childish surprise".

Bring small products to the desired shelf, put things away on the lower shelf.

Household responsibilities of a four-year-old

Serve the table, including good plates.

Help clean up groceries.

Under the supervision of a parent, help in buying cereals, pasta, sugar, cookies, sweets, bread.

Feed your pets on a schedule.

Help clean up the garden and yard in the country.

Help make and make the bed.

Help wash the dishes or load the dishwasher.

Wipe off dust.

Spread butter on bread. Prepare cold breakfasts (cereals, milk, juice, crackers).

Help prepare a simple dessert (put decoration on cake, add jam to ice cream).

Share toys with friends.

Get mail from the mailbox.

Play at home without constant supervision and without the constant attention of adults.

Hang socks and handkerchiefs to dry.

Help fold towels.

Household responsibilities of a five-year-old

Help plan food preparation and grocery shopping.

Make your own sandwiches or a simple breakfast and clean up after yourself.

Pour yourself a drink.

Serve the dining table.

Pluck salad and herbs from the garden.

Add some ingredients as per recipe.

To spread and clean the bed, clean up the room.

Dress and remove clothes yourself.

Clean sink, toilet and bath.

Wipe down mirrors.

Sort the laundry for washing. Fold separately white, separately colored.

Fold and remove clean laundry.

To answer phone calls.

Help clean up the apartment.

Pay for small purchases.

Help wash the car.

Help take out the trash.

It is up to you to decide how to spend your share of the family money intended for entertainment.

Feed your pet and clean up after him.

Tie your own laces.

Household responsibilities of a six-year-old (first grade)

Choose your own clothes for the weather or for a specific occasion.

Vacuum the carpet.

Water flowers and plants.

Peel vegetables.

Prepare simple meals (hot sandwiches, boiled eggs).

Pack your things for school.

Help hang the laundry on the clothesline.

Hang your clothes in the wardrobe.

Collect wood for the fire.

Collect dry leaves with a rake, weed weeds.

Walk pets.

Be responsible for your minor wounds.

Taking out the trash.

Tidy up the cutlery drawer.

Set the table.

Household responsibilities for a seven-year-old (second grade)

Lubricate the bike and take care of it. Lock it in a special place when not in use.

Receive phone messages and record them.

Be on parcels from parents.

Wash your dog or cat.

Train your pets.

Carry food bags.

Get up in the morning and go to bed in the evening on your own without reminders.

Be polite and courteous to other people.

Leave a bath and toilet in order.

Iron simple things.

Household responsibilities for an eight- and nine-year-old (third grade)

Place napkins and cutlery correctly.

Wash the floor.

Help rearrange furniture, plan furniture placement with adults.

Fill your bath yourself.

Help others (if asked) in their work.

Tidy up your closets and drawers.

Buying clothes and shoes for yourself with the help of parents, choosing clothes and shoes.

Change school clothes for clean ones without reminder.
Folding blankets.

Sew on buttons.

Sew up open seams.

Clean the pantry.

Clean up after animals.

Get acquainted with recipes for preparing simple dishes and learn how to cook them.

Cut flowers and prepare a vase for bouquets.

Collect fruits from trees.

Kindle Fire. Prepare everything you need for cooking over a fire.

Painting a fence or shelves.

Write simple letters.

Write thank you cards.

Feed the baby.

Bathing younger sisters or brothers.

Rub the furniture in the living room with polish.

Household responsibilities for a nine- and ten-year-old (fourth grade)

Change bedding and put dirty laundry in the basket.

Know how to handle a washing machine and dryer.

Measure out detergent and fabric softener.

Buy products from the list.

Cross the street on your own.

Come to appointments on your own if you can walk or bike there.

Bake semi-finished biscuits in boxes.

Prepare food for the family.

Receive your mail and reply to it.

Prepare tea, coffee or juice, pour into cups.

Make a visit.

Plan your birthday or other holidays.

Be able to provide simple first aid.

Wash the family car.

Learn frugality and economy.

Household responsibilities for a ten- and eleven-year-old child (fifth grade)

Make money on your own.

Do not be afraid to stay at home alone.

Dispose of some money responsibly.

Be able to ride the bus.

