We all sin before each other, but few are able to repent before others. And in order for the relationship to be resurrected, you need to come up and say: “I’m sorry.” And if it is from the heart and they answer you from the heart, the evil will go away.

Priest Alexy Potokin

Forgiving and accepting forgiveness is an art. The art of forgiveness is that stupid forgiveness increases sin. Late forgiveness kills, but wise and timely forgiveness inspires.

Priest Konstantin Kamyshanov

You don't forgive others to heal them.
You forgive others to heal yourself.

Forgiveness does not change the past, but it frees the future.

If you suffer from the injustice of a bad person, forgive him, otherwise there will be two bad people.

Augustine Aurelius

The ability to forgive is a great gift.

Moreover, it costs nothing.

The best response to enemy criticism is to smile and forget.

Vladimir Nabokov

BE ABLE TO FORGIVE

You need to be able to forgive. Many people believe that forgiveness is a sign of weakness. But the words “I forgive you” do not mean at all - “I’m too soft a person, so I can’t be offended and you can continue to ruin my life, I won’t say a single word to you”, they mean - “I won’t let the past spoil my future and the present, so I forgive you and let go of all grievances.

There is magic in forgiveness... The magic of healing. Both in the forgiveness that you give, and in the one that you yourself receive.

It all starts with forgiveness. If we harbor resentment, it is a manifestation of pride. I don't accept it as mine, I blame it on someone else. I don’t understand that I am a Soul who has done some wrong things, and now these lessons are coming back to me.

If a person hurts you, don’t answer him in kind, do good. You are a different person. You are better. Remember.

One of the most useful life skills is the ability to quickly forget everything bad: don’t dwell on troubles, don’t live with grievances, don’t revel in irritation, don’t harbor a grudge... You shouldn’t drag all sorts of rubbish into your soul.

If people judge or criticize you, remember that most often at the very moment when they criticize you, they are thinking only about themselves. Don't be angry or offended by them, just understand that it hurts people when they can't do anything to counter something in which you are superior to them.

The ability to forgive and ask for forgiveness is the foundation for strong relationships. It is important to learn to sincerely and wholeheartedly say “I’m sorry” to each other instead of hurting each other with needles of reproaches and claims.

Resentment and resentment are like poison that you drink in the hope that others will be poisoned. Happiness begins with forgiveness.

Cassie Combden

As soon as a person gets sick, he needs to look in his Heart for someone to forgive.

The strongest victory of all is forgiveness.

One little boy, when asked what forgiveness is, gave a wonderful answer: “It is the fragrance that a flower gives when it is trampled on.”

The most necessary science is the science of forgetting the unnecessary. Antisthenes.

Your ability to love others... and yourself... is directly proportional to your willingness to forgive others and yourself.
For example, instead of loving the parents you would like, try to learn to love the parents you have.
To heal from past trauma, you will have to first get angry, mourn your losses, and finally forgive them all.
You will not be able to fully forgive anyone until you are willing to voluntarily renounce the right to revenge and reparation... - forever.
You don't forgive others to heal them.
You forgive others to heal yourself.

Chuck Hillig

“You cannot defeat the enemy until you cure what you consider to be low in him.”I Ching (Book of Changes)

Very often in other people we painfully perceive precisely those actions, reactions, feelings that we ourselves sin with. And real, true forgiveness of another person begins with the ability to see one’s own weaknesses and shortcomings.

We may need to learn to forgive ourselves before we can allow others to forgive us for the wrongs we have done to them, or before we ourselves can (in our hearts or face to face) forgive them for the wrongs they have done to us.

Just forget it and it will become easier.

And you forgive - and there will be a Holiday.

And you strive and you will succeed...

Don't be stingy - and you will be rewarded!

And it will come back to you - you will be rewarded...

Believe me, and they will believe you!

Start yourself - things will start happening!

And you LOVE! And you will be honored!

The ability not to attach importance is even more valuable than the ability to forgive. For we are forced to forgive what we have already attached meaning to.

