Dear Anton Mikhailovich, hello. One of the problems I have in my relationship with my husband is that he constantly imitates me. It doesn't look funny and loving, but mostly sarcastic and exaggerated. I have already tried to pretend not to notice, and not pay attention, and talk, explaining how unpleasant it is to me. Nothing changes. Not only does he allow himself to mimic in public, now he calmly does with his daughter (7 years old), and she understands what he is doing. he usually mimics my facial expressions, facial expressions and gestures. Yesterday I quarreled with him again about this. Maybe you can tell me how you can reach a man. It's too painful for me. Thank.

Julia, Moscow, 34 years old

Family psychologist's answer:

Hello Yulia.

Unfortunately, there are no universal methods that are suitable for all men. But there is a certain pattern. You are talking, in fact, about disrespect. Why did it happen that your husband does not consider it necessary to respect your feelings? Is it just mimicking, or something else? Do you generally feel respect for your personality as a person and as a woman? If mimicking is only one moment of disrespect, then you can ask him why he needs it, why does he need it? Perhaps he is not satisfied with something in your relationship, but he is afraid or does not want to talk about it openly yet. Or perhaps there is something behind this that is not directly related to you at all. How to find out such questions - read on my site the article "A short tutorial on family conflicts" (link to the site in the profile). With the help of fairly simple conversation techniques, you can help a man, and yourself, too, to understand what is really behind this imitation, what a message he has not yet realized. And if there are many of these moments, not just mimicking, then it is worth considering how much you respect yourself. After all, the attitude of the other is in a certain sense a reflection of your own attitude to yourself. If you admit within yourself that you can not be respected, then the partner simply acts within the framework of what is permitted by you. Or perhaps your reaction is simply not specific enough. What is "quarreling" in your performance? Was the person able to feel your emotions? Aren't you afraid to throw them out in full, if you didn't manage to convey it calmly? After all, sometimes you need to show emotions to the extent that you have them, without "smoothing" them ... And another moment - if he has no reaction to your emotions, perhaps he needs a marriage for some other reason, rather than a spiritual partnership? After all, if we are really involved in a relationship, then we can not care what the other feels. Then it makes sense to find out what marriage is for him, why he needs it and for what reasons he does not want to notice your emotions. This is also discussed in the article "Car, boat, body, family".

Best regards, Anton Nesvitsky.

If you’re hanging out with your boyfriend and have become close enough, you might be wondering about his feelings for you. Whether you're in love or just want to be friends, there are a number of signs that can help you find the answer. Pay attention to the guy's body language and behavior around you, as well as the further development of the relationship between you. You can always address such a question to mutual friends or directly to the guy!

Steps

Body language and behavior

Eye contact. If the guy looks you in the eye, try to meet his gaze with a smile and make eye contact for a few seconds. If he does not turn away, then it may turn out that you are interesting to him, especially in the case of a return smile.

• It is also possible that the guy is just aware of your presence or he has a habit of looking people in the eye.
• On the other hand, some guys are very shy about girls they like, so he might avoid eye contact if he likes you.

1. Smile. If you like a person, it's hard not to smile in their presence. Does the guy constantly come to life at the sight of you? It is possible that he likes you!

   • Don't jump to conclusions, as he may smile at you as a friend.

2. Mirror behavior. If you are chatting with a guy or spending time in the same company, then you will notice that he repeats after you every time you touch your face or straighten your hair. Subconscious imitation of the interlocutor is a sign of sympathy, so it may turn out that he likes you.

   • To test, try repeating short movements - straighten your hair or collar and watch the guy.

3. The guy's body and legs are facing you. We lean towards people we like and shy away from those we don't like, but don't even realize. Pay attention to the guy's body position while talking.

   • Also pay attention to his feet. If the socks are facing you, that's a good sign.

4. The guy is worried or uncomfortable in your presence. Some guys are shy in the presence of a girl they like. If he blushes, stumbles, or stops talking next to you, it could be sympathetic or inherently shy.

   • If the guy you like is shy, try smiling or touching his hand to cheer him up and help him relax.

5. The guy finds reasons to touch you. If a guy is always ready to hug you, often touches your arm, shoulder, or finds reasons to be around, then it is possible that he likes you. However, touching people can be a simple habit, so pay attention to his behavior with others. If only you have received such signs of attention, then love may be the reason.