Responsible for personal hobbies.

Household responsibilities for an eleven and twelve year old child (sixth grade)

Be able to take on leadership responsibilities outside the home.

Help put little siblings to bed.

Do your business independently.

Mow lawn.

Help the father with construction, crafts and household chores.

Clean the stove and oven.

To independently allocate time for study sessions.

Household responsibilities for high school students

On school days, going to bed at a certain time (in agreement with the parents).

Take responsibility for preparing meals for the whole family.

Have an idea of \u200b\u200ba healthy lifestyle: eat healthy food, maintain a correct weight, have regular medical examinations.

Anticipate the needs of others and take appropriate action.

Have a realistic view of the possibilities and limits of possibilities.

Consistently implement the decisions made.

Show mutual respect, loyalty and honesty in all relationships.

Make some money if possible.

How to organize it

Don't ask children to do anything. Just discuss once what they could take on and assign them their responsibilities. You don't have to become an instructor sergeant among the recruits, but at the end of the day, you are the boss.

Do not force children to do something under a stick. Remember, some of their work is based on trust. Tell them what needs to be done and let them know how confident you are that they can handle it. When they feel that they are really helping, it is very interesting to watch them.

Many have a schedule in their kitchens that lists all the daily chores of children. It lists the days of the week and the tasks that the children should do on that day. This schedule helps a lot in guiding the children and does not need to be reminded of anything. They can look at the schedule at any time and see what they have to do. Yes, it's not exactly a perfect scheme, but the schedule definitely helps.

Whether it is necessary to burden the child with household chores is an ambiguous question for many parents. On the one hand, not so long ago a child by the age of 7 was already so independent that he could be considered a full-fledged helper in the family (go to the store, and clean up the apartment, and sit with younger children), and such upbringing was in the order of things. On the other hand, the current tendency to present a child with a carefree childhood is a kind of trend that should be followed. Helping a child around the house is often viewed as the exploitation of child labor, something that interferes with the full course of childhood.

Of course, the life of a modern child is often very full of various circles and sections. And the parents believe that it will be too much to impose any other responsibilities on him. And it is much easier to do all the necessary household chores on your own, without awkward attempts by the child to help.

However, does this approach give a positive result? Unfortunately, not always. Shielding the child from household chores leads to a delay in his social and personal development. Such children, growing up, often suffer from increased egocentrism, inadequate self-esteem and dissatisfaction with the quality of their lives. After all, not having learned in childhood the importance of work and help, the child cannot adequately assess the conditions created for him in the family, and does not realize the happiness of his childhood.

3 pluses of labor education of a child

Development of self-esteem. Psychological research shows that children who perform certain household chores feel necessary and significant in the family, therefore they have adequately high self-esteem, are not afraid of difficulties and are ready to cooperate with others.

Self-discipline.The child's household responsibilities are taught to calculate their strength. First, an adult helps him, consistently giving the child feasible tasks, and then he himself learns to divide the big task facing him into small, but quite doable steps. For example, you need to water the flowers. To do this, pour water into the jar, let it settle, then take the jar and gently water the flowers.

Preparation for school.A helper child comes to school age prepared for the need not only to receive something from others, but also to make efforts to achieve a result. All the victories of the baby (self-tied shoelaces, peeled potatoes, washed plate) are necessary for him to prove to himself and everyone that he is capable of much.

The child helps around the house: how to distribute responsibilities?

Only the parents themselves, relying on the individual characteristics of the child and the living conditions of the family, will best be able to come up with things that the baby will do with pleasure. However, there are some tips for adults in this matter.

1 year. "Looking closely."Babies begin to show an active interest in what their parents are doing at home after a year, when they have the physical ability to move independently. At this age, they are happy to play with the pots they got, study the household appliances they come across, copy the actions of their mother with rags and napkins.

2-3 years. "I want to help!" Children are already persistently asking to be allowed to work in the house. What can you instruct a kid at this age? Self-service responsibilities: wash, brush your teeth, undress and dress (at least in general terms), put clothes on your shelf, etc. Putting things in order: put your toys back in place, collect crumbs from the table with a rag. To increase the interest of the crumbs in chores around the house, mom can bring an element of play to any business. For example, a crane made of children's handles will help to put toys in their places, and during an evening wash, a clean fairy will drop in for a visit.