Today is Forgiveness Sunday.

Don't forget to ask forgiveness from everyone you have offended during the year.

And also - do good deeds!

Forgiveness protects our heart
Sometimes we forgive the offender, sometimes we keep the bitter feeling inside, grieving or thinking of a way to take revenge. How does this affect our cardiovascular system? First, the experiment participants had to recall an incident in which they were severely offended. They were asked to imagine that they were taking revenge on the offender, and to fuel the resentment, to remember how they suffered, what pain they experienced. Then they were asked to forgive their offender, try to find an explanation for his action, admit that all people have their own weaknesses... Cardiograms and tomograph readings left no doubt: negative emotions and resentment increase heartbeat and increase blood pressure, and the manifestation of empathy immediately alleviates stress. So now it has been scientifically proven: being offended is harmful.

Are you already familiar with Ho'oponopono? This is a very simple spiritual practice that gives incredible results. The essence of the practice is that you open your heart and create a reality full of love and harmony with the words:
1. "I love you."
2. "Forgive me."
3. "I'm so sorry."
4. "Thank you."
The fundamental point of Ho'oponopono is to take 100% responsibility for everything that happens in the world. That is, not only for our actions, but in general for everything that we know or are not even aware of.

“The ability to forgive is a property of the strong. The weak never forgive" ©Mahatma Gandhi

Some people will never accept the idea of ​​forgiveness; any arguments are useless. You can try for a long time to convince them that the inability to forgive, revenge, hatred or resentment force us to live in the past.

Inability to forgive

All these will be empty words if a person does not know how to forgive at all. After all, forgiveness requires a person to show courage. Often his whole life is filled with grievances and to forgive means to feel emptiness. The person becomes scared.

If he gets rid of grievances, then what will he be left with? Such a person is accustomed to using this emotion in order to manipulate others, causing them to experience chronic feelings of guilt. Being offended is a habitual way of interacting with the world. And his whole world is divided into bad offenders and good people who are offended like him.

Pseudo-forgiveness

Another category of people are “pseudo-forgivers”. It is easier for such people to say: “I have forgiven” than to understand the reasons for their offense. And all because they are afraid to realize their feelings, and even more so to decide to voice their feelings and demands, risking forever ruining or even destroying the relationship.

The fear of ruining a relationship arises when you have already tried to talk about your feelings, but are faced with the cold indifference of your partner and his reluctance to change anything. But pretending that you are not offended by people when in fact you are offended and angry does not mean forgiving. This is a form of self-denial that is destructive for a person.

Some experts generally argue that resentment is not a real feeling. It is a behavior used to manipulate another person.

“Resentment is a feeling that appears in us so early that we can be sacredly sure that it is a primordial feeling. Ann is not there. This is a "racket". Remember the children. At what age do they start to get offended? Yes, exactly when they understand that being angry with mom for not getting enough candy is ineffective.

It is much more justified to be offended by her; “I don’t love you” hits without a miss and is more destructive than a nuclear bomb. It’s rare that a parent can withstand such an onslaught.” Having made a conclusion, the child begins to hone and improve his skills. The ability to take offense becomes a skill, then a habit, and then a reflex” (Zygmantovich P.V.)

Resentment is a tool for controlling human relationships. In childhood, the child is offended, attention is paid to him, the parent feels guilty, often without even understanding why, and from this feeling they do what they want from him. The child “makes a decision” that this is how he must influence this world in order to be heard. Then it acts automatically. To finally stop being offended, you need to learn to forgive.

Saying goodbye to a grudge is forgiveness

Psychoanalysts Nicole Fabre and Gabriel Ruben identified the main stages that a person goes through on the path to the ability to forgive:

The ability to forgive is a decisive refusal to suffer. The first and important step towards the ability to forgive can be a conscious decision to stop suffering, stop being offended and forget about justice. Unfortunately, sometimes this means breaking up with someone who hurts us.