   • If the guy is causing you discomfort with his touch, firmly ask him not to do so and take a step to the side. Don't be afraid to hurt his feelings. A decent guy will only apologize and stop this behavior. Stop communicating if he doesn't listen to you.

Close acquaintance

1. The guy is always trying to be there. If he is always ready to help or meet, then falling in love may be the reason. Consider how often he is willing to cancel his plans with friends or find time to meet, even when he is busy.

   • It is possible that he is just a very good friend. Be that as it may, enjoy your meetings and communication! Over time, his true feelings will become clear.

2. The guy followed your social media profile. If a guy constantly likes your posts or subscribes to you on various social networks, then he probably likes you! Of course, this does not mean much if he spends a lot of time on social networks, but if he is usually not too active, then this is a good sign.

   • Don't think too deeply about his behavior on social media. For example, you might think that the “Like” mark on Instagram speaks of falling in love, but you will go crazy if you attach too much importance to such actions.
   • If he often writes to you online, but does not communicate much in person, the reason may be shyness and trying to get to know you better. Perhaps the guy is trying to gather will in a fist and ask you out on a date.

3. The guy is texting you for no reason. If a guy writes messages to you just like that, then he probably thinks about you and may even be in love. He's probably looking for excuses to write to you, like homework questions.

   • Try not to text your guy too often. In this case, he will be able to write to you first.
   • If you are good friends, it may be because you just want to chat. Remember, you should look for signs that complement the big picture.

4. Over time, the guy begins to openly communicate on personal topics. As he gets to know him, he may share with you personal details from life or his past. If your boyfriend is comfortable talking to you about his emotions, this can be seen as a sign of closeness and deeper feelings.

   The guy gives you gifts and tries to be nice. It is not uncommon for many guys to express their feelings through actions rather than words. If he gives you small gifts “just like that” or is looking for an excuse to help you, then this behavior may indicate a desire for a closer relationship.

   • For example, if he offers you his jacket when you are cold, the reason may be the guy's nobility or a desire to show that he cares.

5. The guy teases you or compliments you. It's not uncommon for guys to tease or compliment girls they like. However, some guys like to tease all their friends or are generous with compliments, so pay attention to his behavior with other people. Does he only do this to you? This is a good sign.

   • For example, if you dress smartly for work, he may say, "You look great." On the other hand, he may also ask, "Wow, are you trying to get a promotion?"

   Warning: if you smile and blush when a guy teases you, then that's cute. If he humiliates and insults you, this behavior is NOT normal. You definitely don't need such a guy.

Direct approach

1. Ask your friends how the guy speaks of you when you are not around. If your friends are hanging out with a guy, ask him for help. For example, ask them to ask a question about you when you are not around to get his opinion.

   • For example, your friend might say: “I think Katya looks great today. What do you think, Misha? "
   • If he doesn't miss the opportunity to talk about you, then he almost certainly likes you. If he rolls his eyes or says something unpleasant, then the situation is likely different.

HOW MEN MANIPULATE WOMEN

Contrary to popular belief, that only women manipulate men, very often the opposite happens. There are many men who thrive on their manipulation of women. A classic example when you have love to a man, and he uses you for his own purposes. Here he is, the manipulator! So what if you’re already head over heels in it? And naturally, you want him to really love you. Everything is complicated here, but still possible.

First, let's figure out what keys the manipulators select for their victims? Naturally, they find our female weaknesses and features inherent in Nature and education:

1. Sensitivity, self-denial, sacrifice. Any woman is by nature kind and merciful, at the sight of suffering and pain, every woman's heart contracts, and she is ready to help.

2. Maternal instinct. From birth, every girl has a need to be a mother. Girls play with dolls, and upon reaching puberty, they dream of a child. For a woman, this is a way of self-realization, perhaps the deepest instinct.

3. Shyness. In addition to the fact that a woman in energy is biologically aimed at preserving her energy reserves, many restrictions are also instilled in her from childhood. There is nothing wrong with this, because it corresponds to nature, but often these rules are piled one on top of the other, as a result, a woman is ashamed to even think about her needs, let alone declare, take her own.

4. Desire to build relationships with a man, addiction, helplessness. It has deep historical roots. Since ancient times, a woman was the keeper of the hearth, and a man was a breadwinner. And naturally, a woman would die without a man. This is transmitted to women at the level of instincts, and it is impossible to fight it.