4 years. "I can do a lot!"The child is able to cope with real things already: help to fill up a grocery basket in the supermarket, load the washing machine, hang and remove laundry from the dryer, wipe dust, etc. Always praise the baby and thank him for his help.

5 years. "Will I help you tomorrow?" At this age, a child can become a full-fledged assistant to an adult in all household chores, so parents can only choose the circle of his activities. However, it is during this period that children often have a reluctance to fulfill their duties. In this case, it will be useful to use stricter methods of education, that is, require the performance of duties. The main thing is that such an approach should still be applied briefly and ad hoc.

Labor education of a child: the main mistakes of parents

Unfortunately, a situation often arises when parents seem to be ready to entrust the child with the performance of any household duties, but he is not eager to help. But even in such a situation, the reasons for the baby's behavior are more dependent on the parents themselves, so they should be recognized in time.

- Lack of a positive reaction to the efforts of the baby. The baby's first attempts to help mom and dad are often inept and lead to even more trouble, so parents often dismiss his efforts or reproach him for carelessness and the consequences received from help. And then the child loses the desire to offer his help, because instead of approval, he is afraid to receive criticism again.

- There are no living conditions.It is unlikely that the baby will retain the desire and initiative in providing assistance around the house, if he physically requires the intervention of an adult to perform certain actions. For example, a broom and a scoop are too large and are stored in an inaccessible place, there are no coasters or stools, toys are on the upper shelves of the rack. Sometimes it is enough to make the house convenient for the child to make him feel like a master and show responsibility for order.

- Lack of clear household responsibilities for the child.Constancy is necessary for young children, it is the basis of their safety and comfort. Therefore, if parents irregularly and unexpectedly for the child remember that he needs to remove toys or take dirty dishes to the sink, the baby will resist.

- Wrong perception of responsibilities.Very often, work, especially at home, everyday work, is presented by adults from the negative side, as something forced and uninteresting. Therefore, the child develops an idea of \u200b\u200bdomestic responsibilities more as a punishment than a privilege. Parents need to love the chores themselves so that the baby will happily connect to them.

- Feelings of guilt in parents.It happens that parents, due to their employment, feel guilty before the baby, therefore, internally they are not sure that they have the right to burden him with chores around the house. A child from infancy is a wonderful manipulator, subtly sensing the weak points of the parents and skillfully using them. Therefore, adults must first gain confidence in the correctness of their requirements themselves, so that the baby can adequately perceive them.

The best thing that parents can do for their baby is to see him as a full-fledged and independent personality, and create conditions for him to feel needed and significant.

Is the kid easily distracted and forget about his duties? In this case, it is worthwhile to provide for him some kind of noticeable reminder, for example, a multi-colored chamomile, where each petal is painted and glued after the completion of a particular task, or a piggy bank with duty tokens (colored paper circles). After completing his work, the kid can receive a token and throw it into the piggy bank. If by the evening all 3 (5, 8, etc.) tokens will be in such a piggy bank, the child can receive a small reward - for example, a favorite fairy tale before bedtime.

At 3-4 years old, all children love to help adults, after 2-3 years there are not so many mother's helpers, and by school age, only a few are engaged in housework. Adults who do not accept the inept help of babies may later face the complete reluctance of adolescents not only to help around the house, but even to serve themselves.

What can a primary school child do around the house?

Is it necessary or not to burden schoolchildren with household chores? They have a lot of classes for mastering the school curriculum, additional workload, hobby classes. Let the child fully experience a happy childhood. Parents think so, convinced that their children can well grow up on everything ready, if only he has time to study well and have no problems in the team.

Naturally, children who do not have feasible household chores on the threshold of school age will not actively take up household chores. They should have been taught this at the age of 2-4, and this should be done gently and unobtrusively. ... Then I would do a lot and would gladly invest my work in family well-being.