Forgiveness is an acknowledgment that you have been wronged. Thanks to psychological defense mechanisms, suffering, hatred and anger are repressed into the unconscious, where they continue to act with destructive force. We need to admit the guilt of the person who harmed us.

As Gabriel Ruben explains, this awareness gives us the opportunity to “return the blame back to the offender and thereby restore our relationship with ourselves.” In addition, this will avoid the development of psychosomatic diseases or behavior patterns that lead to repeated failures in work and relationships.

The ability to forgive is taking care of your health. Psychologists have found consistent physiological differences between states of unforgiveness and forgiveness. With one memory of the offender, the activity of the cardiovascular system was disrupted in all subjects. These changes became very significant when they thought about revenge.

To stop being offended, you need to get angry. Feeling angry at first is even useful, it speaks about mental health and the fact that you do not deny what happened and do not transfer the guilt of others onto yourself. So acknowledge and release your suffering.

Of course, it is rare to have such an opportunity to directly express your anger to the offender and reproach him. He may not consider himself guilty or have such a strong power over us that we do not dare to resist him.

However, we can help ourselves using a variety of techniques for working with resentment.

Stop feeling guilty. The ability to forgive means being able to forgive yourself Here it is important to find out what was hurt - your pride, reputation, honor or bodily boundaries? “The answer to this question can help get rid of the feeling of guilt, that is, to realize that we are not responsible for what happened to us,” says psychoanalyst Nicole Fabre.

The ability to forgive is understanding who offended you. Natural reactions of anger and malice help us stop being offended, but if we experience hatred for a long time, it will lead to self-destruction. To avoid this, it is useful to understand the motives of the one who offended you, to see his weaknesses, to comprehend the act that caused us pain, which will help to forgive him.

How do we know if we have truly forgiven and stopped being offended?

If we no longer feel anger or resentment toward the person who caused us to suffer, and “if the sense of guilt for what happened has disappeared,” adds Gabriel Ruben, then we can consider ourselves to have forgiven.

Psychologists never tire of repeating that it is not the offender who needs forgiveness, but ourselves

“To forgive is to set the prisoner free and to discover that you were the prisoner.” Lewis B. Smides

The ability to forgive is a liberation in which pain dissolves and which helps the survivor to become the master of his life, to stop tolerating and suffering, or even to become stronger.