5. Openness, gullibility, emotionality. This is how women are arranged - at birth, girls have a more developed left hemisphere of the brain, and this is responsible for logical thinking. This is why girls start talking faster and have more learning abilities. But in the future, girls develop the right hemisphere, which is responsible for emotions, while boys have a different tendency - they develop the left hemisphere, that is, logic. And in adulthood, men think logically, and women perceive everything emotionally.

6. The need for communication, talkativeness. It's no secret that women love to talk. And as soon as a lovely lady finds "free ears", she will immediately lay out all her secrets. And revealing her secrets, a woman gives the manipulator 2 trump cards at once - she gets closer to him (only in her mind), and gives him arguments for further influences on herself, her beloved.

7. Low self-esteem. Society, family often instill in girls stereotypes of behavior. Many peoples still perceive women as second-class people. In many families, women, becoming mothers, stop taking care of themselves, men do not show signs of attention to their wives. Or incomplete families, where the girl sees the suffering of a single mother - all this leads future women to fears, complexes and other psychological difficulties.

8. Imagination. It's no secret that women have a very developed imagination. And experienced manipulators know how to excite him, in fact, without promising anything. As in a joke, when a man in a restaurant, trying to sit down with a woman at the table, asks: "Rybonka, can I see you?" And he receives in response: “A fish means a pike; pike - it means I bite; I bite - it means a dog; a dog means a bitch; bitch - means sh * t. People, he called me bl * Dew !!! ". And the words of one stove: “I blinded him from what was. And then I fell in love with what happened ”.

9. The need of a woman to give energy to a man. It is laid down by nature that a woman has energy, but she constantly needs to be renewed. To receive new energy, you need to get rid of the one that is already there. It is important for a woman to find a partner who will take exactly the amount that a woman can give. No more no less. The most sophisticated manipulators possess this ability, which leads a woman to the realization of harmony with this particular man, no matter how many "sources" he "feeds" from. But this point can be attributed only to "advanced" men, these are the most sophisticated manipulators.

10. Desire to communicate, see a loved one. All of the above qualities, even if each of them is weakly manifested, in the complex lead to the fact that as soon as a woman meets a man who satisfies her needs at least a little, she instinctively, unconsciously begins to feel the need to be close to this person.

11. Desire to be in demand, stand out, be special for a loved one. Since childhood, women attach great importance to their appearance, trying to be beautiful. To stand out favorably from other women. Proverb: "What is forgiven to a beautiful woman, is forgiven to a rich man."

But these are the main qualities of women!

You will say and you will be right. Moreover, we are taught and educated from childhood these qualities, or most of them. Therefore, almost every woman is a potential victim for an experienced manipulator. But since you are reading these lines, you are already on your way out of this captivity, and now you can certainly become a worthy opponent for such a man. The very realization that you are dealing with a manipulator is already half way to liberation from his captivity.

Now let's figure out what qualities a manipulator has? That's right, the opposite.

1. Indifference, consumer attitude ... He doesn't care about anything other than his interests. He builds relationships in such a way that you begin to solve his issues as your own. At the same time, he will also periodically say that you are callous, tough, ruthless. Often the reason is the upbringing of a boy, especially in single-parent families, where the son is raised by a mother with a failed personal life. She dissolves in her child, feeling guilty for the absence of a father in the life of the family, or because of other complexes.

2. No need to raise offspring ... It is so laid down by nature that a man is aimed only at the fertilization of a large number of females. Everyone knows that men are polygamous, so it is easier for them to stay free of attachments. Together with the end of sexual intercourse, the man's gelstat ends, his program has been completed, he is ready to continue the search for a new woman for fertilization. Unlike a woman for whom sexual intercourse is the beginning of fulfilling her destiny. It is a woman who bears, gives birth, brings up a child, which puts her in a dependent position in front of a man. In this case, nature itself helps men become manipulators.

3. Absence of complexes and clamps. The nature of men is more open, because they are aimed at polygamy. For a more complete self-realization, men are more bold to experiment, which leads to greater emancipation.

4. Closure, although an experienced manipulator may seem outspoken, even ostensibly opening up to you will bribe you. He seems to be open, which causes openness in you, and then it turns out that this is just a beautifully played role. He will periodically say that you are hiding something from him. And he himself will elicit for himself all the new information for manipulation.