What 7-year-olds can do around the house:

• Remove dust with a vacuum cleaner.
• Watering flowers at home and in a flower bed.
• Prepare simple meals.
• Collect your portfolio.
• Help mom hang up the laundry after washing.
• Cut out the weeds in the garden bed.
• Sweep the yard.
• Taking out the trash.
• Reheat food in the microwave.
• Walk and feed the small dog.
• Tidy things up, put things in order in the room.
• Leave these rooms clean after bathing and using the toilet.
• Iron things that are simple to cut.
• Prepare for bed on your own and get ready for school in the morning.
• Clean your bike from dirt, make minor repairs to your two-wheeled friend.
• Tidy up in a cupboard with dishes and kitchen utensils.
• Set the table before dinner, serve non-hot meals, bread, salad, sandwiches, clean up for yourself and family members after meals.

What an 8-year-old child can do:

• Keeping a desk, a bookcase and other things in order.
• Preparing a bath for yourself.
• Change of bed and underwear.
• Ability to mend your clothes, simple repairs.
• Form your image in clothes of your own free will.
• Help your father during the renovation by performing simple assignments.
• Harvest in the garden.
• Feed and walk pets.
• Dust and vacuum furniture and floor coverings.

What a 9-year-old student can do:

• Prepare simple meals following the recipe.
• Painting a flat surface.
• Whitewash the trees in the garden.
• Bake potatoes or sausages over the fire.
• Look after younger children (from 2 years old), be able to change their clothes and feed them.
• Clean pet cages.
• Tuck the pillow into the pillowcase and the blanket into the duvet cover.
• Loosen a narrow bed with a rake, weed it from weeds.
• Plant flower and vegetable seeds according to a given pattern.
• Make your bed.

What matters can be entrusted to a 10-year-old child:

• Use the recipe to make simple baked goods.
• Prepare simple meals for the whole family, calculating the right amount of food.
• Put things in order in your own room and throughout the house, putting things in the place provided for them.
• Plan weekly purchases with your parents.
• Help your father clean the car interior.
• Set the table.
• Prepare a bath for the youngest child, help mom with bathing.
• Be able to turn on and off household appliances, pour powder into the washing machine.
• See where the mother or father needs help, connect without reminders.
• Help with caring for vegetables in the garden, for flowers near the house and on the windowsill.
• Participate in general cleaning of the premises of a house or apartment.

Do not be intimidated by this extensive list, no one plans to make Cinderella children out of children. Most of the things on this list need to be done sporadically, many with their parents.

It is important to offer only those things that the child can handle for sure. The main thing is not to forget about dosed praise, which can become a powerful incentive to participate in business.

How to teach a child to be independent?

It happens that parents find that their child lacks independence and realize it too late. It is important to start self-education well before entering school. when the baby strives for independence and tries his strength. Then he is extremely interested in the world of adult things, and accustoming to work occurs spontaneously.

It's a little late to start this kind of work at school, but as the famous saying goes: "Better later than never."

The main incentive for the one who works - a fair assessment of his work. Encouragement, praise, the words that without Tanya (Kolya, Vanya, Irina) it would not have been possible to cope - the best incentive. You shouldn't manipulate the promise of money as payment for child labor, because then all family members would have to pay.

The work is preceded by a discussion of what needs to be done. It is important to discuss all the nuances of the upcoming business so that the child avoids disappointment from a poorly performed job. Only after the new business has been mastered, it is worth starting the next assignment.

For forgetful children, it is worth hanging a to-do list in the children's room that parents hope for help in doing.

In the early days of completing errands, the child may do something wrong, ruin the thing. In no case should you criticize him for this, better tell me how to avoid mistakes in the future. Children must understand how to determine that the work is done well, to understand the criteria for this.

There is no need to demand high returns if children have an increased workload at school, for example, at the end of the school year. Have someone temporarily take over some of the homework. A little later, the child will definitely appreciate it.

Psychologist Daria Grankina writes:

“In fact, every child wants independence and independence from their parents from the age of three. And in no case should these attempts be suppressed. For example, children can dress for an infinitely long time or brush their teeth so that the whole bathroom is in paste, or they can wash the dishes, and then they are covered in foam. But they want to do it, they are interested in it, this is an element of the game. Well, well, you need to be patient and silently, or better with approval, to watch this. Then it's better to wash or clean up yourself. This is very important, because children must understand that there is joy in work and independence.