Learn to forgive
“Well, how can you forgive this? How can this be forgotten?!” - the Victim of the scoundrel exclaims in a fit of righteous anger. And although the “terrible episode” happened back in the Ice Age, she still carefully keeps it in her memory.
We carry some grievances for years and decades, lovingly folding and sorting them out from time to time, like family jewels. At the right moment, we take them out and show them to others.
It just seems to us that over time all our experiences pass and are forgotten forever. Unfortunately, they do not pass and are not forgotten.
After all, what is a strong experience? This is an unconscious tension of our entire body, a kind of blow to the body. But the blow is not from the outside, but from the inside. The body did not deserve this blow, because it did everything right, it was some other person who did something that did not coincide with your predictions! He did it, and you beat yourself! Probably according to the principle: hit your own - strangers will be afraid. They won't, unfortunately. And your body, which you constantly torment with your endless worries, sooner or later gets sick. He gets tired of this kind of life, and he ages faster or through illness he tries to distract your attention from new experiences. But does your body deserve such an attitude towards itself?
What should you do to avoid internal self-flagellation? You just need to learn not to be offended by people for their “wrong” behavior, in your opinion. Obviously, this is contrary to all your previous experiences and what other people have told you. And the thought also appears that if you forgive everyone, they will quickly sit on your neck. And who wants this? So there are many internal arguments against forgiveness and in defense of one’s position. No one wants to change themselves; everyone strives to change others according to their own understanding. And although few people succeed, people try again and again.
"I'm offended." Think about this phrase. What does the word “offended” mean? It has the ending “sya”, which means that it is a word with a reflexive meaning. It denotes an action directed at oneself, for example: “washed” - washed oneself, “dressed” - dressed oneself, “combed one’s hair” - combed one’s hair. That is, he did something to himself. If you are offended, it means you have offended yourself.
It was not someone else who offended you, it was you who offended yourself! You made the decision to offend yourself. You regarded it as hurting your dignity and decided to be offended.
Therefore, if another person did something that, in your opinion, is out of the question, DO NOT HURT YOURSELF. And not because you can’t be offended. Can! Nobody forbids! But you will only make things worse for yourself. Of course, if you have nowhere to put your energy, health and free time, if you have all this in abundance and want to put it somewhere, hurt yourself.
If you offended yourself and liked it, forgive me. Just realize that you will no longer offend yourself, that it is not profitable for you, that there is no benefit from it.
For forgiveness, you can use a very simple formula. It looks like this: “With love and gratitude, I forgive (the name of the person you forgive) and accept him as he is. I apologize to (name) for my thoughts and emotions towards him.” This formula needs to be mentally repeated many, many times until you stop thinking and remembering the offender. Or you will not stop reacting to his words or actions if he is near you. Sometimes such forgiveness takes dozens of hours of mental work - it is clear that not immediately, but in small portions, about 10-15 minutes.
FORGIVING DOES NOT MEAN APPROVING ACTIONS THAT YOU DON'T LIKE. You are not obliged to approve of those actions that do not delight you. Although outwardly you may well express your disapproval. You have the right to do so! (But in your soul you should have complete calm or even sympathy.)
If you think that another person has telepathic abilities and can read your thoughts, that he will understand the error of his actions, you are mistaken. If you remain silent all the time, it won’t even occur to him that you don’t like it.
Instead of getting offended (offending yourself), open your mouth and speak up!
If you are constantly dissatisfied with yourself and take offense at yourself, consider yourself unworthy, it is not enough a good man, then don’t be surprised that you don’t have money and a personal life, success and interesting friends. Why does an unworthy person need all this? It will work out! Let him sit in a dark corner and keep quiet. If you yourself decide that you are not good enough, then Life will not argue with you.

As long as people love, they forgive.

A woman forgives only when she is to blame.

To make mistakes is the property of man, to forgive is the property of the gods.

Forgive and do not judge, and you will not be judged.

If you are going to love someone, learn to forgive first.

What you cannot forgive yourself is quickly forgotten.

Judge not, and ye shall not be judged; do not condemn, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven.

If someone has offended you, take revenge courageously. Remain calm - and this will be the beginning of your vengeance, then forgive - this will be the end of it.

If a woman has already forgiven a man, she should not remind him of his sins at breakfast.

Free sayings about forgiveness

You must ask the Lord for forgiveness every day... And for what - you will always find it.

Nothing is forgiven more reluctantly than differences of opinion.

Free quotes from the greats about forgiveness

A man forgives and forgets, a woman forgives and that’s all.

Not all forgiveness contains sincerity, just as not all sincerity brings pleasure.

Forgiveness does not mean forgetting.

The people can forgive writers a lot, but they cannot forgive silence at a time when their fate is being decided.

People will forgive you everything that doesn't concern them.

We easily forgive those with whom we are bored, but we never forgive those who are bored with us.

Least of all do we forgive others for the mistakes we have made ourselves.

The hardest thing for people to forgive us is the bad things they have said about us.

Not forgiving anyone and forgiving everyone are equally cruel.

God will forgive me, this is His specialty.

Those whose opinions I value will not apologize for cruel words, they simply will never say them.

I don’t forgive her for loving her.

Forgiving your enemies is a wonderful feat; but there is an even more beautiful feat, even more human - this is the understanding of enemies, because understanding is at once forgiveness, justification, .

Free funny sayings about forgiveness.

A man can be forgiven for his stupidity if it is well paid.

When you forgive your enemy, wave your hand to him.