5. Lack of principle, rationality. He is not tormented by remorse. His actions are logical to the point of absurdity. If you could not meet with him, and he has sex scheduled for this evening, he will meet with someone else, whom he prepared in advance. But, unfortunately, you are unlikely to know this, being sure that he was sad all evening for you and your failed meeting.

6. Pragmatism. He doesn't trust anyone. Everything is subjected to logical analysis. He tries not to lie, prefers not to answer slippery questions, beautifully avoiding answers, or answers evasively, which allows him to interpret in two ways. The gullibility of the victim completes the work by itself, choosing a more pleasant answer for itself. As a result, the manipulator inspires confidence, and all his words immediately fall on fertile ground. He sculpts from the victim everything he needs.

7. Ability to listen. A useful quality more inherent in men, as more logical and rational creatures. Plus, a hunter has lived in every man since primitive times, and when hunting it is important to hide well, to hear the game.

8. Artistic. Seeing your flaw, the manipulator will immediately turn on the desired role. On your maternal instinct, he will become a defenseless son, on your imagination, he will hint at the possibility of something joint.

9. Self-confidence, high self-esteem. He considers himself the navel of the earth, and makes everyone revolve around him. For a man, this quality is natural, and women, even on a subconscious level, are looking for such males, because they just personify a strong shoulder to which you want to snuggle. He creates the illusion of his demand , which encourages the victim with low self-esteem to cling to him for self-affirmation. He skillfully evokes jealousy, at the same time making it clear that only you are really dear to him.

10. Self-love. All his actions are subordinated to the extraction of benefits only for himself. And from time to time he calls the victim selfish, complains that she supposedly does not love him. And she is trying in every possible way to prove her love, more and more lining in front of him.

11. Self-reliance. He will find something to do, if you could not meet him, he does not need you as much as you need him. He maintains a lack of communication so that you are looking for meetings with him. At the same time, he knows what you are missing, and he will definitely notify you that what you need is only he has.

12. Balance. It is difficult to bring him to emotion, but he easily pisses you off and brings you to your senses. He controls himself like a scout behind enemy lines. He will call you hysterical just because you react to his planned action to evoke emotions in you. And he can evoke emotions easily - with jealousy, riddles, innuendo, mood swings, pauses ...

13. Ability to promise beautifully without promising. He sees that you want more with him than he plans to give. But he reassures you with meaningless phrases, but expected for you. For example, before a joint vacation, he will say: "we will be together." For him, this will mean that you will be together during the rest, that is, for several days. And you will think that he is ready to marry you. This is not your naivety at all, this is a well-planned pun. Or SMS "let's get married" is spam - sending to all his contacts, and not a marriage proposal at all. Another option "we must do this, and then everything will be different", you think that after the realization of his fantasy, he will definitely love you, but in fact he says that he will simply leave you after that.

14. Ability to withstand pauses. This is the manipulator's trump card. He creates a deficiency in his communication. He disappears after your slightest mistake, or simply disappears, and then it turns out that his grandmother fell ill, or his great-grandmother died, or he had to go to relatives in Belgorod. It doesn't matter, he will always find an excuse and you will believe. Or he will not look for excuses at all, and you will justify him yourself. He is a good psychologist and puppeteer, and knows what kind of pause is necessary. He will easily disappear for a year, only occasionally getting in touch, and you will think that all this year he was thinking only of you. A large base of people like you helps him to make such pauses. While you are tormented by remorse, what offended your loved one, he is having fun with others.

15. "You are not like everyone else" - the key phrase of the manipulator. When I hear something like that, I immediately react with the phrase: "And for what purpose did you say that right now?" If a man really thinks a woman is special, he is unlikely to say so. In order not to become arrogant and not pose as a queen at least)))

Often the manipulators and your dignity blame you.

For example, he will say: you are too callous, cruel, you never have time for me, you don’t love me, your girlfriends are dearer to you, why do you need me, the list goes on, but these are minor manipulations that need to be caught and stopped right away, so as not to become a victim.

So what to do if you still become a victim of such a person, or saw that he is trying to seduce you?