Moreover, the duty of parents is to teach work and independence to their children. Better to start by teaching you to appreciate the work of others. The food at school has been prepared by someone and cannot be pampered, you cannot walk on clean floors without changing shoes, you cannot tear books and draw in them, etc., all this must be taught. In a child, and even a teenager, everything is educated. So we must take advantage of this. Otherwise, we will get lazy and infantile young people. And laziness, alas, is the chief of all troubles and vices.

A child's mind is very active, and if he is not busy with good and good, then he is busy with bad, this is inevitable. Not understanding why and how to work honestly, such children will then steal, beg and cheat in every possible way. When talking about the reaction of the parents, it should be positive and without ridicule. If the child took out the trash or rubbed the dust, then it is necessary to praise him, without pretentious words, but mark this event with an affectionate word.

Therefore, while the child is still able to listen and hear adults, it is necessary to teach him elementary things: make the bed in the morning, clean up toys or textbooks, eat up everything in the plate and then wash it, or better for mom and dad. In general, to serve yourself. Having accustomed a child to domestic work, you can consider that you have given him life skills and he will not disappear in this world. "

What to expect from hardworking children?

Moms and dads, who taught their child to work without prodding, did not lose at all. Their children know for sure that they are full members of the family, without whose help neither mom nor dad can do.

Boys and girls who work at home socialize faster in a new team for them ... Not a single unexpected situation, when you have to rely only on yourself, will unsettle them. A child who knows how to cook his own food, who has self-service skills, who knows how to take care of clothes and shoes, is unlikely to become a consumer of the time and labor of others.

The basis of a friendly family is a competent distribution of roles, rights and responsibilities. How's that?

Is it normal if all household chores are on the woman, and the man just watches TV? Or is it correct if they do everything together and equally: the husband and wife cook food, wash the floors and wash the clothes? Or maybe all household chores should be on the husband, while the wife is busy with herself at this time, as in modern China? There is no single, correct answer for all. The answers to this question largely depend on how you were raised, what kind of environment you have, and what kind of relationships you have in your family. For example, there is a WE family and there is a I + I family, and in these different families the issue of the distribution of household chores and responsibilities is solved in their own way. In the family WE have more responsibilities for the one who can and knows more: he is happy to do it. In the I + I family, the person who is more interested in the relationship, who is more dependent and who else can be more burdened is a big family load ...

At the same time, it is wrong to think that household chores are just a burden: it is also a source of pride and great opportunities. Anyone who does little in the family usually has little influence on anything. And the one who invests more in the family, the one in the family has more opportunities to influence, has more rights.

Elementary: whoever takes care of the child, he brings him up in his own way, for himself.

The three main guidelines for the distribution of family responsibilities are 1) individual preferences (who wants what he wants more), 2) skills and abilities (whoever knows how to do what is better, he does that and 3) benefits (we will entrust the child in the family with what it will be more useful for him to master for his future adult life).

Individual preferences are the simplest and most obvious. For example, some people like to wash dishes more than take out the trash. And someone can easily grab this garbage on the way to work. It's hard for a wife to go to the market for heavy purchases, but for a man it is fun to stretch: he likes it and it is useful.

At the same time, historically, men in the family are, in principle, more engaged in making money, and women - in housekeeping. There is a certain sense in this: men and women differ from each other not only externally, but also in character and preferences. It is easier, more pleasant and more interesting for men to do work and make money. For women - raising children and improving comfort. If this is the case for you, then everything worked out for you. If something does not suit you in this distribution of roles, you can agree on a different distribution of affairs and responsibilities.

How to start discussing all these questions? Take the family agreement questionnaire, it will be of great help to you. The questionnaire will include questions not only on the distribution of family responsibilities, but also on how to build relationships better, how to solve various difficult and controversial issues - and how we can live even more amicably.

And one more thing: maybe in family responsibilities we will be able to discern not only responsibilities, but also amenities, and also remember who you are doing them for? First, for yourself. You sweep the floor to keep your feet comfortable. You earn money to spend on your own desires. Secondly, no one took you into slavery, no one teaches you the barrel of a gun and does not force you to do something for the good of your enemies. You perform your duties for loved ones, loved ones and dear people with whom you live. After all, any household chores is also a manifestation of love, but not at a “high” level, but at a simple, everyday level.