Whoever he laughed at, he has already forgiven, he is even ready to love.

Several apologies are less convincing than one.

Forgive others a lot, forgive yourself nothing.

Treason can be forgiven, but resentment cannot.

Parents are most reluctant to forgive their children the flaws that they themselves instilled in them.

Forgive your enemies - you may still have to work together.

The more you forgive, the higher you fly.

Forgive others often, never forgive yourself.

You must forgive those whom you cannot take revenge on.

We often forgive those who bore us, but we can never forgive those who we bore.

We easily forgive past harm and impotent hostility.

Forgiving an offense encourages the worst.

A person can forgive a person for everything except bad prose.

Evil done to you is just as easy to forgive as if it is done to others. It is much more difficult to forgive people for the evil that we ourselves have caused to them; This really requires a lot of fortitude.

True love forgives all crimes except crimes against love.

A woman can forgive a man for the evil he caused her, but she does not forgive the sacrifices he made for her.

He who laughs forgives everything.

A woman forgives everything, but often reminds her that she has forgiven.

He would rather forgive you the meanness that he did to you than the good that you did to him.

To err is human, to forgive is divine. Alexander Pop

The ability to forgive is a property of the strong. The weak never forgive.

A person becomes not when God forgives him all his mistakes, delusions and sins, but when a person forgives God all the evil, grief and suffering to which he, by His will, was subjected in this world.

Women do not forgive us our mistakes - and even their own.

To all the boys, boys and men out there: multiple apologies are less convincing than one.

Free cute sayings about forgiveness

The inability to forgive others is an unforgivable failure of character.

Infidelity is forgiven, but not forgotten.

God can forgive us our sins, but the nervous system never does.

He who takes revenge sometimes regrets what he did; he who forgives never regrets it.

Men who do not forgive women for their small shortcomings will never enjoy their great virtues.

There are people to whom we forgive, and there are people to whom we do not forgive. Those whom we do not forgive are our friends.

To forgive the executioners is to punish yourself.

Please forgive me for being right...

They asked one elder: “What is humility?” He said: “If yours sins against you, and you forgive him before he has repented.”

The strongest victory of all is forgiveness.

No matter how demanding people are in love, they still forgive more offenses to those they love than to those with whom they are friends.

God will forgive, people will never.

Beware of a person who does not respond to your blow: he will never forgive you and will not allow himself to be forgiven.

Free wise sayings about forgiveness

I would rather forgive the one who inflicted a wound on the enemy, and not the one who dreams of giving him a boil: here it is not only an evil soul, but also an insignificant little soul.

He can never forgive those who are innocent of anything.

All gratitude lies in the eternal return and in the inability to leave... Sage! I don’t ask for forgiveness... He who is wise has forgiven without words.

You can survive everything except death, and people are ready to forgive you everything except your untarnished reputation.

I know how to forgive, but I don’t know how to forget.

Enemies should be forgiven, but not before they hang on the gallows.

Forgive those who speak ill of you, but not those who tell you about it.

Everyone forgives me, no one helps.

It is very easy to forgive others for their mistakes; it is much more difficult to forgive them for witnessing our mistakes.

To understand means to forgive; it is an excuse for any evil. But in order to judge it is necessary to understand.

Life has taught me to forgive a lot, but even more - to seek forgiveness.

To understand everything means to forgive.

Mistakes are not forgiven to those to whom they are made.

QUOTES ABOUT FORGIVENESS

Forgiveness gives hope:

“Forgiveness is an act of imagination. Dare to imagine a better future that is based on the blessed possibility that your world will not be limited to pain alone.

Larry James

“While no one can go back and make a new start, anyone can start from now and make the best possible finish.”

Carl Bard

“Forgiveness is the release of hopes for a better past.”

Alexa Yong

Forgiveness is not always wise:

“By forgiving, you give up an offense to which you have a right, and give the person who wronged you friendship that he did not deserve.”