You can bring it to clean water, and then he will either roll off, realizing that there is nothing to catch and there are simpler options, or he will get involved in a game, as a result of which it is quite possible that you can fall in love with him. But if your goal is still to fall in love with him, it is better not to admit that you saw through him. And objectively weigh your capabilities.

Why do you need such a man? Perhaps you don't need it, the game is interesting, and the fact of victory. After all, even if you fall in love with him, you will hardly be able to consolidate the result. He is self-sufficient, balanced, and easy to recover. Or maybe you are just interested in living on a powder keg, always playing cat and mouse with him? Then go ahead! This man is for you.

At all such a person will be an excellent teacher for you , and it's not just that fate gave it to you. If you engage in this process consciously, then after some time you will be satisfied with yourself and you yourself will become a good manipulator. There is just one BUT. There are certain laws of the universe, and sooner or later such games turn against the instigator. And even the hardest manipulator will sooner or later face his lesson. Do you need it? Decide for yourself.

HERE !

To start you need to turn off emotions and treat it like a game ... You are an actress and you need to play a role brilliantly. To cultivate in yourself all the qualities of a manipulator. All 10 he possesses. No, you don't need to be re-educated and become a hard-core bitch. It's like a new dress made especially for this man. But be prepared, as soon as he feels that the game is not going according to his rules, he may leave. Do not be afraid to lose him, as a rule, such men are only suitable for games. It will be very difficult to make him a good husband and partner, and only on one condition - if he appreciates you higher or on a par with himself. And even if he tells you that this is the first time he has such a partner, do not believe him. In general, more to him don't believe.

You must admit that he doesn't love you, he is not yours at least for now. Therefore, he has the same contacts with many women, and even if you have revenge over others, this is only a small advantage, and not a guarantee of victory. If you are of value to him, then you need to pragmatically assess which one and for how long he will look for a replacement for you. Do not even doubt, he has already begun to do this. Be prepared, he will hook you in every possible way, bring you to emotions, but now you can analyze his behavior and work on yourself. Better to leave the ways of observing him, but do it unnoticed. And maintain at least friendly relations. And promise, promise ...

Starting the game with a manipulator, don't feel sorry for him. Hit the sick person as hard as possible. First, find out his sore spots. As a rule, the first is his pride... In this way, he consoles him, and it is here that the first blow should be directed. He makes everyone fall in love with him, and for him it is natural. He has a harem, always ready for meetings, and he himself controls the turnover of personnel in it. That is, I got tired - I fired, I found a new one.

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But suddenly you are out of control.

Keep in mind manipulators are good psychologists and they will feel the game. As a rule, he keeps his entire arsenal of girlfriends in sight, periodically making roll calls. First, you disappear without going to the next roll call. It is very good if you make an appointment in advance and disrupt it. Then you show up without really making excuses. First, you need to evaluate yourself objectively from the point of view of the manipulator. What are you valuable to him, and won't it be easier for him to find a new one to replace you?

If your positions are weak, strengthen them first. For example, if you have sex, interest him in some kind of fantasy that you supposedly want to fulfill with him. Start it up well, and be lost. He has everything systematized and under control. But then the mechanism failed. At the very least, he will get nervous. Perhaps it will disappear for a while, hoping that you will get nervous. Don't worry and forget about him altogether.

Besides disappearing, make it clear that he became less interesting to you. For example, you understood how he held you, and now you are less interested in it. You can create the illusion of a romance that you have begun, but do not try to advertise it too much. That it was not faked. Just create the illusion that you are not at home in the evenings, and at night you can. And no comment. Don't answer questions, or answer evasively, in two ways. Or tell me that we are all free people, why should I suddenly report?

Find some quality in it, praise himfor him ... Admire, and then suddenly declare that you overestimated him because of falling in love. And he, it turns out, is very ordinary. At the same time, shake a couple more qualities that you can touch. It's good if you dig up some flaws or complexes in it. Indeed, even in manipulators there are many disadvantages to which they do not allow anyone. And you analyze, and drive him into depression already! Very often such people are cowardly, preoccupied with health, but you never know what else ... Any person, if desired, can easily find leads.

It will be useful disappear and no longer answer calls , sms. And in a month or two, show up and, as if nothing had happened, resume communication. In doing so, tell how well you had that time. In every possible way, let him understand that he is less interesting to you than before. And that you have a lot of new hobbies and activities, fans. You should have a lot of interests, do something.