If you are reminding your husband (or wife) of any family business, it is best to do so with a supportive background. How? It's simple! For example, if your partner has a duty to vacuum, then you can put a piece of paper on the very “tool of labor” - the vacuum cleaner - with the words: “I love you! Thank you for the cleanliness that will soon be in our house! " Admire and create a positive mood even before you or your partner do anything. After all, any responsibilities become unloved when we present them as a long and tedious process. Compare those who do not like to wash dishes and do. The first, when they think about this activity, see a mountain of dirty dishes, with which they have to cope. The second, just approaching the sink, imagine how all these clean and beautiful plates are on the shelf. The whole point is in an attractive and motivating picture, form it for yourself and your partner.

Well, it's always good to reward yourself for big and small feats at home. Most often, we expect praise and pleasant feedback from our partner. Yes, it is really important that the “other half” notices our efforts. But you need to please yourself too. Do not expect positive things from others, but create a holiday yourself and invite others to it. What do we do for the holidays? We give cards, nice words and goodies to each other. So celebrate even small accomplishments! For example, "we have a cake today because I cleaned the apartment!" Or write a list of reasons for the holiday - the mundane things you should do. And mark each of them with a tick and nice prizes. To some, this method will seem too simple and playful, frivolous, but maybe it is in the family that it is more important to be happy than very serious?

And if a man takes over the distribution of household chores and responsibilities, then it is most convenient for him to draw up a matrix of responsibility, where there will be a list of all household responsibilities - and it is indicated who is involved in these matters (there is a letter U) and who is responsible for it (there is a letter ABOUT). You can see what such a matrix looks like, and if you want to make your own based on the model, edit it to suit your tasks. I wish you success!

It is bad when children grow up essentially as dependents, getting used to the fact that they are served by their parents in everything. It’s not a problem that this is a burden on parents - many parents are happy with this burden — the trouble is that such children are not able to take care of themselves and remain children even when everyone around them has already matured. Who needs such an armless and irresponsible man when he is essentially still a child? Who needs a woman like that if she doesn't know how to look after the house and can't even cook breakfast?

It is good when parents teach their children to basic self-care, and it is great when, after that, they teach children to take care of the whole family. If the family has a cheerful and kind atmosphere, it is a joy for the child to take part in the general cooking. Together with my mother, cutting cheese and cabbage, lighting the stove, laying spoons and forks on the table is the most exciting game and at the same time a source of pride.

The usual difficulty here is not that the child cannot or does not want to help the parents, the main difficulty here is often that it is easier and faster for the mother to do everything herself than to organize the child, explain everything to him, guide, teach and eliminate the consequences of his mistakes and ineptitude - and all this is inevitable. Every manager faces this difficulty: it is easier to do everything yourself than to train employees and delegate their affairs to them. However, a good leader is obliged to do this; accordingly, you need to accustom yourself, teach yourself this and mothers.

So, the first stage in preparing children for adulthood is that children master self-care step by step. The second stage - children help their parents in common family matters. The third stage is cooperation, when children participate in common family affairs on an equal basis with adults. And the final stage is adulthood, when the one who was previously a child takes over family affairs and, if necessary, organizes adults to help him. When children help their parents, the main responsibility and main work is with the parents. As a matter of parenting, this is normal, but as a way of family life, it is wrong. That's right, when parents can already transfer all the main family affairs to their children, so that the children take it upon themselves and cope with them. Children should work at home, not parents, just as in the company current affairs are performed by employees, not by a manager. A good leader is one who can do nothing, and everything in the company will happen without him. Good parents are the ones who can fully rely on their children, not worry about household chores, but everything will be done.

So, in a good family, it is not the children who help the parents, but the parents should help the children. In a good family, children take on all the basic household responsibilities, and their parents only admire them. When this happened, our children really matured.

"Mom, listen to me, now I will not help you with household chores. I will remove you from household chores, everything will now be done by me, and now you will have a rest, walk and take care of your health. You will help me when I am to ask you for help? Thank you for teaching me everything! "

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