Robert Enrit

“Forgiveness is often illogical and unnatural because you are faced with forgiving the “unforgivable.” Also, anger, guilt, reproaches and revenge only make your pain stronger. Forgiveness is the only medicine that will ease your pain."

Mahatma Das

By forgiving, you grow:

“Anger makes you smaller, whereas forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you were.”

Cherie Chatrer-Scott

“As difficult as it seems, you can be sure of this: deep in your heart, you have the power to rise above the old understandings that continue to hold back your freedom. The hardest thing is something that pushes you upward, beyond your boundaries - these are the very things you need to take a quantum leap into a new inner and outer life."

Dr. Childrey and Howard Martin

“Many people are afraid to forgive because they feel they need to remember the bad things or else they will never learn anything. The opposite is true. Through forgiveness, we let go of bad things from a strong emotional grip - and then we can learn something. Through the power and intelligence of the heart, the release of forgiveness expands the mind, which makes it possible to deal with the situation more effectively.”

David McArthur and Bruce McArthur

“The Lord creates an enemy so that we will always remain determined - and humble. To love the enemy is to defy natural interpretation. Trying to do this takes us into the realm of the supernatural."

R.T. Kendel

Forgiveness is a noble act:

“Never does the human soul show itself so strong and so noble as when it renounces revenge and dares to forgive the wrong done.”

Edwin Hubbell Chapin

“A person is never as beautiful as when he begs for forgiveness, or even when he forgives another.”

Gene Paul Richter

“Forgiveness is perhaps the greatest virtue on earth, and without a doubt the most necessary.”

Gordon B. Hinckley

“The weak can never forgive. The ability to forgive is a hallmark of the strong.”

Mahatma Gandhi

“The first qualification of those who advance in God consciousness is to forgive the offender.”

A.C.Bhaktivedanta Swami

“The Lord is pleased with those who forgive.”

A.C.Bhaktivedanta Swami

To forgive means to throw away all the bad things from memory:

“Forgiveness should be like an unnecessary note - torn in half and burned so that no one can see it again.”

Henry Ward Beecher

“I realized that you are arguing with your spouse, the first one who says: “I’m sorry, I hurt your feelings, please forgive me!” is the one who wins.”

“Resentment is when you are right and they are wrong. As long as you want to be right, you will not forgive. As long as you feel the need to tell others how wrong or bad your offender was, you will not forgive. When the moment comes to forgive and when peace comes, being right becomes wrong.”

Mahatma Das

"Love is an act of endless forgiveness."

Peter Ustov

Forgiveness sets you free:

“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and to discover that you were the prisoner.”

Lewis B. Smedes

“Until you forgive completely, you will be in chains. Leave them and you will be freed."

Joseph Tson

“Forgiveness frees and puts into proper use energy once wasted in maintaining grudges, harboring grievances, and nursing unhealed wounds. It rediscovers the powers we have always had and redirects our limitless abilities towards understanding and accepting others and ourselves.”
“Metaphorically, it is the curtain between the room you live in now and the new room that is bigger and full of beautiful things. The act of forgiveness removes this curtain. By dealing with your old scores, you can free up so much energy that you'll just jump straight into a whole new house. Forgiveness frees you from punishment in a prison of your own making, where you are both jailer and prisoner.”

Sydney and Susan Simon

Forgiveness means following the Golden Rule:

“Treat the shortcomings and mistakes of others as gently as your own.”

Chinese proverb

“If you cannot shape yourself, how can you expect people to love you?”

Thomas a Kempis

“If we apply the principle: “an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth,” then most of the world will remain blind and toothless.”

Mahatma Gandhi

“I have always found that mercy bears richer fruits than harsh justice. We want (ask) justice for others, and mercy for ourselves.”

Mahatma Das

Forgiveness means compassion:

“Oh Lord, please forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing!”;
“Through forgiveness love is born!”;
“Forgive, and you will be forgiven!”;
"Forgive your enemies!"