Tease himsomething interesting for him , very often it is some kind of fantasy. Rip off a couple of meetings, accusing him of breaking down, and do it with another person. It will be a knockout. And after a while, if you are not on his blacklist, you will again appear in his life, so white and fluffy. Tell us how you repented and want to meet with him again. After all, only at a distance did you see what a great man he is.

And then according to the same scheme. We alternate: good-bad, far-close. Throw firewood into the furnace of his interest. More talk about sex, fantasy, new adventures. Games always need to change, alternate, add new notes.

Only do not overplay , your actions should be logical and aimed at satisfying yourself. And not to look from the outside as throwing a desperate hysterics. No extremes, everything is consistent and smart.

And the most interesting thing is that with a 99% probability he will get involved in your game. Do you know why? Because you will become more interesting to him than all his tamed versions. He will defiantly or simply meet with them, but most likely he will think about you, because you hurt him. And he doesn't like it.

Perhaps he will conduct a counter-offensive , but the fact that you know who you are dealing with and know how to control yourself plays into your hands. And if he even joined the game, his armor of equanimity was already broken. Master all his methods and wield against him. And who knows, maybe after all your games you will be a great couple!

If you have visited this page, you are interested in building harmonious relationships. I have great respect for people seeking self-discovery. Have you tried to study physiognomy? This knowledge will help you "read" any person, make the right impression on a man.

Knowing the strengths / weaknesses of a person, you will always act on the right points. By learning to read a man's non-verbal behavior, you will read his mind!

Do not delay, because time is ticking ... Moreover, you can start now and absolutely free!

STUDY PHYSIOGNOMICS, this is the best tool for life!

WHAT IS PHYSIOGNOMICS PERSONALLY USEFUL FOR YOU?

6 reasons to study physiognomy right now:

1. You will know ALL the SECRETS of people, because the face is always in sight. To do this, you will not need any data about the person - no surname, no name, no patronymic, no date, no time, no place of birth, no passport data, no data of his current account - NOTHING!

3. You will increase your income by an average of 40%

4. You will build a strong family, without wasting time for mistakes

6. You don't need a lie detector

"Maybe" - this idea is imbued with everything that is associated with the technique of teasing flirting... “Maybe” is much sexier than an outright yes or no. The answer "maybe" teases the imagination and awakens in a man, the desire to achieve clear definition.

Tantalizing flirting - a game that requires its participant to be very frank in expressing her inner mood. Such a woman likes a close relationship with a man, and she is not ashamed to admit it. She considers them natural, healthy and enjoys them to the fullest.

But even if the appeal to the teasing technique flirting for some reason it seems undesirable to you, take a closer look at it in order to be able to recognize and, on occasion, use these or those elements in practice.

In fact, the arsenal of tantalizing techniques flirting includes the art of talking in the language of the eyes - the art of eye contact, the art of talking in no uncertain terms in body language and the art of sexual gait. We will begin our acquaintance with this "collection" of arts by considering the secrets of sexual appearance and sexual gait.

The seductive curve of the back. The way a woman stands, how she walks, how she sits, is instantly noted by a man at the subconscious level. At the same time, the bending of your back has the greatest impact. To develop a regal posture, do the following.

Stand with your back against the wall, touching it with the following areas of your body:
- head, not lifting the chin;
- shoulders, slightly turning them back, but not too zealous;
- elbows, but not the wrist;
- buttocks;
- calves, if possible;
- heels.

Straighten your back, push your chest forward and up.

While holding this body position, place the palm of your hand on the base of the spine, at the very bottom and slightly forward it, moving it away from the wall: this will provide the spine with a deep bend.

Move away from the wall. Sumptuously!!!

A man reacts not to the volume of a woman's breasts and not to the length of her legs, but above all to the bending of her spine.

A woman of any age should pay special attention to the spine, and then she will be able to make an indelible impression on a man.

Learn to sit attractively. When a woman puts one leg over the other in the knee area, she just sits in the way that suits her. But the closer her legs are crossed to the top of the thigh, the more interest she is in men. In addition, this position of the legs automatically gives her spine the desired bend.

In general, legs crossed high at the hips look slimmer, longer and sexy. This is the most effective way for a woman to demonstrate the overall virtues of her figure and, of course, the shape of her legs.