Jesus Christ

Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

“Compassion is the antitoxin of the soul: where there is compassion, even the most poisonous impulses become relatively harmless.”

Eric Hofer

“Forgiveness is the scent of violet falling on the heel that crushed it.”

Mark Twain

"The mind must be trained to think about the welfare of others"

A.C.Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupada

“Rest assured, if you knew everything, you would forgive everything.”

Thomas A. Kempis

“Who am I to impose punishment (in the form of revenge) on others? When this attitude is combined with compassion, forgiveness begins to sprout.”

"Jaiva Dharma"

“If we have a little time and a little more insight, we begin to see a simpler side of ourselves and our enemies. In fact, we are not at all as innocent as we first thought when we were offended. And there is no terrible, huge monster to forgive; before us is weak, poor and to some extent foolish man. When you see your enemy and yourself in the weakness and stupidity of a person, the same for both, the miracle of forgiveness will be a little easier to accomplish.”

Lewis B. Smedes

“Let me wish nothing but the best good upon my worst enemies.”

A vengeful mind will destroy spiritual consciousness:

“Tolerance says that a transcendentalist (spiritualist) must be able to forgive. The material world is full of confusing and frustrating situations. And if a person is not very inclined to be forgiving, he will become infected with a vindictive mood of mind which will destroy his spiritual consciousness.”

Hridayananda Das Goswami

In peace with your karma:

“Don’t blame the deliverer of your karma.”

A.C.Bhaktivedanta Swami

“If someone bites his tongue with his lips, who should he be angry with for his suffering?”

A.C.Bhaktivedanta Swami

“We want (ask for) justice for others, and mercy for ourselves.”

Mahatma Das

We hate in others what we hate in ourselves:

“Most of our suspicions about others come from what we know about ourselves.”

Unknown

“If you hate a person, you hate something about him that is part of you. What is not part of ourselves does not cause us concern.”

Hermann Hesse

“Only imperfection complains about something imperfect. The more perfect we are, the softer and calmer we become towards the shortcomings of others.”

Joseph Edison

The pain you cause is the pain you get:

“My dear son, do not wish anything unfavorable for others. Anyone who causes pain to others suffers that pain themselves.”

Suniti - Dhruve

“If you are at war with others, you cannot be at peace with yourself.” “The hatred you carry within you, like a burning coal in your heart, harms you more than others.”

Lavana Blackwell

"If you kill a skunk, your hands will stink."

Indian proverb

“How will you live today if you are forgiven exactly as much as you have forgiven others?”

Mahatma Das

The person you hate is destroying you:

“I will not allow any person to diminish my soul by making me hate myself.”

Booker T. Washington

“If you hate, you will give your enemy your mind and heart. Don’t give these two things away.”

Nelson Mandela

“When you hold a grudge against someone, you are tied to that person or situation with an emotional bond that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to break this connection and become free.”

Katerina Pander

“Look inside. Correct yourself rather than poke your nose into the shortcomings of others. When the shortcomings of others confuse and mislead you, have patience, observe yourself and find your own shortcomings. Know that others cannot harm you until you harm yourself.”

Bhaktisiddhanta Saraswati Thakur

"The man who chooses revenge must dig two graves."

Chinese proverb

“I imagine that one of the reasons people cling so stubbornly to their hatred is because they feel that once the hatred goes away, they will have to deal with the pain.

James Baldwin

It's all in your mind:

“You know you have forgiven someone if he or she can pass harmlessly (calmly, without causing disturbance) through your mind.”

“These people are not the cause of my happiness or sorrow. Not the demigods, not my own body, not the planets, not my past deeds, not time. Rather, it is my mind alone that causes me happiness and sorrow, and maintains the alternation in material life. Having failed in the fight against this restless enemy, the mind, whose impulses are intolerable, who torments the heart, many people are defeated and begin to engage in useless disputes with each other. Thus, they conclude that other people are either their friends, their enemies, or participants who are indifferent to them."