A pose with legs crossed at the hips will emphasize your sensuality, but only if you do not allow yourself to forget about the length of the skirt: in demonstrating your charm, it is very important not to overdo it.

Eye contact serves as a hint of your openness to dating a man. When your eyes momentarily meet the gaze of a man, what I call for myself "a short circuit of the inner moods of a man and a woman" happens: both of you signal to each other that you are ready to establish a romantic relationship.

If one of you at the same time avert his eyes to the side before the "closure" occurs, the person thereby makes it clear that he is not ready to establish a relationship. Otherwise, both you and the man will look away after the "short circuit" takes place.

Prelude to establishing eye contact. In the course of a conversation in the language of the eyes, its content acquires special significance. If in your gaze there is a sneer or outright slyness, a man may think that with him - or with you! - not everything is fine. On the other hand, an overly serious, focused gaze is fraught with a threat and can cause a man to have well-founded fears about your intentions.

But when you mentally repeat: "Men are amazing, I am amazing, sex is amazing!" - your eyes will radiate pleasure. And this is exactly what you need.

Duration of visual contact. Technician specialists flirting believe that it takes a few seconds for the birth of stable visual contact, during which your internal moods are short-circuited, after which the gaze is necessary about
lead to the side.

The duration of the "conversation with the eyes" is extremely important. One second is usually not enough to establish full contact, and six to seven seconds is usually too long.

It seems to me the most preferable time that I indicate for each of the types of contact below. However, depending on the situation, you can slightly reduce or increase the duration of the gaze, while remaining in the range from one to six seconds.

Shy woman eye contact. A modest, shy woman usually looks away too early, even before the birth of a stable contact, signaling in this way that she is not ready to establish a romantic relationship with a man, although in reality everything is completely different.

So, in order to correct this annoying misunderstanding, she should find a way with the help of a glance to show her interest in a man and do it as she considers acceptable to herself.

Try this trick: If you averted your eyes too soon, immediately look at the man again. This technique of "second glance" will help you compensate for the absence of such an important short circuit between your inner mood and your man.

And if at the same time you still have time to quickly say to yourself: "Men are amazing, I am amazing, sex is amazing!", The impulse of your gaze will acquire a colossal force of influence.

Tantalizing play with the eyes; you are standing or sitting. Say the magic words in your mind, accumulating internal energy. Look the man in the eye. Count to three, continuing to look the man in the eyes while tilting your head slightly to the side, and then on the count of four, look in the direction that your head will naturally turn. Resist the urge to check what impression you made, and do not use this technique again.

Once again, have a good idea of \u200b\u200bthe technique for performing it: throw a glance, ensure the establishment of visual contact while turning your head and avert your eyes to the side.

A teasing play with the eyes while walking. Look the man straight in the eye for two seconds. In the third second, turn your face slightly to the side, maintaining eye contact for another two seconds, then look away from your direction and look straight ahead. So: gaze, establishing visual contact while turning the head and looking away.

A promising look. Passing by the man and giving him your look, mentally say: "I could give you my closeness!", And then avert your eyes to the side.

At the same time, you may not have any intentions at all to go to bed with this man; your task is to test your psychic influence. And his influence is very great: when a man responds by looking at you for a long time, you will see for yourself.

"A little bit of everyone and no one separately." In a crowded room, glance to the right corner of the room, present your broad smile to those present, and blink deeply, intriguingly. Then move your gaze to the central part of the room, smile and blink with the same amount of intrigue in your eyes.

After that, do the whole procedure, looking to the left side of the room. And check which of the men has become firmly convinced that your smile and blink, resembling a wink, are intended only for him!

Expression of deep interest. Focus on the man who is not looking at you at the moment. As soon as he looks up and notices your gaze, give him a slight smile and blink deeply, then turn away as if you are embarrassed by this outburst of involuntary manifestation of your sympathies.

"A smile will brighten everyone ..." As a rule, you should accompany your blinking "with a hint" with a smile, but you can achieve the same force of influence by being completely serious.

Be that as it may, whether you give your man your smile or not, immediately after the wink-blink, calmly transfer your attention to something else, giving your interested chosen one the opportunity to act on their own.

"Burning look". Giving a smile is not necessary. Reflect on your face the expectation of something wonderful, the anticipation of happiness and deep excitement, as if overwhelming you at the moment. The energy that at the same time fills your gaze will gain in